• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42737360]:extreme jazzhands: I had a first date with a pretty lady today, and it went very well. We ended up talking for almost five hours, and I got the kiss at the end. Happy ole' BDA.[/QUOTE] I know this is totally off topic BDA, but are you still working at that hotel?
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42737360]:extreme jazzhands: I had a first date with a pretty lady today, and it went very well. We ended up talking for almost five hours, and I got the kiss at the end. Happy ole' BDA.[/QUOTE] Good news is good! So, newbie question: I've been out with this girl a few times, and talked quite a lot outside of those events. She's smart, interesting, and seems to legitimately enjoy talking to me. How do I communicate that I'm really interested in her without coming off as horribly awkward, or a hormonal bro that just wants in her pants? My last relationship was a LONG time ago, and I think I made the mistake of either improperly expressing my interest, or doing so too late or at the wrong time. I'm pretty sure she isn't seeing anyone else, so I think I have a shot. I recognize the importance of communicating my intentions and that it needs to be done in the near future, I just don't have the slightest clue how to do it properly so I have a fair chance.
[QUOTE=Used Car Salesman;42750015]Good news is good! So, newbie question: I've been out with this girl a few times, and talked quite a lot outside of those events. She's smart, interesting, and seems to legitimately enjoy talking to me. How do I communicate that I'm really interested in her without coming off as horribly awkward, or a hormonal bro that just wants in her pants? My last relationship was a LONG time ago, and I think I made the mistake of either improperly expressing my interest, or doing so too late or at the wrong time. I'm pretty sure she isn't seeing anyone else, so I think I have a shot. I recognize the importance of communicating my intentions and that it needs to be done in the near future, I just don't have the slightest clue how to do it properly so I have a fair chance.[/QUOTE] Ask her to go on a date? I'm not sure which part of it your asking about really.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;42750353]Ask her to go on a date? I'm not sure which part of it your asking about really.[/QUOTE] We've been on a few one-on-one dates. I'm trying to figure out what the hell to do next so it doesn't just turn into friendly hanging out. We sit, we have lunch together, we walk around together and talk, but I'm just not a very [i]forward[/i] person and I want to figure out how to indicate that I'm interested in more than just friendly chat.
[QUOTE=Used Car Salesman;42750430]We've been on a few one-on-one dates. I'm trying to figure out what the hell to do next so it doesn't just turn into friendly hanging out. We sit, we have lunch together, we walk around together and talk, but I'm just not a very [i]forward[/i] person and I want to figure out how to indicate that I'm interested in more than just friendly chat.[/QUOTE] Have you called your one on ones dates though? Or just hanging out
[QUOTE=Rhenae;42750601]Have you called your one on ones dates though? Or just hanging out[/QUOTE] I think I used the phrase "would you like to have lunch with me". Establishing that in the first place would probably have been a good idea, but I was honestly a little intimidated to actually use the word "date". I sound like a goddamn high schooler, don't I? Shit.
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;42749601]I know this is totally off topic BDA, but are you still working at that hotel?[/QUOTE] Nuh-uh, I stopped working there four or five months ago.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42750729]Nuh-uh, I stopped working there four or five months ago.[/QUOTE] ah i see. the stories were so crazy from there!
Going on another date on Tuesday with a girl I've been involved with on and off for the last two years or so. We've gone from being friends to back in a relationship to back to being friends to back to being in a relationship a few times now mostly because of various moves on her part or being interested in other people. It's interesting how we always seem to drift back together into this really nice cozy comfortable mutual affection. I wish I had better words to describe how it feels besides "really good." I honestly think if there was someone I think I would use the word "love" to describe how I fell about it would be her. I'm really happy I found her.
[QUOTE=ZenX2;42745011]Well so something came up with that girl and now we have to reschedule, but I just got up this morning and she sent a message at 1:32AM "I wanna have sex with you a" What[/QUOTE] Earlier I sent her "at least let me take you out to dinner first ;P" to diffuse the weirdness a bit Well she just messaged me again... "I'm serious though, just FYI" And my friend talked to a friend of hers and apparently she's "aggressive and into sex and stuff" and she gets over guys quickly and randomly stops talking to them... fuck my life [editline]3rd November 2013[/editline] HAHA great she's going through some shit with another guy she used to like and is likely just trying to use me. fucking wonderful
[QUOTE=ZenX2;42750907]Earlier I sent her "at least let me take you out to dinner first ;P" to diffuse the weirdness a bit Well she just messaged me again... "I'm serious though, just FYI" And my friend talked to a friend of hers and apparently she's "aggressive and into sex and stuff" and she gets over guys quickly and randomly stops talking to them... fuck my life [editline]3rd November 2013[/editline] HAHA great she's going through some shit with another guy she used to like and is likely just trying to use me. fucking wonderful[/QUOTE] Don't do it, mang. It's not worth it. Let her deal with her own problems, and don't let her become one of your problems :v
have the sex and then dump her before she dumps you
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;42751144]have the sex and then dump her before she dumps you[/QUOTE] The used becomes to user.
propose to her
I think I'm gonna have a talk with her tomorrow about this.
sex then talk
I think I'm looking for more than just sex in this relationship but lemme clap dem cheeks tho
Hey I got something to ask. I met this girl yesterday here actually and we hit it off really well but I'm afraid that I might come off like I'm bugging her and maybe even annoying. What should I do?
[QUOTE=Jacob_sword;42757867]Hey I got something to ask. I met this girl yesterday here actually and we hit it off really well but I'm afraid that I might come off like I'm bugging her and maybe even annoying. What should I do?[/QUOTE] what'd you do that makes you feel annoying?
[QUOTE=Mobon1;42758292]what'd you do that makes you feel annoying?[/QUOTE] I haven't done anything yet but the biggest thing that ruind my last relationship was my ex kept telling me I was annoying. Like not shutting up when I should. So I noticed and stop my self last night that I was doing it again. And I just don't know what to do now.
[QUOTE=Jacob_sword;42758478]I haven't done anything yet but the biggest thing that ruind my last relationship was my ex kept telling me I was annoying. Like not shutting up when I should. So I noticed and stop my self last night that I was doing it again. And I just don't know what to do now.[/QUOTE] You should not worry about it so much. Your ex sounds like a bitch. If she didn't like talking with you thats more her problem. There is a line if you totally railroad a conversation but so long as your giving the other person involvement (asking them questions and letting them talk too) I wouldnt worry about it so much
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;42751144]have the sex and then dump her before she dumps you[/QUOTE] I think I'm just gonna go with the flow and if she gets bored and randomly stops talking to me it wont be a devastating surprise, it'll just be the end of free sexy time with a fiiine lady. Still a virgin tho, not sure what that entails besides not knowing what the hell i'm doing
I asked the new lady out for dinner and a movie tomorrow, but I am strongly considering trying to pass off the movie in favor of something else, because there are only two movies that look worth watching right now, and I wouldn't want to watch either of them as a second date with this lady. Do you think I could get away with being all, "I know I said we'd go see a movie, but darn it all, I'm just having such a pleasant time. Why don't we go somewhere we can talk instead?" If you were on a date with a good lookin' dude (me, I am the dude), would you feel cheated out of your movie experience, or be touched by what an apparently sweet gesture the new thing was?
Why not both, BDA?
Can you not message her before tomorrow and ask her if you could perhaps do something else instead of going to the movies (because there isn't really anything interesting on)? I'm pretty sure Gravity would be an alright movie to watch tbh, it might be heavy but it's interesting. If it was Prisoners, on the other hand, then yeah, I'd understand you not wanting to watch it on the second date (child abductions and murder and torture and all that gnarly stuff). If it were me and I was prepared to go somewhere, only to have the person jump a new change of plans on me, I'd find it a bit iffy.
I think it's a good choice to go somewhere else, the cinema isn't exactly the best place to get to know eachother because it's hard to talk during a movie. It's noisy, dark and annoying. Also I have to agree with you, there isn't one good movie out there right now. There might be some other activity that you both could do or just grab a drink. Also is that an attempt at comedy?
[QUOTE=loopoo;42760446]Can you not message her before tomorrow and ask her if you could perhaps do something else instead of going to the movies (because there isn't really anything interesting on)? I'm pretty sure Gravity would be an alright movie to watch tbh, it might be heavy but it's interesting. If it was Prisoners, on the other hand, then yeah, I'd understand you not wanting to watch it on the second date (child abductions and murder and torture and all that gnarly stuff). If it were me and I was prepared to go somewhere, only to have the person jump a new change of plans on me, I'd find it a bit iffy.[/QUOTE] Prisoners isn't showing around here. It's 12 Years a Slave. It looks like a good movie, but I would rather fake a car accident than see that on a second date with a black girl. I would have to buy [I]so much[/I] popcorn to get over the white guilt.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42760502]Prisoners isn't showing around here. It's 12 Years a Slave. It looks like a good movie, but I would rather fake a car accident than see that on a second date with a black girl. I would have to buy [I]so much[/I] popcorn to get over the white guilt.[/QUOTE] Yeah I got that the first time, and it's a good call. My point was that Gravity isn't that bad a movie to watch. Just call her or text her now and ask her if it's cool to change plans.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;42760502]Prisoners isn't showing around here. It's 12 Years a Slave. It looks like a good movie, but I would rather fake a car accident than see that on a second date with a black girl. I would have to buy [I]so much[/I] popcorn to get over the white guilt.[/QUOTE] just spat my morning oats everywhere
On my way to the hospital now. You'll hear from me sometime tomoroow! Its 5:25 am here, and the operation will start at 8:00 am.
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