Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[OogalaBoogal]

snapchat is amazing, and i wouldn't knock it until you try it, it gets very addictive

[Aries]

Snapchat was my life for quite a bit. I don't even know [I]why[/I]. Some social media you just get, others you don't.

[BackSapper]

I snapchat just for fun or when someone's like I WANNA SEE U LOL. Also sending cat pics is very handy.

Otherwise I am not going to the gay bar tomorrow. Erin said too many people were going to be around and she wants an intimate setting to get to know each other.

[Inspector Jones]

No plans tonight for New Years.

I'm really hoping that changes, but I'm not counting on it.

EDIT: Is it too forward to ask if someone has plans for New Years/tonight? I don't want to impose myself, but at the same time I'd like to show interest if something is happening. I am retarded socially.

[Ding Dong]

How likely is my girlfriend going to get pregnant while on birth control if I cum inside?

[nox]

A cute girl with the same somewhat rare skin disorder (Vitiligo) came into my work today and asked me about it, we talked about it for a little while, I've only met 4-5 people in my life who had the disorder and all were middle-aged women so I got excited thinking she might be interested in me, next thing I know she took off without a word, didn't even tell me her name or anything. Guess I got my hopes up and she was just curious, or maybe I was acting uninterested, I don't know I was tired from a long day and a severe headache.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=exhale77;43369178]How likely is my girlfriend going to get pregnant while on birth control if I cum inside?[/QUOTE]

it has 91-98% effectiveness.

[Jo The Shmo]

[QUOTE=nox;43369363]A cute girl with the same somewhat rare skin disorder (Vitiligo) came into my work today and asked me about it, we talked about it for a little while, I've only met 4-5 people in my life who had the disorder and all were middle-aged women so I got excited thinking she might be interested in me, next thing I know she took off without a word, didn't even tell me her name or anything. Guess I got my hopes up and she was just curious, or maybe I was acting uninterested, I don't know I was tired from a long day and a severe headache.[/QUOTE]

or maybe she was just being friendly and chatting

[frankpetrov]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;43369095]No plans tonight for New Years.

I'm really hoping that changes, but I'm not counting on it.

EDIT: Is it too forward to ask if someone has plans for New Years/tonight? I don't want to impose myself, but at the same time I'd like to show interest if something is happening. I am retarded socially.[/QUOTE]

No, it's not too forward. It's not like you're asking for them to suddenly runaway with you 100 miles away to party. You're asking if they have plans. Furthermore, there's nothing wrong with asking if they wanna do something either, if they dont have anything planned.

[Inspector Jones]

[QUOTE=FrankPetrov;43370054]No, it's not too forward. It's not like you're asking for them to suddenly runaway with you 100 miles away to party. You're asking if they have plans. Furthermore, there's nothing wrong with asking if they wanna do something either, if they dont have anything planned.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I did text her, and she said she has no plans; but she doesn't really like New Years that much anyway, so I don't think anything is going to happen. That said, at least I know I'm not missing out on anything and had a good text conversation going.

So, sort of a win.

[frankpetrov]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;43370094]Yeah, I did text her, and she said she has no plans; but she doesn't really like New Years that much anyway, so I don't think anything is going to happen. That said, at least I know I'm not missing out on anything and had a good text conversation going.

So, sort of a win.[/QUOTE]

Why not try invite her to do something non new years eve related? It might be new years eve but its also just another night.

[Inspector Jones]

Well she just texted back saying she'd see if anyone else wanted to do something, she'd text me back. Since we're just friends, I wouldn't really be comfortable asking if she wanted to something alone, but if anyone else is free, it may work out to be a fun evening.

[frankpetrov]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;43370249]Well she just texted back saying she'd see if anyone else wanted to do something, she'd text me back. Since we're just friends, I wouldn't really be comfortable asking if she wanted to something alone, but if anyone else is free, it may work out to be a fun evening.[/QUOTE]

Are you trying to make it more than just friends?

[Inspector Jones]

[QUOTE=FrankPetrov;43370408]Are you trying to make it more than just friends?[/QUOTE]

I would like to, yes. That said, I feel like I need to build a stronger friendship with her and get to know her better before I pursue anything further. That's why I'm really hoping something works out tonight.

I get that we could do something fun and social without other company, but I'm afraid I would fuck up somehow with my less then average social skills.

[Lukeo]

If you already have her number surely that's enough to commence a date of sorts
Dates are there to get to know each other you don't have to form a friendship first

[frankpetrov]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;43370570]I would like to, yes. That said, I feel like I need to build a stronger friendship with her and get to know her better before I pursue anything further. That's why I'm really hoping something works out tonight.

I get that we could do something fun and social without other company, but I'm afraid I would fuck up somehow with my less then average social skills.[/QUOTE]

Well you're gunna have to come out and ask her on a date at some point otherwise she's going to keep thinking you're going as just friends. That being said, I'd recommend you two take a first date with a group of friends you both like to help keep you both at ease. This is just my opinion. I'm sure many others would say go with just each other on the first date. Personally, I'd say ask her if you could do something as more than just friend tonight. She may not like the whole new years eve thing but come on, its the start of a new year and you wanna start the year off with a relationship with her. again, all opinions.

[killerteacup]

I hope everyone had a great 2013 full of the things that satisfy them

Personally i am pretty deeply unhappy but i am optimistic. Hope you guys had a better year than i did

[Inspector Jones]

Well, I went out and the three of us had fun for a few hours before midnight. Was a pretty fun evening, and it's possible I'll be headed out tomorrow.

I'm sure I've run into the problem that has haunted hundreds of other men. I can't judge her level of interest. In truth, I've never spent time with any girls before (That's how hopeless I am), so I can't tell what's just genuine kindness and what I may be misinterpreting as interest. As an out shape guy, it's impossible for me to conceive myself as being attractive.

I get the feeling she's going to end up asking me if I like her, knowing her personality. She likes to tease me a lot because I usually fluster up or get embarrassed.

[frankpetrov]

Awesome to hear. Beat her to the punch and ask if she likes you. And no one would expect you to know what she's interested in right away. Ask her questions. Watch how she acts with certain things. Maybe if she enjoys something she gets really giddy and can't sit or stand still? Learn to notice small body movements and how her attitude changes with certain things.

[Heigou]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;43376608]Well, I went out and the three of us had fun for a few hours before midnight. Was a pretty fun evening, and it's possible I'll be headed out tomorrow.

I'm sure I've run into the problem that has haunted hundreds of other men. I can't judge her level of interest. In truth, I've never spent time with any girls before (That's how hopeless I am), so I can't tell what's just genuine kindness and what I may be misinterpreting as interest. As an out shape guy, it's impossible for me to conceive myself as being attractive.

I get the feeling she's going to end up asking me if I like her, knowing her personality. She likes to tease me a lot because I usually fluster up or get embarrassed.[/QUOTE]

Should try to be assertive and beat her to the punch like FrankPetrov said, bet that would surprise the shit out of her and make her want the D

[DudesonFan]

Wow. Just.. god fucking damnit.
Well, i hope you guys had a great New year's eve, cause i can only describe mine as top candidate for the shittiest night of my life so far.

Funny how earlier in the night everything (especially the company) was pointing at the best night ever, but no, of course everything just [b]had[/b] to go completely down the shitter.

At least i avoided the hangover pretty good.
But if you ask me, i'll take a terrible hangover any day over the [b]unbelievably shitty[/b] feeling of watching the girl you like suddenly forgetting you exist and going on to flirt, dance and (of fucking course) sleep with another dude.

And as if that wasn't enough to fuck up my night, i was also the only person in the entire place to go to bed alone.
That sure destroyed the last remains of any kind of self-esteem i still had left in me at that point.

Sorry, i just had to vent somewhere since i'm pretty much a total fucking wreck right now.
Won't be in the mood for drinking again anytime soon, unless all this shit somehow turns out alright, which i doubt...

I know trying to flush all this emotional pain away with alcohol would be a retarded decision and do nothing short of fucking things up 10 times worse.

[Jo The Shmo]

quit whining, other people had fun and you didnt boo hoo

instead of moping about it maybe go out with a better attitude and have some fun yourself??

[DudesonFan]

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;43381272]quit whining, other people had fun and you didnt boo hoo

instead of moping about it maybe go out with a better attitude and have some fun yourself??[/QUOTE]
Okay, first of all i'm not whining because other people had fun and i didn't, i'm genuinely happy that at least some people had a good time.

I was also having an awesome time myself all the way up to the point where she dropped me when the other dude showed up.

[chinatown]

you should learn to just say "fuck that bitch" and move on to another girl or something. You won't get anything by staying negative. Tip for next time

[Lukeo]

Sounds like the girl didn't even do anything, he just likes her and didn't want to make a move then gets mad when somebody else does

[DudesonFan]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43382043]you should learn to just say "fuck that bitch" and move on to another girl or something. You won't get anything by staying negative. Tip for next time[/QUOTE]
You know what- you are absolutely right.

I've thought so many times about doing exactly that, but never had the guts to actually go 'maaan, fuck this i'm out'
If it really comes down to that, and things really are as fucked as they seem right now...

I guess i won't have any options.

But right now, i'll wait a little and see where this goes just in case there's still some hope..

[QUOTE=Lukeo;43382956]Sounds like the girl didn't even do anything, he just likes her and didn't want to make a move then gets mad when somebody else does[/QUOTE]
She did.
And it's not like i just met her or something, we've both known each other for a while.

[NoDachi]

stop acting so fucking entitled jesus christ no wonder she slept with someone else

[Kindlinho]

Looks like the [IMG]http://facepunch.com/fp/flags/fi.png[/IMG]Finnish cold steel can be bent with a bit of romantic infatuation! We've found their weakness!

Anyway, she's obviously not worth the pain. At least you spent the New Year's Eve socializing. I was at home, alone, eating meat sticks while rewatching Misfits. Didn't even have a New Year toast or anyone to tell me a "happy new year". Beat it.

[Jo The Shmo]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43382043]you should learn to just say "fuck that bitch" and move on to another girl or something. You won't get anything by staying negative. Tip for next time[/QUOTE]

yeah fuck that fucking BITCH for not choosing me!

[editline]2nd January 2014[/editline]

fucking despicable, all women are evil

[Rusty100]

[QUOTE=DudesonFan;43381144]Wow. Just.. god fucking damnit.
Well, i hope you guys had a great New year's eve, cause i can only describe mine as top candidate for the shittiest night of my life so far.

Funny how earlier in the night everything (especially the company) was pointing at the best night ever, but no, of course everything just [b]had[/b] to go completely down the shitter.

At least i avoided the hangover pretty good.
But if you ask me, i'll take a terrible hangover any day over the [b]unbelievably shitty[/b] feeling of watching the girl you like suddenly forgetting you exist and going on to flirt, dance and (of fucking course) sleep with another dude.

And as if that wasn't enough to fuck up my night, i was also the only person in the entire place to go to bed alone.
That sure destroyed the last remains of any kind of self-esteem i still had left in me at that point.

Sorry, i just had to vent somewhere since i'm pretty much a total fucking wreck right now.
Won't be in the mood for drinking again anytime soon, unless all this shit somehow turns out alright, which i doubt...

I know trying to flush all this emotional pain away with alcohol would be a retarded decision and do nothing short of fucking things up 10 times worse.[/QUOTE]

just because you like her doesnt make her obligated to have sex with you. i'm assuming she doesn't even know you like her. she probably wanted some non-complicated strange. easy one night stand for nye. what is wrong with that? you can't just go around harboring a crush hoping that she'll fuck you, your shitty night is pretty much entirely your fault for expecting something you know isn't going to happen.

maybe you should go out and get some strange too, gosh knows you'll look back at this and be like 'man i am so dumb I didn't even want a relationship with her I just wanted to fuck her! man am I a jerk!'