Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Heigou]

I've always thought of myself as really ugly and with my loner tendencies, I don't really have anyone contradicting me and saying that I look good or some shit, it hasn't really affected my self-esteem because I don't care if I'm ugly, I just won't go and brag about being some handsome guy though.

[RocketRacer]

Tomorrow I'm gonna try and meet thatgirlIlike which walked away from me really fast(I bet she wasn't in a hurry because she was just standing with her friend and waiting for another friend) when I said hi to her. Feeling terrible when I think of that because I've done literally nothing.

Also on the bus today I met a guy I'm seeing almost every day because he is a friend of all the people I talk to and we chatted all the way until I got off the bus. It's something.

[Memnoth]

[QUOTE=Mr. Bleak;43633237]I used to always think I was ugly but since I've dropped a bit of weight I think I'm on the fairly attractive side of the scale.

I mean, there's this dude I went to high school with that looks like Brad Pitt and I know I'm nowhere near that level of attractiveness but I see all kinds of people around that I find myself better looking than.

Then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. No doubt someone will find something in anyone.[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=Heigou;43633307]I've always thought of myself as really ugly and with my loner tendencies, I don't really have anyone contradicting me and saying that I look good or some shit, it hasn't really affected my self-esteem because I don't care if I'm ugly, I just won't go and brag about being some handsome guy though.[/QUOTE]

Life quality shouldn't be determined by an image based in self awareness, it doesn't change who you are. Compassion and love is blind to everyone.

[Kite_shugo]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;43633516]Tomorrow I'm gonna try and meet thatgirlIlike which walked away from me really fast(I bet she wasn't in a hurry because she was just standing with her friend and waiting for another friend) when I said hi to her. Feeling terrible when I think of that because I've done literally nothing.

Also on the bus today I met a guy I'm seeing almost every day because he is a friend of all the people I talk to and we chatted all the way until I got off the bus. It's something.[/QUOTE]

I say that you completely back off of showing this girl any interest for a week or two; and wait to see if she shows any signs of having attraction back. If not; she seems like a girl you might want to let go judging from your previous posts about her. Not that you can't be friends though

[JackAttack]

Apparently i'm cute and kind of hot and stuff according to other people. I guess if i were gay i probably would. It's my interests that tend to turn away the ladies though.

[NoDachi]

what interests?

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=Memnoth;43633711]Life quality shouldn't be determined by an image based in self awareness, it doesn't change who you are. Compassion and love is blind to everyone.[/QUOTE]

i look like a little boy and my life is strongly impacted by this

all middle-aged women want to be my mom

[Loopoo]

I'm half Arab and I can't grow a beard. I bring dishonour to my bloodline.

[editline]22nd January 2014[/editline]

I get clocked at 19 all the time despite being 21 and being tall and broad-shouldered. Fuckin' smooth as baby-butt skin and lack of facial hair.

[Heigou]

I get clocked at like 30 even though I'm 21 and I think I look like I'm 16 still.

[editline]22nd January 2014[/editline]

It's the beard, got the babyface under it.

[Memnoth]

[QUOTE=thisispain;43634684]i look like a little boy and my life is strongly impacted by this

all middle-aged women want to be my mom[/QUOTE]

If you can purify patience in this situation, you will have transcended into a new identity.

[JackAttack]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;43634475]what interests?[/QUOTE]

The interests of someone who frequents Facepunch. Don't get me wrong, I've known girls that share my interests, i know they exist. Just most of the ones i know at the moment are turned off by the video games and shit.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=jackattack;43636745]The interests of someone who frequents Facepunch. Don't get me wrong, I've known girls that share my interests, i know they exist. Just most of the ones i know at the moment are turned off by the video games and shit.[/QUOTE]

its probably something deeper than that

[E Quantifier]

So in the concert band at school there's this sax player who is hearing impaired, (deaf? She has a hearing aid and translator) she's really attractive and we smile at eachother when she comes in, but I've got two issues, I only see her for a few minutes, and how would I even talk to her, her answers are always concise since she's not completely fluent in vocal speech. I'm afraid of saying something that could be misinterpreted or just a lot of words she might not know. Or maybe I'm just better if admiring from a distance.

[JackAttack]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;43637630]its probably something deeper than that[/QUOTE]

Trust me it isn't. I've been trying to meet more girls as the ones I've met recently have found me rather charming as opposed to those I've know a while.

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=Kite_shugo;43633875]I say that you completely back off of showing this girl any interest for a week or two; and wait to see if she shows any signs of having attraction back. If not; she seems like a girl you might want to let go judging from your previous posts about her. Not that you can't be friends though[/QUOTE]
Should I? Or I should try to meet her today? I'm just unsure what to do in this situation to not fuck everything up even more even though I've done nothing asides from asking her out twice via FB because it was either a holiday or I wasn't in the coutry. But in the same time I want to meet her and at least try to talk to her. shit

[Leader of Me]

I just found out from the guy that the girl I liked married on Facebook that they both have feelings for each other even though they haven't met. She is supposed to have a thing with someone who is currently over from Melbourne right now and now she's been leading both of these guys on. About a month ago, she had a thing with another guy and didn't tell the Melbourne guy at all and when this other guy called it off with her she went back to him, now she's pulling this shit again with a new guy and it's not fair on. This is so fucked and I really feel sorry for both of these guys. I'm definitely getting out of this situation. She isn't right for me.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=jackattack;43640164]Trust me it isn't. I've been trying to meet more girls as the ones I've met recently have found me rather charming as opposed to those I've know a while.[/QUOTE]

That is probably because the ones who know you for a long time, simply know you better.

There has got to be more to this than simply playing computer games

[Memnoth]

By the way, do you guys want to put things in perspective?

I have Asperger Syndrome and Bipolar Disorder (a psychotic mood disorder), my best friend is my dealer, I'm 23 years old and have never been intimate with a woman. My life consists of reading stuff on the internet, going in and out of hospitals whenever my bipolar is acting up, and posting stuff on facepunch. On top of that I'm an alcoholic, sober at the moment though. I'm on 5 different medications just to keep me sane.

I've been thinking a lot about death lately. Sometimes when I wake up in the morning I wish I was still asleep.

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;43640240]Should I? Or I should try to meet her today? I'm just unsure what to do in this situation to not fuck everything up even more even though I've done nothing asides from asking her out twice via FB because it was either a holiday or I wasn't in the coutry. But in the same time I want to meet her and at least try to talk to her. shit[/QUOTE]
So basically when I was waiting for some other guys outside(to go on the lunch with) I saw her standing and waiting for her friends, and then she really walked away making like a half circle around me and then going for the exit(instead of going straight which obviously would be faster). So now I'm starting to think, either I am that huge of a disaster, or I am being selfish and thinking that she's doing it because I scrwed up(somehow, somewhen, no idea how/when). Plus on arts lesson we had a discussion going on with the class and I supported her on her argument(there was no teacher in the class so it was just a random talk) and she wasn't looking somewhat 'hostile' against me or anything.

[Jacob_sword]

Guys I have a dilemma. This girl I've known for the past two weeks started talking to me and we begain talking allot. We did something's and she kinda of lead me on. But she all ready has a boyfriend. So now my morals have come into question. She apologized for leading me on. But from what she said she doesn't seem to like her boyfriend that much anymore. And she does really like me. So should I say fuck it and try to get her to leave her boyfriend for me. Or should I just stop

[Heigou]

She led you on once, what makes you think she's not just doing that again.

Bail out.

[Mr. Bleak]

What do you mean by you've "done some things?"

If she's that type of girl, I'd stay away tbh. Generally, you're in for a bad experience if she's the type to lead you on and do stuff with you while she already has a boyfriend.

[ichiman94]

[QUOTE=Memnoth;43642487]By the way, do you guys want to put things in perspective?

I have Asperger Syndrome and Bipolar Disorder (a psychotic mood disorder), my best friend is my dealer, I'm 23 years old and have never been intimate with a woman. My life consists of reading stuff on the internet, going in and out of hospitals whenever my bipolar is acting up, and posting stuff on facepunch. On top of that I'm an alcoholic, sober at the moment though. I'm on 5 different medications just to keep me sane.

I've been thinking a lot about death lately. Sometimes when I wake up in the morning I wish I was still asleep.[/QUOTE]

Don't give up please. I think about killing myself when I'm drunk a bit, but then I realize that I have to do a lot of things which I've never done. Considering this, I try to build up my courage and fix my insecurity which was caused by an abusive psychotic father-in-law who beat me everyday whenever I did anything wrong when I was six. I have some friends and now I think that if I try to be a lot more positive about myself peole (and girls!!!) would like me more. I still have a long way to go and I'm not sure if I'm on the right track, but I think I can do it.

There are millions of people who you can meet and there are a lot of activities which can bring you to these people. I don't know anything about these disorders, but if you meet the right people, they wouldn't leave you for it and they may help you out. Just please try and never give up. You have a lot of things to do in your life and I'm sure you will (or have) meet new people who will be your friends and girlfriends. You can find a shitton of hobby to start with, there is nothing to stop you from trying out them. You can do anything you want, just do it, keep trying, move on.

[Jacob_sword]

We basically got kinda of intimate online last night. And I think she wants to break up with him but I really don't know. I also knew she had a boyfriend befor last night so guess it's part my fault too for not stoping her. She's just really awesome. Like guys I'm not even joking this chick is into deadpool old video games like the N64 and everything. I really want her but at the same time it would mean destroying everything I believe in like for one not stealing another guys girl.

[Heigou]

[QUOTE=Jacob_sword;43645760]We basically

got kinda of intimate online last night. And I think she wants to break up with him but I really don't know. I also knew she had a boyfriend befor last night so guess it's part my fault too for not stoping her. She's just really awesome. Like guys I'm not even joking this chick is into deadpool old video games like the N64 and everything. I really want her but at the same time it would mean destroying everything I believe in like for one not stealing another guys girl.[/QUOTE]

Stop that limerence at once and don't put her on a pedestal. Just bail out, she led you on once and from a third person perspective, it looks like she's doing just the same again, even if she wasn't that is NOT the kind of girl you want to be with, bail out seriously, it's for the best, fuck that deadpool omg she loves n64 shit.

[Kite_shugo]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;43642979]So basically when I was waiting for some other guys outside(to go on the lunch with) I saw her standing and waiting for her friends, and then she really walked away making like a half circle around me and then going for the exit(instead of going straight which obviously would be faster). So now I'm starting to think, either I am that huge of a disaster, or I am being selfish and thinking that she's doing it because I scrwed up(somehow, somewhen, no idea how/when). Plus on arts lesson we had a discussion going on with the class and I supported her on her argument(there was no teacher in the class so it was just a random talk) and she wasn't looking somewhat 'hostile' against me or anything.[/QUOTE]

Just stop showing that you care for a few days, focus on other things; see if she initiates anything with you. Obviously start acting normal again if she does

[Un.Hxx.Aé]

[QUOTE=Memnoth;43631177]This was before I knew I had bipolar disorder, now I'm on 5 different medications to keep me stable.

As English is my second language, I inferred that whacked out meant heavily affected by drugs.[/QUOTE]

Känner jag dig kanske?

[JackAttack]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;43642334]That is probably because the ones who know you for a long time, simply know you better.

There has got to be more to this than simply playing computer games[/QUOTE]

Man i'm not talking seriously here, thats literally all it is. I'm talking about like 3 girls.

[RocketRacer]

[QUOTE=Kite_shugo;43646236]Just stop showing that you care for a few days, focus on other things; see if she initiates anything with you. Obviously start acting normal again if she does[/QUOTE]

She almost never did that first, I started to talk to her first anyways. At least recently I got even more people I can go on lunch with.

[Kite_shugo]

[QUOTE=RocketRacer;43647379]She almost never did that first, I started to talk to her first anyways. At least recently I got even more people I can go on lunch with.[/QUOTE]
It's your call man; have you ever had the chance to get her number?