Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Metherat;42694705]So, anyone know any good games for me to buy my boyfriend? He loves a good story, and actual realism, can anyone help me out instead of bashing on taepodong without end? I want him to have an actually nice birthday, not the shit he's had to put up with for the past few years.[/QUOTE]

what are some games he likes?
dunno about realism but just about every bioware game (not jade empire) has a good story, gameplay in some of them might be a bit slow for some people though
far cry 3 is pretty good, just came out recentlyish
arkham origins just came out
all of those are good games, idk what he would like though

[editline]29th October 2013[/editline]

sleeping dogs is $5 on steam but i have no idea how that game is past the metacritic rating

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Metherat;42694705]So, anyone know any good games for me to buy my boyfriend? He loves a good story, and actual realism, can anyone help me out instead of bashing on taepodong without end? I want him to have an actually nice birthday, not the shit he's had to put up with for the past few years.[/QUOTE]

Mass effect has great depth in the universe and species designs and such if he hasnt already played it.
Half-life also although im assuming he has probably played it is great story wise
What do you mean by actual realism though?

Very different to those two is FTL: Faster than Light
Its a rouge-like where you get your own events and story stuff, if he might have an interest in it its pretty cheap and really fun

LA Noire is pretty awesome. Not a huge thing on overarching story exactly, but if he is anything like me, i'm a sucker for trying to figure the story out before the game lets me know
I'm a story person myself so just suggesting shit I like really lol.

Oh, Thomas was Alone is a really cool one too, its mostly characterization based, puzzle game with little cubes with all distinct personalities,
The stanley parable might be somewhere in his zone, its not for everyone but pretty enjoyable. Just a game where you get to make choices and the narrator has to deal with your choices.

The walking dead (telltale games) is fantastic story telling

[Guy Mannly]

actually
this is kind of a long shot and doesn't have anything to do with the preferences you listed, but you should look up the game forced
it's a 4 player co-op game that's partly a puzzle game and partly a dungeon crawl, it's kind of like gladiator volleyball. it's probably one of the most entertaining co-op games i've ever played. my bf and i have been playing it with someone on our raid core in wow and have had a lot of fun with it. if you're interested in a game that you could play together you might want to look it up and see if you'd enjoy it

[Banandana]

[QUOTE=doomevil;42694800]i have the butterflies whenever i see this cute blue-haired chick standing next to me

what do[/QUOTE]

Talk to her?

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=doomevil;42694800]i have the butterflies whenever i see this cute blue-haired chick standing next to me

what do[/QUOTE]

"Are your pubes the same color?"

[Metallics]

"does the carpet match the curtains??"

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=doomevil;42694800]i have the butterflies whenever i see this cute blue-haired chick standing next to me

what do[/QUOTE]

stop getting so immersed in your animes

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Metherat;42694705]So, anyone know any good games for me to buy my boyfriend? He loves a good story, and actual realism, can anyone help me out instead of bashing on taepodong without end? I want him to have an actually nice birthday, not the shit he's had to put up with for the past few years.[/QUOTE]

gtaV

[RobbL]

So I guess I'm in a friends with benefits thing now, how can I make sure this doesn't end badly when it does?

[NoDachi]

don't get jelly when she's fucking other guys

[Dysentery]

p much, and remember to leave your feelings at the door and NEVER try to turn it into anything more than a fwb

[locojaws]

how do you tell a stinky person that theyre stinky without sounding like a dick?

[1337M347]

Ugh I just ended a one year relationship with someone I really cared about and I've had quite literally the worst day of my life so far...what can help me get out of this godawful depression?

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=1337M347;42699163]Ugh I just ended a one year relationship with someone I really cared about and I've had quite literally the worst day of my life so far...what can help me get out of this godawful depression?[/QUOTE]

you're sad, not depressed

that's not about to go - you're gonna feel like shit for a while but it -will- end at some point

in the mean time you should distract yourself, the steam Halloween sale is on - consider a game binge?

[1337M347]

[QUOTE=BrainDeath;42699600]you're sad, not depressed

that's not about to go - you're gonna feel like shit for a while but it -will- end at some point

in the mean time you should distract yourself, the steam Halloween sale is on - consider a game binge?[/QUOTE]

I have $7.78 what do i buy?

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=BrainDeath;42699600]you're sad, not depressed[/QUOTE]

just because he's not clinically depressed doesn't mean he's not depressed, it's pretty condescending to assume that word is only reserved to certain people. depression after an event like that is normal

[QUOTE=BrainDeath;42699600]that's not about to go - you're gonna feel like shit for a while but it -will- end at some point[/QUOTE]

this is the definition of depression, why are you trying to distinguish between the two?

[editline]30th October 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=1337M347;42699934]I have $7.78 what do i buy?[/QUOTE]

the walking dead game is $6.24, you should check it out whether or not you're a walking dead fan already
just go through the steam sales, there are a lot of good games on sale for less than $8 right now

[Mr. Bleak]

[QUOTE=RobbL;42698856]So I guess I'm in a friends with benefits thing now, how can I make sure this doesn't end badly when it does?[/QUOTE]

For emphasis
[QUOTE=NoDachi;42698878]don't get jelly when she's fucking other guys[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;42699100]p much, and remember to leave your feelings at the door and NEVER try to turn it into anything more than a fwb[/QUOTE]

I've just recently (to the best of my knowledge) gotten out of one of those FWB type relationships, and what these guys are saying is the absolute truth.

This girl was staying at my place every night for weeks at a time, despite our really oddly structured FWB type situation. I feel like there was an emotional connection of sorts considering we talked about some pretty personal stuff, but that's neither here nor there. Basically, I finally got fed up with it after being blown off out of the blue for nearly a week while she spent time with, and I'm presuming fucked, some other dude.

Now, I made the mistake of making my feelings known and as a result she said we shouldn't spend as much time together. So basically, I went from semi regular sex, a decent friendship, and someone to talk to about some of my problems to wondering if I've even got a friend anymore. Whether this is because of what I did or simply for the fact that she grew bored of me doesn't matter much. If I wouldn't have gotten attached in the first place, the former wouldn't be an option and the latter wouldn't bother me.

While it may suck losing a good friend, it hurts a lot more losing someone you care a good deal about. It may be easy to say but it's very difficult, for me at least, to focus on not getting emotionally or romantically attached with someone that has made a clear point of friendship with whatever benefits they see fit. Otherwise, you'll end up in a manic love sort of state and feel like shit.

Thankfully, I realized fairly quickly that I'm not a bad or unworthy person just because the desire wasn't returned. Doesn't hurt that I also realize I probably should focus on me before I get into another relationship.

Huh, didn't really mean to turn that into something about me but I suppose writing this all out makes me feel better even still.

Anyway, good luck man, have fun getting laid!

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42700042]just because he's not clinically depressed doesn't mean he's not depressed, it's pretty condescending to assume that word is only reserved to certain people. depression after an event like that is normal

this is the definition of depression, why are you trying to distinguish between the two?

[editline]30th October 2013[/editline]

the walking dead game is $6.24, you should check it out whether or not you're a walking dead fan already
just go through the steam sales, there are a lot of good games on sale for less than $8 right now[/QUOTE]
i've always reserved the word depression for clinical depression, that's usually how it's used over here? - difference in choice of language that's all

and i wholeheartedly recommend TWD, having never watched/cared for the drama or the comic i can tell you that it's an incredibly engrossing game
though it may not leave you in the best mood always?

[Emugod]

Could SFS settle an argument with a friend and I? Is it better to stay friends with a girl that you are interested in, but she shows no signs of being interested or that she has stated that she doesn't see you in the same way, or cut all contact with the girl?

Agree for former, disagree for latter.

[Nikeos]

if you actually want to be friends and are not settling for less because she doesn't want to be together, then great

but if you're settling (or sticking around in hopes she'll develop feelings) because she doesn't want anything else, bad, move on

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42700749]Could SFS settle an argument with a friend and I? Is it better to stay friends with a girl that you are interested in, but she shows no signs of being interested or that she has stated that she doesn't see you in the same way, or cut all contact with the girl?

Agree for former, disagree for latter.[/QUOTE]

think of it like this - would you still talk to them if they were a dude?

[ForDaNords]

How do you start building up a friendly relationship with someone in your class? Also, what're some topics to start a conversation with?

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=ForDaNords;42701822]How do you start building up a friendly relationship with someone in your class? Also, what're some topics to start a conversation with?[/QUOTE]

whats your name?
where are you from?
what do you do, why etc?

and then find out from there

[Big D Duchovny]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;42699100]p much, and remember to leave your feelings at the door and NEVER try to turn it into anything more than a fwb[/QUOTE]

Well, me and my first girlfriend started off by just having sex for about a year - she was a bit more active than me, but it was by all definitions a friends with benefits relationship. I moved closer to where she lived and bada-bing bada-bom, we hit it off after a month. Even after we broke up we see each other on a regular basis.

Not saying it's recommendable, but it *can* work.

[zukriuchen]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;42702855]whats your name?
where are you from?
what do you do, why?[/QUOTE]

be sure to ask exactly this, very aggressively, while breathing heavily

[Metherat]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42695363]Mass effect has great depth in the universe and species designs and such if he hasnt already played it.
Half-life also although im assuming he has probably played it is great story wise
What do you mean by actual realism though?

Very different to those two is FTL: Faster than Light
Its a rouge-like where you get your own events and story stuff, if he might have an interest in it its pretty cheap and really fun

LA Noire is pretty awesome. Not a huge thing on overarching story exactly, but if he is anything like me, i'm a sucker for trying to figure the story out before the game lets me know
I'm a story person myself so just suggesting shit I like really lol.

Oh, Thomas was Alone is a really cool one too, its mostly characterization based, puzzle game with little cubes with all distinct personalities,
The stanley parable might be somewhere in his zone, its not for everyone but pretty enjoyable. Just a game where you get to make choices and the narrator has to deal with your choices.

The walking dead (telltale games) is fantastic story telling[/QUOTE]

Thanks to everyone who gave advice, but especially you, thanks! How could I forget about the The Walking Dead games... He loves FTL and La Noire, enjoyed Farcry3, played both massive effect and halflife, but he loves The Walking Dead (the show)- he got me hooked on the show and is currently bashing me for being an episode behid. :v:
I'll try to get him the game, it should be on sale if Steam counts it as "spooky".

[editline]30th October 2013[/editline]

I'll also look into FORCED, looks like fun- puzzles and just general fucking aroudn always ends up hilarious with two or more players.

[editline]30th October 2013[/editline]

Ah fuck he owns TWD, I'll quickly draw him something then - I'll be up all night tonight, yay.
Why do you have to own every game you could ever want... Why...
He buys pretty much every Humble Bundle, EVER.

[Doomevil]

Well I did talk to the blue-haired girl's friends, sadly I didn't ask her anything about her. I would say this is a great start to work with now that I'm volunteering at a coffee shop at my school, attending a club, and going to tutor. My life is packed.

[Aries]

My first job was at a cafe during high school. I ended up moving towns with that experience, working full time in another cafe, running an italian restaurant during the day and now I'm back at my first job as a supervising manager. So if you ever think it's too much of a hassle to carry on with, remember that it's a job in a career that can take you places!

[Doomevil]

[QUOTE=Aries;42704648]My first job was at a cafe during high school. I ended up moving towns with that experience, working full time in another cafe, running an italian restaurant during the day and now I'm back at my first job as a supervising manager. So if you ever think it's too much of a hassle to carry on with, remember that it's a job in a career that can take you places![/QUOTE]

Not really, I usually get my work done(when I'm not procrastinating) after school. I have never been this active in my life, and I live far away too.

[J Wall]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42700749]Could SFS settle an argument with a friend and I? Is it better to stay friends with a girl that you are interested in, but she shows no signs of being interested or that she has stated that she doesn't see you in the same way, or cut all contact with the girl?

Agree for former, disagree for latter.[/QUOTE]

"Friend" here. Let's provide some context to the question since he conveniently left out some important details.

Emu seems to believe that having a romantic interest in a girl means you can not have a platonic friendship with them AT ALL, and that to remedy the problem of the "friend zone" as he likes to believe it to be, you must throw them out of your life without a care for what they might say or do. Why? All because they won't have sex with you.

He treats women as objects without opinions or emotions of their own; when he doesn't get his own way he throws a tantrum and says "fuck bitches" (read a few pages back); and he tends to be hypocritical and give the same advice to other people (e.g. myself) that he won't take himself. I think I can safely say he is both fairly egotistical and selfish, blind to the thoughts of others, and that he likes to make himself out to be the victim.

For reference here is some information about the two girls he is asking the above question about:

The girl he likes: known for about two weeks; barely know one another; is single and has stood him up twice; doesn't know how he feels about her.
The girl I like: known for eleven years; is my best friend; is in a relationship and will be for the foreseeable future; knows how I feel about her.

Now I might be wrong, but I'm almost certain you can't compare two cases and say they are exactly the same and treat them the same, with the only similarity between them being that they are both female and both have guys that are interested in them. Maybe the girl he is interested in wouldn't give a damn if they never spoke again, but I can say for a fact that my best friend would.

Don't paint everything as black and white.