Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[NoDachi]

the longer you leave it the bigger an idiot you'll look when she finds out

which she will

[overpain]

[QUOTE=MightyLOLZOR;43929928]So there's this girl I work with, and we're pretty good friends. I like her, but I don't know if I should ask her out, because I don't want to be friendzoned. We talk pretty often, and we go to the movies every now and then. It's driving me crazy, mainly because she's single.[/QUOTE]

Try flirting to her, see how she reacts.

Like a little jokes at first how you would be a good couple or something. If success, move on to the more direct flirt and finally ask her out.

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;43938002]the longer you leave it the bigger an idiot you'll look when she finds out

which she will[/QUOTE]

Sheeit.

She says she doesn't like younger guys than her, and I look older than I am. So I don't want to fuck this shit up as she's probably first gf that I truly love (all the other gf's were trophy ones, yeah I'm a terrible human being), but I know that she won't take it lightly.

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;43928874]soOooO i posted earlier about me and ex starting to talk and be friends again

we've been doing lots of shit together and tbh while i've moved on and don't really have tons of romantic feelings for her i can't help but want another chance with her - we broke up because we didn't really have any time to hang out with each other but now we're hanging out a ton. i want to straight up ask her out again but idk i kind of want a second opinion, i dunno if it'll be a good idea. part of me wants to ask her and a part of me wants to never bring it up and just stay as friends. mostly because i dunno what she wants and i don't want to bring it up if she wants to stay friends 'cause i'm insecure sometimes and i feel like i'd be annoying idk

help love advice wat do[/QUOTE]

Ask her out, duh.

What's the worst that could happen? 10 awkward minutes? Worth the risk.

[Mr. Bleak]

"New gf" but also "the first that you truly love"? You may want to rethink what you're feeling here, and also be honest. If she breaks up with you over something as superficial as age, you're better off anyway.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=overpain;43938007]Try flirting to her, see how she reacts.

Like a little jokes at first how you would be a good couple or something. If success, move on to the more direct flirt and finally ask her out.

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

Sheeit.

She says she doesn't like younger guys than her, and I look older than I am. So I don't want to fuck this shit up as she's probably first gf that I truly love (all the other gf's were trophy ones, yeah I'm a terrible human being), but I know that she won't take it lightly.

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

Ask her out, duh.

What's the worst that could happen? 10 awkward minutes? Worth the risk.[/QUOTE]

how old are you

[Heigou]

[QUOTE=overpain;43938007]Try flirting to her, see how she reacts.

Like a little jokes at first how you would be a good couple or something. If success, move on to the more direct flirt and finally ask her out.

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

Sheeit.

She says she doesn't like younger guys than her, and I look older than I am. So I don't want to fuck this shit up as she's probably first gf that I truly love (all the other gf's were trophy ones, yeah I'm a terrible human being), but I know that she won't take it lightly.

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

Ask her out, duh.

What's the worst that could happen? 10 awkward minutes? Worth the risk.[/QUOTE]

Can't wait for her to dump your ass when she discovers that you're not the age you mentionned because you haven't told her yourself and then cry because your "first true love" is sucking another man's dick.

Just tell her, by delaying the inevitable you're only going to make it worse whenever she does discover that you bullshitted her.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=overpain;43938007]Try flirting to her, see how she reacts.

Like a little jokes at first how you would be a good couple or something. If success, move on to the more direct flirt and finally ask her out.

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

Sheeit.

She says she doesn't like younger guys than her, and I look older than I am. So I don't want to fuck this shit up as she's probably first gf that I truly love (all the other gf's were trophy ones, yeah I'm a terrible human being), but I know that she won't take it lightly.

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

Ask her out, duh.

What's the worst that could happen? 10 awkward minutes? Worth the risk.[/QUOTE]

You are not qualified to give advice in this thread considering your current situation

[HighdefGE]

Okay, I need some insight here.

So I've been talking to this girl for the past month and I've been on two dates with her and she lives an hour away (relevant because we can't meet up that often). I was going to invite her back to my place on valentine's day to do something special for her by cooking and etc. However we couldn't because real bad weather came and she was under distress by personal issues and we agreed on next weekend.

The problem is I'm not experienced at all; I'm still a virgin and I'm 99% sure she isn't. I'm 19 and she's 20 before anyone asks. She never asked and I never brought it up. So I have two problems.

First: how would I initiate sex? Should I be real blunt about it or will it naturally escalate?

Second: if she asks if I'm a virgin, do I tell her the truth or do I lie? I feel this is a big one because I've read so many stories where guys actually told the truth and the girls changed their minds. At the same time I don't want to lie because I know she'll see through the bullshit. I feel she likes me and she even said how much she likes me but my biggest fear is if she asks about my past experiences and I tell her I have none, that she'll be turned off and change her mind.

[Squidman]

[QUOTE=HighdefGE;43941275]Okay, I need some insight here.

So I've been talking to this girl for the past month and I've been on two dates with her and she lives an hour away (relevant because we can't meet up that often). I was going to invite her back to my place on valentine's day to do something special for her by cooking and etc. However we couldn't because real bad weather came and she was under distress by personal issues and we agreed on next weekend.

The problem is I'm not experienced at all; I'm still a virgin and I'm 99% sure she isn't. I'm 19 and she's 20 before anyone asks. She never asked and I never brought it up. So I have two problems.

First: how would I initiate sex? Should I be real blunt about it or will it naturally escalate?

Second: if she asks if I'm a virgin, do I tell her the truth or do I lie? I feel this is a big one because I've read so many stories where guys actually told the truth and the girls changed their minds. At the same time I don't want to lie because I know she'll see through the bullshit. I feel she likes me and she even said how much she likes me but my biggest fear is if she asks about my past experiences and I tell her I have none, that she'll be turned off and change her mind.[/QUOTE]

I've only had sex with men and a few other species so I'll try tackling your second problem instead.

If she asks if you are a virgin, it is better to just own up. Reasoning for this? Well, if you lie then she will think that you are bringing your "A" game in terms of genital smashing and probably think that this is the norm for you, which would be disappointing for her. Because let's face it, you probably won't be channeling James Deen on your first trip into the love tunnel. Besides, establishing honesty is an important part in any relationship that you wish to last.

If anything, having a clean sexual history has it's perks; she won't fear getting STD's from you for one thing.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=overpain;43937980]Ok, I've got a new gf, but there's one problem : age.

I lied her about my age (I'm stupid), and we are dating.
The thing is, she's 2 years older than me.

Also, she knows my female classmate, as both sings in opera.

So, what should I do? Try to negotiate with my female version to lie to my gf about me, or tell gf the truth?[/QUOTE]

When someone says they don't date people who are younger than them it's not because of them being biased against a number, it's because of the level of maturity of people of that age. If she hasn't already decided that you act immature, then I doubt her knowing your age would matter at all... Though I'd imagine that her finding out that you're lying about something idiotic to her would change her mind.

Either way, she's going to find out and you're going to look like an idiot. Better sooner rather than later.

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;43940788]You are not qualified to give advice in this thread considering your current situation[/QUOTE]

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[killerteacup]

I'm totally okay with that

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=overpain;43937980]Ok, I've got a new gf, but there's one problem : age.

I lied her about my age (I'm stupid), and we are dating.
The thing is, she's 2 years older than me.

Also, she knows my female classmate, as both sings in opera.

So, what should I do? Try to negotiate with my female version to lie to my gf about me, or tell gf the truth?

[editline]17th February 2014[/editline]

Goddamnit, just do it, who gives a shit.

She's gonna be happy someone is asking her out[/QUOTE]

Not to be harsh but are you fucking retarded? What sort of relationship do you expect to have if your constantly lieing to her?
Tell her now. The later you wait the dumber this is gonna be. Besides when a person says "i dont like people younger than me" its not, "i refuse to date anyone younger than me" its "most people younger than me are too immature and I do not get along with them".

[NoDachi]

"I don't like to date people younger than me because they do dumb shit like lie about their age"

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=HighdefGE;43941275]Okay, I need some insight here.

So I've been talking to this girl for the past month and I've been on two dates with her and she lives an hour away (relevant because we can't meet up that often). I was going to invite her back to my place on valentine's day to do something special for her by cooking and etc. However we couldn't because real bad weather came and she was under distress by personal issues and we agreed on next weekend.

The problem is I'm not experienced at all; I'm still a virgin and I'm 99% sure she isn't. I'm 19 and she's 20 before anyone asks. She never asked and I never brought it up. So I have two problems.

First: how would I initiate sex? Should I be real blunt about it or will it naturally escalate?

Second: if she asks if I'm a virgin, do I tell her the truth or do I lie? I feel this is a big one because I've read so many stories where guys actually told the truth and the girls changed their minds. At the same time I don't want to lie because I know she'll see through the bullshit. I feel she likes me and she even said how much she likes me but my biggest fear is if she asks about my past experiences and I tell her I have none, that she'll be turned off and change her mind.[/QUOTE]

No really what is with people and thinking lying is a good idea in establishing a long term relationship? Do you want the person your dating lieing to you all the time?

If she asks tell her the truth, and remember that anyone who is not a virgin now, was at some point. They know what it is like going in your first time and can help you with that.
Let it happen how it happens and try not to stress too much about the details, its hopefully the first of many other chances.

Also reading stories online is a risky business. Sure those things have occurred but they arn't necessarily nearly as common as the internet can make it seem. People rarely want to share average experiences, they want to share bad ones.

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No my merge damn you

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;43943465]No my merge damn you[/QUOTE]

[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nmzaalWYqRo[/media]

[CabooseRvB]

So there's this girl I went to go see Frozen with, we eat dinner/lunch together every now and then. I even took her out to go shooting at the range (not one of those lame ones that are indoors, but where we could just blast bottles and pieces of fruit) and now I'm asking her out to a formal Army Ball.

Planning to give her a rose and a bottle of Bailey's after it's done as a gift.

How can I say that it would be our first official date? Should I ask her up front to be her boyfriend?

[fear me]

Ay, I signed up for OKCupid. Dunno if that's good or bad but idgaf it mite b cool.

[Aries]

found out i had skin cancer for the last five months and didn't realise it, had it cut out today

life is weird

[kaine123]

That girl I mentioned broke up with her boyfriend tonight. She was talking to me on the phone afterwards. She was saying how she's angry about the breakup but she's happy she has me to confide in.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=kaine123;43955834]That girl I mentioned broke up with her boyfriend tonight. She was talking to me on the phone afterwards. She was saying how she's angry about the breakup but she's happy she has me to confide in.[/QUOTE]

Get her on the rebound nothing can go wrong

[kaine123]

No.

[Kirbyfactor]

I would like to thank this threads title, I just asked her out and she said yes!

[Skullivan21]

This girl, who for the past 6 months I have called baby girl almost exclusively told me today to stop calling her that, and to stop all the flirting and shit, and I'm fucking empty. She meant a lot to me and I know I meant a lot to her, she told me so many times. But the past few weeks she pushed me away. Said I was being too over bearing and stubborn. I have no one else to tell, and I feel very empty. I saw this coming and yet I'm still in disbelief. Just needed to say something, thanks for listening.

[fear me]

Just confessed to a girl that I liked her and she seems okay with it. Yays. :v:

[chinatown]

calling someone baby girl? were you 2 together? or are you black?

[MightyLOLZOR]

[QUOTE=overpain;43938007]Try flirting to her, see how she reacts.

Like a little jokes at first how you would be a good couple or something. If success, move on to the more direct flirt and finally ask her out.[/QUOTE]

we fuck with each other all the time, and sometimes we stay up way too late texting each other, if that's not a sign, I don't know what is.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Skullivan21;43963536]This girl, who for the past 6 months I have called baby girl almost exclusively told me today to stop calling her that, and to stop all the flirting and shit, and I'm fucking empty. She meant a lot to me and I know I meant a lot to her, she told me so many times. But the past few weeks she pushed me away. Said I was being too over bearing and stubborn. I have no one else to tell, and I feel very empty. I saw this coming and yet I'm still in disbelief. Just needed to say something, thanks for listening.[/QUOTE]

Totally insensitive since your unhappy and just wanted to vent but Holy Fuck if anyone kept calling me baby girl I would punch them in the face. I have an extreme level of hate for any sort of nickname like that for someone your in a relationship with. Baby, baby girl, any of that bullcrap.

[WastedJamacan]

I'm not even sure I could call someone any sort of nickname in a relationship anymore. Only name I ever felt comfortable using was angel, and i pretty much wore that one out on my two and a half years with my ex.

I always thought names like that were just weird.

[IlluminatiRex]

I apologize in advance for the wall of text.

It's time for me to tell Facepunch a story, a sad story at that. For the past month and a half I've been trying to move on, very unsuccessfully at that.

It started during the second semester of my freshman year of Highschool. I was sitting in World History one day, and then she walked in. She was in the same freshman 'unit' as I was, but she was one of the few people I didn't have a class with, so it was the first time I had seen her around. At that moment it felt like I had fallen for her. Turns out that she already had a BF. Whatever I told myself, I'd just wait it out. High school is a long time.

Well the summer went by and I couldn't get her off my mind. Once summer was over, it turned out we had two classes together. There was still a bit of a problem, she was still with her BF. There were many days I felt like just spilling that I liked her, but I didn't. It was around this time I started to develop what feels like depression, partly because of that, and a few other things (such as the long lasting effects of the bullying I endured during middle school and freshman year).

They broke up that summer, but got back together about a month into the first semester of Junior year. I felt like I had missed my chance and continued to beat myself up. They broke up again second semester. I go to a school of 2500 kids and finding people around can be difficult, and I never made a move that year.

Fast forward to senior year. We again have two classes together. She's single, and as beautiful as ever. And it's been an interesting year so far. I promised myself I would ask her out this year. And I sorta did I suppose. Late October/Early November I asked her if she wanted to stay after school one day to study for a test we had coming up, surprisingly she said yes. So we set a day up and I went about feeling about myself. Then the day we agreed on came around. In our history class I went to double check with her to see if she was still staying after, to which she said "I'm sorry, I forgot that I had promised to drive my friend home today" with a sincere look on her face. I played it off as no big deal, but to me it was a pretty big deal. As stated earlier, since Sophomore year I've been dealing with some depression like issues, and that didn't really make it any better. I blamed it on myself, saying to myself that it's because I'm an ugly idiot and that sort of thing.

About a month after that, I had sort of stopped beating myself up and sorta stopped the self loathing. One night, a good friend of mine from the internet, Jorge and I were in teamspeak. Fed up with my self loathing and shit he gave a really nice speech he came up with on the spot.

A little background on Jorge. I look up to Jorge a lot, he's like an older brother to me. He lives in Canada, has a rich family, has a nice job, nice car, all of that shit, and he rarely, if ever has a girl turn him down.

Anyway, I don't remember most of what he said. I do remember one thing however, it was a story he told about how he asked this girl out one time. He was at a school soccer match or something and the game had ended. He saw this pretty girl at the other side of the field, so after the game had ended he was walking across the field to go talk to her. As he neared her there was this hole in the ground. He tripped. As he got up, dusting himself off he said "In some countries, that's considered cute." She said she thought he was cute, and they dated for like a month.

So the next day, a Friday, I go into school with a new sense of confidence I suppose. So as we're walking out of the building our History class is in, I turn to her and say "Hey Nicole, want to go see a movie tonight?"

"I'd love to, but I've got a charity run tonight." So I said some other time and walked off. I didn't feel nearly as bad, a little bit, but not much. I sorta felt like I had a chance then.

Soon Winter Break arrived and I tried talking to her over Facebook during that period. Not much in the way of conversation there. I said "Hey, what's up?" or something similar a few times (like once towards the start of break, and once towards the end of it) and she never responded. However, when I did say "Hey, can I ask you a question?" she did. I asked her how she would react if someone out of the blue told her they liked her, as it had just happened to me. She said she would just feel bad if she didn't like the guy back. It was then I was determined to tell her in person.

I never did. It was like the second week of January when I cracked from the depression like shit and all the pressure that I have on me. I told her over facebook messenger, a huge mistake. She actually replied, saying "thats sweet but im talking to someone". It was all over I thought, and I started feeling even worse. I told her that it's cool and that I understand. I tried to play it off as nothing.

But I couldn't.

Two days later I cracked even more, once again doing something stupid with facebook messenger. I said that what I had said was an understatement, that I more than really like her, that I love her. I realized I had fucked up. So I sent a second message saying that I had only said that to get it off my chest and so I could move on easier. And with that I thought we would never communicate in any manner again.

A little over a week later I'm sitting at my computer and my phone goes off as I got messaged on Facebook. I jokingly say to myself "I bet it's Nicole.". Surprisingly, it was. She had messaged me that facebook like emote you can send over the messenger. Instead of ignoring it as nothing like I should have, I replied going "oh that was random.". She sends another. So stupid me sends one back, because hey, why the fuck not.

To that she replied "i didnt mean to send anything". Of course she didn't, no one ever means to send me anything. So I go, "yeah it was a bit random. btw is everything cool between us?". She saw that, but no reply.

But I got thinking, it had been over a week since I had last sent her my messages, and to accidentally be looking at my messages seemed suspicious, because I can bet I was not the only person that had been talking to her on facebook during the course of that week. but I'm probably just grasping at straws with that.

And that's where I am now I suppose. I've tried moving on, I really have. But I can't stop thinking about her, it's so fucking weird. Like, I had never actually had a dream with her in it, until after I had told her that I like her. I just don't really know what to do at this point. I feel so lonely and lost :(

[fear me]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;43964047]Totally insensitive since your unhappy and just wanted to vent but Holy Fuck if anyone kept calling me baby girl I would punch them in the face. I have an extreme level of hate for any sort of nickname like that for someone your in a relationship with. Baby, baby girl, any of that bullcrap.[/QUOTE]

Hmm, is there anything wrong with terms of endearment like hun or sweetie or such?

[redBadger]

So two weeks-ish ago I approached a random girl to try and talk to her, things got a bit awkward and I didn't get good vibes so I made an excuse and left.

Well I saw her again today, though I didn't bother to speak with her or anything. Should I have approached her and been all, "Hey, X right? How are you" or something? I'm sick of living life not taking opportunities and here is yet another I may have missed.