Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[ichiman94]

I will do anything, really.

[editline]10th January 2014[/editline]

I talk to them but they ignore me

[frankpetrov]

[QUOTE=ichiman94;43491040]I'm willing to help myself, it's just that there are no other places to meet anyone. I will do anything you suggest.[/QUOTE]

First off, stop drinking. its obviously not helping but rather making things worse. hell, they might wanna talk to ya if you didnt look like a depressed bum sitting there moping around. get up and talk to them, dont expect them to talk to you. although, bars are only good if you wanna get laid or spend money buying drinks. bar isnt the best place to pick up women.

[editline]10th January 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43491086]
[editline]10th January 2014[/editline]

what the fuck is a drink to boost your confidence[/QUOTE]

no clue. sounded better than it is.

[chinatown]

You should be on an upbeat mood yourself before anything. Otherwise why would a girl want to sleep with a downer? Thats a total turn off, so work at it.
Clearly youre already doing something good which is putting yourself out there. And one thing you can do is work hard, but maybe youre just not working smart

[ichiman94]

it's as bad as it sounds

holy fuck forgive me, you all are the best, good night

[editline]11th January 2014[/editline]

really sorry for the fuck up
I thank you

[editline]11th January 2014[/editline]

I'm so emotionaly fragile, I take everything seriously. It's a problem that I've to deal with, then eventualy I will get better. I don't blame you. You can't be here and hold my hand doing everything. That's why I have to go there a lot more and a lot of other places too. I shouldn't be sad just because they don't interested in me, when there are millions of other girls out there. I have to revamp my mind to make stuff comfortable.

Of course, this thread is about social help. But you've said things so much times that it shpuld be common sense to me and not cause problems. I just have to force myself doing evrything. Force myself to practice things and not worry about things, not worsening shit.

And all of it means nothing

[editline]11th January 2014[/editline]

No I'm not whining

[Saza]

so I mustered up the courage yesterday to ask her if she'd like to go grab a shake with me
it went pretty okay and we ended up completely breezing through an hour and a half (at which point we both noticed the time). dropped her off and she told me she had fun

overall I see life's just peachy, but my only thought was that there was a couple of moments where we were both silent; I didn't really know what to say and I'd guess the same for her? either way, the moral of the story is it'll pretty much only get better from here and I'd advise everyone to just do it. props to you guys in thread... I don't post here but I read it a bit and you're all really good.

[Aries]

Yeah, this thread is pretty okay. I mean, it takes common sense to do it but being here is kind of like a support group in a non-preachy kind of way. I read this thread a couple of days ago, and then browsed Facebook. This girl I know but don't really talk to made a Facebook status and now we're seeing a movie on Monday and talking a lot and shit. Like seriously just find someone on your facebook and ask them out, shit

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=Aries;43496852]Yeah, this thread is pretty okay. I mean, it takes common sense to do it but being here is kind of like a support group in a non-preachy kind of way. I read this thread a couple of days ago, and then browsed Facebook. This girl I know but don't really talk to made a Facebook status and now we're seeing a movie on Monday and talking a lot and shit. Like seriously just find someone on your facebook and ask them out, shit[/QUOTE]
Did that, she said she's busy this week(probably because her birthday was on monday) and I won't be in city from monday to friday so I'm thinking just to start chatting her on FB.

[lope]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;43496982]Did that, she said she's busy this week(probably because her birthday was on monday) and I won't be in city from monday to friday so I'm thinking just to start chatting her on FB.[/QUOTE]
Don't get intimate over FB. I know it's so much easier but you need to be in person its like #1 rule

at least for me

[MxOAgentJohnson]

Posted this over on anoter topic, but feel it's kinda relevant here. Just involves recent love/social awkwardness

Recently single, hit me worse than the last one, but this is odd.

I genuinely loved her, and still do, it was the best for both of us. But while it hurt like almighty hell, i'm not actually outrageously sad. We are still close friends, we still talk. And it feels odd because i feel like, all along it wasnt cut out, yet we have a bond we cant sort of destroy, no matter what, we've been together for years. The minor details dont matter, however my mind confuses me extremely. Maybe i'm just happy i have her as a friend and see her as just that, and was confusing the fact i'm socially isolated and she was one of the only people i was in contact with that i mistook a rare friendship for love?

I dunno, fucked if i know to be honest, it hurts, but not in the same way as before, even when i never loved the person i was with before.

I've recently sort of found a group of people i chat with on mumble daily, ive known em for ages but they always chat in here, they asked why i never come in one day and i didnt know, it's been nice to have a group to talk to. Even when the time differences mean destroying my now broken sleeping schedule to fit around thiers.

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=lope;43497821]Don't get intimate over FB. I know it's so much easier but you need to be in person its like #1 rule

at least for me[/QUOTE]

I wonder be in for 5 days and I want to keep contact with her and actually be more social, I've got no toher option. Why not?

[lope]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;43502747]I wonder be in for 5 days and I want to keep contact with her and actually be more social, I've got no toher option. Why not?[/QUOTE]

Well its a good platform to get started on but if things get pretty serious, again just in my opinion, its a lot more meaningful to compliment and get intimate with someone in person. Also I would never ask someone out over texts or FB it removes the..... I don't know the word but it's a lot better to do it in person. These are just my opinions you have no reason to agree with them.

[chinatown]

i unno. If I get the chance, I just ask the girl out in person. If not, Ill get a number and set up a date throught text. Chit chatting over text is still ok, as long as you know what youre doing. Not recommended to talk too much though id say

[Daniel Smith]

I need help, I keep thinking that people can read my mind and I keep finding evidence to believe in it. It's getting worse and I don't know what to do. I always had OCD attached to people reading my thoughts and I think I'm going crazy.

[chinatown]

Shit, he's onto us

[Dooskington]

I hate conversations. I just keep asking questions in order to progress the conversation until I hit a spot where the person will start talking, and then I always get extremely self conscious because I feel like I am interrogating somebody and I look weird.

[Daniel Smith]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43504354]Shit, he's onto us[/QUOTE]

It happens in random episodes then I snap out of it, thanks for helping though I'm sure that won't make things worse.

[Taepodong-2]

Well I think I'm going to man up and ask this girl I met last semester if she wants to go for coffee sometime. I hung out with her for a bit on thursday because we had a class together that we got out of early and she didn't have a class for about another half hour so we just talked about stuff like our families, where we grew up, what we want to do after university, probably the most normal conversation I've ever had with a girl I'm interested in. I probably should have asked her then but one of her friends showed up a few minutes before her class started so that would have made it a bit awkward for me. She did seem to be paying more attention to me than her friend though which I'd assume is a pretty good sign.

[SaintBonkers]

[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;43504209]I need help, I keep thinking that people can read my mind and I keep finding evidence to believe in it. It's getting worse and I don't know what to do. I always had OCD attached to people reading my thoughts and I think I'm going crazy.[/QUOTE]

I had this too. I used to think of things and then closely examine the people around me for evidence that they heard it. Or if i was thinking something dirty i'd snap out of it because i was afraid people knew what i was thinking and would judge me for my messed up thoughts.

But don't worry, it's just a phase, it will go away. Just remember that if you're constantly looking for evidence to substantiate your paranoid thoughts, you will find them one way or the other, wether they're real or not.

[Heigou]

Seasonal depression is shit, winter can suck my cock so hard. The only time I don't feel good about my solitude is winter, fuck all this grey garbage and shitty temperatures and slippery roads. Had to vent that out because if Winter was a person, I'd shank the fuker.

I need friends for only the winter or something.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Heigou;43509275]Seasonal depression is shit, winter can suck my cock so hard. The only time I don't feel good about my solitude is winter, fuck all this grey garbage and shitty temperatures and slippery roads. Had to vent that out because if Winter was a person, I'd shank the fuker.

I need friends for only the winter or something.[/QUOTE]

Quebec doesn't help much, does it? :v:

[ionuttzu]

[QUOTE=Heigou;43509275]Seasonal depression is shit, winter can suck my cock so hard. The only time I don't feel good about my solitude is winter, fuck all this grey garbage and shitty temperatures and slippery roads. Had to vent that out because if Winter was a person, I'd shank the fuker.

I need friends for only the winter or something.[/QUOTE]
Especially this winter when there's no snow at all. White fluffy snow all over the place makes it easier to handle, but when all you have is a cloudy sky, concrete and coldness this season can go fuck itself for all I care.

[Heigou]

[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;43510314]Quebec doesn't help much, does it? :v:[/QUOTE]

It wasn't so bad back when I lived in Montreal but my parents made the mistake to move near my sister who lives a bit north of it in the most fucking barren wasteland of places on earth.

[QUOTE=ionuttzu;43510921]Especially this winter when there's no snow at all. White fluffy snow all over the place makes it easier to handle, but when all you have is a cloudy sky, concrete and coldness this season can go fuck itself for all I care.[/QUOTE]

It's kind of the opposite here I suppose, the snow is fun for the holidays then after a week or two of snow you just want it to get the fuck out your view and see greenery again. Doesn't help that the snow ends up grey from all the filth and it looks like you're living in some post-apocalyptic wasteland for a few months before spring hits and even then, I've had these huge piles of charcoal black snow persist through the summer.

[ionuttzu]

[QUOTE=Heigou;43511274] It's kind of the opposite here I suppose, the snow is fun for the holidays then after a week or two of snow you just want it to get the fuck out your view and see greenery again. Doesn't help that the snow ends up grey from all the filth and it looks like you're living in some post-apocalyptic wasteland for a few months before spring hits and even then, I've had these huge piles of charcoal black snow persist through the summer.[/QUOTE]
Just saying that it helps with all the grey. Post-communist cities aren't helping with the general atmosphere at all, goddamn Ceausescu.

[groin-smashy]

My housemate hasn't come home for a week, and he's acting all weird and distant, I think something's up, but I don't know what it could be.

[Dvorak231]

So I work in a nightclub, and the door girl asks me out completely out of the blue, I say "uh ok sure I guess" as I really wasn't sure what to say.

Fast forward a few weeks and we've yet to go on a date, we've tried to arrange a few but all have fallen through, and she puts no effort at all into arranging one. We've been seeing each other every week at work and we comment on how we've not gone on this date yet etc. She says she's still interested and still wants to go out but makes no attempt to move forward with anything.

When I try and arrange anything she either stops replying or takes so long I give up. Should I just call it quits and leave it? I'm pretty keen on another girl, who also works there and who is seeing another guy who works there. Want to ask her out if she stops seeing the other guy, but with all of us in the same workplace it's got the potential to get pretty messy, what do

[Heigou]

Drop that shit like you drop a turd out your ass.

[chinatown]

Ask her when shes free. On the other side try to go out with the other girl. Most importantly, be discreet

[Leader of Me]

The girl I like has gone to Melbourne for a week, that's where another guy she had a thing with is and they're seeing each other. She is really complicated and a had a thing for two people but she called it off with the Melbourne guy while she had a thing with the other guy but now seeing as she doesn't have a thing with the other guy she's probably to have a thing with this Melbourne guy again even though she lives in Perth.

[Mr. Bleak]

Sounds like the type of girl you wouldn't want to be involved with anyway tbh

[Guy Mannly]

"Uh ok sure I guess"

Sounds like you guys were meant for each other.