Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[343N]

[QUOTE=jackattack;43723301]How old are you both exactly, don't recall the school system too well.[/QUOTE]

15, i don't know her age but she's a year above me in school so 16 probably.
also i'm not asking her out (at the moment anyway) I just want to know what to say after her maybe hating me and not talking for a long time

[Memnoth]

[QUOTE=Jarokwa;43723138]I think I made a mistake and I feel like a jackass.

I've had a female best friend for about 5 years now, and we were on the phone yesterday and she suddenly asks, ''Why don't we just start a relationship?'', I was kinda stunned at first but in the first moments of thinking about it we both realized that we were kinda what the other was looking for, so we both said yes to it.

Now after a night of sleeping I'm wondering and I'm honestly doubting that I'm ready for another relationship, what the fuck do I do?[/QUOTE]

A relationship is the merging of two identities, make sure you have a strong foundation of who you are before taking on the needs of someone else. Just take it very slowly if you're doubtful, time will probably decide the fate of this situation.

[editline]30th January 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=343N;43722904]ok FP i need your advice
there's this one friend i haven't talked to in over a year (I'm yr10 now she's yr11) now (and for good reason we were seperated and it was impossible to talk to eachother since year 7-9 and 10-12 grades are seperated at lunch) and I want to talk to her again... problem is I think she might hate me cause I walked off on her the last time we talked (because of my anxiety I had), along with the fact that I never actually got her name. I want to go up to her and talk to her but I have no idea what to say. I'd talk to her on facebook or whatever but she doesn't have it (as far as I know) so I can only talk to her IRL and I don't know what to say cause I feel like it'll be awkward (especially if she hates me after walking off on her!!).[/QUOTE]

You're over-analyzing the situation, looking at it objectively, the both of you are simply in different social circles. Maybe even start the conversation with "Hey, we haven't talked in a long time, how are things going?". Don't assume things will be awkward, and about that "she hating you" is another assumption. If you act like you don't believe that she's mad at you, the conversation is going to happen naturally, you just have to take a deep breath and take the first step. For the moment, she is simply another friend.

[426_Hemi]

[QUOTE=Kindlinho;43718430]I always thought that all Frenchmen are born with the ability to weaken the legs of women. So - are you an immigrant?[/QUOTE]

Well Frenchladies got used to it :suicide:

Also today I decided to act as the same way as if knew everyone that was around me and discovered how cool and relatively easy it is to spoke with people when you act naturally.

Also I successfulled at talking a few words with her - just random shit about the spelling of some words or how bad is our spanish teacher. It's really a few, but it made my day. Now time to continue that and try to get closer .

thanks

[fear me]

I find myself wondering how long it'll take before my long-distance-mutual-crush gets tired of me lol

[editline]afd[/editline]

[QUOTE=Friend]I'm meeting up with someone during my break when we usually skype..

I just haven't seen him in a long time, and I saw him this morning when he was going to class. So were going to catch up..[/QUOTE]

My crippling anxiety senses are tingling.

[redBadger]

Question, though I think the answer is obvious.

I've noticed a pretty girl around my campus but we don't know each other nor do we have any classes together. I keep seeing her though.

Question is, how do I approach her without sounding like a creep? What would I say? I simply want to get to know her first, not an actual date.

[Hugh Janus]

[QUOTE=redBadger;43730588]Question, though I think the answer is obvious.

I've noticed a pretty girl around my campus but we don't know each other nor do we have any classes together. I keep seeing her though.

Question is, how do I approach her without sounding like a creep? What would I say? I simply want to get to know her first, not an actual date.[/QUOTE]

you keep seeing her? from experience, i know those are not coincidences, especially in college. mister, are you stalking her? or maybe she is. w/e, go talk to her.

[ramirez!]

[QUOTE=Hugh Janus;43730661]you keep seeing her? from experience, i know those are not coincidences, especially in college. mister, are you stalking her? or maybe she is. w/e, go talk to her.[/QUOTE]

that's not necessarily true. I go to a commuter college and see the same people walking my way every day; they're not stalking me and I'm sure not stalking them.

[Hugh Janus]

[QUOTE=ramirez!;43730936]that's not necessarily true. I go to a commuter college and see the same people walking my way every day; they're not stalking me and I'm sure not stalking them.[/QUOTE]

yea, there's always the people you see since the beginning of the year. it's when a person, out of nowhere, starts showing up everywhere one day so suddenly that something might be up.

[ramirez!]

[QUOTE=Hugh Janus;43731037]yea, there's always the people you see since the beginning of the year. it's when a person, out of nowhere, starts showing up everywhere one day so suddenly that something might be up.[/QUOTE]

true enough, I was worried someone would think I was stalking them when I switched classes two weeks into the semester. didn't make eye contact and everything was fine.

[Hugh Janus]

[QUOTE=Hugh Janus;43730661]you keep seeing her? from experience, i know those are not coincidences, especially in college. mister, are you stalking her? or maybe she is. w/e, go talk to her.[/QUOTE]

yea this post sounds pretty dumb, i was just going by previous experiences. went to highschool with sister, saw her friends alot, didn't think much of it until she told me told me i was being stalked and they were deliberately getting in my way. this happened more than once so i guess that's how i got that mindset.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=redBadger;43730588]Question, though I think the answer is obvious.

I've noticed a pretty girl around my campus but we don't know each other nor do we have any classes together. I keep seeing her though.

Question is, how do I approach her without sounding like a creep? What would I say? I simply want to get to know her first, not an actual date.[/QUOTE]

"Hi my name is ____"

[editline]31st January 2014[/editline]

literally anything can be said as long as you sound confident and have a clear intent. You can even go and say "Hey, I can't think of anything to say, isn't that crazy?"

[CyanLime]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43732325]"Hi my name is ____"

[editline]31st January 2014[/editline]

literally anything can be said as long as you sound confident and have a clear intent. You can even go and say "Hey, I can't think of anything to say, isn't that crazy?"[/QUOTE]

both of those are pretty cringey tbh

start with "hey", and introduce yourself by telling her your name, asking for her name etc if she doesn't know you already, then try asking a context-specific question, like something about her studies.

[Fire Kracker]

if u think ur good looking enough walk up to her and be like "hey I think you're cute what's your name?"

otherwise avoid this

[CyanLime]

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;43734265]if u think ur good looking enough walk up to her and be like "hey I think you're cute what's your name?"

otherwise avoid this[/QUOTE]

tbh i think confidence matters more than looks here but obvs if you're butt ugly you're not probably not gonna get a good reaction

[HookerVomit]

Hi, hello, good morning.. :c

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Cyanlime;43733963]both of those are pretty cringey tbh

start with "hey", and introduce yourself by telling her your name, asking for her name etc if she doesn't know you already, then try asking a context-specific question, like something about her studies.[/QUOTE]

i dont think thats cringey. And tbh honest if you came to someone and asked, "So how's your studies?" or whatever the fuck, she'd be like "What the fuck does this guy want from me?"

[426_Hemi]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43737814]i dont think thats cringey. And tbh honest if you came to someone and asked, "So how's your studies?" or whatever the fuck, she'd be like "What the fuck does this guy want from me?"[/QUOTE]

The fact here is to insert the subliminal message " Hey you're the most beautiful lady I ever saw " in a random sentance. If she get the message, she won't care much about the original meaning of the sentance.

I think.

[editline]31st January 2014[/editline]
fixed post :suicide:

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43737814]i dont think thats cringey. And tbh honest if you came to someone and asked, "So how's your studies?" or whatever the fuck, she'd be like "What the fuck does this guy want from me?"[/QUOTE]

yeah don't ask about studies or anything that's too personal

talk about the weather or something, i do this on the bridge i have to walk across to get to the other campus, you meet a lot of people in the winter when the weather outside is shit

[redBadger]

[QUOTE=426_Hemi;43738282]The fact here is to insert the subliminal message " Hey you're the most beautiful lad I ever saw " in a random sentance. If she get the message, she won't care much about the original meaning of the sentance.

I think.[/QUOTE]

But if she does catch on she'll know you just called her a dude...

[editline]31st January 2014[/editline]

Also I guess my main problem is my mentality. I need an excuse to go up to some random person and bring up that they're pretty after the fact. I just don't know what exactly I should be doing.

[Uncle Fassbender]

Similar to the posts before me, I would also like to know how one tells a girl they're pretty because it's pretty obvious you can't say it right off the bat. How do you lead up to it?

[426_Hemi]

[QUOTE=redBadger;43739760]But if she does catch on she'll know you just called her a dude...

[editline]31st January 2014[/editline]

Also I guess my main problem is my mentality. I need an excuse to go up to some random person and bring up that they're pretty after the fact. I just don't know what exactly I should be doing.[/QUOTE]

There are a lot of excuses you can use if you're in a school context. Like " Hey here's your pen, you forgot it on your table after the math lesson " or stuff like that ( she run out of paper pages, ink cartridge ... Be the first to offer one ! ) . It didn't led me anywhere but just by taking attention to those little détails last week got me a few occasions to have some human to human contact with [I]that one [/I] person , before trying to go any further.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;43739973]Similar to the posts before me, I would also like to know how one tells a girl they're pretty because it's pretty obvious you [B]can't say it right off the bat[/B]. How do you lead up to it?[/QUOTE]

Why? Is there a social rule Im not aware of? Why are people limiting themselves? "Hi, Im_____ and youre cute"

[JackAttack]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43741141]Why? Is there a social rule Im not aware of? Why are people limiting themselves? "Hi, Im_____ and youre cute"[/QUOTE]

I guess its a thing, my first relationship started with being told that i was cute.

Wait.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;43739973]Similar to the posts before me, I would also like to know how one tells a girl they're pretty because it's pretty obvious you can't say it right off the bat. How do you lead up to it?[/QUOTE]

no you just tell them

"hey you look good today" and say that until they're like "hey you told me that yesterday too" and then you can be all like "that's because you look good every day" and then bam instant sex

[editline]31st January 2014[/editline]

why do girls who establish that they like me always name me "jerk", "bully" or something like that in their phones

): mean

[ardosos]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;43741141]Why? Is there a social rule Im not aware of? Why are people limiting themselves? "Hi, Im_____ and youre cute"[/QUOTE]

You have to be fairly attractive to pull that off, otherwise it comes off as being really creepy.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Ardosos;43743810]You have to be fairly attractive to pull that off, otherwise it comes off as being really creepy.[/QUOTE]

if by attractive you mean a guy who comes across as confident and cool, yeah. If you mean good looking, not at all.

[zukriuchen]

yeah, appearance is important but unless you look like a cave troll, i'd say delivery is even more important

[Daniel Smith]

I'm freaking out and I can't stop having bad dreams about college. I'm hoping to go to Sheridan in September 2015 which is almost 2 years from now and I am worried that I might not be good enough to be accepted. It's literally the best art and animation college in North America and I don't know if I could be able to draw well by then, for most of my life I learned how to draw by myself and only recently I decided to get serious about it and I need help with not freaking out. I can't stop thinking about failing and its getting to me.

[ForDaNords]

I've been trying to decide whether I have a crush on this girl or not. I barely know her, yet whenever I talk to her, I start feeling extremely happy and filled with emotions. I've never thought of her sexually, but I do feel something I can't describe whenever I'm with her (I hope that doesn't sound bad!). Do I just want to be friends with her or do I like her?

[lordcrypto]

i hate that feeling when you want to talk but literally no one you talk to is online on steam or other social chat platforms