• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Yahnich;43324647]is year 12 senior year, if so it's okish because she's 18 and you're 20 right? i wouldn't expect it to last though considering uni is a big dealbreaker among most couples[/QUOTE] Year 12 would put her at 15 to 17. For a dude in 2nd year of college, you're either unable to get a girlfriend your own age due to lack of social skill (which may be the case), so you're instead going for a younger girl (who, in my experience, think it's cool to date guys in uni, so they're easier to go out with) or you just haven't tried. I'd find it pretty boring dating a 16 year old unless she was pretty mature. There's just quite a big jump in age so it'd be hard to talk about common interests. I look back to when I was 16 and I spoke about retarded shit, stuff that I don't find interesting now. Even the way I acted at 16 is so much more different compared to how I act at 21. I think you should just leave it and not chase after that attraction. One: she's your friend's sister, which is kind of weird for you to do (if any of my friends hit on my sister, I wouldn't be okay with it, cause it'd sort of disrupt the friendship?? If that makes sense) and two: she's much younger than you. [editline]27th December 2013[/editline] I'm sorry for making assumptions. Just isn't it usually the case for guys to want to date younger girls cause girls their own age don't really give them much attention? I've hung out with 15-17 year old girls and they're easily infatuated because the fact you're an "older guy" and it's "so cool". Plus, bring into it the fact you can drive and boom: all they can think about is how great a story it'd be to tell all their friends at school.
i feel wanting to get a girlfriend but that feel of wanting made me seem like I'm not ready and then I talk myself out of not doing anything because I feel like I'm doing it for selfish reasons. And I just haven't really found anyone that seemed interesting or interested in me. I always feel like I give more and get nothing back. idk guys... Everything in my life is great, got a job, cool friends, lost weight and stuff but I never seemed that good with the ladies. I always feel like I'm overeager and scare them off.
then stop being overeager and see where that gets you
[QUOTE=D3TBS;43328101]then stop being overeager and see where that gets you[/QUOTE] yeah that's probably a good way to start. eh, I'm fine for now but I haven't found anyone interesting enough to ask out. All the ones the i'm interested in are already in relationships. A few weeks ago, I asked this girl out at work and it turns out she had a boyfriend. Suffice it to say, that was a very embarrassing but a needed experience everyone goes through.
[QUOTE=loopoo;43326780]Year 12 would put her at 15 to 17. For a dude in 2nd year of college, you're either unable to get a girlfriend your own age due to lack of social skill (which may be the case), so you're instead going for a younger girl (who, in my experience, think it's cool to date guys in uni, so they're easier to go out with) or you just haven't tried. I'd find it pretty boring dating a 16 year old unless she was pretty mature. There's just quite a big jump in age so it'd be hard to talk about common interests. I look back to when I was 16 and I spoke about retarded shit, stuff that I don't find interesting now. Even the way I acted at 16 is so much more different compared to how I act at 21. I think you should just leave it and not chase after that attraction. One: she's your friend's sister, which is kind of weird for you to do (if any of my friends hit on my sister, I wouldn't be okay with it, cause it'd sort of disrupt the friendship?? If that makes sense) and two: she's much younger than you. [editline]27th December 2013[/editline] I'm sorry for making assumptions. Just isn't it usually the case for guys to want to date younger girls cause girls their own age don't really give them much attention? I've hung out with 15-17 year old girls and they're easily infatuated because the fact you're an "older guy" and it's "so cool". Plus, bring into it the fact you can drive and boom: all they can think about is how great a story it'd be to tell all their friends at school.[/QUOTE] Right now we would be 16/18, next year 17/19 And yeah I'd probably go with a combination of lack of social skill and not trying, but more not really trying. I'd like a girlfriend, I've never had a proper one, I just haven't tried and I wouldn't know how to take it beyond just friends if I did. I don't even know if she likes me at all, and I don't know her that well, I just think shes hot and it makes me kinda guilty.
[QUOTE=mokkan;43328791]Right now we would be 16/18, next year 17/19 And yeah I'd probably go with a combination of lack of social skill and not trying, but more not really trying. I'd like a girlfriend, I've never had a proper one, I just haven't tried and I wouldn't know how to take it beyond just friends if I did. I don't even know if she likes me at all, and I don't know her that well, I just think shes hot and it makes me kinda guilty.[/QUOTE] 16/18 isn't that bad, really don't know what everyone is getting so upset about. 2 years isn't much of a difference but like Yahnich said, uni would probably get in the way.
I'm taking advice from the thread title. How do I ask out my left hand she's fucking beautiful I can't help but put her on a pedestal. This Christmas was hard I bought her way too much.
epic single masturbation hand joke m8
[QUOTE=Boss;43329840]I'm taking advice from the thread title. How do I ask out my left hand she's fucking beautiful I can't help but put her on a pedestal. This Christmas was hard I bought her way too much.[/QUOTE] Don't leave her [I]left[/I] in the dark, man! Pursue your dreams and make your self handy and available to her!
There's a girl who has a tiny crush on me but she's two years younger than me and it's sort of weird.
[QUOTE=LaughingStock;43333009]There's a girl who has a tiny crush on me but she's two years younger than me and it's sort of weird.[/QUOTE] How old are you, 2 years isn't really that much?
Maybe I phrased it wrong, but it's not really an age thing. I'm pretty sure that she's going through one of those things that we all went through as a freshman. I became infatuated with someone who was two years older than me and it kind of hurt. [editline]28th December 2013[/editline] I spent three hours just watching videos of Aubrey Plaza. that is totally normal right
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don't bring it up, don't lie about it if you get asked.
well I think people in asia see drugs as something worse than what people in the west see. But that totally depends on the person in the end. My gf is from China although shes been living in Europe for a while. Still she only heard about weed in China and is not even sure what it is, but I dont think she was that bothered when I mentioned I do puff from time to time, and was also curious as to how it was. But then again, it also depends on how you say it. If you say it in a way that makes it look like its no big deal, instead of being all nervous and relying on her reaction, itll be completely different
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;43329770]16/18 isn't that bad, really don't know what everyone is getting so upset about. 2 years isn't much of a difference but like Yahnich said, uni would probably get in the way.[/QUOTE] People in 2nd year of Uni are 18? Jesus Christ. I'm 21 and going into my first year. I feel awful. Nah, 16/18 isn't bad at all. I just thought he'd be around 20/21 for some reason. Damn, son, you musta been an ace student.
Jesus fucking christ guys, I need a beating and I'm sure you'll be able to provide it to me. I will just provide you with some back story on what's going on to put things in perspective. Okay, so there's this girl in my class. She started this year with us (last year in Swedish gymnasium, school you go to before college). She used to live in a nearby town but due to family problems she moved to my town and lives with foster parents. Earlier this month, I was on facebook typing to her about what she was doing tonight, we weren't doing anything either of us so I invited her over to watch a movie (over fb yeah I dont care sue me) and she accepted. So she came and watched the movie with me and when it was over I tried to make a move and went to kiss her. She denied the kiss and hugged me instead. Then she told me the reason she was placed in a foster home. It's a sad story but I won't say what happened. So we sit together for another 1½ hour and I'm holding her and try to console her. Then afterwards I drive her home (I also picked her up from where she lives) and we hug again and say goodnight. Then after that I am really wanting to see her and I almost get depressed because she says "perhaps tomorrow" for like a week until I ask her (on fb again) if she actually wants to. Somewhat to my surprise she says yes and today I went and met her in town. We talked for a good 2 hours about some important, some less important things. Afterwards I offer to drive her home, she would take the bus otherwise, but she insists on taking the bus. As we leave, I say that I'm always happy when I'm around her and we hug each other. I also asked if I would be able to see her again before school starts. She said probably but she is not entirely sure. Here is my problem, I feel almost anxious when I'm not with her and all I really want to do is be near here, like not even sexually. Considering what she has been through she needs to tell me she is actually ready or willing to do anything of the sorts. I just want to be near her. But since she is so busy I don't know how to cope with not seeing her. I'm sure I'm not the only one with this problem but I really have no clue on how to cope with not being around her. Like she is obviously interested otherwise she wouldn't agree to meet me today, at least that's what I think. I fucking need help coping with not being around here, it's really tearing at me and I don't want to feel like this.
inb4 you put her on a pedestal, shes not interested and you get depressed and come here again
[QUOTE=loopoo;43334445]People in 2nd year of Uni are 18? Jesus Christ. I'm 21 and going into my first year. I feel awful. Nah, 16/18 isn't bad at all. I just thought he'd be around 20/21 for some reason. Damn, son, you musta been an ace student.[/QUOTE] Don't beat yourself over it m8, the Quebec school system kinda sucks and after high school you need 2 years at the collegial level just to meet the requirements for undergrad studies at university. I'm turning 22 in like a month and because I'm a fucking idiot, I tried to cut corners when I finished high school and went for a shitty technical diploma and now that I want to start University, I'll be starting damn late.
[QUOTE=Heigou;43336532]Don't beat yourself over it m8, the Quebec school system kinda sucks and after high school you need 2 years at the collegial level just to meet the requirements for undergrad studies at university. I'm turning 22 in like a month and because I'm a fucking idiot, I tried to cut corners when I finished high school and went for a shitty technical diploma and now that I want to start University, I'll be starting damn late.[/QUOTE] Thanks man, but I can't really beat myself up over it since it was my own fault. Instead of actually studying, I just messed around. It's all good now though! Good thing is we're not the only one's who'll be older than most, thankfully.
[QUOTE=D3TBS;43335347]inb4 you put her on a pedestal, shes not interested and you get depressed and come here again[/QUOTE] believe me, it's the uncertainty I can't deal with. Not the actual refusal, if that is the case
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;43324810]I found that happened to me when I got out of the flow of talking to a lot of people. Try practicing, and ~maybe~ it will come back.[/QUOTE] I agree with this. I used to feel terrible with even small talk with random people but after I recently got a job as a cashier and now I have to talk to a hundred people a day and I feel it's really loosened me up. I still prefer not to though.
Yeah warming up is pretty important. And I love being on my toes for the night, thats why I find that pre drinking sessions are what dictate the rest of a night out. Sometimes its boring and I wont be that excited, sometimes its not and I have a great time. But yeah Im just applying this to a night out, although its always helpful [editline]28th December 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=IQ-Guldfisk;43336795]believe me, it's the uncertainty I can't deal with. Not the actual refusal, if that is the case[/QUOTE] Then just ask her or something. You shouldnt depend yourself so much on another person to get good feelings and that. And since youve already developed bitch feelings for her either you man up or its gonna get worse
I just have a question I'd like to ask here. So my job had a christmas party last week and the owners had a daughter that I (first the first time in my life) approached, danced, and talk to. I felt pretty confident that day except days later when she visited my workplace I bitch butterflied big time and didn't really say much. The mistake I made was not getting her phone number the first time and not talking to her the second time. Yesterday was probably the last day she was visiting so chances are I won't run into her again. So the thing is that she happens to live in a city an hour away and me and some of my friends want to go to that city for New Year's Eve. Some people I know suggested to me that it wouldn't hurt to send her a message on Facebook (not "facebook friends" yet FYI), but when I read advice online like here or other sites, people say it's better to talk to her face to face. I also don't want to come across as someone creepy by finding her page and sending a message and I also don't want to come across as someone who is so socially inept that they hide behind Facebook chat, even though I probably didn't leave a bad impression the first time. If we were to converse once more, I want her help with my friends and I's plan on what to do on the 31st but also probably meet up with her too. Some people told me that I have nothing to lose by giving a try and bet me a hundred bucks that she'd most likely respond, but I honestly have no idea how to go about this.
Go for it, man. Just don't message her more than once to avoid looking like a creep. You've got nothing to lose, and $100 to gain if she doesn't respond.
I add people I've just met on Facebook all the time, even if it means a little hunting to find their profile. I don't think it's weird, it's pretty common to ask to meet up on Facebook nowadays. Just ask to hang out, then ask her out or make further plans in person.
Sent a message last night saying that we should meet up and left it at that. If she says no or doesn't respond, then at least I'll be content with that than wondering 'what if' for the next 6 months.
I have no useful skills in life. I don't know anything about economics, math, science etc. and the only thing I can do is draw but I'm not good enough to make a living from it. I'm trying to improve but it will take years and that's not soon enough for me to survive on my own. I don't want to work as a janitor or in a cubicle but I have no other options.
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;43346628]I have no useful skills in life. I don't know anything about economics, math, science etc. and the only thing I can do is draw but I'm not good enough to make a living from it. I'm trying to improve but it will take years and that's not soon enough for me to survive on my own. I don't want to work as a janitor or in a cubicle but I have no other options.[/QUOTE] how old are you?
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;43346653]how old are you?[/QUOTE] 18, but I will be going to college in a couple years and I need something to do in the meantime.
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