Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[biccboi]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42601587]Seriously guys, I need your help. Google searches only lead me to pick up artists who want you to buy their book or DVDs or whatever.[/QUOTE]

"I want to talk to girls"
"I don't want to talk to them because [bullshit].

Is that clear enough?

[editline]22nd October 2013[/editline]

Oh wait, it's Taepodong, sorry.

[bobsynergy]

Why the hell do you think your intruding on someone's life? picture that it is you who needed the notebook back from someone (it doesn't have to be a girl) and if they gave it back and had a conversation would it bother you? no? then why the hell would it bother other people?

Just talk to strangers like how you would talk to your friends and family, just talk to them like any normal person, 90% chance they are just like you and wouldn't care and wouldn't mind having a conversation. If they make it clear they don't want to talk then who cares? would you really be annoyed if someone you never met in your life didn't want to talk to you who if you didn't at least try a conversation with you would of never talked to them in the first place?

You aren't screwing anything up if the alternative is them not knowing you exist and sotp making excuses for your self, just do it, don't google, stop coming to this thread for advice because everyone already gave you tons of it, just do it and it all comes naturally.

Think of it like math, just because the teacher told you how to do it, doesn't mean you know how to do it now, you actually learn it by doing it yourself. So just do it and again it will come naturally and you will learn, the alternative to that is these people not knowing you exist in the first place, honestly what do you have to lose?

[Taepodong-2]

Well in my class that I have tomorrow we had a test the previous day so I have a conversation starter at the very least.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42601676]Well in my class that I have tomorrow we had a test the previous day so I have a conversation starter at the very least.[/QUOTE]

open with a neg

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42601587]Seriously guys, I need your help. Google searches only lead me to pick up artists who want you to buy their book or DVDs or whatever.[/QUOTE]

Dude, honestly, I am finding it really hard to care anymore.

Every time you come into this thread you post some self-deprecating story about how you pussied out with some girl, we give you a ton of advice, and you ignore it. Lather, rinse, repeat.

Any advice we give you is the same advice we've given you a million times before. There is no magical quick fix to all your social problems.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;42601432]I've really stopped caring.[/QUOTE]

yep
i'm done

[editline]21st October 2013[/editline]

if you want to do something then do it. it's not about advice anymore. fix your shit on your own.

[lordcrypto]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42601421]So I ended up not talking to that girl in my class and just gave her back her notebook. Honestly, to me it feels like if I talk to a girl more than once I'm just intruding in her life.[/QUOTE]
you are beyond help

legitimately

how do you make it to your age without being able to recognize social cues and have an intelligent conversation

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;42601837]you are beyond help

legitimately

how do you make it to your age without being able to recognize social cues and have an intelligent conversation[/QUOTE]

I spent way too much time on the internet between the ages of 12-16 but I can do all of that just fine just not with girls I'm interested in.

[Merv]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42601867]I spent way too much time on the internet between the ages of 12-16 but I can do all of that just fine just not with girls I'm interested in.[/QUOTE]

You need to man up and have some confidence in yourself.
If you can't help yourself, why do you think that other people can help YOU?
You are the only thing that can get what YOU want. If you would actually just try and talk then maybe you wouldn't see things so terribly. Try new things before it's too late and everything's fucked.

EDIT:
By the way:
There's no such thing as a life handbook or how to get a girlfriend the easy way.

[junker154]

I started talking to girls and being interested in them since 15-16 and I still managed to do just fine.

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42601867]I spent way too much time on the internet between the ages of 12-16 but I can do all of that just fine just not with girls I'm interested in.[/quote]

For the love of god someone unban Maverick so he can drop some truth on this motherfucker

[Meller Yeller]

This girl I asked out is insistent on making the first date a double date with her friends. I barely know her so I don't want to feel like I'm trying to get to know her plus two other people at the same time. I told her why it's a bad idea, but for whatever reason, she's set in it.

Should I just call it off or deal with it?

[lordcrypto]

[QUOTE=Slowbro;42601925]For the love of god someone unban Maverick so he can drop some truth on this motherfucker[/QUOTE]
no he's too alpha and honestly he's a bad user and was already last chanced to begin with

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;42601997]no he's too alpha and honestly he's a bad user and was already last chanced to begin with[/QUOTE]

He's a douche, but he's a douche that tells it like it is.

[thisispain]

yeah the rest of us are just wasting your time arent we

[lordcrypto]

[QUOTE=Slowbro;42602021]He's a douche, but he's a douche that tells it like it is.[/QUOTE]

"So I'm going to politely ask you to get the fuck out of my thread and take your poor education with you. Or you can stay and keep getting lathed in zings by everyone else who can't read or think for themselves. Lie to yourself and say I'm getting butthurt and whatnot, whatever helps you sleep at night. Just know that every time you post, I really am laughing at you, no matter how much you'd like to think I'm here with an angry face pounding away at my keyboard. That smug face you hate oh so much, what do you think my face looks like right now?"

yeah no thanks he doesn't belong here

[Merv]

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;42602047]"So I'm going to politely ask you to get the fuck out of my thread and take your poor education with you. Or you can stay and keep getting lathed in zings by everyone else who can't read or think for themselves. Lie to yourself and say I'm getting butthurt and whatnot, whatever helps you sleep at night. Just know that every time you post, I really am laughing at you, no matter how much you'd like to think I'm here with an angry face pounding away at my keyboard. That smug face you hate oh so much, what do you think my face looks like right now?"

yeah no thanks he doesn't belong here[/QUOTE]

he's a bit aggressive for a thread that has 'super friendly' in the title, to say the least.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Slowbro;42602021]He's a douche, but he's a douche that tells it like it is.[/QUOTE]

"telling it like it is" (in his way at least) is not an effective way to get through to people. everyone has selective hearing, we're more likely to tune out someone trying to belittle us than someone who's being agreeable. he's not exactly helping anyone but his own ego by behaving like that.

[biccboi]

what about the people that need aggressiveness to change? WHAT ABOUT THE CHILDREN?

[disseminate]

[QUOTE=ZombieWaffle;42602068]he's a bit aggressive for a thread that has 'super friendly' in the title, to say the least.[/QUOTE]

Before BDA made v1 of Super Friendly Social and Love Advice, it was called Maverick's Social and Love Advice :v:

[thisispain]

and before that it was called social chat with a completely different set of ppl such as sawah, dark.energy, jotheshmo

mavericks attitude pushed away a lot of posters, he went out of his way to be belligerent and start drama for no reason

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Disseminate;42602640]Before BDA made v1 of Super Friendly Social and Love Advice, it was called Maverick's Social and Love Advice :v:[/QUOTE]

Mavs and super friendly werent the same thread though, more like competing businesses, and one business got banned :v:

[Boozy&Bitter]

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;42601994]This girl I asked out is insistent on making the first date a double date with her friends. I barely know her so I don't want to feel like I'm trying to get to know her plus two other people at the same time. I told her why it's a bad idea, but for whatever reason, she's set in it.

Should I just call it off or deal with it?[/QUOTE]

I'm confused, why call it off?

[Meller Yeller]

[QUOTE=Rubs10;42603037]I'm confused, why call it off?[/QUOTE]

Maybe it's just a personal thing, but for a first date I want to get to know somebody one-on-one. Plus, another personal thing, I'm afraid I won't be able to break out of my shell in a group where I don't REALLY know a single person.

[GeeOhDee]

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;42603286]Maybe it's just a personal thing, but for a first date I want to get to know somebody one-on-one. Plus, another personal thing, I'm afraid I won't be able to break out of my shell in a group where I don't REALLY know a single person.[/QUOTE]

Even if it's not what you want right now, you'll get that one on one date later. So why not make the most of it now?
And have the courage to be the real you. You never know how many people have similar interests as you until you mention yours or simply ask them.

[NoShogun]

[QUOTE=Slowbro;42602021]He's a douche, but he's a douche that tells it like it is.[/QUOTE]

A lot of people in this thread have problems stemming from low self-esteem and people with low self-esteem don't usually benefit from being called pussies or idiots or betas, even if good advice is given alongside the insults.

[editline]21st October 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;42601994]This girl I asked out is insistent on making the first date a double date with her friends. I barely know her so I don't want to feel like I'm trying to get to know her plus two other people at the same time. I told her why it's a bad idea, but for whatever reason, she's set in it.

Should I just call it off or deal with it?[/QUOTE]

I totally know the feeling. Double dates seem impersonal and sometimes degenerate into four friends hanging out.

But don't call it off, it'll make it look like you're disinterested. In my (admittedly limited) experience, people tend to like people who are willing to like their friends.

[Dysentery]

[QUOTE=thisispain;42602729]and before that it was called social chat with a completely different set of ppl such as sawah, dark.energy, jotheshmo

mavericks attitude pushed away a lot of posters, he went out of his way to be belligerent and start drama for no reason[/QUOTE]

i remember when it was the love advice subforum

that was the bomb.com

[NoShogun]

Honestly though this thread is way nicer than most irl people I know
Tried talking to my guy friends about these kinds of problems and it was like "lol good luck she's gonna b so disapoint lmao"
Facepunch gave actual advice

[junker154]

[QUOTE=NoShogun;42603673]A lot of people in this thread have problems stemming from low self-esteem and people with low self-esteem don't usually benefit from being called pussies or idiots or betas, even if good advice is given alongside the insults.[/QUOTE]

I think people should treat eachothers in a respectful manner and polite way, even on the Internet. Not everyone has figured everything out in life and sharing advice and experience is generally a really good idea. Especially if it's related to relationships or emotional matters. Everyone deserves a chance in some way.

If Maverick would be more gentle, less harsh and not immediately make assumptions based upon a single post, he would be a decent addition.

Personally I don't like when you bash on people relentlessly, even if they made some mistakes or have issues with their current situations.

[Used Car Salesm]

[QUOTE=Used Car Salesman;42592524]I think the thread title may be telling me what I need to do. I've met somebody through the atheist club who seems genuinely cool. She's reasonably close to my age, doesn't appear to be seeing anybody, talks intelligently about interesting things, and is into a lot of the same things I am that get blank stares and "Huh"s from other people. Most importantly, she actually seems interested in talking to me, which is pretty unusual. Normally they just...tune out.

I've lost some weight and gained a lot of confidence over this past year, not to mention done a lot of growing up since my last relationship (like 6 years ago, holy shit). Still, though, I feel like she's out of my league physically. I don't really believe in that way of thinking, and I honestly think that other things are a lot more important, but still, nobody wants to date [I]down.[/I]

I'm afraid of making a complete idiot of myself. I'm afraid of making it obvious that I have [I]no fucking clue[/I] about how any of this is supposed to work. I'm afraid of acting casual until my voice goes shaky and reveals how shit scared I am of what she'll say. I literally haven't had the self esteem to seriously think of even [I]trying[/I] in years.

So, what? Pound a shot of bourbon, obey the thread title, and just fucking do it? We talk online a bit, is that acceptable when the club events are too difficult to talk alone? Should I just shut up and go back in my hole for another few years?[/QUOTE]

Y'all remember this post? Well, I did exactly what the fucking thread title says, and it turned out pretty well. I now have a casual lunch set for later this week. Not a bad outcome, all things considered. There might be something to that whole self-confidence theory.

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