Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=NoShogun;42668427]It's good because it's low-key and low-pressure and almost everyone likes coffee. First time spending time with someone is important to be chill
speaking of which: A few weeks ago, on fall break, pretty much everyone on my campus left for the long weekend and there was nothing to do. I texted this one girl who's from way outta state who I knew didn't leave and we ended up seeing a film together out of boredom and we actually hit it off. We walked back to her place and hung out till way late and then she's all "oh I don't wanna make you walk home in the cold... just stay with me" so of course I spent the night Edit: I should also add that I didn't make a move on her b/c first time hangin out, but I don't think sharing the same bed (when her roommate's bed was unoccupied) is a normal "just friends" gesture but idk
but now when I ask her if she wants to do something, she's always busy. But then she tells me that she's free X day and that we should totally do something then. To be fair, I have a habit of only making plans last-minute.
If she just said "i'm busy" i'd take the hint, but she keeps saying to do something on another specific day so she might actually be busy but want to meet up. Opinions, FP?[/QUOTE]
you ask: "When do you have time?"
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42664832]So I'm thinking about switching universities and I want to see if there's any logic in my reasoning for doing so.
I go to a small university, about 9000 undergrads. I don't like the small campus atmosphere. It feels like everyone knows everyone and I don't like that because that makes it harder to make friends if you're not already in the group so to speak. I want to switch to a university that's over twice as big (25,000 undergrads) because by my logic more people = better chance to find people I have things in common with.[/QUOTE]
It's so much easier making friends at a smaller university, trust me. You can't expect people to come over to you and talk, you have to make the effort to befriend them. If there's someone you have multiple classes with, start by talking with them.
My first day of college last year, I started talking to some random people in my Drawing 1 class, and now the 6 of us are practically best friends. Even at orientation, I made friends with 3 people just by deciding to compliment someone on their shirt. You just need to make a move and try to strike up a conversation. Switching schools because you're nervous to talk to people is a horrible excuse.
[editline]27th October 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42668580]Also the school I'm thinking of going to has clubs I actually would want to join which means I'd have social things to do.[/QUOTE]
Start up one of those clubs at your school. Post around some flyers for an interest meeting to get the ball rolling.
[QUOTE=huntingrifle;42668076]Does it mean anything if a girl randomly texts you throughout the day? Sometimes it's about some nonsense going on, like her friends screwing around and being ridiculous, and sometimes it's really deep, depressing things.
I feel like I'm friendzoned, hardcore.[/QUOTE]
oh GOD NO a girl thinks of you as a friend how awful you have my sympathy
let me grab my fedora and we can discuss how evil all these harpies are
[QUOTE=huntingrifle;42668076]Does it mean anything if a girl randomly texts you throughout the day? Sometimes it's about some nonsense going on, like her friends screwing around and being ridiculous, and sometimes it's really deep, depressing things.
I feel like I'm friendzoned, hardcore.[/QUOTE]
do her texts consist of ' you will never see my vagina ahahaahhhhh u have been friendzoned ' if so then yes you have been friendzoned
[editline]28th October 2013[/editline]
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there really is no such thing as a friendzone. either you haven't made it clear enough or she's just not interested. one is your fault which you should fix, the other shouldn't be a problem if you like the other person's company, which you should if you want to ask them out. it's such a terrible phrase for blaming someone's shortcomings or feelings not reciprocated on another person.
[QUOTE=huntingrifle;42668076]Does it mean anything if a girl randomly texts you throughout the day? Sometimes it's about some nonsense going on, like her friends screwing around and being ridiculous, and sometimes it's really deep, depressing things.
I feel like I'm friendzoned, hardcore.[/QUOTE]
Uh... Could it be because she wants to talk with you? just maybe?
[QUOTE=Aries;42669580]there really is no such thing as a friendzone. either you haven't made it clear enough or she's just not interested.[/QUOTE]
This "she's just not interested" is the "freindzone". So there is such a thing as a friendzone. It's something we all know, just under a different name.
I've liked this girl for about 2 weeks now, I haven't told her and she hasn't even sucked my dick once
oh well looks like I'm in the friendzone again!!
[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;42670034]I've liked this girl for about 2 weeks now, I haven't told her and she hasn't even sucked my dick once
oh well looks like I'm in the friendzone again!![/QUOTE]
lmao you are getting so worked up over one word that he used in his post
isn't friendzone just shorthand for "i am romantically interested in them but they only think of me as a friend"? What's wrong with using that term?
[QUOTE=NoShogun;42670101]lmao you are getting so worked up over one word that he used in his post
isn't friendzone just shorthand for "i am romantically interested in them but they only think of me as a friend"? What's wrong with using that term?[/QUOTE]
Because most of the time its used as a way of justifying a persons inability to get a girlfriend, they don't look at what they did wrong they just tell themselves "oh I got put in the friendzone well I guess its not my fault it happens to everyone" when most of the time they haven't even made any effort to let the girl know they wanted a relationship.
Like knowing a girl for a while, wanting a relationship but never asking the other person out or doing anything to suggest they want a relationship and then giving up when the girl doesn't make a move on them.
i'm not against the usage of the term friendzone but i do hate the whole culture that was built around it, the one that is luckily dying out
the whole well known concept of "wow girls are bitches, they go out with assholes and friendzone nice guys like me"
i dont think he was using it as that though so whatever
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42668416]Well the thing is I originally picked this school because I wanted to be a teacher and it's the best school for that in Canada but I'm not doing that anymore so I really have no reason to be here anymore over one of the bigger schools. Like you said, your social life is an important aspect of school and I really don't think I'm going to have that here. But changing schools might not even help so who knows what I should do.[/QUOTE]
Where abouts in canada are you? Come to the maritimes, go to school here.
Friends will walk right up to you to be made. :v:
Just think of the friendzone as the "would not fuck list" which we all have. You don't want to have intimate relationships with everyone, friend or not.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;42670420]Where abouts in canada are you? Come to the maritimes, go to school here.
Friends will walk right up to you to be made. :v:[/QUOTE]
I'm in Alberta. Kind of explains the attitude of people here. If I were to go out of province for school it would probably be to Saskatchewan.
SO's birthday coming u p, any good steam games that we can play together? He likes a game with a good storyline, and I like just following him around confused.
you are the coolest significant other
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42670814]I'm in Alberta. Kind of explains the attitude of people here. If I were to go out of province for school it would probably be to Saskatchewan.[/QUOTE]
Fuck Saskatchewan, come to New Brunswick :v:
[QUOTE=Rhenae;42671178]Fuck Saskatchewan, come to New Brunswick :v:[/QUOTE]
If I move to Saskatchewan at least I'll like the same football team as everyone else and be able to make friendships based on football :v:
I also had a girl tell me that there are no secrets to getting girls to like you other than being confident and she actually tried to help me with that by helping me to find things to like about myself.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42670814]I'm in Alberta. Kind of explains the attitude of people here. If I were to go out of province for school it would probably be to Saskatchewan.[/QUOTE]
come to uwo in ontario
ill school ye in the art of socializing
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42671219]If I move to Saskatchewan at least I'll like the same football team as everyone else and be able to make friendships based on football :v:
I also had a girl tell me that there are no secrets to getting girls to like you other than being confident and she actually tried to help me with that by helping me to find things to like about myself.[/QUOTE]
That's pretty much it, there are two main rules to dating in my books and the first is that we accept the love we think we deserve. If you don't think anyone likes you romantically then guess what - noone will. A person's attitude is reflected in their behaviour more than they could ever know at the time
[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;42670185]Because most of the time its used as a way of justifying a persons inability to get a girlfriend, they don't look at what they did wrong they just tell themselves "oh I got put in the friendzone well I guess its not my fault it happens to everyone" when most of the time they haven't even made any effort to let the girl know they wanted a relationship.
Like knowing a girl for a while, wanting a relationship but never asking the other person out or doing anything to suggest they want a relationship and then giving up when the girl doesn't make a move on them.[/QUOTE]
this is an arbitrary definition of the word that's pretty much exclusive to this thread
the common definition of friendzone is "this person isn't romantically attracted to me and that isn't about to change" which is a completely common occurrence. assuming a ton of random shit about someone's personality because they used one word is fucking ridiculous and needs to stop in this thread.
[QUOTE=Metherat;42671099]SO's birthday coming u p, any good steam games that we can play together? He likes a game with a good storyline, and I like just following him around confused.[/QUOTE]
That was basically me and my friend when we played Half-life co-op through Synergy.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;42671410]come to uwo in ontario
ill school ye in the art of socializing[/QUOTE]
wow the girl I fancy goes there don't u dare or ill fuk u up
y don't yall give up the girl thing and just gay canada orgy mkay?
If you're from Alberta, just go to an Oilers game. They keep losing, so it's gonna be easy to find someone to empathise with.
[QUOTE=Kindlinho;42673338]If you're from Alberta, just go to an Oilers game. They keep losing, so it's gonna be easy to find someone to empathise with.[/QUOTE]
Edmonton is like 8 hours away from me.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;42671178]Fuck Saskatchewan, come to New Brunswick :v:[/QUOTE]
more like NO-FUN-SWICK AMIRITE
ns represent
[QUOTE=Heigou;42673027]wow the girl I fancy goes there don't u dare or ill fuk u up[/QUOTE]
on it like a car bonnet
what u gonna do
Is there any point in pining after a girl who is taken? Emotions are hard to deal with, I wish I could just suppress my feelings for her.
Should I wait and see what happens or just try my hardest to move on?
[QUOTE=jobizzle;42675497]Is there any point in pining after a girl who is taken? Emotions are hard to deal with, I wish I could just suppress my feelings for her.
Should I wait and see what happens or just try my hardest to move on?[/QUOTE]
I would say if the only thing stopping you is the fact that she has a boyfriend - try it.
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