Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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Nuh uh, I haven't seen or spoken to her in almost ten years. She said some pretty awful things when she left, so I'm not exactly in a hurry to go getting reacquainted with her.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;43172741]If the timeline matches up, he's only about nine. I'm not sure he'd even understand the situation, and reaching out to a kid that young, while I'm basically a full-grown adult, just doesn't feel appropriate. It's a weird situation, and I'm not sure if [I]any[/I] time would really be appropriate, but I think I'd feel a bit better waiting until he's at least into his early teens, don't you think? I mean, on a general level, it seems a bit creepy/weird for a 22 year old stranger to be sending a message to a 9-year-old, family ties or no.
I don't want to be unpleasant to him, or even to mom, but I want to know what their life has been like, and I most certainly don't want to talk to mom about it.[/QUOTE]
That is the thing, there is no such thing as a good time to do it. But I mean, early teen kids have more than enough angst on their own :v:
One way or another too, he is going to mention it to her as well, so even if you dont like her I would probably take into account what she would think of it
Other than that I can't really provide any proper advice, its not an easy situation either way.
I'm going to just rant and vent but man
why can't people just tell me what the fuck that they want
instead of just being silent and not saying anything and you are obviously have signs of discontent
stop saying you want to be friends and then when i try to be friends you just act annoyed, because fuck i am done seriously, wanting to go and grab something to eat is something i fucking do with friends, wanting to talk about how the day has been is something i do with fucking friends
My feelings for her were finished but she kept thinking that any friendliness was a sign of affection, yeah fucking friendly affection, even shooting the breeze or looking in her general direction was a sign of affection to her, like fuck seriously, I have no feelings for her and now they're slowly become feelings of strong dislike and annoyance. She says she has no more feelings for me either but why is she fucking looking for something when there is clearly nothing there.
and then accusing me of assuming things, of course i'm fucking assuming things because she won't tell me anything except for her postures, i know she's fucking discontented because we had a thing together for the past 3 months and she told me she'd always be honest with me and she kept saying that she is a straight forward person she'd tell me if something was wrong
obviously she isn't and have held in her annoyances until now, why can't she just tell me fucking sooner so i don't waste my time trying to be friends because this isn't what friends do, if she wanted some time she should have just told me fucking sooner
ASDFLHLKJOQWP people make me so mad not even going to try to repair the friendship we started out with that's done too
sick of people lying about who they are because they want to appear to be a good person
a good person works out their problems and is almost always honest about their feelings
we're not in highschool anymore either but she's being so immature, she says she's heartless but all she is is annoying
Going through some rough times lately. I became really good friends with this girl from China. Really pretty girl too, straight As and one of the kindest people I've met. We started getting really close and I started inviting her over to study. There was a week break from school. I figured I ought to ask her out, but I decided it could wait until afterwards. Everything fell apart for no reason. She claims she's too busy to study with me. I hardly even see her anymore. The same exact thing happened to me exactly a year ago (ironically with a girl from Mongolia).
This was a month ago. I desperately want a girlfriend, but I don't even know where to start.
[editline]14th December 2013[/editline]
I'm mostly disappointed in myself. I've been looking for two years now, and I honestly thought I could do better.
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;43177995]I'm going to just rant and vent but man
why can't people just tell me what the fuck that they want
instead of just being silent and not saying anything and you are obviously have signs of discontent
stop saying you want to be friends and then when i try to be friends you just act annoyed, because fuck i am done seriously, wanting to go and grab something to eat is something i fucking do with friends, wanting to talk about how the day has been is something i do with fucking friends
My feelings for her were finished but she kept thinking that any friendliness was a sign of affection, yeah fucking friendly affection, even shooting the breeze or looking in her general direction was a sign of affection to her, like fuck seriously, I have no feelings for her and now they're slowly become feelings of strong dislike and annoyance. She says she has no more feelings for me either but why is she fucking looking for something when there is clearly nothing there.
and then accusing me of assuming things, of course i'm fucking assuming things because she won't tell me anything except for her postures, i know she's fucking discontented because we had a thing together for the past 3 months and she told me she'd always be honest with me and she kept saying that she is a straight forward person she'd tell me if something was wrong
obviously she isn't and have held in her annoyances until now, why can't she just tell me fucking sooner so i don't waste my time trying to be friends because this isn't what friends do, if she wanted some time she should have just told me fucking sooner
ASDFLHLKJOQWP people make me so mad not even going to try to repair the friendship we started out with that's done too
sick of people lying about who they are because they want to appear to be a good person
a good person works out their problems and is almost always honest about their feelings
we're not in highschool anymore either but she's being so immature, she says she's heartless but all she is is annoying[/QUOTE]
Almost this exact thing happened to me somewhat recently. I told her how I felt, and she said "I think we shouldn't spend as much time with eachother so you don't get too attached"
I agreed, but I said "You better not fucking use this as an excuse to not hang out with me anymore because you don't think we can't be 'just friends' because I'm not some weird clingy motherfucker that can't handle it"
Only reason I said it is because I knew it was exactly what was going to happen... and it did. The only reason she ever contacted me after was for a favor. It was like "I miss you... and I've been meaning to talk to you but I have an essay for English due, wanna help me with it and catch up?"
I fucking hate people that can't just articulate themselves honestly. Just tell me if you want me in your life or not, don't think you're making it easier by being subtle.
Here I come for advice again..
Found a new girl
Fell inlove with new girl
New girl has boyfriend.
Boyfriend cheated.
Shes coming to stay the night next weekend..
We both have a mutual interest...
I just have no Idea why she won't leave this cock goblin..
Friend of mine is inviting me to a christmas dinner except she's not the host. She's good friends with the host and I used to be good friends with her when we were like god damned 6 but she has no memories of me left.
I feel like I'm intruding because the host didn't invite me, so I told her but she wants me to come anyway, what do.
Names before you read this.
Cassidy : Girl I liked and was very good friends with. (sophomore last year, junior this year.)
Josh: Clopper who gets with her. (freshman then this year he's a sophomore.)
I'm a sophomore this year.
The setting is last year, I'm introduced to an absolutely amazing group of people that other's would call insane. That's fine, I'm insane somewhat. And this isn't traditional let's lock them up insane. So I get to know these people and enjoy their company.
About 1/8 of the way through the year I met a guy I thought I should bring into the fold. It was a massive mistake, because he ended up doing a lot of shit to fuck me over. He was a brony, everyone knew that. Some people in the group watched MLP, so I didn't really care. Except me and my friend Cassidy are really against it. I really liked Cassidy from the goddammned start, but I was too much of a bitch to make a move. So, life moves on. Josh (Kid I introduced.) starts kissing up to Cassidy. Everyone knows he's a massive brony and wacked it to some seriously fucked up shit.
Everything changed when she started dating that one brony.
Now, our hatred for that shit was very strong. And, our first ever fight was over her dating him.
See, she thinks it's all behind him. But, that was our first fight. I got on the phone with her as usual, and she knows when I get angry, I get pissed.
When I heard she had been dating him without telling me, I was pissed. It was a betrayal of trust.
I was sitting in the garage smoking as I heard the news. I threw down the cigarette, still on the fun and hit a metal door as hard I could. All while being rather pissed over the phone.
I ended up calming a bit after that, but she wanted nothing to do with me then.
So, last month of summer. I would meet my girlfriend in a few days and Josh lies horrendously about me. Basically saying I caused a car crash and stole shit from Walmart. This got me pissed because Cassidy was pissed at me for his lies. I resolved it quite easily, because apparently he's terrible at constructing a decent lie.Basically he fucked me over with a really great friend. We might hang after she's done with all the band stuff. Which is in about five days. So I got that going. I'm no longer interested in her because I have my own girlfriend.
But she's not the GF I honestly know anymore. It's this one girl that I talked about earlier in the thread. It's haunting me on the inside, not every thought but it comes around. I think about her, and how cuddly she's getting with the guy I absolutely hate. I've put aside anger, but not hate. I suppose you are all wondering why this girl means so much to me? Because she was one of the reasons I didn't commit suicide. She helped me through the shitty times that were freshman year, not work wise but emotionally.
I literally had the thoughts sink into my dreams about simply owning a cottage with her on the edge of civilization, just enjoying life. Not even sex, just having a fun life like going on bike rides and talking to her..
Woah there, that's one tall fucking pedestal you've got for her there.
And that's because without this girl, I'd probably be laying in a coffin. But yeah it is tall.
This shit rages in my mind, it doesn't go away. I'm not openly like this.
Even if she saved your life, putting people on pedestals like that is just a huge mistake. There's over 7 billion people on Earth, she's not unique. Trust me, there's girls out here, just like her or even better than her who are actually worth your time.
[QUOTE=zarim;43184390]Names before you read this.
Cassidy : Girl I liked and was very good friends with. (sophomore last year, junior this year.)
Josh: Clopper who gets with her. (freshman then this year he's a sophomore.)
I'm a sophomore this year.
The setting is last year, I'm introduced to an absolutely amazing group of people that other's would call insane. That's fine, I'm insane somewhat. And this isn't traditional let's lock them up insane. So I get to know these people and enjoy their company.
About 1/8 of the way through the year I met a guy I thought I should bring into the fold. It was a massive mistake, because he ended up doing a lot of shit to fuck me over. He was a brony, everyone knew that. Some people in the group watched MLP, so I didn't really care. Except me and my friend Cassidy are really against it. I really liked Cassidy from the goddammned start, but I was too much of a bitch to make a move. So, life moves on. Josh (Kid I introduced.) starts kissing up to Cassidy. Everyone knows he's a massive brony and wacked it to some seriously fucked up shit.
Everything changed when she started dating that one brony.
Now, our hatred for that shit was very strong. And, our first ever fight was over her dating him.
See, she thinks it's all behind him. But, that was our first fight. I got on the phone with her as usual, and she knows when I get angry, I get pissed.
When I heard she had been dating him without telling me, I was pissed. It was a betrayal of trust.
I was sitting in the garage smoking as I heard the news. I threw down the cigarette, still on the fun and hit a metal door as hard I could. All while being rather pissed over the phone.
I ended up calming a bit after that, but she wanted nothing to do with me then.
So, last month of summer. I would meet my girlfriend in a few days and Josh lies horrendously about me. Basically saying I caused a car crash and stole shit from Walmart. This got me pissed because Cassidy was pissed at me for his lies. I resolved it quite easily, because apparently he's terrible at constructing a decent lie.Basically he fucked me over with a really great friend. We might hang after she's done with all the band stuff. Which is in about five days. So I got that going. I'm no longer interested in her because I have my own girlfriend.
But she's not the GF I honestly know anymore. It's this one girl that I talked about earlier in the thread. It's haunting me on the inside, not every thought but it comes around. I think about her, and how cuddly she's getting with the guy I absolutely hate. I've put aside anger, but not hate. I suppose you are all wondering why this girl means so much to me? Because she was one of the reasons I didn't commit suicide. She helped me through the shitty times that were freshman year, not work wise but emotionally.
I literally had the thoughts sink into my dreams about simply owning a cottage with her on the edge of civilization, just enjoying life. Not even sex, just having a fun life like going on bike rides and talking to her..[/QUOTE]
You sound bitter because this guy asked the girl you like out first.
And why does this girl have to keep you informed at all times about who shes dating, in what way is that a breach of trust. Grow up.
Shes with someone you don't like because hes [b]SHOCKED GASP[/b]a brony[b]SHOCKED GASP[/b] and you need to get over that, you had your chance to ask her out and you didn't.
Ah, well screw it.
Long time since I've been here.
My now ex-girlfriend broke up with me over 6 months ago. I'm no longer madly in love with her like I used to be, and most of the time I feel like I'm completely over her. We still talk sometimes. However, when she tells me about seeing her new boyfriend, I literally go into complete cold-sweat inner-rage mode. I actually get temporary tinnitus, it's happened several times now and I never get it otherwise.
What the fuck is up with that?
[editline]15th December 2013[/editline]
Actually, I think I know why. She always used to talk about how amazing she thought I was, but I felt I was always still last priority. I always came last, after school and after all of her friends. For this guy however, she fucking puts off writing a really important assignment just to hang out with him. And he's just some random fuck who's been practically stalking her for the better part of two years. It's also a bit of a case of "what does he have that I don't?" because in my view, he's just so fucking bland and boring.
damn.
[QUOTE=blehblehbleh;43184989]Long time since I've been here.
My now ex-girlfriend broke up with me over 6 months ago. I'm no longer madly in love with her like I used to be, and most of the time I feel like I'm completely over her. We still talk sometimes. However, when she tells me about seeing her new boyfriend, I literally go into complete cold-sweat inner-rage mode. I actually get temporary tinnitus, it's happened several times now and I never get it otherwise.
What the fuck is up with that?
[editline]15th December 2013[/editline]
Actually, I think I know why. She always used to talk about how amazing she thought I was, but I felt I was always still last priority. I always came last, after school and after all of her friends. For this guy however, she fucking puts off writing a really important assignment just to hang out with him. And he's just some random fuck who's been practically stalking her for the better part of two years. It's also a bit of a case of "what does he have that I don't?" because in my view, he's just so fucking bland and boring.
damn.[/QUOTE]
It's human dude. Don't try to blame yourself too much for it, its okay to be upset - she shouldn't be talking about that shit with you in the first place. Really insensitive.
[QUOTE=zarim;43184390]Names before you read this.
Cassidy : Girl I liked and was very good friends with. (sophomore last year, junior this year.)
Josh: Clopper who gets with her. (freshman then this year he's a sophomore.)
I'm a sophomore this year.
The setting is last year, I'm introduced to an absolutely amazing group of people that other's would call insane. That's fine, I'm insane somewhat. And this isn't traditional let's lock them up insane. So I get to know these people and enjoy their company.
About 1/8 of the way through the year I met a guy I thought I should bring into the fold. It was a massive mistake, because he ended up doing a lot of shit to fuck me over. He was a brony, everyone knew that. Some people in the group watched MLP, so I didn't really care. Except me and my friend Cassidy are really against it. I really liked Cassidy from the goddammned start, but I was too much of a bitch to make a move. So, life moves on. Josh (Kid I introduced.) starts kissing up to Cassidy. Everyone knows he's a massive brony and wacked it to some seriously fucked up shit.
Everything changed when she started dating that one brony.
Now, our hatred for that shit was very strong. And, our first ever fight was over her dating him.
See, she thinks it's all behind him. But, that was our first fight. I got on the phone with her as usual, and she knows when I get angry, I get pissed.
When I heard she had been dating him without telling me, I was pissed. It was a betrayal of trust.
I was sitting in the garage smoking as I heard the news. I threw down the cigarette, still on the fun and hit a metal door as hard I could. All while being rather pissed over the phone.
I ended up calming a bit after that, but she wanted nothing to do with me then.
So, last month of summer. I would meet my girlfriend in a few days and Josh lies horrendously about me. Basically saying I caused a car crash and stole shit from Walmart. This got me pissed because Cassidy was pissed at me for his lies. I resolved it quite easily, because apparently he's terrible at constructing a decent lie.Basically he fucked me over with a really great friend. We might hang after she's done with all the band stuff. Which is in about five days. So I got that going. I'm no longer interested in her because I have my own girlfriend.
But she's not the GF I honestly know anymore. It's this one girl that I talked about earlier in the thread. It's haunting me on the inside, not every thought but it comes around. I think about her, and how cuddly she's getting with the guy I absolutely hate. I've put aside anger, but not hate. I suppose you are all wondering why this girl means so much to me? Because she was one of the reasons I didn't commit suicide. She helped me through the shitty times that were freshman year, not work wise but emotionally.
I literally had the thoughts sink into my dreams about simply owning a cottage with her on the edge of civilization, just enjoying life. Not even sex, just having a fun life like going on bike rides and talking to her..[/QUOTE]
Sounds like you're mad at her because she's dating a guy who watches MLP and you didn't hit it hard enough
get over yourself mate lol
[QUOTE=S33T;43178766]Here I come for advice again..
Found a new girl
Fell inlove with new girl
New girl has boyfriend.
Boyfriend cheated.
Shes coming to stay the night next weekend..
We both have a mutual interest...
I just have no Idea why she won't leave this cock goblin..[/QUOTE]
You're in way over your head sounds like - you're interested in her and you know that but I really don't think you have any way of knowing that she's legitimately interested in you in the same way as her boyfriend just treated her so tread carefully
Now she's going to write a poem about me?
This is cliché as fuck, but I will never understand girls.
man. i actually feel like kind of a dick right now.
so a few nights ago, my girlfriend broke up with me. she said she was way too stressed because of work (she has two jobs) and school (it was finals week and she's always been an overachiever, busting her ass to pass her classes with flying colors) and had trouble finding time to spend with me. on top of that, her parents are strict when it comes to her dating. she said she didn't want the stress of having a boyfriend on top of all of that. i said okay, and didn't really argue. i told her i only wanted what she wanted.
however, two days later i made the mistake of texting her cause i felt like we gave up too easily. we kinda discussed both our sides, and i told her that i was perfectly fine not being able to see her and that i didn't feel like we should break up over something that i didn't care about. she still declined, which made me kind of upset.
it just now hit me how selfish i've been acting about it. the whole time i've been thinking about me, and not her. [I]i'm[/I] okay with not being able to see her, so that somehow made it okay for both of us. but i never really thought about how she felt about not being able to see me until now.
i'm kinda upset at myself for thinking in such a selfish way because i've been trying to convince myself that she's been wrong this whole time, and that she was being unrealistic when i was the one being self-centered. i'm not even that bothered honestly that she broke up with me at this point, i feel like if it's what makes her happy then it's what she should do. we got along and never really had arguments but my personality didn't really compliment hers all that well, she was way too bubbly and affectionate, and i'm too idgaf-ish and i don't show my emotions very well. i feel like she'd work better in a relationship that was more balanced, cause she did most of the lovey dovey stuff and i feel like that was unfair. i'm upset still, obviously, but the last thing i want is for her to be stuck in a relationship where she didn't get back what she put in.
oh well. time to enjoy the single life before next semester starts
I asked this before but it got kind of looked over
So there's this girl I'm pining over yadda yadda yadda you know the usual
Anyway, instead of sitting around on my ass, I asked her out to a movie, and holy shit she went for it
She brings her shitty ass friend along
okay
Try again couple weeks later
She says yes again I'm doin' it
her shitty ass friend comes along
Ask her out for coffee
We talk
She tells me she likes me, she definitely thinks I'm pretty great, etc etc
She tells me while she really does like me her parents would hate me (They're super traditional asian parents, I'm a blonde slacker kinda piece of shit) she tells me she's not really ready for relationships
(Asked around, apparently she's actually never had a boyfriend)
What do I do here? Do I just sort of swallow my pride and accept the loss that this one's not going to work out?
Nobody said you had to meet her parents or anything. It doesnt hurt to try, you have nothing to lose
[QUOTE=D3TBS;43191584]Nobody said you had to meet her parents or anything. It doesnt hurt to try, you have nothing to lose[/QUOTE]
I guess not? Secret dating. How cliche.
I don't know. She tells me she really does like me but she just doesn't know about relationships at all. Never been in one, worried, etc
well either you want it or you don't. If youre so worried that its cliche then you can go masturbate alone. Thats totally not cliche
Just had a bit of a Catharsis today and I feel much better.
Don't repress ANYTHING folks, when you make yourself vulnerable is also the time you shine the most, if you want to cry and scream, cry and scream. If you want to smile and laugh, smile and laugh. Tell the people you care about that you love them. Do what you want without regret.
Let everything come out.
Went to a party last night and this girl was pretty fond of me. We were making out and stuff, and she was going to come home with me.
I found out the next day she was only 16. Dodged a bullet there for sure.
A couple years ago, I had a huge high-school crush on a girl my age, who was also the sister of one of my best friends. I was a lot more socially inept then, and didn't ask her out for years (and when I did, she said that she'd think about it, and then proceeded to never give an answer - we're equally at fault though, I didn't press on it for months). As well as this, I took a lot she said and did as hints that she liked me back, and got myself all worked up. Come prom and I finally asked her to it and she agreed.
When we got to the prom itself, we discovered that there had been a mix-up on some of the table arrangements and that she was on two tables simultaneously. She coldly (at the time, anyway) wanted to go sit with her friends and leave me at another table, and this killed me. The night was effectively ruined for me, and looking back, I not-so-proudly sulked for the evening.
Whatever we really had ended after that. A female friend of hers (who's important later, we'll call her Blondie because I just watched The Good, the Bad and the Ugly [sp]Disclaimer: she looks nothing like Clint[/sp]) told me later that the prom girl did actually have feelings for me in her own way, but at the same time, she wanted to keep me as an 'option, just in case'. Things were weird between us for a while, but I got over it. [I]Little piece of advice[/I] - don't hold grudges. They take so much effort and it's just better to get over things, and forgive people. It'll honestly make things for you a lot happier.
Anyway, a couple months after this first girl and I fell out, I started to develop feelings for Blondie. She hung out with us, watched Firefly and was generally 'one of the guys' (albeit one with a d-cup). I used to talk to her a lot on Steam, and just shoot the shit. Now, around the same time, I also started to like another girl, who we may as well call S.
S seemed a lot more into me, and we'd often hug and hang out together. I felt like I was conflicted, but this ended when Blondie started dating another of my best friends. I was a bit disappointed at the time, but ultimately relieved. After that, we ended up talking less on Steam, and I got S into it. In the next few months, S and I grew closer, and I finally asked her out. She was so happy, and we hugged and it was all so nice. I've been going out with her for about a year and a half now, and we both still love each other just as much. It's been the happiest time of my life.
Now, just the other night, I and Blondie (who by now has broken up with my friend, and been single for a while) were talking tipsily at a party, the way you do. I think most of us can attest to the fact that alcohol makes a whole lot more honest and she told me that after I asked S out, she started to get a bit jealous that I didn't talk as much on Steam to her, and felt some things that she probably shouldn't have, considering she was already in a relationship.
I told her about my once-crush on her, and she smiled and giggled, and said she was happy to have known.
I tell you this because I think that after I moved on from prom girl, I instinctively began to ignore any romantic hints that might have gone my way. Even for S, whose actions now seem obvious, I thought that she might just be acting this way as a friend, and wouldn't want to get into a relationship. Don't make my mistake - just because one girl is a manipulative harpy doesn't mean you can't look at other girls and take what they say and do as hopeful signs. It was surprising to learn what I did, but happy too.
ooooooh i hope my interview went well :|
There's this girl that I've known my entire life. She means a lot to me because of her efforts to help me during the early days of my depression. For six or so years now I've felt very strongly for her but she isn't interested in me in the same way. Lately our friendship has kind of fallen to shambles. She's going to move away in two months; what should I do? Should I just try my best to get over her so when she's gone it won't be as bad or try my best to make these last two months mean something? And if I should try to get over her, where do I even begin?
[editline]18th December 2013[/editline]
Extremely simplified our relationship because I don't feel like writing a damn book
[QUOTE=DudeGuyKT;43220773]There's this girl that I've known my entire life. She means a lot to me because of her efforts to help me during the early days of my depression. For six or so years now I've felt very strongly for her but she isn't interested in me in the same way. Lately our friendship has kind of fallen to shambles. She's going to move away in two months; what should I do? Should I just try my best to get over her so when she's gone it won't be as bad or try my best to make these last two months mean something? And if I should try to get over her, where do I even begin?
[editline]18th December 2013[/editline]
Extremely simplified our relationship because I don't feel like writing a damn book[/QUOTE]
If it's been six years and she's not reciprocating those feelings, I'd move on, especially if you can't manage to get over that.
I kinda don't have a problem right now I just feel like talking about my current situation (I may not even post this)
So I'm a freshman in college, and I'm (once again) between 2 girls, and I'll eventually have to make a decision on this, but I think things will work themselves out to make the choice obvious before its an issue. I'm doing this in a list format because every time I type this shit up I always have to retype everything because the formatting is awful.
Girl 1: 'M'
-Same age as me, different university, but she's transferring to my university next year for reasons other than me
-I crushed on her for most of high school, but between junior and senior year I effectively changed as a person, and she started crushing on my attractive confidence
-Big Republican Christian family. Hunting, Obama is muslim-atheist from Kenya, the works. I avoid politics so I think this is workable. However I do lean very left so that could be an issue. Oddly enough, her parents know I'm atheist and still want her to date me. (They knew she liked me, and I showed her around my university campus, and then told her later that I was great). Immediately her parents said we should date, she texted me and wanted me to consider it. I was taken at the time, and wasn't sure what my answer would be if I wasn't taken
-Fundamentalist Christian: I'm not one to care about religion so I think this is just here to illustrate our differences. She knows I'm atheist so I doubt there would be any conflicts directly from it in the short term.
-[B]Big anxiety with relationships, she's so afraid of how to act in them or what to do that the last time we tried a relationship we didn't do anything for the entire month [/B](however, she did have a job and high school at the same time, so she was always tired.)
-[I]I know she really likes me[/I]
-Lives 10 minutes away
-She's a pretty big gamer, and I've been reducing my gaming recently because of school. But I still play a bit.
[B]-She trusts me more than anybody she knows[/B]
Girl 2: 'D'
-Year younger, going to my university next year for pharmacy (an extremely demanding major at my school)
-Met her through my college roommate skyping her, and me yelling "You wanna see my dick!?" in the background. She thought I was cute. (I posted about this back in September or October)
-We started the relationship as a physical one, then started realizing we wanted a full relationship. We dated for the next few months up until last week.
-We have very similar beliefs on politics, mindsets, etc. She moved to America from Iran when she was in 3rd grade, so she's very internationally oriented.
-We would hang out whenever I was back in town, because she lives 20 minutes away from my house.
-We have a great physical attraction to each other, but not as great of an emotional connection. We've been trying to work on it.
-I'm afraid that we just aren't the right types for each other. I'm a computer science major who could talk about technology and games and such for hours, while she's an Ugg&starbucks rich girl type who (while getting awesome grades) doesn't have too many conversation topics with me.
-[I]I know she really likes me[/I]
-Over the past few weeks we'd both noticed that the relationship wasn't really moving anywhere due to the distance. We mutually decided to end it while in a skype call together. However, it isn't a clean break and we still like each other, we just know the relationship isn't working with so many miles between us. Labeled "It's complicated" on Facebook, in simplest terms
Girl 3: 'Q'
-I'm kidding, there isn't a Q. It's just here to make me seem more popular with the ladies
So when I broke up with D, I naturally told my friend group, of which M is a part of. M immediately private messages me and nervously asks me to reconsider dating her. I tell her yes, and fill her in on the implications of it (it has to be pretty secret, I don't want to go behind D's back, but I'm not counting on both this new relationship with M lasting, and my hiatus relationship with D). I feel like a bad person for doing this, but we are technically broken up, and [B]I feel like M specifically needs me in a relationship in order to get rid of her relationship anxiety, because of her trust issues[/B]. While I am moving from a Long Distance Relationship to another Long Distance Relationship, I feel like our relationship is more robust and can sustain itself better than with D, due to the emotional connection. D would likely not approve of the dating, so I'd really like to avoid telling her, as awful as that sounds. I really like them both in different ways, so I'm just really in an interesting situation, but I *think* I'm doing what's best for both parties, assuming either one ends by may.
I'm just afraid of what could happen if I fuck something up.
I bolded my only real dilemma. I guess I'm not asking for advice on the rest, but I'll definitely read whatever you have to say about it
As a sidenote, M writes Mass Effect Turian roleplay porn. She doesn't know that I know about this. However, she is open about her Garrus fetish. This doesn't really help anything, it's just a funfact
[QUOTE=DudeGuyKT;43220773]There's this girl that I've known my entire life. She means a lot to me because of her efforts to help me during the early days of my depression. For six or so years now I've felt very strongly for her but she isn't interested in me in the same way. Lately our friendship has kind of fallen to shambles. She's going to move away in two months; what should I do? Should I just try my best to get over her so when she's gone it won't be as bad or try my best to make these last two months mean something? And if I should try to get over her, where do I even begin?
[editline]18th December 2013[/editline]
Extremely simplified our relationship because I don't feel like writing a damn book[/QUOTE]
You've stuck around too long already. Walk away, don't look back.
[editline]18th December 2013[/editline]
[QUOTE=ManningQB18;43221366]I kinda don't have a problem right now I just feel like talking about my current situation (I may not even post this)
So I'm a freshman in college, and I'm (once again) between 2 girls, and I'll eventually have to make a decision on this, but I think things will work themselves out to make the choice obvious before its an issue. I'm doing this in a list format because every time I type this shit up I always have to retype everything because the formatting is awful.
Girl 1: 'M'
-Same age as me, different university, but she's transferring to my university next year for reasons other than me
-I crushed on her for most of high school, but between junior and senior year I effectively changed as a person, and she started crushing on my attractive confidence
-Big Republican Christian family. Hunting, Obama is muslim-atheist from Kenya, the works. I avoid politics so I think this is workable. However I do lean very left so that could be an issue. Oddly enough, her parents know I'm atheist and still want her to date me. (They knew she liked me, and I showed her around my university campus, and then told her later that I was great). Immediately her parents said we should date, she texted me and wanted me to consider it. I was taken at the time, and wasn't sure what my answer would be if I wasn't taken
-Fundamentalist Christian: I'm not one to care about religion so I think this is just here to illustrate our differences. She knows I'm atheist so I doubt there would be any conflicts directly from it in the short term.
-[B]Big anxiety with relationships, she's so afraid of how to act in them or what to do that the last time we tried a relationship we didn't do anything for the entire month [/B](however, she did have a job and high school at the same time, so she was always tired.)
-[I]I know she really likes me[/I]
-Lives 10 minutes away
-She's a pretty big gamer, and I've been reducing my gaming recently because of school. But I still play a bit.
[B]-She trusts me more than anybody she knows[/B]
Girl 2: 'D'
-Year younger, going to my university next year for pharmacy (an extremely demanding major at my school)
-Met her through my college roommate skyping her, and me yelling "You wanna see my dick!?" in the background. She thought I was cute. (I posted about this back in September or October)
-We started the relationship as a physical one, then started realizing we wanted a full relationship. We dated for the next few months up until last week.
-We have very similar beliefs on politics, mindsets, etc. She moved to America from Iran when she was in 3rd grade, so she's very internationally oriented.
-We would hang out whenever I was back in town, because she lives 20 minutes away from my house.
-We have a great physical attraction to each other, but not as great of an emotional connection. We've been trying to work on it.
-I'm afraid that we just aren't the right types for each other. I'm a computer science major who could talk about technology and games and such for hours, while she's an Ugg&starbucks rich girl type who (while getting awesome grades) doesn't have too many conversation topics with me.
-[I]I know she really likes me[/I]
-Over the past few weeks we'd both noticed that the relationship wasn't really moving anywhere due to the distance. We mutually decided to end it while in a skype call together. However, it isn't a clean break and we still like each other, we just know the relationship isn't working with so many miles between us. Labeled "It's complicated" on Facebook, in simplest terms
Girl 3: 'Q'
-I'm kidding, there isn't a Q. It's just here to make me seem more popular with the ladies
So when I broke up with D, I naturally told my friend group, of which M is a part of. M immediately private messages me and nervously asks me to reconsider dating her. I tell her yes, and fill her in on the implications of it (it has to be pretty secret, I don't want to go behind D's back, but I'm not counting on both this new relationship with M lasting, and my hiatus relationship with D). I feel like a bad person for doing this, but we are technically broken up, and [B]I feel like M specifically needs me in a relationship in order to get rid of her relationship anxiety, because of her trust issues[/B]. While I am moving from a Long Distance Relationship to another Long Distance Relationship, I feel like our relationship is more robust and can sustain itself better than with D, due to the emotional connection. D would likely not approve of the dating, so I'd really like to avoid telling her, as awful as that sounds. I really like them both in different ways, so I'm just really in an interesting situation, but I *think* I'm doing what's best for both parties, assuming either one ends by may.
I'm just afraid of what could happen if I fuck something up.
I bolded my only real dilemma. I guess I'm not asking for advice on the rest, but I'll definitely read whatever you have to say about it
As a sidenote, M writes Mass Effect Turian roleplay porn. She doesn't know that I know about this. However, she is open about her Garrus fetish. This doesn't really help anything, it's just a funfact[/QUOTE]
Friend zone M and friends w/ benefits D. Unless you want a relationship built around calibrating some chick's emotions, that is.
[QUOTE=Agoat;43221710]You've stuck around too long already. Walk away, don't look back.
[editline]18th December 2013[/editline]
Friend zone M and friends w/ benefits D. Unless you want a relationship built around calibrating some chick's emotions, that is.[/QUOTE]
That was sort of the original situation, but I think I explained incorrectly. I agreed to the relationship not just because I know she's in a precarious emotional position, but because I do have legitimate feelings for her. I think I'd rather be in a full relationship with her than a half relationship with both. My biggest concern is having to choose if neither of them warrant a breakup in the next 6 months. My friend group at home (containing M) is completely separate from D's, so secrecy shouldn't be an issue unless either M or I fuck up [I][B]hard[/B][/I]. M knows the situation decently well, so that shouldn't be an issue.
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