Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[RobbL]

Meeting girls in nightclubs doesn't tend to lead to much other than ONSs anyway, at least in my experience
I'm only a member of two societies atm and I'm not really attracted to any of the girls in them and my course is 100% male which is lame
Going to join more societies and get more involved in general stuff when I go back to uni after christmas though If I can stop being my usual lazy unmotivated self

[bradhl]

Posted this is the Sex, Girlfriends and shit thread. Thought i'd put it here too.

In a bit of an odd situation. We had a Christmas party for the office last week, everyone was off their face and i had this hot asian chick flirting with me all night. Anyways eventually the party finishes and my boss drives me home, i pass out the moment i get into bed and when i wake up in the morning i have two missed calls from her and multiple texts like "lol drunk! need some help!" and "u wanna come to my plc tonite?" if i wasn't allready home and asleep i would've gone with her :L stupid cockblocking boss. But the main issue is she doesn't realise that she's nearly 10 years older then me. I'm 17 and she's 26. The general consensus among both my father and my friends is i should go for it and either not tell her my real age until after or not tell her at all. What should i do? also 16 is the age of consent here. My boss allready knows anyways, he was encouraging me. I should also say that she's not a part of my company. She works for one of our clients and we were just at the party cause' we share an office with them.

[Rhenae]

Not much point posting both since mostly the same peeps in both.
Anyway I would say go for it, if she doesnt realize assumably that means your maturity matches ok. But you cant keep it a secret from her, thats unfair and you really shouldnt lie to someone yoir trying to get with.

[Mr. Bleak]

A girl I met about a week ago mentioned yesterday that she's astounded that I don't have a girlfriend, and really laid it on thick. Even though she left to go back to school today, it was still a good feeling knowing that other girls see something in me.

Gives me hope n shit.

[blitzown]

Getting over an ex takes some time, think about her negatives. All the BS she put you through. Also cut ties, remove her from Facebook, twitter, her phone number etc. after that it's just time and keeping yourself busy really.

[Merv]

[QUOTE=Tennisball;43263413]hi how 2 make a girl my girlfriend ?????

[editline]21st December 2013[/editline]

Nah but really though--I've been seeing this girl for like... a week and a half? We're taking things quite fast I guess; holding hands and kissing in public and shit. Is it too early to make it 'official' or whatever?

And like... How do people normally do that without saying "w1ll u be my gurlfriend ??" and making us both feel like we're in primary school? I'm seeing her on Monday so gonna do it then if it's not too fast?[/QUOTE]

You're kissing and holding hands. Sounds to me you're already official.

[blitzown]

Anyway, have a bit of a story and advice needed. I posted here a while back about some stuff I went through. Long story short, I was a VERY neglected and abused kid for a long time, and am now an orphan. Here's the thing, I've not been to school in months. I was diagnosed with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. But I'm going back to my old school soonish. I'm really worried about my future as well as my experience I'm going to have. I'd really just like to bump heads with a group of you.

[Jo The Shmo]

see a good psychologist if you dont already

[Missing User]

Story time since this is frustrating, confusing, and kinda comical at the same time. (but mostly frustrating). It involves two girls, A and M. A and M are college roommates. I am interested in M.

About a month and a half ago now I balled up and started to talk to and hang out with M. We're from two different walks of life, but still have many things in common (morals, outlooks, ideals). She is from an extremely small town and I from a city. My city is 67x larger than her town. So we start to hang out and what not and I make a move on her to go on a date and we do so accordingly. All is going smooth and to everyone's liking. Until a curveball of
"Areolop, you wont be anything to me until A doesnt like you anymore"
"What do you mean like me"
"She kinda has a crush on you"
"Ok and?"
"I'm not going to risk our roommate friendship over a boy"

I have no interest in A. Nice gal, but not a gal for me. Now, lets make the waters a bit more murky. M's roommate, A, is my good friend's, and coworker's, neighbor. A talks about me constantly to him and thus he constantly talks to me about her talking about me.

So I break it down to A the best way possible and try to not make her cry but get the point across that im not interested. Went smoothly. Its not even awkward now. I'm still quite interested in M and she in I. We've gone as far as kissing, but nothing more because of this entire situation. M still doesnt want to go out because of the roommate thing still.

Should I just ditch it and go try the waters for another or should I wait this out and hope that something happens. M and I are still very much involved. Constant tweets, facebook posts, snapchats, texts, hanging out in the dorms, etc

I feel like I'm entering the "friendzone" (is that what its called?) where I'm becoming undatable and kept only as a friend.

I still cant believe that my coworker's neighbor (who is one of my best friends) has a crush on me and lives with the girl I want. Holy fuck small world

[Mr. Bleak]

I dunno, that seems childish in a way to me. If A can't accept the fact that you and M are mutually interested in each other, she needs to grow up. It's not like it's the end of the world if you guys end up getting together, and if she was to really mess up the roommate situation out of jealously, then that'd be super fucked up.

But, if M doesn't see this and won't change her mind, I'd look for someone else.

[Missing User]

I just found out that the girl I've been crushing over for like half a year

1. Thinks I'm hot (I knew that we were somewhat attracted mentally because we're always talking in school, facebook, etc, but not physically, at least from her)
2. Has literally the exact same "relationship" (or lack thereof) goals. (basically just FWB because we both know high school drama is bullshit and basically not worth the effort)
3. Thinks we should hang out

We just had a skype video chat that lasted six hours, and it felt like less than one.

I'm so happy right now.

[RocketRacer]

I decided to ask the-girl-I-like from school if she's free on wednesday or thursday(because it's UK so they are celebrating X-Mas tomorrow and today is a pre-xmas day, not the best option). I wonder what her reaction will be, because I am a foreign student so I know her for around 4 months and I just hope everything will go fine. I am sort of sure that it should go fine because during art lessons we both signed up for and when I speak to her during break/lunchtime she's constantly smiling and looking at me, and I guess it means something, right?...

[editline]23rd December 2013[/editline]

And since I live in London and basically in its centre, while she(and school) is around half an hour(and 2.20 pound on train, one-way) or hour and a half by bus(free because Oyster) I'll ask her if she wants to walk around 'her' area or go to centre.

Also english ain't my native(russian is), so I can't really speak as a native-speaker with her. :v:

[editline]23rd December 2013[/editline]

A question - should I be bothered by the fact that if she will not want to be closer to me or something that she might spread the word about this across all of her friends? It sounds dumb.

[darcy010]

[QUOTE=RobbL;43273215]Join some of your uni's clubs/societies?[/QUOTE]

Haha, I've had a look, and there doesn't seem to be much.
I'd definitely be interested in joining a sport team, but they're entirely male.

The others are pretty much religious or nationality clubs. Our university isn't too great with extra curricular stuff.
Thanks for the advice though! I'll keep looking out for one.

[Mr. Bleak]

So, I've been struggling pretty badly for the past few months with what I'm going to do following this year of college. It's my first year, and I had to go to the local community college because A) I couldn't afford anything more and B) I didn't really know what I wanted to major in. Now, I'm pretty set on majoring in Psychology.

Recently, an opportunity has come up for me to move to the Philippines to attend the Cebu Doctors' University there, and I'm extremely excited (and extremely scared). Does anyone here have experience moving continents away? I know I'll miss my family, but not so much my hometown itself. I'm just worried about integrating into a new culture, and being what I'm assuming is one of very few white people in an Asian country.

[Tin Can™]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;43281753]
A question - should I be bothered by the fact that if she will not want to be closer to me or something that she might spread the word about this across all of her friends? It sounds dumb.[/QUOTE]

How old are you guys? In my own experience the whole "gossip" mindset tends to wear off on schoolgirls around 20's, of course it can still happen but then they haven't really grown up in my opinion and are being a complete asshole about it

[disseminate]

[QUOTE=Mr. Bleak;43282028]Does anyone here have experience moving continents away? I know I'll miss my family, but not so much my hometown itself. I'm just worried about integrating into a new culture, and being what I'm assuming is one of very few white people in an Asian country.[/QUOTE]

I have 6 days left on my study abroad in Hong Kong from Canada, add me on steam if you have questions

[Tin Can™]

[QUOTE=Medevila;43283708]Idk I work at a Starbucks and most of the girls are 25+, they still gossip like nuts[/QUOTE]

Might just be Sweden + the awesome college I go to then where everyone act grownups with stuff like that :v:

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=VaSTinY;43282168]How old are you guys? In my own experience the whole "gossip" mindset tends to wear off on schoolgirls around 20's, of course it can still happen but then they haven't really grown up in my opinion and are being a complete asshole about it[/QUOTE]

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[QUOTE=Mr. Bleak;43282028]So, I've been struggling pretty badly for the past few months with what I'm going to do following this year of college. It's my first year, and I had to go to the local community college because A) I couldn't afford anything more and B) I didn't really know what I wanted to major in. Now, I'm pretty set on majoring in Psychology.

Recently, an opportunity has come up for me to move to the Philippines to attend the Cebu Doctors' University there, and I'm extremely excited (and extremely scared). Does anyone here have experience moving continents away? I know I'll miss my family, but not so much my hometown itself. I'm just worried about integrating into a new culture, and being what I'm assuming is one of very few white people in an Asian country.[/QUOTE]

I changed my country(from Latvia to UK) and I study in school and apparently I got really since I already know a lot of people and even a girl (might) have an interest in me, so do I have interest in her.

[Uncle Fassbender]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;43283924]I changed my country(from Latvia to UK) and I study in school and apparently [B]I got really since [/B]I already know a lot of people and even a girl (might) have an interest in me, so do I have interest in her.[/QUOTE]
Maybe I'm not reading properly, but you got really what?

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=VaSTinY;43282168]How old are you guys? In my own experience the whole "gossip" mindset tends to wear off on schoolgirls around 20's, of course it can still happen but then they haven't really grown up in my opinion and are being a complete asshole about it[/QUOTE]

I think it depends more on your experience with relationships than your age, once you're in a secure relationship there isn't much point in telling all your friends about every little detail.

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;43284927]Maybe I'm not reading properly, but you got really what?[/QUOTE]

oh my God I'm laughing at that mistake. How did that even..

I meant to say 'I got really lucky' :v:

[Leader of Me]

My feelings are all over the place at the moment, it's like I'm constantly liking people and then not liking them and then liking someone else and then not liking them and then for some odd reason I start liking someone else and then not surprisingly I end up not liking them.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Leader of Me;43291421]My feelings are all over the place at the moment, it's like I'm constantly liking people and then not liking them and then liking someone else and then not liking them and then for some odd reason I start liking someone else and then not surprisingly I end up not liking them.[/QUOTE]

It's not really a bad thing to be honest, your feelings will calm after a while.

[GreenPepper]

[QUOTE=Leader of Me;43291421]My feelings are all over the place at the moment, it's like I'm constantly liking people and then not liking them and then liking someone else and then not liking them and then for some odd reason I start liking someone else and then not surprisingly I end up not liking them.[/QUOTE]

It is alright, we all accidently misplace our daily dose of Prozium once and a while. I am sure they can supply you with a replacement.

[Leader of Me]

Cheers for the replies guys. I am pretty sure I have feelings for this girl who I met, we are very similar and we both suffer from OCD, anxiety and have the same phobias. Unfortunately, she has had a thing with someone for about two weeks so my chances are pretty low. She says that the guy though doesn't sound interested and she's been warned by a few of her friends that he is a bad person, she's been telling me and showing me conversations between him and her and I haven't said anything and I don't want to jeopardize what she has with this person out of jealousy because that's a really dick move.

[chinatown]

no its not. if you get her it means youre better at this. This isn't "Oh Ill wait for my turn sir.. no no go ahead, its fine"

[Inspector Jones]

So, what do you guys think?

For Christmas, that girl I mentioned I had a crush on (and Facepunch saved me from turning in an embarrassing and potentially dangerous confession letter), I decided to get her a gift for Christmas (She won't be back until after the holidays sadly). She really loves the Chicago Bulls and likes Music, so I got her these as a present.

[IMG]http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/41F9zr9cDHL.jpg[/IMG]

[url=http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B008FKX34M/ref=oh_details_o02_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1]Amazon Link[/url]

I asked one of my coworkers what I should her, and she suggested just like a gift card to her favorite restaurant or a prepaid Visa, but I personally don't like gifting anyone just a gift card (Always seemed lazy to me). That said, I feel like I'm taking a gamble on the headphones (I could see her either really liking them or not really caring for them).

So, advice time, should I return the headphones if able and get a gift card? Should I gift the head phones? Either way, I'll also get a card to go with it.

[chinatown]

unless youre giving everybody else something as well, youre really putting her on a pedestal

[Inspector Jones]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43296238]unless youre giving everybody else something as well, youre really putting her on a pedestal[/QUOTE]

I am, actually. I got one of my coworkers a big box of nerd ropes (surprisingly not as cheap as I'd thought). One of my friend's Xbox 360 broke, so I'm trying to convince one my brothers to sell me their old one for cheap (They're not being used; we have two 360's just sitting in the closet). The other guy, I honestly have no idea what I'd get him (He's like a laid back sort of dude, seems to be into music). So of my four co-worker/friends, I have 2/4 covered, and possibly three of them if I can score the Xbox.

I wouldn't get only her a gift. I do have some subtlety.

Edit

[QUOTE=Medevila;43296264]
I think earbuds are a nice enough idea though, nothing massive, nothing pathetically small[/QUOTE]

That's what I was thinking. It didn't seem like it was too crazy of a gift, and no other options really sprung forward.

[chinatown]

yeah I didnt want you to just give something only to her, that'd be pretty bad. But good that youre giving something to everybody, thats nice of you