• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Arrk;43810645]So I am a bit confused. There's this chick in our school and she's amazing. She's hot as hell, super talented and god damn smart. Now what got me to notice her, was that she was super friendly with EVERYONE. Like, it's as if the whole school was her friend. Except. Except she acts like I kicked her puppy or something towards me. Like, she sometimes ignores me completely, which makes it difficult, because we're both in student council. But ok, fine, be that way. A couple of days ago we got assigned to work on a few projects together. Sure why not. So we were working, and even though she was her usual not-friendly-to-me self, she kept doing this thing that whenever we did talk, or had to do a thing together, she positioned herself so that we were in some sort of physical contact. Like, our feet were touching, or our knees or our shoulders etc. No this wouldn't be anything to post about, but what's got me confused is that I noticed that she avoids physical contact like plague from other people. Like even her best friend, she just tries to stay at least 4 feet away from anyone. Except me. TL;DR This one chick acts like I ran over her cat, but keeps touching me, while avoiding everyone else like they got rabies.[/QUOTE] maybe she's comfortable with you i act like a jerk with people i'm comfortable with probably why girls all call me bully or jerk in their phones
[QUOTE=Ardosos;43817510]What's the social etiquette for people on their phones? Like if there's someone sitting next to me in the union and I see that they're just lazily browsing facebook or playing candy crush or whatever, is it rude to try and start up a conversation with them?[/QUOTE] Usually should be fine, don't comment on what's on their screen though.
[QUOTE=thelurker1234;43817688]Usually should be fine, don't comment on what's on their screen though.[/QUOTE] I have to stop screenwatching people. I don't mean to do it but at the same time I keep accidentally glancing.
Yeah I've never vented before so here goes. Basically the few girls that I come to find myself attracted to always seem to be in long term relationships. I also find it really hard to meet other girls that I do like, and here's why. Most of my classes are lecture halls in uni with one exception, my Comp. Sci. class. I was happy about this except it's filled with neckbeards and one Korean girl who's like a foot shorter than me. The sad part is, it's been like this my whole life though. Never been in a relationship, nothing. Most I've got is a kiss on the cheek from friends. All through high school it was the same story (except the first two years where I was so introverted I couldn't bear to ask my friend of two years out even though it was real obvious she was into me). Anyway, I digress, every girl I've found myself interested in beyond that point had been dating someone, including the friend I just mentioned (yes she dated another person for the remaining two years of high school). It's awful, I feel empty and like I've been missing out socially my entire life and I have. I know, there's dating sites and stuff but I don't feel comfortable with those. It's something about meeting up with a person behind a screen you've never met before that puts me off. So what should I do, just keep waiting and hope I meet someone I'm interested in and hope they aren't dating someone already? I see people who look attractive to me coming and going to class but it's the fact that I don't ever have opportunities to meet these people that just ruins me. It also usually ends up that the few people I do meet, not to beat the dead horse, seem to always be in long term relationships with people.
opportunities are made not found if you see them, doing anything, walking, using their phone(not during a call), etc... and then ask your friends to hook you up too, it actually works irl and not just in movies and stuff
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;43819327]opportunities are made not found if you see them, doing anything, walking, using their phone(not during a call), etc... and then ask your friends to hook you up too, it actually works irl and not just in movies and stuff[/QUOTE] Hm, I'll keep that in mind. Thanks
[QUOTE=WitheredGryphon;43818764]Yeah I've never vented before so here goes. Basically the few girls that I come to find myself attracted to always seem to be in long term relationships. I also find it really hard to meet other girls that I do like, and here's why. Most of my classes are lecture halls in uni with one exception, my Comp. Sci. class. I was happy about this except it's filled with neckbeards and one Korean girl who's like a foot shorter than me. The sad part is, it's been like this my whole life though. Never been in a relationship, nothing. Most I've got is a kiss on the cheek from friends. All through high school it was the same story (except the first two years where I was so introverted I couldn't bear to ask my friend of two years out even though it was real obvious she was into me). Anyway, I digress, every girl I've found myself interested in beyond that point had been dating someone, including the friend I just mentioned (yes she dated another person for the remaining two years of high school). It's awful, I feel empty and like I've been missing out socially my entire life and I have. I know, there's dating sites and stuff but I don't feel comfortable with those. It's something about meeting up with a person behind a screen you've never met before that puts me off. So what should I do, just keep waiting and hope I meet someone I'm interested in and hope they aren't dating someone already? I see people who look attractive to me coming and going to class but it's the fact that I don't ever have opportunities to meet these people that just ruins me. It also usually ends up that the few people I do meet, not to beat the dead horse, seem to always be in long term relationships with people.[/QUOTE] Right with you there man. Just today I had my heart clenched. A girl I've worked with for 2 years and cook dinner for almost every night is hooking up with a friend of mine (she recently split with her boyfriend). I've never had a relationship last longer than 2 weeks and they always ended because some other guy that was better looking than I was involved. It's like every opportunity I have is suddenly ripped away from me without me even having a chance to try. Me and her used to talk for hours after work, and out of nowhere my schedule changes and I stay longer than she does; like the universe itself just cock-blocked me. It's like there's so many dead-ends it's easy to give up hope. I even had a girl I fell in love with back in high school date my friend for the final 2 years. Seeing them together over time broke me to my core. And nothing has changed over 3 years, not even moving to a new state helped. I run into the same bullshit and heartache no matter where I am. I'm a good looking guy (relatively speaking), I'm mellow, I don't act out, I have a solid work ethic, and I have clear goals. So why is it that normal people like us have a hard time finding love? That fact kills my morale more than anything. The solution to this has eluded me my whole life. I always hear the typical advice and have a hard time believing that what worked for them will suddenly work for me. And dating sites? To me it sounds too much like a desperate call for help than actually finding someone naturally.
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[QUOTE=Arrk;43810645]TL;DR This one chick acts like I ran over her cat, but keeps touching me, while avoiding everyone else like they got rabies.[/QUOTE] Update on this. So, since there is a math thing of some kind in our school, everyone who's not participating in it has a free day off. I was really happy about sleeping in, but I got a call at about 7. It was her, and she was as cold as ever even on the phone. And while being cold like the antarctic she asked me to go to movies with her. It wasn't even a "do you want to go?" it was, and I quote: "You're going to the movies with me, be there at 14:40 and don't be late" and before I could even reply she just hang up.
That a boy Arrk. Gettin' it done!
[QUOTE=Arrk;43821090]Update on this. So, since there is a math thing of some kind in our school, everyone who's not participating in it has a free day off. I was really happy about sleeping in, but I got a call at about 7. It was her, and she was as cold as ever even on the phone. And while being cold like the antarctic she asked me to go to movies with her. It wasn't even a "do you want to go?" it was, and I quote: "You're going to the movies with me, be there at 14:40 and don't be late" and before I could even reply she just hang up.[/QUOTE] see she likes you
[QUOTE=Insulator;43820468]Right with you there man. Just today I had my heart clenched. A girl I've worked with for 2 years and cook dinner for almost every night is hooking up with a friend of mine (she recently split with her boyfriend). I've never had a relationship last longer than 2 weeks and they always ended because some other guy that was better looking than I was involved. It's like every opportunity I have is suddenly ripped away from me without me even having a chance to try. Me and her used to talk for hours after work, and out of nowhere my schedule changes and I stay longer than she does; like the universe itself just cock-blocked me. It's like there's so many dead-ends it's easy to give up hope. I even had a girl I fell in love with back in high school date my friend for the final 2 years. Seeing them together over time broke me to my core. And nothing has changed over 3 years, not even moving to a new state helped. I run into the same bullshit and heartache no matter where I am. I'm a good looking guy (relatively speaking), I'm mellow, I don't act out, I have a solid work ethic, and I have clear goals. So why is it that normal people like us have a hard time finding love? That fact kills my morale more than anything. The solution to this has eluded me my whole life. I always hear the typical advice and have a hard time believing that what worked for them will suddenly work for me. And dating sites? To me it sounds too much like a desperate call for help than actually finding someone naturally.[/QUOTE] well not to be insensitive here but just because you fall in love with a girl doesn't mean they're going to go out with you. just seems like the friends always beat you to the punch when it comes to actually hooking up
[QUOTE=Arrk;43821090]Update on this. So, since there is a math thing of some kind in our school, everyone who's not participating in it has a free day off. I was really happy about sleeping in, but I got a call at about 7. It was her, and she was as cold as ever even on the phone. And while being cold like the antarctic she asked me to go to movies with her. It wasn't even a "do you want to go?" it was, and I quote: "You're going to the movies with me, be there at 14:40 and don't be late" and before I could even reply she just hang up.[/QUOTE] she's going to kill you
[QUOTE=Cyanlime;43828304]she's going to kill you[/QUOTE] yeah he's fucked [editline]7th February 2014[/editline] and not in a good way [editline]7th February 2014[/editline] like in a dead way
Anybody else doing stuff for the SO for valentines? I found myself a really nice girlfriend over the christmas break and we fell into a super comfortable relationship pretty much straight away, but now i'm 250 miles away back at uni. We text each other ever day and we've decided to take it in turns to visit every 2 weeks so it's going well but I found out she's never been sent anything or celebrated valentines so I thought i'd send her some flowers through the post. I'm having a really hard time finding fucking cards to go with the flowers that don't come off too strongly. Just a simple "I really really like you" would do, but everything has I LOVE YOU spattered 5 times in bold text all over it, fucks sake.
1.get a piece of card 2. write whatever you want with a marker 3.??? 4.profit 5. theres no step 5
[QUOTE=D3TBS;43829348]1.get a piece of card 2. write whatever you want with a marker 3.??? 4.profit 5. theres no step 5[/QUOTE] I would do that if I wasn't ordering the flowers online, most places have a little thing where you can add on cards/messages for a bit extra but they're obv mostly premade so it's a bit harder than it should be to get your message across. It's meant to be a surprise too, so i was trying to get card+flowers in one go.
Why are you ordering flowers online in the first place? Wouldnt they rot after a while? Why cant you just get fresh ones an hour before you meet or something? And I still think a blank piece of card with something you wrote is a thousand times more valuable than some premade shit. And bonus its not even that hard
[QUOTE=D3TBS;43829806]Why are you ordering flowers online in the first place? Wouldnt they rot after a while? Why cant you just get fresh ones an hour before you meet or something? And I still think a blank piece of card with something you wrote is a thousand times more valuable than some premade shit. And bonus its not even that hard[/QUOTE] Ah I live on the other end of the country from her, i'm at uni and she works like 50 hours a week so there would be no time for me to come home and give them to her in person, hence the ordering online.
[QUOTE=NorthernFall;43829226]Anybody else doing stuff for the SO for valentines? [/QUOTE] Yep! Took the day off work. We're going to a nice dinner in MY town (instead of the podunk shit town she lives in) and it should be a very good time. Flowers, respectable clothing, the works. Neither of us have really had a reason to celebrate valentines before, so it's kind of special. I can tell she's really looking forward to it. We've been dating since October and things have been going really well. The whole thing is a new experience for both of us.
I guess this is the best place to ask for advice on this. So essentially my parents treat my like I'm 5. I have to be asleep by 10:30, they get mad when I watch an R rated film, or play something rated M. Over the years they've basically made me not want to be myself around them, for fear of being yelled at for something. So when I'm with my parents I get really confrontational and on edge. And for gods sake they wouldn't let me go to sex-ed when I was in Middle School, and when I had health in High School. Essentially I've been pretty sheltered. Well, I'm almost off to college you say! Yeah, but the plan is that I live at home, at least for the first couple years. But I can't stand being here for that much longer, I'm just a social and emotional wreck because of this. Like, I don't do anything with my friends because I'm 99% sure my parents will be super nosy and just not leave me alone about just hanging out with them. It took me a long, long time to ask the girl I like out because I was afraid about how my parents would react if I got a date (I mean jesus, when one of my dad's friend asked him if I had a GF he said that 'No, we want him to be more focused on his school work'). and I feel like I should move out into my own apartment or on campus once College hits.
How old are you
[QUOTE=bdd458;43830993]I guess this is the best place to ask for advice on this. So essentially my parents treat my like I'm 5. I have to be asleep by 10:30, they get mad when I watch an R rated film, or play something rated M. Over the years they've basically made me not want to be myself around them, for fear of being yelled at for something. So when I'm with my parents I get really confrontational and on edge. And for gods sake they wouldn't let me go to sex-ed when I was in Middle School, and when I had health in High School. Essentially I've been pretty sheltered. Well, I'm almost off to college you say! Yeah, but the plan is that I live at home, at least for the first couple years. But I can't stand being here for that much longer, I'm just a social and emotional wreck because of this. Like, I don't do anything with my friends because I'm 99% sure my parents will be super nosy and just not leave me alone about just hanging out with them. It took me a long, long time to ask the girl I like out because I was afraid about how my parents would react if I got a date (I mean jesus, when one of my dad's friend asked him if I had a GF he said that 'No, we want him to be more focused on his school work'). and I feel like I should move out into my own apartment or on campus once College hits.[/QUOTE] my friends parents were like that he was like "fuck this" and then moved out as soon as he turned 18
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;43817554]maybe she's comfortable with you i act like a jerk with people i'm comfortable with probably why girls all call me bully or jerk in their phones[/QUOTE] how two dimentional is your personality if you're the same thing to so many different people
[QUOTE=killerteacup;43831296]How old are you[/QUOTE] 17, 18 in October.
[QUOTE=bdd458;43831325]17, 18 in October.[/QUOTE] You're too old for that, yeah
They might snapcout of it after your 19. My parents (mostly mum) were very similar till then. Then suddenly they dropped ot all and I can do whatever.
[QUOTE=NoDachi;43831323]how two dimentional is your personality if you're the same thing to so many different people[/QUOTE] V:v:V woops i forgot that i said the same thing twice
[QUOTE=Dysentery;43824137]well not to be insensitive here but just because you fall in love with a girl doesn't mean they're going to go out with you. just seems like the friends always beat you to the punch when it comes to actually hooking up[/QUOTE] Such is my bane. I moved a lot as a kid, so real relationships were hard to come by. My heart is big, but circumstances get in the way. I'm still trying to find out where I belong. That wasn't insensitive at all, you're absolutely right. Most of the time my feelings are one sided, and the only time we both felt something for each other, our cultural/religious differences ended it. Also your avatar is very arousing and it's hard to type while watching it loop.
-- snip -- Yeah you're right I was being a bit immature.
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