• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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So this has been my life for the past 2 days. This girl has been my friend for about 2 years now. I never really thought about her that much, but we were definitely in the friend zone, and I was okay with that. Fast forward maybe a year or so, she starts dating one of my friends. Even though this guy is my friend, and I still like him to this day, he kind of treated her like shit, partially on and off I guess you could say. He would get her presents and love her and such, but would completely ignore her, (texting, messaging and in real life) for weeks at a time. For a lot of the time of this relationship, I spent the time mending the broken parts of it, where she would come complaining to me about him, or he would complain about her, and I was okay with this for the most part, because I was friends with both and I liked trying to keep them together. So they broke up and got back together for a while, until about 2 months ago. He convinced her to have sex, they did the nasty, and he broke up with her a few weeks after it (partially for reasons I probably shouldn't even talk about here). She tells me a month or so after they break up that she really likes me, and wants to date me. At this point, she has really grown up from when I first met her when she was in 7th grade. I'll just say that puberty treated her well in the physical department I guess. I already know it's coming, but she asks me out... and I say no. This is a problem I have, and it happened with my last relationship too. I tell them no because I don't know what feelings are or something, and then later I say "lol just kidding sure". So I say no when she asks me out, and she's just like "okay man that's fine". Fast forward to yesterday. She has to stay after school to get picked up by her Dad, so I go into the band room, as I do everyday to leave. It's her and about 3 of my friends in the room. My friends fan out and it's just me and her. We talk for about 30 minutes, and at some point I put my head down on my lap. I hear her shuffle over and she has her head leaning on my leg. I start getting blood rushing to my head and stuff is getting darker (dat dopamine man) and I realize "oh shit man this is going to happen." I tell myself "fuck it dude just do it", so I hold her chin up, lean over and kiss her. This escalates to some more kissing, and I tell her that we probably shouldn't be making out in an open room, so we go into a back room and talk between kisses. We talk about how we both think relationships are really hard, how my past relationships have been extremely terrible and maybe that's why I'm afraid to start a relationship so quickly, and what we were at that point. She gets a text that her dad is looking for her in the school, so we get up, and as we're leaving the band room, I tell her that I guess we're dating. Today, I got to school, and she asks me if we are going to be hugging and kissing in public and stuff, so I kissed her right then. So this all happened in 2 days, and it's seriously great so far. I have never been able to openly talk like this to a girl before, and it is amazing. We laugh at the same things, we like the same music, we have both dealt with depression, and we have both dealt with shitty SO's. tl;dr I kissed my friend and am now dating her. Sorry for wall of text, but I thought it was an okay story.
So, after confessing to my supervisor how I felt and being rejected (Long story some people here may remember); I decided to move on. It sucks and I still feel kind of bad about it; but I don't think she'll ever feel the same way about me as I do about her. We're back to being friends at least, which will have to be enough. Anyway, I met this girl on OKcupid who I'm starting to fall for (I tend to fall fast). We met once already and it went pretty well (Consisted of meeting at starbucks; going bowling; then for lunch; it ended with a hug). We're meeting again this Friday. During the span of time after the first meet up, we've talked and chatted on Skype and even played some indie games together on Steam. My question; should I go for a kiss on Date/Meet Up 2 if it goes well? If so, how would I even go about it? I've not once kissed a girl :suicide:. I feel like I'm going to mess up terribly, but I feel like I have to let her know I'm interested in her romantically.
[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;43980399]So, after confessing to my supervisor how I felt and being rejected (Long story some people here may remember); I decided to move on. It sucks and I still feel kind of bad about it; but I don't think she'll ever feel the same way about me as I do about her. We're back to being friends at least, which will have to be enough. Anyway, I met this girl on OKcupid who I'm starting to fall for (I tend to fall fast). We met once already and it went pretty well (Consisted of meeting at starbucks; going bowling; then for lunch; it ended with a hug). We're meeting again this Friday. During the span of time after the first meet up, we've talked and chatted on Skype and even played some indie games together on Steam. My question; should I go for a kiss on Date/Meet Up 2 if it goes well? If so, how would I even go about it? I've not once kissed a girl :suicide:. I feel like I'm going to mess up terribly, but I feel like I have to let her know I'm interested in her romantically.[/QUOTE] Go for it, you sound like you have it in the bag
[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;43980399]I've not once kissed a girl :suicide:. I feel like I'm going to mess up terribly, but I feel like I have to let her know I'm interested in her romantically.[/QUOTE] Don't sweat it, my first kiss was at 5am in Hong Kong. The girl texted me telling me to come out at 2 in the morning and as an exchange student I'm obligated to do dumb things like that, so I did. We got decently un-sober and she wanted to watch the sunrise. I didn't get any of the hints at all during that time, but we made it to the docks and waited for a bit. After an awkward silence for like ten minutes she just says "so are we gonna kiss or..." - I was so shocked that in my infinite wisdom, all I could say was "...really...?" I'm pretty sure all we did was suck face for the next five hours, managing to travel between the dock, the tallest building in HK, some breakfast restaurant in Wan Chai, a tram, and a cab back home, making out the entire time - and it was hella sloppy. If I had gone to middle school, I would imagine that's what it would be like. What made it worse was that her friend was there for the entire time and third wheeled so hard that she took photos, so I could see exactly how bad I was at it. I don't think my first kiss could have been worse, but in the end, practice makes perfect, and we laughed about it for months. We ended up trading virginities a few weeks after that. I believe in you!
Hey guys, got a bit of a weird situation going on over here. This girl who I have been pretty good friends with for two months straight-up fucked me out of the blue five days after her boyfriend of two years broke up with her. Then we did it again the next day. She wants to take a break now because she feels confused and feels bad about doing it so soon. She's amazing looking and our personalities are insanely compatible (and the sex is fantastic for both of us), but I feel like I might just be her revenge sex go-to or her boy toy, but I would absolutely love to be in a relationship with her. We still talk on a friendly basis right now. I should also mention that she lives in the same dorm building as me so we do see eachother often.
Need advice. I'm wondering if I should go to prom with this girl. She knows who I am, I know who she is. I don't think she minds me, she laughs at my jokes. We're not really friends. I used to talk to her 5 years back but it's been small talk now it seems. She could have plans already :v: I could think of two other guys she might be interested in. I don't stalk her or anything so I don't know jack. Spoon feed me, facepunch.
Do it
[QUOTE=deggemannen;43985871]Do it[/QUOTE] Yeah but when. Prom is like in 5 months
How to get over girl that you can't have
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;43985903]Yeah but when. Prom is like in 5 months[/QUOTE] Now would actually be a good time. I asked out my prom date around the 5th of february at a party. [editline]20th February 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=Bbls;43985915]How to get over girl that you can't have[/QUOTE] Replace her with another girl
when is prom? Not familiar with american schools but I guess you should ask her when its the usual time? And going out with her once or twice isnt bad either, if it makes her more comfortable with you. [editline]21st February 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=Inspector Jones;43980399]So, after confessing to my supervisor how I felt and being rejected (Long story some people here may remember); I decided to move on. It sucks and I still feel kind of bad about it; but I don't think she'll ever feel the same way about me as I do about her. We're back to being friends at least, which will have to be enough. Anyway, I met this girl on OKcupid who I'm starting to fall for (I tend to fall fast). We met once already and it went pretty well (Consisted of meeting at starbucks; going bowling; then for lunch; it ended with a hug). We're meeting again this Friday. During the span of time after the first meet up, we've talked and chatted on Skype and even played some indie games together on Steam. My question; should I go for a kiss on Date/Meet Up 2 if it goes well? If so, how would I even go about it? I've not once kissed a girl :suicide:. I feel like I'm going to mess up terribly, but I feel like I have to let her know I'm interested in her romantically.[/QUOTE] kissing a girl isnt hard. Just put your lips against hers and its technically a kiss. If you want to get all advanced and stuff try sucking a couple of dicks and use your tongue, its probably the same thing I dunno I never did that what But yeah you should show her youre interested. If its what it takes go for the kiss, but physical contact helps a lot too.
Experience doesn't seem to matter to a lot of girls apparently, a fair amount seem to think its cute. My first kiss was my to-be girlfriend a month prior to the relationship. I'm pretty sure she was a bit tipsy as we were at a kind of party and there was i bit of alcohol. The just of it was she was actually coaching me on how to ask out a different girl who was there too. She telling me what a girl wants to hear and the like and then told me the only other thing i needed to do was kiss her. Naturally having never done this i explained that i was nervous and didn't know ho to do that. I remember it pretty well so the conversation was pretty much: "I think thats a bad idea, i've never really kissed anyone before so..." "Seriously? Even [I]I've[/I] had more experience than you in that case" "Well teach me that then" After which she sighs, smiles to herself, puts her hand behind my head and tells me that i'm the girl in this lesson, and that i should just follow her lead. I was naturally surprised that she had actually agreed and was kind of speechless. I just let her do the whole lip movement thing and then followed along. After however long we did that for she let go and asked me if i got it yet, i said i wasn't sure and we went again for a bit. By time that was over the girl i was hoping to ask out had already left. But of course shit happens, and after the move we both decided long distance is even worse when you're 16. Certainly took a while to get over her but i pulled through in the end.
So yeah if I'm ever in the Portland Maine area I might have a date. I suddenly want to go to Portland.
Damnit. Saw that girl again (from page ago) and my natural instinct was to fucking ignore her. I hate myself. Damnit, next time I see her I WILL talk to her.
[QUOTE=fear me;43989405]So yeah if I'm ever in the Portland Maine area I might have a date. I suddenly want to go to Portland.[/QUOTE] as someone who lives there not worth it.
How can you tell if someone is trying to cling onto you just because they moved away from their SO?
My first kiss was at the end of a football game and I turned to my at the time girlfriend and said bye. We hugged and then kissed for like one second before it was over. I don't like that one. It kind of sucked and doesn't even have a good story to go with it. My second girlfriend was pretty much the same, we were leaving for summer break and I said "Hey I'm leaving for a trip to Germany for 2 weeks in like one day" and then I kissed her. That one was a bit better. Current girlfriend has the best story I think.
My first kiss was a mess. The chick and I were completely lit (I was actually damn near blacked out with only a few memories of that night) and it was just some hard core face sucking on my mate's bed during a party he was tossing. But the first one that I actually remember and tried on (different woman too, which is weird cause she was all walkin' in on me during the first one, right?) we were just chillin in my bed and it's like, [i]well shit, might as well try v:v:v[/i], so I closed my eyes and leaned in slowly. I assume she felt the movement, confirmed my action, and then matched my pace and placement because we were all suckin on each other's tongue and such in just a bit. Good stuff. She's a neat person sexually, but a god damn demon personality wise.
I think I'm going to go for it; but I'll probably wimp out. Hopefully I don't.
You got nothing to lose. Just remember that, bro.
My first kiss was pretty great, actually. I had been hanging out with this girl I had been helping deal with a break-up, and she wanted to see me at night. We were still in high school, so she couldn't just leave, so I snuck over, parking my car a block away and climbing in through her window. We talked for a few hours, and then started to cuddle, making our way closer to each other, millimeter by millimeter. Eventually, our lips were just barely touching, and we went for it. We later started dating and were together for two and a half years. Haven't been with anyone since:/
First kiss was at that fantasmic show thing at Disney with the giant rock in the lake and all the water video shit
Never had a first kiss huehue.
[QUOTE=Heigou;43992683]Never had a first kiss huehue.[/QUOTE] +1
I was too drunk to remember my first kiss but it definitely happened because I vomited all over her kitchen right after it happened. Because of the alcohol not the kiss
I dont remember my first kiss. Assumably it was nothing of note
Well fuck past crept up on me again my ex got a new boyfriend recently found out through people you may know etc this relationship did end badly she just one day hated me and went on about other guys and i said some dumb shit but still cant get over it any tips?
[QUOTE=Lexinator;43995693]Well fuck past crept up on me again my ex got a new boyfriend recently found out through people you may know etc this relationship did end badly she just one day hated me and went on about other guys and i said some dumb shit but still cant get over it any tips?[/QUOTE] ...What?
[QUOTE=fear me;43997342]...What?[/QUOTE] Well fuck. Past crept up on me again, my ex got a new boyfriend recently. Found out through people you may know etc. This relationship did end badly, she just one day hated me and went on about other guys and i said some dumb shit but still cant get over it. Any tips?
Posted here awhile ago about how I got pretty much cheated on etc by a girl who had just told me she loved me too (but didn't mean it.) and how I got lead on and all this shit yada yada Anyways I didn't take some of your advice and cut off all contact, because I thought that showed signs of weakness even more, so I was like whatever I'll get over with and stay friends with her. But (of course) I haven't got over her, and she calls me yesterday to tell me how shes in love with the guy she cheated on me with (I always felt like she had feelings for him because they had a thing before she met me) and all this gushy shit about their emotional talk they had after they hooked up the other night (yeah she's telling me all this, what the fuck?) I just sat there silent listening on the phone, pretending not to seem bothered by it at all, but holy shit that CRUSHED me. These past few months have been miserable at random times still staying close with her, and I wonder why the fuck I subject myself to this. I've started talking to other girls awhile back, but I can never seem to muster the interest to keep it going (I think this is more my fault than any of the girls I talk to.) I guess this post isn't really going anywhere but venting, and the obvious thing to do would be to stop talking to her, what else can I do right? But doing so just makes me feel like a terribly vulnerable person not to mention it feels immature..
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