Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[chinatown]

Well it depends on how you see it.
Either this:
2 people go on a date, and it goes bad. The guy may go "oh, I guess she wasnt the one for me." and forget about it.

Or

2 people go on a date and it goes bad. The guy then goes "Maybe I was too nervous, maybe I wasnt confident enough for her to find me attractive".

[Taepodong-2]

Today in my class there's a girl I'm kind of interested in. I talked to her two classes ago, but last class the only real interaction I had with her was sitting near her and holding a door open for her after class. Would it be weird if I talked to her again after pretty much ignoring her last time?

[disseminate]

im single

[editline]29th October 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42686436]Today in my class there's a girl I'm kind of interested in. I talked to her two classes ago, but last class the only real interaction I had with her was sitting near her and holding a door open for her after class. Would it be weird if I talked to her again after pretty much ignoring her last time?[/QUOTE]

holy shit stop posting and do something

your posts here are literally about nothing at all

like i do this on a daily basis
i cant be the only one who holds open doors for people

your posts are so insignificant that every time i see your username on the left hand side of my screen i think "oh boy another 50 posts in love advice about taepodong's interaction with someone who's female for thirty seconds, maybe tomorrow he'll tell us about the color of cutlery he ate lunch with"

we've given you literally pages upon pages of advice and someone says this every time

i would like to politely ask you to stop posting until you've done something

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Disseminate;42686465]holy shit stop posting and do something

your posts here are literally about nothing at all

like i do this on a daily basis
i cant be the only one who holds open doors for people

your posts are so insignificant that every time i see your username on the left hand side of my screen i think "oh boy another 50 posts in love advice about taepodong's interaction with someone who's female for thirty seconds, maybe tomorrow he'll tell us about the color of cutlery he ate lunch with"

we've given you literally pages upon pages of advice and someone says this every time

i would like to politely ask you to stop posting until you've done something[/QUOTE]

this so much

if you're going to ask her out, just fucking ask her out, and do not return here until you do. we don't wanna hear another self-deprecating tale about you pussying out.

[Taepodong-2]

Did I say I was going to ask her out? No. I don't know her nearly enough for that. I just wanted to know if it would be weird for me to talk to her again after ignoring her for a couple days.

[editline]29th October 2013[/editline]

I'm sorry that I'm bad at social interactions and what's totally insignificant to you is a big problem for me. I want to get better.

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42686662]Did I say I was going to ask her out? No. I don't know her nearly enough for that. I just wanted to know if it would be weird for me to talk to her again after ignoring her for a couple days.[/QUOTE]

If you're interested in her ask her out. There's always time to get to know someone. You don't have to be their best friend, get to know her during a date.

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42686662]Did I say I was going to ask her out? No. I don't know her nearly enough for that. I just wanted to know if it would be weird for me to talk to her again after ignoring her for a couple days.

[editline]29th October 2013[/editline]

I'm sorry that I'm bad at social interactions and what's totally insignificant to you is a big problem for me. I want to get better.[/QUOTE]

Well you said you were interested in her so yeah that kind of implies you want to ask her out eventually.

I can see you're trying to get better and I applaud you for that. You're only bad at social interaction because you're overthinking things far too much. If you want to talk to someone about something then just go up and talk to them and quit worrying about if it's "weird". If you just loosened up you'd be fine, seriously.

And dude I'm the same as you. I find social interaction hard as fuck sometimes. The only difference is I don't constantly whinge on forums about it.

[disseminate]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42686662]I'm sorry that I'm bad at social interactions and what's totally insignificant to you is a big problem for me. I want to get better.[/QUOTE]

you should have clued in we want you to get better after the hundreds and hundreds of replies your posts generate but clearly you haven't

THAT'S why we're annoyed, because you ask for advice and don't take it time and time again

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Slowbro;42686777]Well you said you were interested in her so yeah that kind of implies you want to ask her out eventually.

I can see you're trying to get better and I applaud you for that. You're only bad at social interaction because you're overthinking things far too much. If you want to talk to someone about something then just go up and talk to them and quit worrying about if it's "weird". If you just loosened up you'd be fine, seriously.

And dude I'm the same as you. I find social interaction hard as fuck sometimes. The only difference is I don't constantly whinge on forums about it.[/QUOTE]

for real i'm the same - talking to new people can be hard. Taepodong, deal with the fact that some people are going to think you're weird - because any girl you like is sure as hell going to know it. you'll find that there are enough people out there who [B]do [/B]notice and they [I]don't care[/I].

i've not been following this particular drama train (i've left you too long luv advice) but I get the feeling that perhaps you should focus on making friends if you haven't already. from a purely pragmatic perspective they'll be there for you to practice simple social interaction on without the pressure dealing w/ your latest crush. if they're good friends they'll be much more forgiving too - once you get to know them [I]ask them for advice[/I], they have context and they know you first hand so they can help you so much more than randomers on the internet ever will

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=BrainDeath;42686949]
if they're good friends they'll be much more forgiving too - once you get to know them [I]ask them for advice[/I], they have context and they know you first hand so they can help you so much more than randomers on the internet ever will[/QUOTE]

Fuck, I wish this was true for me. My friends are complete assholes to me. I've known a lot of them for a few good years, but they're the worst friends I've ever had. Randomers have been much more helpful than my friends.

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42687027]Fuck, I wish this was true for me. My friends are complete assholes to me. I've known a lot of them for a few good years, but they're the worst friends I've ever had. Randomers have been much more helpful than my friends.[/QUOTE]

as i said, [I]if they're good friends[/I]

find more

[NoShogun]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;42686247]Well it depends on how you see it.
Either this:
2 people go on a date, and it goes bad. The guy may go "oh, I guess she wasnt the one for me." and forget about it.

Or

2 people go on a date and it goes bad. The guy then goes "Maybe I was too nervous, maybe I wasnt confident enough for her to find me attractive".[/QUOTE]

This mentality is WHY people get nervous
Sometimes it doesn't work for either person. That's the entire point of dating: to see if you're compatible.

I mean yeah sometimes it is because one party was awkward or whatever but there are plenty of people who will never be attracted to you no matter how confident you are

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=BrainDeath;42687037]as i said, [I]if they're good friends[/I]

find more[/QUOTE]

I've tried to find more. Nearly every friend I've had in my life has been a complete asshole to me. I attract asshole friends, it seems.

[rammaster]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42687083]I've tried to find more. Nearly every friend I've had in my life has been a complete asshole to me. I attract asshole friends, it seems.[/QUOTE]

I really think you should get new friends or call them out for being assholes. It's really no use to be friends you're uncomfortable with.

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Slowbro;42686777]Well you said you were interested in her so yeah that kind of implies you want to ask her out eventually.

I can see you're trying to get better and I applaud you for that. You're only bad at social interaction because you're overthinking things far too much. If you want to talk to someone about something then just go up and talk to them and quit worrying about if it's "weird". If you just loosened up you'd be fine, seriously.

And dude I'm the same as you. I find social interaction hard as fuck sometimes. The only difference is I don't constantly whinge on forums about it.[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't mind asking her out at some point. It just seems like it's more natural to transition to a relationship from friendship because that's how my two best friends started dating their girlfriends. Just going up to a girl and straight up asking her on a date right away just doesn't seem like the right way to do it unless you're only trying to get in her pants.

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=Rammaster;42687163]I really think you should get new friends or call them out for being assholes. It's really no use to be friends you're uncomfortable with.[/QUOTE]

I've made it abundantly clear that I think they're all assholes. I constantly tell them that, but they don't care. I'm fairly sure they're all antisocial. I wouldn't be surprised if one of them ends up killing someone.

The thing is, though, I'm fairly comfortable with them. I find more things in common with them than my other group of friends.

I've met several other friends during my time at university. They're my other group of friends. However, being at a technology school, they're all really nerdy and awkward, and I don't find a lot in common with them. I mean, there's the occasional games we play together and TV shows that we might watch together, but besides that, nothing. I find it hard to hang out with them for extended amounts of time. I might meet them to get breakfast, lunch, or dinner, but I don't really like hanging out with them. I feel excluded and awkward most of the time.

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42687252]I wouldn't mind asking her out at some point. It just seems like it's more natural to transition to a relationship from friendship because that's how my two best friends started dating their girlfriends. Just going up to a girl and straight up asking her on a date right away just doesn't seem like the right way to do it unless you're only trying to get in her pants.[/QUOTE]

Well the whole point of going on a date is to get to know a person so it really doesn't matter

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Slowbro;42687308]Well the whole point of going on a date is to get to know a person so it really doesn't matter[/QUOTE]

I feel like you have to have known the person for at least a little while first so they don't straight up reject you. They're only going to say yes to a guy they don't know asking them out the first time he talks to them if he looks like Brad Pitt or some shit.

[editline]29th October 2013[/editline]

Or is really good at connecting with them on a personal level which I am not.

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42687334]I feel like you have to have known the person for at least a little while first so they don't straight up reject you. They're only going to say yes to a guy they don't know asking them out the first time he talks to them if he looks like Brad Pitt or some shit.

[editline]29th October 2013[/editline]

Or is really good at connecting with them on a personal level which I am not.[/QUOTE]

Don't just go up to a random girl and ask if she wants to go on a date with you. Start talking to the girl, and if she seems interested, ask if she'd want to get coffee or something.

Atleast, this is what I assume you should do, but take this with a pinch of salt as I'm still new to dating...

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42687388]Don't just go up to a random girl and ask if she wants to go on a date with you. Start talking to the girl, and if she seems interested, ask if she'd want to get coffee or something.

Atleast, this is what I assume you should do, but take this with a pinch of salt as I'm still new to dating...[/QUOTE]

What you're saying does make sense. You just have to be super attractive or be really good at talking to girls for them to be interested in you after you've only spoken to them for a few minutes.

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42687418]What you're saying does make sense. You just have to be super attractive or be really good at talking to girls for them to be interested in you after you've only spoken to them for a few minutes.[/QUOTE]

Well, if they're in middle or high school, maybe. But, looks are less important to a girl than you might think. And, you don't have to be Smooth McCool to get girls. Just act normal around them.

I'm being completely hypocritical because I do and feel the exact same things as you, but the thing is to just go and do it. Which I've been trying to do now.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42687418]What you're saying does make sense. [b]You just have to be super attractive or be really good at talking to girls for them to be interested in you[/b] after you've only spoken to them for a few minutes.[/QUOTE]

ugh

you know this isn't how things are at all right

you just say stuff like this as a joke right

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;42687464]ugh

you know this isn't how things are at all right

you just say stuff like this as a joke right[/QUOTE]

I don't know how it works and assume to be able to make a girl interested enough for her to say yes if you ask her out after talking to her for a few minutes you have to be super attractive or a smooth talker. A total mess like myself is going to have to build themselves up to asking a girl out by talking to her over the course of a couple weeks at least.

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;42687464]ugh

you know this isn't how things are at all right

you just say stuff like this as a joke right[/QUOTE]

You'll be surprised with what having little confidence does for you. It makes you think idiotic things. I used to be like him. Still am in a way.

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42687505]I don't know how it works and assume to be able to make a girl interested enough for her to say yes if you ask her out after talking to her for a few minutes you have to be super attractive or a smooth talker. A total mess like myself is going to have to build themselves up to asking a girl out by talking to her over the course of a couple weeks at least.[/QUOTE]

if you're as much as a mess as you say you are how can you claim know any of this

ok SFSALAV6 i get your point, TAEPODONG, LISTEN TO US

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=BrainDeath;42687540]if you're as much as a mess as you say you are how can you claim know any of this
[/QUOTE]

My friends who have girlfriends aren't super attractive or smooth talkers. They were both friends with their girlfriends for over a year before they started dating. To me, that's the normal way to do it for a typical guy.

[Heigou]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42687418]What you're saying does make sense. You just have to be super attractive or be really good at talking to girls for them to be interested in you after you've only spoken to them for a few minutes.[/QUOTE]

idk man, you're acting like anyone who has ever had a girlfriend or some interaction with a girl is a fucking 11/10 casanova with bulging muscles, gotta cut that shit out

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Heigou;42687566]idk man, you're acting like anyone who has ever had a girlfriend or some interaction with a girl is a fucking 11/10 casanova with bulging muscles, gotta cut that shit out[/QUOTE]

I don't, one of my friends is an even bigger computer dork than me, is less attractive yet his girlfriend is at least a 7.5/10.

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;42687581]I don't, one of my friends is an even bigger computer dork than me, is less attractive yet his girlfriend is at least a [B]7.5/10[/B].[/QUOTE]

please don't do this

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42687515]You'll be surprised with what having little confidence does for you. It makes you think idiotic things. I used to be like him. Still am in a way.[/QUOTE]

I get that but every time taepodong posts its about a confidence issue and he's already been given all the advice we can give and he still holds onto this "I am a mess no one will love me" attitude.

stop putting yourself down every 5 minutes and maybe you'll have more confidence in yourself