Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Catshit]

[QUOTE=Banandana;42734079]Is it just me or are a lot of these problems people simply overthinking things?

I mean anytime I talk to someone, it's not like I'm super worried about how they think of me. When I just talk to them, my true self shows, so why would I care to be any different. If they don't like me, that's their deal.

???

NoDachi has trouble doing this.[/QUOTE]

Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't.
That's why we're here though. To differentiate what it is, and if it's not overthinking, to give advice and feedback and comfort. Mostly advice.

[♠️♥️♦️♣️]

gonna ask this adorable girl out that i've been friends with for about a year now to get chinese food with me since it's her fav. i've been beating around the bush hardcore on what i want to do so that might've kinda ruined my chances.

if she says no i don't think it'll affect our friendship for the most part besides a little distance between us (which is perfectly fine because if i let her sleep on my shoulder again i'd probably be bumming hard) so yolo.

wish me luck :v:

[jobizzle]

[QUOTE=Mobon1;42736463]gonna ask this adorable girl out that i've been friends with for about a year now to get chinese food with me since it's her fav. i've been beating around the bush hardcore on what i want to do so that might've kinda ruined my chances.

if she says no i don't think it'll affect our friendship for the most part besides a little distance between us (which is perfectly fine because if i let her sleep on my shoulder again i'd probably be bumming hard) so yolo.

wish me luck :v:[/QUOTE]

Remember to be kind of blunt in the way you ask her, so she knows it is a 'date' and not just a friends thing. Don't gush out all your feelings though, just be like 'Hey (whatshername) would you like to go on a date with me, we could go out for a meal?'

oh and smile when you ask her, it makes a big difference, no one wants to be asked out in a deadly serious manner.

[chinatown]

hmm, I dont think you should say that. Letting her know its a date puts a lot of pressure on her. You can transmit your intention to her in a lot of more effective ways

[jobizzle]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;42736829]hmm, I dont think you should say that. Letting her know its a date puts a lot of pressure on her. You can transmit your intention to her in a lot of more effective ways[/QUOTE]

There's no way to guarantee she understands what you mean unless you make your intentions clear in words. Trust me from experience, girls appreciate it when you are direct, and its often confusing and awkward for both parties if you don't make it explicit that you're going on a date.

Don't be that weird guy who appears like a friend but then starts making moves and catching the girl off guard.

[lordcrypto]

[QUOTE=SleepyAl;42735438]What is introverted then? I thought it was someone who prefers to do solitary things, is a "thinker" more than a "doer" and gets drained when around lots of people, which fits me to a T. I have yet to enjoy a party and I've been to around 7 for my college career, and it always ends with me leaving ~30 minutes in because I feel awkward, alone and overstimulated, going to my room and getting depressed.

I mean, parties are extremely anxiety provoking for me anyways, so I understand the main reason I avoid them is because of anxiety, but combined with the fact that I'm not a social butterfly, I can't drink/smoke and I would rather be in a quiet environment with 2, 3 friends at most makes me feel like parties are not the way to go.[/QUOTE]

all *vert means is just you either get emotionally recharged from social situations or being alone

an introvert can handle a party perfectly fine

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;42737200]all *vert means is just you either get emotionally recharged from social situations or being alone

an introvert can handle a party perfectly fine[/QUOTE]

so the word we're looking for is "shy"?

[Big Dumb Patriot]

:extreme jazzhands:

I had a first date with a pretty lady today, and it went very well. We ended up talking for almost five hours, and I got the kiss at the end. Happy ole' BDA.

[Aries]

Nice, dude. Plan the next one quick!

[Big Dumb Patriot]

I invited her over for dinner, but we didn't set a day yet. She did send me a text telling me that she can't wait until we see each other again, so I guess I'd better make it snappy.

[.Lain]

date next weekend, yeee
really need to tidy up before then

[editline]2nd November 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=The Party Spy;42733843]Am I doing something wrong if all of my friends get invited to a super big jam and I don't? I mean, 300 people were at this party, and nobody even told me about it until I saw the drunk tweets[/QUOTE]
don't overthink it. next time you're in contact with one of your friends, ask them about it and ask them to invite you in the future, maybe something you hinted at made them think you didn't want to go

[Mr. Bleak]

Man, I wish I could enjoy being alone as much as I used to. I'm almost completely on edge when I'm by myself after I've finished my school work and such.

At the beginning of the summer, I had probably 15-20 friends that I would hang out with. Now, I'm lucky to have 3 people to see, and I almost exclusively have to ask them first.

I'm not quite sure what happened.

[Banandana]

[QUOTE=Banandana;42734079]Is it just me or are a lot of these problems people simply overthinking things?

I mean anytime I talk to someone, it's not like I'm super worried about how they think of me. When I just talk to them, my true self shows, so why would I care to be any different. If they don't like me, that's their deal.

???

[/QUOTE]

Come to think of it, the way I asked this is kind of bashing on the thread. I didn't mean it like this, so I apologize. It was only a question.

[editline]2nd November 2013[/editline]

Thanks for the responses, I really appreciate it.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=jobizzle;42737122]There's no way to guarantee she understands what you mean unless you make your intentions clear in words. Trust me from experience, girls appreciate it when you are direct, and its often confusing and awkward for both parties if you don't make it explicit that you're going on a date.

Don't be that weird guy who appears like a friend but then starts making moves and catching the girl off guard.[/QUOTE]

I know what you mean, but theres still plenty of ways to make it clear without saying. And if you have to make it clear by saying that you want a romantic date with her and not a friendly hang-out, then you didnt make your intentions clear in the first place before that because she should know that you want something from her when asking her out for coffee.

But yeah by no means be the awkward guy that changes his intentions inbetween

[Splash Attack]

I haven't been keeping up with these threads lately. Been too busy with school and playing pokemon to read them.

Anyways, things have been looking up for me lately. I've met lots of new people and have been more social than ever. My ex who was in three of my classes dropped and changed majors. I'll miss being able to chat with her but it feels like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. On top of that I got a chance to have a proper conversation with this girl in my film class. She's super cute and I think we have quite a bit in common. I'll try to make a move soon in the near future.

Life is pretty good right now.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;42737818]I know what you mean, but theres still plenty of ways to make it clear without saying. And if you have to make it clear by saying that you want a romantic date with her and not a friendly hang-out, then you didnt make your intentions clear in the first place before that because she should know that you want something from her when asking her out for coffee.

But yeah by no means be the awkward guy that changes his intentions inbetween[/QUOTE]

he said they're already friends, and from the way she behaves with him (like sleeping on his shoulder) he probably would need to clarify.

[Aries]

I knew a guy for ten years this year, we were best friends, and I'm missing spending his birthday with him for the first time since we met while everyone else I know is celebrating. I even have the day off tomorrow, but I've got nothing to do with anyone and I'm feeling a bit down in the dumps.

[BrainDeath]

Second date yesterday. Spent most of [I]Thor[/I] wrapped around her. Also spent most of film being leaned on.

Couldn't feel my arm by the end. Worth it.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;42740526]he said they're already friends, and from the way she behaves with him (like sleeping on his shoulder) he probably would need to clarify.[/QUOTE]

I know, in his case yes.

[Juice_Layer]

I just got the nicest random text from my most recent ex yesterday out of literally nowhere. We had to split up because she went off to school about 6 hours away, plus we just weren't cut out for each other really. I hadn't talked to her for about two months besides her saying happy birthday about two weeks ago. She said:

"You're a really good guy. I hope you and the girl are good. The more I spend time with my guy the more I realized you were are such a great guy and I hope you're happy."

That like made my week, even though things aren't going so well with the girl I'm into. Just made me feel good I guess.

[theobod]

I know this hasnt anything to do with girls or anything like that, but I didnt feel like making a thread or something.
So I'll be getting an operation for scoliosis this tuesday and I am really fucking nervous. I googled it and found this: [url]http://www.hudsonvalleyscoliosis.com/?gclid=CLCXhoCSyboCFSF6cAod1AsAlA[/url]. I know that he is refering to the US aid, and not Swedish, and I know that wont get a huge scar all over the back like he says. But I dont know if some of what he says is right. So sorry if this does not belong here.

[zenby]

Well so something came up with that girl and now we have to reschedule, but I just got up this morning and she sent a message at 1:32AM

"I wanna have sex with you a"

What

[biccboi]

drunk text?

do it though

[lordcrypto]

[QUOTE=theobod;42744576]I know this hasnt anything to do with girls or anything like that, but I didnt feel like making a thread or something.
So I'll be getting an operation for scoliosis this tuesday and I am really fucking nervous. I googled it and found this: [url]http://www.hudsonvalleyscoliosis.com/?gclid=CLCXhoCSyboCFSF6cAod1AsAlA[/url]. I know that he is refering to the US aid, and not Swedish, and I know that wont get a huge scar all over the back like he says. But I dont know if some of what he says is right. So sorry if this does not belong here.[/QUOTE]

he's a chiropractor

aka the retards of the medical community

no MDs like them

[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=LordCrypto;42745140]he's a chiropractor

aka the retards of the medical community

no MDs like them[/QUOTE]

confirming that chiropractors aren't doctors of any description

[lordcrypto]

[QUOTE=BrainDeath;42745241]confirming that chiropractors aren't doctors of any description[/QUOTE]
adding on to this

Dr. Strauss BS, MS, DC -- there's no md

In 1997, American chiropractic schools tended to have lower entry requirements than medical or dental schools.[12] In 2005, only one chiropractic college required a bachelors degree as an admission requirement. -- welp that's scary

[editline]3rd November 2013[/editline]

ohh this gem: "Obviously, if surgeons stop performing this surgery, they stand to lose a great deal of money. Alternative scoliosis treatment methods are simply not explored by the established medical community because of the possibility that they may prove to be more effective and less costly, thereby eliminating the need to treat scoliosis surgically, and also their source of income."

yeah theobod, you'll be fine don't worry

[theobod]

Oh, thanks. And with the money thing, the surgeons is doing operations for free pretty much on kids. It gets payed via taxes.

[skynrdfan3]

[url]http://anxietynomore.co.uk/blog/2009/03/18/57/[/url]

Idk but I've had some really bad anxiety recently and this article helped me out a lot. Literally like 2 weeks of not givin a fuck so far.

Made me realize that anxiety is a fabrication of the mind. Now I kinda feel like I'm being selfish if I get anxious because it steers my attention away from what really matters, which is the world around you.

[RainbowStalin]

I used to get pretty anxious in social situations until I realized that no one really gives a shit so why worry about stuff.

[andololol]

[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;42747302]I used to get pretty anxious in social situations until I realized that no one really gives a shit so why worry about stuff.[/QUOTE]

I get really nervous whenever I become the center of attention to a group larger than 12 people.