Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Disseminate;40412884]Well, yeah, that's basically what happens after you talk to someone for a bit. You either think, "I'd date them" or "I wouldn't date them" and it's as simple as that.[/QUOTE]

well i wonder how many people do this because i certainly dont

[MindMuncher]

Someone asked me out.

That's a nice change. I approve.

[Heigou]

I asked myself out once, I said no.

[ForDaNords]

I confronted him -- will post how it went tomorrow.

[rammaster]

[QUOTE=Heigou;40413743]I asked myself out once, I said no.[/QUOTE]

That's an idea... Take yourself out. Treat yourself out on a date. lol, sounds like great practice.

[MindMuncher]

[QUOTE=Rammaster;40413817]That's an idea... Take yourself out. Treat yourself out on a date. lol, sounds like great practice.[/QUOTE]

What if you say that you'll only go if it's just as friends?
Can I friendzone myself?

Let's talk about the friendzone, cuz, you see, I really just don't [i]get[/i] it and I think I need it explained.
[sp] please don't explain the friendzone ever again. I would bet that half the posters here skip those conversations when they see them now, and for good reason. [/sp]

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40413078]Exactly so why does the friendzone stay so popular

it literally creates a ridiculously big structure out of such a simple concept that doesn't need to be thought about[/QUOTE]

yeah but thats the thing

no one [I]thinks[/I] about it, it just sort of, IS. You get into a certain way of acting and feeling about a person and dating them is kind of out of the question

[QUOTE=MindMuncher;40414103]What if you say that you'll only go if it's just as friends?
Can I friendzone myself?

Let's talk about the friendzone, cuz, you see, I really just don't [i]get[/i] it and I think I need it explained.
[sp] please don't explain the friendzone ever again. I would bet that half the posters here skip those conversations when they see them now, and for good reason. [/sp][/QUOTE]

yeah lets go with that this seems like a really pointless conversation

[editline]24th April 2013[/editline]

So, today, I went to go take some mostly meaningless programming test (because why not, its like a certificate but it's not like super esteemed or anything, I needed a fucking 45% to pass), and I saw this girl from my math class in there taking the same test. I'd always thought this girl was cute, now she's probably into computers? I mean, hell, there's a chance we share some interests. I also know she's friends with one of my friends, who's pretty nerdy and into video games and stuff. I dunno, I think I'm gonna try to get myself into some of their conversations and stuff if I can and learn more about her. Just, casually walk over and try to join in or something. Decide if I'd want to ask her out or anything like that. I don't think I could approach her directly as of now, I've been in something of a rut this past week and a half or so. Kind of depressed. I don't really expect it to go anywhere, but I'll try and get to know her at least somewhat? All I know as of now is her name.

Regardless anything it'd be nice having a new friend who shares interests with me. Most of my friends share some of my interest in video games, but they're all into different stuff, so it's kind of hard to really discuss things with them, no less actually play with them. The only game we've all played with eachother was TF2 a few times. And on top of that I'm the only one very professed in computers. It'd be cool to talk to and learn from someone else who knows a lot, I don't really know THAT much, just experience ( :( ).

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=riku2211;40414652]yeah but thats the thing

no one [I]thinks[/I] about it, it just sort of, IS. You get into a certain way of acting and feeling about a person and dating them is kind of out of the question
[/QUOTE]

Basic human behaviours do not need to be categorised into a mythological area to be understood

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40415752]Basic human behaviours do not need to be categorised into a mythological area to be understood[/QUOTE]

It isn't.

[SundayRoast]

Apparently I got some small practice on dealing out the upcoming reaction.
Got someone asking me on that dating site: "Whatcha ooglin at? :D"
"My computer monitor" As a reply seemed to put it out quite well.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;40416027]Apparently I got some small practice on dealing out the upcoming reaction.
Got someone asking me on that dating site: "Whatcha ooglin at? :D"
"My computer monitor" As a reply seemed to put it out quite well.[/QUOTE]

Provide context?

[SundayRoast]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40416637]Provide context?[/QUOTE]

I've been getting more female attention than I wanted after my breakup.
And what I'd want is just a relationship with good communication.
Which is what I've been floating towards at the moment with this one girl as we are able to talk on a level that I wasn't able to with my ex or she has been ever able to with her boyfriend.

[junker|154]

This may sound incredibly cheesy but a good communication is the key for a great relationship, you have this great feeling and don't just say this to make yourself feel better over your breakup, you should hang out more often with that girl.

I really suck at communication at times and it results in fights and misunderstandings. I wish you luck bro.

[MindMuncher]

My ex really sucked at communication. I always wanted to talk things out.
She would just outright refuse to discuss certain very important things sometimes and it was exasperating.

[M.Ciaster]

Alright, so, I've been lurking this thread for a while, and I could really use help with a problem I've got.

See, I have a friend. He's a pretty likable guy, despite being kind of an asshole. Buuut, he hasn't talked to me for a month and [i]I have no idea why.[/i] It's not like I changed in some way, or he changed in some way, but he just decided to stop talking to me all of a sudden and started treating me like I didn't exist. (not in the "talks shit about me despite me standing right next to him" way, in the "absolutely doesn't acknowledge me" way.)

The only reason I can see for that is that, a while ago, he tried to set me up with a girl, but ended up going out with her instead. I'm not mad, I had my chance and I didn't use it (and me and the girl became friends instead, anyway, so no harm done here), so I don't really see [i]why[/i] that would be a reason at all, but it's the only possible reason I can think of. She actually offered to talk to him about it, she did ...and apparently he doesn't want to talk about it with anyone?

I've been trying to talk to him [i]mano a mano[/i] for a while now, but he's constantly in a group whenever I see him, and I don't want to just walk up and start talking about that (and frankly, I'm too shy to pull something like that). Sent him a Facebook message, he didn't answer.

What do, SFSALA? I don't wanna lose a good friend. (and no, I won't ask him out.)

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=M.Ciaster;40418293]Alright, so, I've been lurking this thread for a while, and I could really use help with a problem I've got.

See, I have a friend. He's a pretty likable guy, despite being kind of an asshole. Buuut, he hasn't talked to me for a month and [i]I have no idea why.[/i] It's not like I changed in some way, or he changed in some way, but he just decided to stop talking to me all of a sudden and started treating me like I didn't exist. (not in the "talks shit about me despite me standing right next to him" way, in the "absolutely doesn't acknowledge me" way.)

The only reason I can see for that is that, a while ago, he tried to set me up with a girl, but ended up going out with her instead. I'm not mad, I had my chance and I didn't use it (and me and the girl became friends instead, anyway, so no harm done here), so I don't really see [i]why[/i] that would be a reason at all, but it's the only possible reason I can think of. She actually offered to talk to him about it, she did ...and apparently he doesn't want to talk about it with anyone?

I've been trying to talk to him [i]mano a mano[/i] for a while now, but he's constantly in a group whenever I see him, and I don't want to just walk up and start talking about that (and frankly, I'm too shy to pull something like that). Sent him a Facebook message, he didn't answer.

What do, SFSALA? I don't wanna lose a good friend. (and no, I won't ask him out.)[/QUOTE]

I'd go up and talk to him.

[Zerokateo]

So this girl I was texting. She apparently has a sudden boyfriend, she keeps texting me but there will be times where she wont reply, take forever to reply or just put 'lol' and that'll be it. Seriously, what the hell do I do here? Do I just stop texting her completely or do I keep going along with this?

[junker|154]

I would wait for a moment when he is alone and talk to him or just ask him if you both could meet and talk together. If he declines your offer, then just try to convince him. If you're best buddies and good friends you kind of care for eachother.

Perhaps he feels like crap around you because he thinks that he "stole" your future girlfriend or something similiar. Although it's often the cause of multiple bad things. Maybe he has some troubles in the family or something that you have not noticed yet.

[mac338]

I need someone to talk to who doesn't bring up their own problems. A good listener, and someone who cares.

[SundayRoast]

[QUOTE=junker|154;40417716]This may sound incredibly cheesy but a good communication is the key for a great relationship, you have this great feeling and don't just say this to make yourself feel better over your breakup, you should hang out more often with that girl.

I really suck at communication at times and it results in fights and misunderstandings. I wish you luck bro.[/QUOTE]

Already have plans to ask her what she'd be up to in the weekend and ask if she'd be up to shooting some pool.
Which also happens to be something she doesn't get from her bf.

Just found out ,I can't spend time with my best friend this weekend as his girlfriend came home from work sick and he will undoubtedly get sick too. :(

[M.Ciaster]

[QUOTE=junker|154;40419031]I would wait for a moment when he is alone and talk to him or just ask him if you both could meet and talk together. If he declines your offer, then just try to convince him. If you're best buddies and good friends you kind of care for eachother.

Perhaps he feels like crap around you because he thinks that he "stole" your future girlfriend or something similiar. Although it's often the cause of multiple bad things. Maybe he has some troubles in the family or something that you have not noticed yet.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I'll just have to corner the bastard and talk to him one on one.

Don't think he's got family problems or anything - he seems to be his old funny asshole self, just, well, not when I'm around. The girlfriend stealing thing? The more I think about it, the more plausible it seems, actually, what's with him not wanting to talk to her about it and shit.

Yeah, definitely need to talk to the bastard. I knew I'd have to do it already, but still, thanks, dudes

[junker|154]

I also have a friend who is a pretty asshole when it comes to girls, he jumps at every girl possible. Once he tried to make a move on my girlfriend while we were having a huge crisis. Since then he has become really awkward because I found out.

Your friend might just feel awkward being around you and always thinking about how things turned out and how pissed you might be, even if you're ok with it. Best of luck to you.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=mac338;40419136]I need someone to talk to who doesn't bring up their own problems. A good listener, and someone who cares.[/QUOTE]

Theres a list in the OP of regulars you can PM if need be :) But really just posting in thread is easiest and best :) More responses to get a balance from

[ForDaNords]

[QUOTE=ForDaNords;40413762]I confronted him -- will post how it went tomorrow.[/QUOTE]
So, in the morning I walked up to him and asked "Why do you think my intelligence is that of a rock?" He responded with stammering and I walked away. Later in lunch, he confided that he feels really bad about himself and he has to say bad things about others to make himself feel better. He asked me if I could help him, so I said yes.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=ForDaNords;40421605]So, in the morning I walked up to him and asked "Why do you think my intelligence is that of a rock?" He responded with stammering and I walked away. Later in lunch, he confided that he feels really bad about himself and he has to say bad things about others to make himself feel better. He asked me if I could help him, so I said yes.[/QUOTE]

How fairytale :v:

[ForDaNords]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40421623]How fairytale :v:[/QUOTE]
I think he's lying so he doesn't have to tell the truth, but I'll see how it goes.

[SundayRoast]

I tell ya what. This girl.
Asks me if I'm into manga.
I say I'm not but I have some that I'd might try pick up on.
She links me to some dang messed up shit.
Not that it bothers me, I'd actually like to watch some of it together. :v:

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;40423691]I tell ya what. This girl.
Asks me if I'm into manga.
I say I'm not but I have some that I'd might try pick up on.
She links me to some dang messed up shit.
Not that it bothers me, I'd actually like to watch some of it together. :v:[/QUOTE]

Jeez, you've seriously got to stop creeping on some other guys girl, everytime you post it makes me want to curl up into a ball of cringe and rock back and forth.

[SundayRoast]

[QUOTE=metallics;40424079]Jeez, you've seriously got to stop creeping on some other guys girl, everytime you post it makes me want to curl up into a ball of cringe and rock back and forth.[/QUOTE]

Now I admit that back then, I was a bit creeping.

But things changed. I've had one year to grow up emotionally.
And then she was the one contacting me after a long time of not seeing each other and things have just been picking up from there.

Their relationship is on the verge, I've been spending time with her on a mutual interest and we connect really well.

[junker|154]

You should just refrain from posting pointless and useless information in this thread, it's not really a personal blog and here on facepunch people tend to get upset when you post every little pointless detail. Also by your comments you can clearly see that you don't have much experience and you sound like a 14 year old of some kind, no offence though. You just might want to stop posting such things.