Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Rhenae;42980127]
Anyway, how about you as HIM about it? Sounds like you guys got along fairly well so why not? Just ask him straight up if he is interested in not rather than dithering around and poking in the dark trying to pick up signs?[/QUOTE]
Because ultimatums are too upfront.
Sure, if he's genuinely not interested, then he's not interested, and in that case it's best to know the truth. But if he isn't sure and I start being too forward and upfront, it could put him off, and I don't want that. I want to avoid burning my bridges until there really is no going back.
[quote]The set up of this sounds so weirdly like a manga ive read :v:[/quote]
You know the way there's quite a big fetish out there for turning straight guys gay? This is pretty much that.
I'm actually talking to this pink haired girl in the back of my 5th period class who's really shy when it comes to talk to people. Then again I was also shy once, we're talking about what we do in our lives. It's all good, but what can I do to ask her out, anyone had an experience about these?
Just ask her if she wants to hang out with you after class, just being casual and all cool about. You don't have to make a big fuss about and make it a classic date. Just grab some coffee after a class and talk together.
Even if she is shy, she won't say no if she likes you.
[QUOTE=junker154;42982265]Just ask her if she wants to hang out with you after class, just being casual and all cool about. You don't have to make a big fuss about and make it a classic date. Just grab some coffee after a class and talk together.
Even if she is shy, she won't say no if she likes you.[/QUOTE]
Alright, Thanks.
That's what I did anyway in college. I said something like "So, what are you doing now? I might want to grab a coffee, do you want to join me, I would love to have some good company" or something similiar. After you have done that several times you can ask her out properly, something more reminiscent of a classic date.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;42981837]Because ultimatums are too upfront.
Sure, if he's genuinely not interested, then he's not interested, and in that case it's best to know the truth. But if he isn't sure and I start being too forward and upfront, it could put him off, and I don't want that. I want to avoid burning my bridges until there really is no going back.
You know the way there's quite a big fetish out there for turning straight guys gay? This is pretty much that.[/QUOTE]
An ultimatum is saying "you date me or i will stop talking to you forever" its making them make a choice between two options they may not want either of. Asking him how he is feeling about all this isnt an ultimatum.
[QUOTE=doomevil;42982180]I'm actually talking to this pink haired girl in the back of my 5th period class who's really shy when it comes to talk to people. Then again I was also shy once, we're talking about what we do in our lives. It's all good, but what can I do to ask her out, anyone had an experience about these?[/QUOTE]
What the fuck is with you and anime girls? First blue hair and now this.
[QUOTE=G3rman;42982620]What the fuck is with you and anime girls? First blue hair and now this.[/QUOTE]
i swear to god man the blue hair girl had a boyfriend i felt bummed out
Jokes aside, some girls in my school just happen to dye their hair in a weird color. Only a convenience.
So there is this girl at college that I've been really into, we hangout in-between classes like everyday and talk or do homework. I've been trying to work up the courage to ask her out, but today I was talking to her and she was saying how she hung-out with some guy over the weekend, and today they were constantly texting each other, and sending selifes back and forth. She also said how she had a plan to go to a state park over winter break and rent a cabin with him and two other people and take some photos of nature or something like that. From what she told me it sounds like they're dating but I checked the guys Facebook and it says hes in a relationship with some other girl. Do you guys think I should still try and ask her out?
[QUOTE=doomevil;42982702]i swear to god man the blue hair girl had a boyfriend i felt bummed out
Jokes aside, some girls in my school just happen to dye their hair in a weird color. Only a convenience.[/QUOTE]
My girlfriend changes her hair color all time time. From blonde to blue, red, black, pink or green, it provides some nice variety and I really like it.
[QUOTE=Broadus;42982751]So there is this girl at college that I've been really into, we hangout in-between classes like everyday and talk or do homework. I've been trying to work up the courage to ask her out, but today I was talking to her and she was saying how she hung-out with some guy over the weekend, and today they were constantly texting each other, and sending selifes back and forth. She also said how she had a plan to go to a state park over winter break and [B]rent a cabin with him and two other people to do some photo shoots or something[/B] like that. From what she told me it sounds like they're dating but I checked the guys Facebook and it says hes in a relationship with some other girl. Do you guys think I should still try and ask her out?[/QUOTE]
Sounds like a budding porn artist. Abort mission.
I've always wondered what I would look like with pink or pale blue hair. Could be kinda cool. Its a bit more difficult to get rid of than just a hair cut though if it turns out sucky. What i really want though is rainbow hair... no pony inspiration to that I just love rainbows and bright colours :v:
But getting your hair dyed at a salon is like 60 bucks and then you need root touch ups and bleh.
Effort.
[QUOTE=G3rman;42982892]Sounds like a budding porn artist. Abort mission.[/QUOTE]
I worded that poorly, she said she was going to take some photos of nature while she was up there. I still find it weird that she's doing what i would consider relationship stuff with someone else s boyfriend. Should I still abort mission?
no they're not dating so there's no problem
i slept with my friend in a cramped tent and it didn't mean anything
i mean she kept squeezing my butt but it was friendly
i think
[QUOTE=junker154;42982782]My girlfriend changes her hair color all time time. From blonde to blue, red, black, pink or green, it provides some nice variety and I really like it.[/QUOTE]
Her hair must be like straw
we should really just be bald and wear wigs instead wed all be a lot happier
[QUOTE=metallics;42984256]Her hair must be like straw[/QUOTE]
She takes a shitload of hairconditioners and various shampoos that keep her hair healthy, I still wonder how she pulls that off.
she probably pulls it off because hair dye done properly doesn't ruin your hair
??? why would it?
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;42986300]she probably pulls it off because hair dye done properly doesn't ruin your hair
??? why would it?[/QUOTE]
because if she's changing between different colors frequently she would probably need to bleach it
Today I was eating lunch and a dude at the next table started having a panic attack or something and he was all gasping for air and purple in the face and shit and I wanted to help but I am so irrationally scared of social interaction that I couldn't even bring myself to ask him if he was OK
So yeah that kinda made me feel like shit today
Was walking with this girl after class and I mentioned something about how the emotional part of this movie we were watching kind of got to me. There was a girl in it who was sexually abused as a child, etc. Girl I was walking with said that she's been through worse stuff in her life and how emotions in movies don't really affect her. This caught me as being really odd since we've hardly spoken to each other and she hinted at having what seemed to me like some deep personal issues. I'm probably over analyzing what she said but it really stood out to me. Does this seem like a red flag to any of you guys? So far I'm taking this as a "proceed with caution".
I have a few problems that I don't really know how I should handle em.
I'm in an odd situation currently as I have a university studies starting in January and I recently quit my full time job as a mall cop. I do work as an assistant in a local shop for the rest of this year but the hours are very irregular and generally I only have 2-4 work days per week.
That leaves me with loads of free time and that makes me feel a bit lonely. Most of my "old" friends have either moved to other cities or are studying which leaves them available pretty much only on weekends.
I do have a jobless friend that I can hang around with pretty much whenever I want but he is so goddamn boring to hang with, that I don't really feel like hanging around with him that much.
I also have few friends that work irregular hours but the other one is currently sorting out problems with her relationship in which I have tried to help her and the other one has so much work hours that I really can't hang that much with her.
I have also been suffering from insomnia recently which means that I don't really have much will and strength to exercise, or do anything major. So my recent days have been pretty much only trying to sleep, eating and then playing video games with 3 FPers on evenings, which makes me pretty damn bored nowadays. I do go play hockey about once a week but it only occupies me for few hours.
And now to the other problem; my sort of ex. So I had a thing going on with this girl from march til september, but it ended because of her problems. It was about to get more serious but because of her problems with commiting she sort of pushed me off and dumped me with reason "I'm too good for her." I did made sure for her that that is not a way to treat no one, ever.
We did do agree that we can still be friends, but I've not met her since then, tho we do have talked thro facebook. Now few weeks ago she said she'd want to meet me, and I was like okay that'd be nice, but my work schedule was pretty full and she knew it. Now week ago she suddenly goes and likes 12 of my facebook updates from 2010 and 2011. I was thinking like what the fuck is happening, that is not how people usually behave.
I'd also like to meet her and we both have said that to each other, but I don't exactly know how to read her current causes. I also don't know how to behave around her once we meet, as I really do want to meet her but still have strong feelings for her, which also makes me very afraid to meet her, especially becuase I don't know what is going on in her mind.
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;42981837]Because ultimatums are too upfront.
Sure, if he's genuinely not interested, then he's not interested, and in that case it's best to know the truth. But if he isn't sure and I start being too forward and upfront, it could put him off, and I don't want that. I want to avoid burning my bridges until there really is no going back.
You know the way there's quite a big fetish out there for turning straight guys gay? This is pretty much that.[/QUOTE]
A-anyone?
[QUOTE=JgcxCub;43000316]A-anyone?[/QUOTE]
if he's not sure then wouldn't he just say he's not sure?
as rhenae already said it's not an ultimatum, it's just asking for a clear answer.
[quote]You know the way there's quite a big fetish out there for turning straight guys gay? This is pretty much that.[/quote]
what makes you think this is acceptable behavior? this is the same thing as, say, a straight person telling a lesbian "you just haven't met the right guy".
Never read such tripe in my life, the fuck are you eating horse shit on toast
Girl I like is dropping out of uni, great
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;43002549]if he's not sure then wouldn't he just say he's not sure?
as rhenae already said it's not an ultimatum, it's just asking for a clear answer.[/QUOTE]
Alright, I'll try that.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;43002549]what makes you think this is acceptable behavior? this is the same thing as, say, a straight person telling a lesbian "you just haven't met the right guy".[/QUOTE]
...Sorry, I'm not sure I understand.
Im fucking scared and dissappointed of everything
[editline]28th November 2013[/editline]
althought dissapointed is not the right word, but it's hard to describe
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