Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Dysentery]

or you could just not do it because it sounds like a terrible idea honestly

[MightyLOLZOR]

[QUOTE=Flapadar;42851336]If you do it make sure you get a legal agreement drawn up[/QUOTE]

This sounds like the best idea. She already agreed through email that she wouldn't make me take care of it regardless of what happens with her relationship with her husband. So I doubt she would mind signing a contract. Jesus christ, I feel like Dwight Schrute when he made that contract with Angela.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=MightyLOLZOR;42851850]This sounds like the best idea. She already agreed through email that she wouldn't make me take care of it regardless of what happens with her relationship with her husband. So I doubt she would mind signing a contract. Jesus christ, I feel like Dwight Schrute when he made that contract with Angela.[/QUOTE]

Just so you know, unless it's properly drafted up (which means $$$) signed and correctly witnessed, it wouldn't take a lawyer much effort to unpick it and shaft you in court. Especially if she decides later on she needs some money and plays the whole innocent female victim thing. If it's not witnessed she can claim she was forced to sign it against her will etc.

You really are setting yourself up to get more literally fucked than you want. Find a chick that doesn't need a legal disclaimer.

[RobbL]

How are you so close to her that she'd ask such a thing? And how old is she and her husband seeing as he's had a vasectomy?

[MightyLOLZOR]

She's 36..... She's been married to her husband for 6 years, and apparently he trusts her way too much. I honestly feel sorry for the guy.

Actually. I just looked at the guy's Facebook profile and saw that he's a hardcore republican. I don't feel sorry for him at all now.

[Kriller1612]

Hey so I could use a bit of general advice about starting chats with 'stranger girls'

Basically I go out once every 2 weeks or so with a couple of friends, either we hit the town (16+ clubs since we're not all 18 yet) or we stay at home and just party, but all these friends are guys.

My problem is that whenever we're at a club or something, there seems to be no openings when it comes to girls, since most girls are there in groups of 5 or 6, and I don't have the confidence to go chat up someone in a group like that.

Anyone got any advice about what to do? Am I just being silly and overly anxious about something simple? I'm also not sure how to start a conversation with a stranger beyond 'Hi, how're you?'

Sorry if something like this has been posted earlier, I haven't read the entire post.

[Flapadar]

[QUOTE=Kriller1612;42851999]Hey so I could use a bit of general advice about starting chats with 'stranger girls'

Basically I go out once every 2 weeks or so with a couple of friends, either we hit the town (16+ clubs since we're not all 18 yet) or we stay at home and just party, but all these friends are guys.

My problem is that whenever we're at a club or something, there seems to be no openings when it comes to girls, since most girls are there in groups of 5 or 6, and I don't have the confidence to go chat up someone in a group like that.

Anyone got any advice about what to do? Am I just being silly and overly anxious about something simple? I'm also not sure how to start a conversation with a stranger beyond 'Hi, how're you?'

Sorry if something like this has been posted earlier, I haven't read the entire post.[/QUOTE]

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[BrainDeath]

[QUOTE=MightyLOLZOR;42851975]She's 36..... She's been married to her husband for 6 years, and apparently he trusts her way too much. I honestly feel sorry for the guy.[/QUOTE]

he doesn't deserve this

tell him

[editline]13th November 2013[/editline]

from a good distance though

[theobod]

Sooo, some updates on life I guess. I got home yesterday from the hospital, feels great really to be home. Missed it a fuckton. My spine is stiff and I can't move it or anything, but I'll be able to do that in a few days. Gonna be back in school on the first of December, gonna study alot at home, haha... And I wont have school gymnastics for 6 months! My class doesnt really know why I got operated, I just said that it was for my back/spine. And I still havent talked to my step sister even though I have hung with her a few times. It feels like I havent made any real friends in my new class after 2 months, sure there is people that I talk with day in and day out in school, but we really dont do anything after school at all, any tips on that?

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=MightyLOLZOR;42851975]She's 36..... She's been married to her husband for 6 years, and apparently he trusts her way too much. I honestly feel sorry for the guy.[/QUOTE]

do it

only because this thread needs another entertaining trainwreck

[MightyLOLZOR]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;42852882]do it

only because this thread needs another entertaining trainwreck[/QUOTE]

Here's an email she sent

[quote]We have always held out for a miracle that we could have a baby even though he is that way. •And my husband is still holding out for it. •He does want children. •His aunt said to him either he gets a vasectomy or he won't see me alone. at the time he couldn't drive so we had no choice to get him out of that house we had to do it.[/quote]

[lum1naire]

I don't know how you could think that is even a remotely good idea MightyLOLZOR

tell her you'll do it if the husband is on board otherwise no

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=MightyLOLZOR;42855376]Here's an email she sent[/QUOTE]

do you even know the women

also i'm p sure the guy is going to notice its not his since he can't have kids

[.Lain]

avoid the almost inevitable trouble in the future, just turn it down. by doing this you could be taking part in something that could seriously hurt the husband, and to an extent her. he's definitely going to know what's up as soon as she says that she is pregnant

[ColdWave]

Venting I guess: Tl;dr My girlfriend broke up with me and moved across the country just for a job at a comic store and to live with random and somewhat shady people for no apparent reason. I'm feeling regret and anger.

So a few weeks ago now my girlfriend of nearly 3 years decided all of a sudden to go and live in California. Now this wouldn't be a problem with me if she had gone out there for a good reason. But she moved out there with a bunch of random people as her room mates and got a job at a comic store. Now what in the fuck, none of this makes any sense to me seeing as how we were so supposedly good together according to her and then she moves ACROSS THE COUNTRY (I live in the state of Maine) away from me and all of her friends just so she can work at a fucking idiotic comic store and live with a bunch of random people. I'm feeling quite a few regrets even getting involved with the relationship in the first place and its making me really quite angry.

I'm not a particularly angry person by any means and this is really bothering me for some odd reason, I feel quite betrayed.

(excuse the hasty and sloppy typing)

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=ColdWave;42856329]Venting I guess: Tl;dr My girlfriend broke up with me and moved across the country just for a job at a comic store and to live with random and somewhat shady people for no apparent reason. I'm feeling regret and anger.

So a few weeks ago now my girlfriend of nearly 3 years decided all of a sudden to go and live in California. Now this wouldn't be a problem with me if she had gone out there for a good reason. But she moved out there with a bunch of random people as her room mates and got a job at a comic store. Now what in the fuck, none of this makes any sense to me seeing as how we were so supposedly good together according to her and then she moves ACROSS THE COUNTRY (I live in the state of Maine) away from me and all of her friends just so she can work at a fucking idiotic comic store and live with a bunch of random people. I'm feeling quite a few regrets even getting involved with the relationship in the first place and its making me really quite angry.

I'm not a particularly angry person by any means and this is really bothering me for some odd reason, I feel quite betrayed.

(excuse the hasty and sloppy typing)[/QUOTE]

as much as it sucks, she's not responsible for your happiness. it's okay to be upset and all but ultimately it's her life, don't be angry with her because she's made a decision that she thinks will make her happy.

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=ColdWave;42856329]she moves ACROSS THE COUNTRY (I live in the state of Maine) away from me and all of her friends just so she can work at a fucking idiotic comic store and live with a bunch of random people.[/QUOTE]

thats kind of cool tho

[Guy Mannly]

and just because you don't know what her reasoning was doesn't mean she's being stupid and impulsive. you'd think that after being in a relationship with her for 3 years you wouldn't be so quick to assume that she can't take care of herself.

[killerteacup]

Sounds like a nick hornby novel

[ColdWave]

I'm not angry with her, I could never be angry at her. I really felt quite a bit of love for her, I have not ever held anger for her. I'm more angry with myself and the situation as it sits seeing as I invested a lot of time into the relationship. Even rotating my own life at points just to fit in this relationship. I sort of feel like some points of the last three years were all for nothing and that is what makes me angry and a little depressed.

[Juice_Layer]

So I had a dream last night that the girl I really like, but doesn't seem to reciprocate my feelings, lived next door to me for years and we had just found out. She invited me over, we went in her room and she took off her clothes and laid in bed and I was in bed next to her still clothed and we were talking, I was mostly just listening. Anyways, she kept kissing me, like a freaking lot. Each time she'd say something like, "we're such good friends / you're a good friend" (story of my life lol) and I never looked at her or stared at her while she wasn't dressed. Her mom even walked in the room and was telling her to put some clothes on, they argued in Spanish haha, which only her mom speaks. Then she came over and we were swimming in my pool and my family was there. She was clothed at this point, even though I think she was only wearing a shirt. Shit's weird.

[editline]14th November 2013[/editline]

I've also never met her mother, but I know what she looks like and it wasn't the same lady. Also, I don't live in that house anymore.

[Heigou]

my god what a pussy can't even look at naked ladies in his dreams!!!

[NoShogun]

So if the girl you were talking to for a while just starts kinda ignoring you or being really cold toward you for no apparent reason, is it best to just back off and cut your losses, so to speak?

[RobbL]

Ask her about it?

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=ColdWave;42859549]I'm not angry with her, I could never be angry at her. I really felt quite a bit of love for her, I have not ever held anger for her. I'm more angry with myself and the situation as it sits seeing as I invested a lot of time into the relationship. Even rotating my own life at points just to fit in this relationship. I sort of feel like some points of the last three years were all for nothing and that is what makes me angry and a little depressed.[/QUOTE]

no relationship is for nothing. every failed relationship is a learning experience, every crazy or abusive partner will leave you with red flags to look for in the future.

[Heigou]

Never been in a relationship but the only girl I've had feelings for who decided to not reciprocate is also the reason why I decided to change myself, lose weight and learn tons of shit to do.

It wasn't a wasted love one could say. If you came out of it with more than you originally had, I say that it's not entirely a bad thing.

[NoShogun]

[QUOTE=RobbL;42861547]Ask her about it?[/QUOTE]

We weren't in a relationship or anything so I'm afraid to sound whiny or clingy

[RobbL]

But if you've been talking to her "for a while" you probably should

[Juice_Layer]

[QUOTE=Heigou;42860789]my god what a pussy can't even look at naked ladies in his dreams!!![/QUOTE]

It was more out of respect lol, knew I'd be criticized for that shit.

[MightyLOLZOR]

Ok, so I just met up with that woman I was talking about earlier. We didn't have sex though. As soon as I walked through her door, she pretty much knew I was a virgin from how shy I was. Me and her pretty much just talked about how I need to think about this first, and how big of a decision this really is. She was really nice actually.