Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42720111]So its the middle of the night and I can't sleep. And by middle of the night I mean early morning. I have to be up in 2 hours so at this point i've resolved to just stay up since it will just make me feel worse to get so little sleep (and run the risk of my alarm not waking me up again :v:)

So I figured I'd take the opportunity to write up a post about something i've wanted to for a while, but its usually in the middle of the night and I never do. It's partially just me wondering who else does this, how common is it, and how much of a weirdo am I really. I dunno. Theres a lot of things everyone does but pretends they dont because they dont know if anyone else does, makes it impossible to judge. On a quick google there is a few talks of other people sympathizing "oh yeah I do that too" but theres a lot of details I dont find coincide with my own experiences.

Essentially I talk to myself. To an extreme. It might be more accurate to say generally that I LARP by my self. Something I've done since I was a kid and just never stopped doing. Make up characters, back stories, other characters to interact with. etc. Then think out and usually act out scenarios with them. I Perform a lot of the actions, including mouthing any words I say (and occasionally slipping up and actually saying them). I do this a lot, mostly when I'm at home but I'll usually end up integrating it into everything else too, school, work etc.
The only reason I can say it is non-disruptive to those things is because I'm a problem solver, I always integrate what I need to be doing into the situation so I dont have to act differently, and use it as something to make boring tasks more interesting (I am a math genius saving the world, or was being visited at school by whomever while I needed to get work done, only way I did math ever in high school)

When im home alone I get to be a rocker (well am usually some form of famous and/or talented singer anyway but particularly then when I can blast music and not listen to myself singing because I am in fact incredibly tone deaf).

None of that is [I]too [/I]unusual from what I can tell based on google, I guess the weirder bits for me are in my character choice. Most people are them in their heads. I'm never me. Or almost never.
That and my characters are usually male. As in basically always male. Sometimes I'll take a female character but those ones are always short lived and always entirely revolved around being sexy for whatever reason :v:

If I look in the mirror its always a bit weird to me, since what I see doesnt really click to my brain as me exactly... even though I know it is. I just dont see myself looking like that at all in my head I guess.
and even though I am well aware what is fake and what is real my memories feel pretty well the same. Not really that fake stuff feels real but more all the real stuff feals like it could be equally fake and made up. Even though I know logically full well it isnt.

This pretending has worked very well in my favor over the years, helping my attention in class a ton, and when I spent a lot of time depressed I helped myself by imaginging a therapist to talk to and reason with. Worked maybe a little too well really :v: when I did eventually see a real therapist I know what they would say before they said it :v: Have fake conversations with people I know a lot. I have occasionally referred to those conversations and discovered they never happened. Awkward moments all around.

But yeah not really looking for advice, I "cope" just fine with being ever so little cray cray I guess :v: just wondering if anyone else is like this too or if im just nuts in an ok way :v:

edit:
Oh yeah its Halloween. Yeah I did nothing special.[/QUOTE]

This is normal, I do it too in completely the same sense as you describe it

my friends irl have been weirded out by admitting it, but its not so weird when you think about it. I just frame scenarios in my head and play them out - and I talk because my mind tends to stumble over itself when I'm going too fast. or sometimes I just talk for pleasure.

Who cares, normal people without any quirks are sort of boring

[SaintBonkers]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42720111]*Rhenae telling us about her habits*[/QUOTE]

I do this too. I live very far away from the school i go to, so me and my friends seldom hang out outside of classes. Recently i've started imagining them following me home so i can show them where i live. I usually talk to them in my head, mouthing the things i would've said.

Recently it started getting a bit more vivid. I realised this when without thinking about it i held the door open for someone who wasn't there. I stood there for about two seconds before i realised what the fuck i was doing.

It kinda scared me.

[Heigou]

Is that not normal? I thought everyone did that, when alone, people talks to themselves and might enact scenes that they wish would happen or something. I do the same.

[junker154]

I talk to myself pretty much all the time when I'm alone. It's fine and keeps me from getting bored.

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;42719107]Both are copout excuses

you don't want to go out with any other girl at your university because you're too hung up on her, so of course you WOULD find someone else if it wasn't for that
[/QUOTE]

Not entirely true. I am hung up on her, but I also don't have the confidence to go for any other girl, yet. I also a bit skeptical about finding a girl at this university because of my failed previous attempts with the aforementioned girl. The other girls might be doing the same to other guys. They also have a lot of choices as this university has about a 5:1 guy to girl ratio, and it's a fairly small community (~3000 students).

[QUOTE=killerteacup;42719107]
the other one is also a bit silly do you think girls just magically appear if you happen to be available and in a car at any given time, their are plenty of opportunities to meet girls[/QUOTE]

I just meant that there are girls outside of university that I could meet, but I don't have the time or the car to go out to the mall, bars, or wherever other women are to meet them.

I live on campus, so I'm usually always on it. I'm kind of limited to the girls on campus for now.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42720111]So its the middle of the night and I can't sleep. And by middle of the night I mean early morning. I have to be up in 2 hours so at this point i've resolved to just stay up since it will just make me feel worse to get so little sleep (and run the risk of my alarm not waking me up again :v:)

So I figured I'd take the opportunity to write up a post about something i've wanted to for a while, but its usually in the middle of the night and I never do. It's partially just me wondering who else does this, how common is it, and how much of a weirdo am I really. I dunno. Theres a lot of things everyone does but pretends they dont because they dont know if anyone else does, makes it impossible to judge. On a quick google there is a few talks of other people sympathizing "oh yeah I do that too" but theres a lot of details I dont find coincide with my own experiences.

Essentially I talk to myself. To an extreme. It might be more accurate to say generally that I LARP by my self. Something I've done since I was a kid and just never stopped doing. Make up characters, back stories, other characters to interact with. etc. Then think out and usually act out scenarios with them. I Perform a lot of the actions, including mouthing any words I say (and occasionally slipping up and actually saying them). I do this a lot, mostly when I'm at home but I'll usually end up integrating it into everything else too, school, work etc.
The only reason I can say it is non-disruptive to those things is because I'm a problem solver, I always integrate what I need to be doing into the situation so I dont have to act differently, and use it as something to make boring tasks more interesting (I am a math genius saving the world, or was being visited at school by whomever while I needed to get work done, only way I did math ever in high school)

When im home alone I get to be a rocker (well am usually some form of famous and/or talented singer anyway but particularly then when I can blast music and not listen to myself singing because I am in fact incredibly tone deaf).

None of that is [I]too [/I]unusual from what I can tell based on google, I guess the weirder bits for me are in my character choice. Most people are them in their heads. I'm never me. Or almost never.
That and my characters are usually male. As in basically always male. Sometimes I'll take a female character but those ones are always short lived and always entirely revolved around being sexy for whatever reason :v:

If I look in the mirror its always a bit weird to me, since what I see doesnt really click to my brain as me exactly... even though I know it is. I just dont see myself looking like that at all in my head I guess.
and even though I am well aware what is fake and what is real my memories feel pretty well the same. Not really that fake stuff feels real but more all the real stuff feals like it could be equally fake and made up. Even though I know logically full well it isnt.

This pretending has worked very well in my favor over the years, helping my attention in class a ton, and when I spent a lot of time depressed I helped myself by imaginging a therapist to talk to and reason with. Worked maybe a little too well really :v: when I did eventually see a real therapist I know what they would say before they said it :v: Have fake conversations with people I know a lot. I have occasionally referred to those conversations and discovered they never happened. Awkward moments all around.

But yeah not really looking for advice, I "cope" just fine with being ever so little cray cray I guess :v: just wondering if anyone else is like this too or if im just nuts in an ok way :v:

edit:
Oh yeah its Halloween. Yeah I did nothing special.[/QUOTE]

If I'm the only person in the flat I like to open up wiki pages of warhammer/warcraft lore and read them out loud in the deepest most serious voice I can do.

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42721557][B]Not entirely true[/B]. I am hung up on her, but I also don't have the confidence to go for any other girl, yet. I also a bit skeptical about finding a girl at this university because of my failed previous attempts with the aforementioned girl. [B]The other girls might be doing the same to other guys.[/B][/QUOTE]

yup

ok

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=BrainDeath;42721619]yup

ok[/QUOTE]

This is all just from rumors I hear. I definitely don't know this, but with a 5:1 guy to girl ratio, it may be true. I'm not saying all girls are doing it, just some of them. And, those are the girls that I'm attracted to.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42720111]So its the middle of the night and I can't sleep. And by middle of the night I mean early morning. I have to be up in 2 hours so at this point i've resolved to just stay up since it will just make me feel worse to get so little sleep (and run the risk of my alarm not waking me up again :v:)

So I figured I'd take the opportunity to write up a post about something i've wanted to for a while, but its usually in the middle of the night and I never do. It's partially just me wondering who else does this, how common is it, and how much of a weirdo am I really. I dunno. Theres a lot of things everyone does but pretends they dont because they dont know if anyone else does, makes it impossible to judge. On a quick google there is a few talks of other people sympathizing "oh yeah I do that too" but theres a lot of details I dont find coincide with my own experiences.

Essentially I talk to myself. To an extreme. It might be more accurate to say generally that I LARP by my self. Something I've done since I was a kid and just never stopped doing. Make up characters, back stories, other characters to interact with. etc. Then think out and usually act out scenarios with them. I Perform a lot of the actions, including mouthing any words I say (and occasionally slipping up and actually saying them). I do this a lot, mostly when I'm at home but I'll usually end up integrating it into everything else too, school, work etc.
The only reason I can say it is non-disruptive to those things is because I'm a problem solver, I always integrate what I need to be doing into the situation so I dont have to act differently, and use it as something to make boring tasks more interesting (I am a math genius saving the world, or was being visited at school by whomever while I needed to get work done, only way I did math ever in high school)

When im home alone I get to be a rocker (well am usually some form of famous and/or talented singer anyway but particularly then when I can blast music and not listen to myself singing because I am in fact incredibly tone deaf).

None of that is [I]too [/I]unusual from what I can tell based on google, I guess the weirder bits for me are in my character choice. Most people are them in their heads. I'm never me. Or almost never.
That and my characters are usually male. As in basically always male. Sometimes I'll take a female character but those ones are always short lived and always entirely revolved around being sexy for whatever reason :v:

If I look in the mirror its always a bit weird to me, since what I see doesnt really click to my brain as me exactly... even though I know it is. I just dont see myself looking like that at all in my head I guess.
and even though I am well aware what is fake and what is real my memories feel pretty well the same. Not really that fake stuff feels real but more all the real stuff feals like it could be equally fake and made up. Even though I know logically full well it isnt.

This pretending has worked very well in my favor over the years, helping my attention in class a ton, and when I spent a lot of time depressed I helped myself by imaginging a therapist to talk to and reason with. Worked maybe a little too well really :v: when I did eventually see a real therapist I know what they would say before they said it :v: Have fake conversations with people I know a lot. I have occasionally referred to those conversations and discovered they never happened. Awkward moments all around.

But yeah not really looking for advice, I "cope" just fine with being ever so little cray cray I guess :v: just wondering if anyone else is like this too or if im just nuts in an ok way :v:

edit:
Oh yeah its Halloween. Yeah I did nothing special.[/QUOTE]

it just makes you more interesting

hey bb wanna date

but tbh one of my ex gfs from years ago was exactly like that, almost to the point of a split personality disorder it felt like sometimes. She never really stuck at therapy and shit long enough to truly get to the bottom of the causes but they figured it was just some coping mechanism from past trauma.

[SleepyAl]

Why is it so hard to get the guts to just go up and talk to someone? That's literally the only thing I need to do to meet someone but the anxiety is crippling and my mind races.

I just can't concentrate on how to make myself not come off as awkward and instead focus on the "what-ifs". What if I stutter, what if I'm interrupting her time and she has no desire to speak to me, what if I come off as creepy, what if I run out of things to say, etc. And I always get nervous and paranoid as fuck when I'm out in public, so asking someone for coffee or something is a nightmare, especially since I don't like coffee at all and going for coffee then getting a Coke or hot chocolate seems weird.

I never feel comfortable in my skin, and I feel like people can tell. When I'm with my friends I'm chill, unless there's like one new person there and I just NOPE and avoid talking. There's literally no reason for me to feel this way. Apparently I'm interesting to talk to and cute, I've got a good circle of friends who gravitated to me without any effort on my part (which is why meeting new people is hard since I've never really had to initiate) but I feel like trying to talk to someone I don't know is wrong for some reason.

I'm running out of time to meet someone in college, and I'm afraid of trying online dating since it seems... forced, and not natural in a "build up a friendship first then see what happens" kind of way. I guess it doesn't help that I don't have a car or that big of an income (work study and a second part time job gets me ~ $70 a week, most of which is spent on food for the week because my town is expensive as fuck), or that I hate parties and social gatherings or other stuff normal people like to do.

I just wish I could meet someone introverted and chill who liked to do solitary activities like painting, reading, writing, video games or something where I could be comfortable with them.

[Dysentery]

[QUOTE=SleepyAl;42722650]Why is it so hard to get the guts to just go up and talk to someone? That's literally the only thing I need to do to meet someone but the anxiety is crippling and my mind races.

I just can't concentrate on how to make myself not come off as awkward and instead focus on the "what-ifs". What if I stutter, what if I'm interrupting her time and she has no desire to speak to me, what if I come off as creepy, what if I run out of things to say, etc. And I always get nervous and paranoid as fuck when I'm out in public, so asking someone for coffee or something is a nightmare, especially since I don't like coffee at all and going for coffee then getting a Coke or hot chocolate seems weird.

I never feel comfortable in my skin, and I feel like people can tell. When I'm with my friends I'm chill, unless there's like one new person there and I just NOPE and avoid talking. There's literally no reason for me to feel this way. Apparently I'm interesting to talk to and cute, I've got a good circle of friends who gravitated to me without any effort on my part (which is why meeting new people is hard since I've never really had to initiate) but I feel like trying to talk to someone I don't know is wrong for some reason.

I'm running out of time to meet someone in college, and I'm afraid of trying online dating since it seems... forced, and not natural in a "build up a friendship first then see what happens" kind of way. I guess it doesn't help that I don't have a car or that big of an income (work study and a second part time job gets me ~ $70 a week, most of which is spent on food for the week because my town is expensive as fuck), or that I hate parties and social gatherings or other stuff normal people like to do.

I just wish I could meet someone introverted and chill who liked to do solitary activities like painting, reading, writing, video games or something where I could be comfortable with them.[/QUOTE]

the only way to overcome this sort of social anxiety about feeling awkward and stuff is to actually just go out and do it. no one is perfect, you're going to fuck up when you're meeting new people. it's inevitable. but who cares? yeah, sure, if you mess up talking to a girl maybe you'll look a little awkward but unless you start crying and rolling around on the ground she isn't gonna be like "LMAO LOOK AT THIS LOSER HE STUTTERED!", she probably won't even acknowledge it as long as you don't get locked up on it. and hell coffee shops aren't the only place to go, there's plenty of other places that you could go instead. besides, getting a hot chocolate at a coffee shop is like one of the most normal things, i see it happen all the time.

you'll never get anywhere if you keep worrying about how others will think of you. we all know it can be tough, we've all been there. but you have to realize that failing is just a part of life. you WILL fail. and you WILL learn how not to fail and you will become more comfortable with yourself and find someone who is comfortable with how you are. you'll never know until you start looking.

[SleepyAl]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;42722709]the only way to overcome this sort of social anxiety about feeling awkward and stuff is to actually just go out and do it. no one is perfect, you're going to fuck up when you're meeting new people. it's inevitable. but who cares? yeah, sure, if you mess up talking to a girl maybe you'll look a little awkward but unless you start crying and rolling around on the ground she isn't gonna be like "LMAO LOOK AT THIS LOSER HE STUTTERED!", she probably won't even acknowledge it as long as you don't get locked up on it. and hell coffee shops aren't the only place to go, there's plenty of other places that you could go instead. besides, getting a hot chocolate at a coffee shop is like one of the most normal things, i see it happen all the time.

you'll never get anywhere if you keep worrying about how others will think of you. we all know it can be tough, we've all been there. but you have to realize that failing is just a part of life. you WILL fail. and you WILL learn how not to fail and you will become more comfortable with yourself and find someone who is comfortable with how you are. you'll never know until you start looking.[/QUOTE]

I guess I just need to stop focusing on what other people will think about me, but it's so fucking hard to do that. A lot of my friends have given the advice to just not give a fuck about what other people think about myself, but it's in my nature to try and be nice and non-offensive and by constantly thinking about others perceptions of me it's made me successful in school and with friends, but unhappy. I mean, I'm worried I'll be bothering someone by talking to them, how fucked up is that!

I just need to get out of my head I guess. Sometimes I wish I could drink just to get buzzed and lose all these inhibitions I've built up, but meds wise that's be a horrible idea.

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=SleepyAl;42722650]Why is it so hard to get the guts to just go up and talk to someone? That's literally the only thing I need to do to meet someone but the anxiety is crippling and my mind races.

I just can't concentrate on how to make myself not come off as awkward and instead focus on the "what-ifs". What if I stutter, what if I'm interrupting her time and she has no desire to speak to me, what if I come off as creepy, what if I run out of things to say, etc. [B]And I always get nervous and paranoid as fuck when I'm out in public, so asking someone for coffee or something is a nightmare, especially since I don't like coffee at all and going for coffee then getting a Coke or hot chocolate seems weird. [/B]

I never feel comfortable in my skin, and I feel like people can tell. When I'm with my friends I'm chill, unless there's like one new person there and I just NOPE and avoid talking. There's literally no reason for me to feel this way. Apparently I'm interesting to talk to and cute, I've got a good circle of friends who gravitated to me without any effort on my part (which is why meeting new people is hard since I've never really had to initiate) but I feel like trying to talk to someone I don't know is wrong for some reason.

I'm running out of time to meet someone in college, and I'm afraid of trying online dating since it seems... forced, and not natural in a "build up a friendship first then see what happens" kind of way. I guess it doesn't help that I don't have a car or that big of an income (work study and a second part time job gets me ~ $70 a week, most of which is spent on food for the week because my town is expensive as fuck), or that I hate parties and social gatherings or other stuff normal people like to do.

I just wish I could meet someone introverted and chill who liked to do solitary activities like painting, reading, writing, video games or something where I could be comfortable with them.[/QUOTE]

i'd just like to say that my first date was going to a coffee shop and getting hot chocolate (she did too)

second one's coming tomorrow heheh

[chinatown]

hot chocolate is a close relative to coffee

[Dysentery]

[QUOTE=BrainDeath;42723327]i'd just like to say that my first date was going to a coffee shop and getting hot chocolate (she did too)

second one's coming tomorrow heheh[/QUOTE]

are you gonna get the hot coffee too hehehe [IMG]http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-smug.gif[/IMG]

[editline]1st November 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=SleepyAl;42723320]I guess I just need to stop focusing on what other people will think about me, but it's so fucking hard to do that. A lot of my friends have given the advice to just not give a fuck about what other people think about myself, but it's in my nature to try and be nice and non-offensive and by constantly thinking about others perceptions of me it's made me successful in school and with friends, but unhappy. I mean, I'm worried I'll be bothering someone by talking to them, how fucked up is that!

I just need to get out of my head I guess. Sometimes I wish I could drink just to get buzzed and lose all these inhibitions I've built up, but meds wise that's be a horrible idea.[/QUOTE]

one of the biggest things you have to learn is that you can't make everyone happy, and trying to change yourself or act a certain way in order to make other people happy is a terrible and honestly pointless idea. there's always going to be someone who doesn't like something about you, simple as that. you can't worry about those little things, though, because you can't change it no matter how hard you try. so just be you, and learn to be comfortable with that. trust me, you won't bother anybody just by talking to them, and even if you do then they probably aren't someone you want to waste your time talking to in the first place

[Kindlinho]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42720111]So its the middle of the night and I can't sleep. And by middle of the night I mean early morning. I have to be up in 2 hours so at this point i've resolved to just stay up since it will just make me feel worse to get so little sleep (and run the risk of my alarm not waking me up again :v:)...[/QUOTE]
I often make interviews with myself in the bathroom while and after taking a shower. I already was a Formula 1 driver (Heinz-Harald Frentzen), NHL player, musician, photographer, graphic designer. I don't even find it weird.

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;42723460]are you gonna get the hot coffee too hehehe [IMG]http://i.somethingawful.com/forumsystem/emoticons/emot-smug.gif[/IMG]
[/QUOTE]

hehehe

[Big Dumb Patriot]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42720111]--[/QUOTE]

I do this all the time. Some of my best friends are myself.

[Dysentery]

girls are confusing sometimes

my ex texted me last night for the first time in a few months and after a while she started talking about how she had sex a lot last month and was sexually frustrated. i didn't really care about it but then i mentioned having a new girlfriend and then she stopped replying to me. out of habit i checked her tumblr (she used to always post if she was mad/sad/whatever at me when we were dating on there as if i couldn't just check) and sure enough, apparently me mentioning having a new gf hurt her feelings?? even tho she just told me she got fucked a ton by her new bf???

oops??

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;42724153]girls are confusing sometimes

my ex texted me last night for the first time in a few months and after a while she started talking about how she had sex a lot last month and was sexually frustrated. i didn't really care about it but then i mentioned having a new girlfriend and then she stopped replying to me. out of habit i checked her tumblr (she used to always post if she was mad/sad/whatever at me when we were dating on there as if i couldn't just check) and sure enough, apparently me mentioning having a new gf hurt her feelings?? even tho she just told me she got fucked a ton by her new bf???

oops??[/QUOTE]

obviously he's not satisfying her

[editline]1st November 2013[/editline]

hehehe

[Emugod]

FUCK. Just found out that the university I'm attending is going to merge with another larger one. Sounds good, right? Nope. This university is a Technology/Engineering university, while the other is a Liberal Arts university. Our university's name will change to theirs. So, I'll be getting a Computer Science degree at a Liberal Arts university. I still have 3 years to go to get my degree, which will mean nothing now.

I was really loving it here too. I was making a lot of friends and I was going to get a great degree. Most of my friends will move on to another university now. I don't have anywhere else to go now, too... Fuck, this sucks.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;42724153]girls are confusing sometimes

my ex texted me last night for the first time in a few months and after a while she started talking about how she had sex a lot last month and was sexually frustrated. i didn't really care about it but then i mentioned having a new girlfriend and then she stopped replying to me. out of habit i checked her tumblr (she used to always post if she was mad/sad/whatever at me when we were dating on there as if i couldn't just check) and sure enough, apparently me mentioning having a new gf hurt her feelings?? even tho she just told me she got fucked a ton by her new bf???

oops??[/QUOTE]

idk just because you're over someone doesn't mean you like hearing that someone is over you

[RobbL]

So i've been in a friends with benefits thing for only about 2 weeks, but now there's this girl I met the other night who i've been texting since, I really like her and she seems to quite like me and I'd definitely consider a relationship once I get to know her a bit more (haven't asked her out or anything yet)
some general advice please?

[Flapadar]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42724236]FUCK. Just found out that the university I'm attending is going to merge with another larger one. Sounds good, right? Nope. This university is a Technology/Engineering university, while the other is a Liberal Arts university. Our university's name will change to theirs. So, I'll be getting a Computer Science degree at a Liberal Arts university. I still have 3 years to go to get my degree, which will mean nothing now.

I was really loving it here too. I was making a lot of friends and I was going to get a great degree. Most of my friends will move on to another university now. I don't have anywhere else to go now, too... Fuck, this sucks.[/QUOTE]

List the old name on your CV?

[editline]1st November 2013[/editline]

And at least you're just starting, better than being one year to go

[Emugod]

[QUOTE=Flapadar;42724438]List the old name on your CV?

[editline]1st November 2013[/editline]

And at least you're just starting, better than being one year to go[/QUOTE]

It probably wouldn't be accepted if I added the old name.

And, it's worse that I started now, because I have no where else to go now. This was the best university. It had the best degree for the best price and it was the perfect size for me. Could have used more girls, but I can deal with that.

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42725219][B]It probably wouldn't be accepted if I added the old name.[/B]

And, it's worse that I started now, because I have no where else to go now. This was the best university. It had the best degree for the best price and it was the perfect size for me. Could have used more girls, but I can deal with that.[/QUOTE]

Why not? CV's aren't all structured the same, just list both.

[Flapadar]

[QUOTE=Emugod;42725219]It probably wouldn't be accepted if I added the old name.

And, it's worse that I started now, because I have no where else to go now. This was the best university. It had the best degree for the best price and it was the perfect size for me. Could have used more girls, but I can deal with that.[/QUOTE]

Most employers don't keep up to date on what universities exist and how good they are - especially if you're getting interviewed far away from it

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;42720111]long ass post[/QUOTE]

oh thank god i thought i was the only one who did this shit

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=RobbL;42724296]So i've been in a friends with benefits thing for only about 2 weeks, but now there's this girl I met the other night who i've been texting since, I really like her and she seems to quite like me and I'd definitely consider a relationship once I get to know her a bit more (haven't asked her out or anything yet)
some general advice please?[/QUOTE]

If you are serious about being in a relationship with this other person then end the friends with benefits thing now.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Slowbro;42725438]oh thank god i thought i was the only one who did this shit[/QUOTE]

reminds me of something that happened with my ex.
he was at my house and i had decided to take a nap, apparently he took the opportunity to nose around on my computer and found out i had saved chat logs of conversations with my now-bf (we were just friends at the time). while i was sleeping he started talking to himself and running through possible (super dramatic) conversations with me about it, of course the fact that he was talking to himself right next to me woke me up so i spent the next 10 minutes or so scared as shit while i was listening to him talk to himself like a psycho.
i doubt what you guys do is anywhere as creepy as that though,