Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[nox]

[QUOTE=Heigou;43509275].

I need friends for only the winter or something.[/QUOTE]

This reminds me, I used to live in an apartment in a very touristy beach city so I had seasonal friends, kids who'd come down every spring and we'd hang out for their couple month stay then they would up and leave untill the next year. :c

[RocketRacer]

man it feels great that I started to chat to a girl that wanted to keep contact with me. And by that I mean she said me twice 'I'm always here if you need me', but that does not mean she has got any interest in me(neither do I, except for being friends) because she already has got a boyfriend. Makes me feel less lonely and actually think that someone out there on a distant island is actually caring about me.

Also sent a message to thegirlIlike and she didn't respond yet.

[Taepodong-2]

Well I had class with the girl I like today but couldn't find a way to work asking her out into conversation without making it suddenly awkward. I did kind of hint at wanting to spend time with her outside of class though.

Also is it a good sign if a girl laughs when you touch her? Touching in a non sexual way obviously.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;43537357]Well I had class with the girl I like today but couldn't find a way to work asking her out into conversation without making it suddenly awkward. I did kind of hint at wanting to spend time with her outside of class though.

Also is it a good sign if a girl laughs when you touch her? Touching in a non sexual way obviously.[/QUOTE]

Really depends on the laugh and person. You gotta figure out your own social ques on that sort of thing, nothing we can know through online without seeing and hearing what happened.

[Taepodong-2]

I guess I'm just going to have to ask her out on Thursday then. And I actually mean it this time, no bitching out allowed and you will not hear about it if I do.

[bradhl]

I've been seeing this girl since new years, something is driving me crazy about her and i have no idea why. The thing is she different to my usual type. She has quite a few tats, drinks a lot, loves having money spent on her and has about 50 other guys chasing her desperate to give her the D. Not to mention the Psychopathic Ex that loves to talk shit, cheated on her and lied, tried to get his friends to bash me for seeing her (he's since given up on this since my much scarier and more connected best friend made him shit his pants) and just is an all round dick head. Now she says she wants me to "be hers" and i'm very confused, i've seen her play said psycho ex for money, smokes and alcohol. I'm afraid that all she may want to do is play or use me. The thing is though i can't help but feel that shes sincere when she says she only wants me, when she's sneaking out to spend the night at my place or ditching her insane ex for me. Not only that but i'm feeling attached and a little possessive to her, and i have no fucking idea why considering i've only known her since new years. Help me please?

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=bradhl;43539382]I've been seeing this girl since new years, something is driving me crazy about her and i have no idea why. The thing is she different to my usual type. She has quite a few tats, drinks a lot, loves having money spent on her and has about 50 other guys chasing her desperate to give her the D. Not to mention the Psychopathic Ex that loves to talk shit, cheated on her and lied, tried to get his friends to bash me for seeing her (he's since given up on this since my much scarier and more connected best friend made him shit his pants) and just is an all round dick head. Now she says she wants me to "be hers" and i'm very confused, i've seen her play said psycho ex for money, smokes and alcohol. I'm afraid that all she may want to do is play or use me. The thing is though i can't help but feel that shes sincere when she says she only wants me, when she's sneaking out to spend the night at my place or ditching her insane ex for me. Not only that but i'm feeling attached and a little possessive to her, and i have no fucking idea why considering i've only known her since new years. Help me please?[/QUOTE]

Don't get too attached and go with the flow with it, don't let yourself get taken advantage of

if you feel you are getting too attached or being manipulated drop her straight away

[bradhl]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;43540064]Don't get too attached and go with the flow with it, don't let yourself get taken advantage of

if you feel you are getting too attached or being manipulated drop her straight away[/QUOTE]

I'm planning to talk to her after work today. Hopefully i can sort it out. Find out if she actually wants to date or just be friends with benefits. I'm thinking she wants the latter considering she just got out of an 8 month relo with a psychopath/Sociopath.

[IlluminatiRex]

Well, I finally told my crush of 3 years how I feel.

I saw the rejection coming, so I took it in stride. I just feel loads better.

[neos300]

So I asked a girl out a few weeks ago, she said no but wanted to be friends, so I got over it and became friends with her.
Now I was driving her home tonight (we presented a high school science project together, big group project) and as I dropped her off she appeared to have blew me a kiss. (I'm not completely sure, I wasn't looking but judging by the sound I'd guess so).

She's french Canadian (this happened in America), is that sort of thing normal to do to friends? Anyone versed in Canadian culture want to help me out?

[Heigou]

As a french canadian, the experience I gathered with the french canadian girls is that they're often very manipulative and love playing with people.

Obviously as with everything it doesn't go for all of them but it's the case way more than it should be.

[Jo The Shmo]

ive been seeing this girl for a bit, i really like her and she really likes me
today i was talking to this guy who knows both of us, and the second i mentioned i was seeing her, his first response was "be careful"
i didn't think much of it because who cares what this guy thinks

but tonight i was with the girl, and we were talking about that guy and she told me one time she spent hours and hours talking to him and spilling every detail of her life
so now i was thinking about the "be careful" more and more, because the guy must have known her really well
i decided to just ask her about it, and she got mad at the guy, and said something like "oh it must have been about my history!"
i just said it didn't matter to me and didn't push it any further, and changed subjects

but i just can't stop thinking about it, why would it be such a big deal to both of them, i keep wondering what it is
im trying not to let something stupid like this ruin anything but its kinda hard

[Rusty100]

maybe he just got burned of 'friend zoned' by her one time, i seriously think u need more than 'be careful' to be worried. i could say 'be careful' about every woman i know and mean it but it not be something you can't easily overcome.

[Jo The Shmo]

no youre mistaken this is just one of those guys that everyone loves talking to. i would spill my life story to him if i was talking to him for hours
they definitely have never been involved

[Loopoo]

The same happened with me. Over time you'll come to realize what exactly it is he warned you about and whether it even warranted a "be careful" to begin with. I had it constantly in my head and it was always on the verge of ruining things, but then as time went on I realized that it was a be careful for him and not really for me (since not everyone is the same).

[editline]16th January 2014[/editline]

I visited Edinburgh last weekend and met up with my girlfriend and her friend, it was such a great experience. Funny how we just fell back into the motions, like the months apart didn't really change how we were together. Also, Edinburgh is an incredibly beautiful city, visit it if you ever get the chance.

We're planning on going to Wales sometime in the future, looking forward to that.

[Rusty100]

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;43554791]no youre mistaken this is just one of those guys that everyone loves talking to. i would spill my life story to him if i was talking to him for hours
they definitely have never been involved[/QUOTE]

that doesn't change the fact that you can apply the 'be careful' thing to literally anyone ever.

[RocketRacer]

I sent the girl I like a message on FB and she didn't answer(nor read) the message for three days. I'm getting paranoid that she's ignoring me. I'm back in UK tomorrow and will only be able to see her on monday.

[[sluggo]]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;43562514]I sent the girl I like a message on FB and she didn't answer(nor read) the message for three days. I'm getting paranoid that she's ignoring me. I'm back in UK tomorrow and will only be able to see her on monday.[/QUOTE]

Don't be paranoid. Does she have a reason to ignore you? Was she unfriendly the last time you saw her? If not then she probably just missed it.

[Splash Attack]

Man, I just realized that I've spent a vast majority of my winter break to myself playing games. I really need to go socialize with some people. Me time is nice and all, but I just feel like a slob hardly doing anything social or productive.

[Mr. Bleak]

I spent a vast majority of my winter break either getting drunk, doing drugs, or sleeping.

Honestly, vidya sounds like a massively better alternative to me.

Ever try going to the gym? I've met a few people there since I've straightened my act up and it's quite nice.

[Splash Attack]

Eh, I've never been incredibly physically active, and during the school year I don't really have the time to dedicate towards working out much.

[Heigou]

That's bullshit, I have school from 8 am to 9 pm and I still find the time to work out.

I've never been very physically active either, I used to be 275 lbs, I can assure you I wasn't running marathons, and I got down to 170 in about a year and a half.

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;43554753]ive been seeing this girl for a bit, i really like her and she really likes me
today i was talking to this guy who knows both of us, and the second i mentioned i was seeing her, his first response was "be careful"
i didn't think much of it because who cares what this guy thinks

but tonight i was with the girl, and we were talking about that guy and she told me one time she spent hours and hours talking to him and spilling every detail of her life
so now i was thinking about the "be careful" more and more, because the guy must have known her really well
i decided to just ask her about it, and she got mad at the guy, and said something like "oh it must have been about my history!"
i just said it didn't matter to me and didn't push it any further, and changed subjects

but i just can't stop thinking about it, why would it be such a big deal to both of them, i keep wondering what it is
im trying not to let something stupid like this ruin anything but its kinda hard[/QUOTE]

Considering she spilled every detail of her life to him, it's pretty safe to say they were really hitting it off earlier, and he doesn't seem to happy about how it's not like that anymore. If you can get him to actually explain himself, that'd probably be more helpful, but "be careful", without any explanation, sounds more like he doesn't like you being around her.

[JackAttack]

OK guys, here's my situation.

I like this girl, this girl likes me. We are both aware of this, however we are both also kind of socially awkward and nervous as fuck.

How do i make the first move?

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=jackattack;43569938]OK guys, here's my situation.

I like this girl, this girl likes me. We are both aware of this, however we are both also kind of socially awkward and nervous as fuck.

How do i make the first move?[/QUOTE]

Take her on a date.

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=jackattack;43569938]I like this girl, this girl likes me.[/QUOTE]
You lucky man...

[Tin Can™]

Curious unrelated question I'd like to hear everyone's thoughts on, from both genders and from whatever country you live in

Does the way YOU say someone's name change (softness/tone/etc), when for example talking to them or just greeting them, depending on your relation to that person?

[JackAttack]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;43570077]Take her on a date.[/QUOTE]

How? I mean we both got this info yesterday and will see each other next on Monday.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;43569447]Considering she spilled every detail of her life to him, it's pretty safe to say they were really hitting it off earlier, and he doesn't seem to happy about how it's not like that anymore. If you can get him to actually explain himself, that'd probably be more helpful, but "be careful", without any explanation, sounds more like he doesn't like you being around her.[/QUOTE]

i don't think they were hitting it off at all

my friend always tells me everything of her life and i tell her mine, but we don't like each other, she has a boyfriend and i don't really want to date her, we just connect really well

telling someone be careful can be anything, i've told my friends "be careful" when dating my other friends just because i want to dick with them it really means nothing, it's like if my friend was dating someone and i told their SO "I'm sorry for your loss" it doesn't mean anything i'm just being a dick to my friend

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=VaSTinY;43570309]Curious unrelated question I'd like to hear everyone's thoughts on, from both genders and from whatever country you live in

Does the way YOU say someone's name change (softness/tone/etc), when for example talking to them or just greeting them, depending on your relation to that person?[/QUOTE]

Vaguely I guess, but perhaps less about how you say their name and more how you address them. For example I'd address a work colleague I know ell differently to one I'm friends with outside of work and again differently to one I don't know at all and again totally differently to how I'd address an old friend.