• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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Which age group are we talking about (high school, college/university)?
[QUOTE=wickedplayer494;44027092]Which age group are we talking about (high school, college/university)?[/QUOTE] Nearing the end of High School. And for the record, I don't really have any intention to change I was just hoping for some insight.
hey everyone, first time poster here, so bear with me: I have been suffering from loneliness for quite the time now. I come to you today for advice. I'd like to point out first that i am not suffering from loneliness because i have no friends, no thats not why i am here (I do have friends), my problem is that i dont have a significant other. I have faced rejection before which has worn me down for quite the time but thats not the issue, it is that I dont know where to find my (possible) special someone, how to approach women properly, how to do anything really. Maybe you can help me out with that? Thanks for your attention.
[QUOTE=RustledJimmys;44026996]Alright. I'm new to this thread, and will leave it if request, but I just wanted to ask something I've always had trouble doing so. I'm currently at an age where people make an extremely big deal about relationships and women and all that, and all I do is sit back and just not really give it thought. I haven't really felt anything about the matter, but I just wanted to ask if it's weird that I think this way, social status-wise etc. Thanks guys.[/QUOTE] Nothing wrong with that at all. People in high school have the mindset that the person you're dating will be together forever and live happily ever after and sadly that's not true. [editline]24th February 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=NoSaleHale;44027834]hey everyone, first time poster here, so bear with me: I have been suffering from loneliness for quite the time now. I come to you today for advice. I'd like to point out first that i am not suffering from loneliness because i have no friends, no thats not why i am here (I do have friends), my problem is that i dont have a significant other. I have faced rejection before which has worn me down for quite the time but thats not the issue, it is that I dont know where to find my (possible) special someone, how to approach women properly, how to do anything really. Maybe you can help me out with that? Thanks for your attention.[/QUOTE] I feel the same way friend. What's you current status? High school? College? It'll be easier to give solutions with greater context.
Approach/treat women like men. They are humans after all. I feel lonelines too, but as of now I don't care. Some problems lay inside me and I have to accept myself to become happy, not chasing placebo solutions. For chick magnet, having and riding a (at least 125 ccm) motorbike can make women interested. And this works. Just accept yourself, be confident, have a motorbike... Ah fuck it, why do I try.
idk i find girls easier to talk to than men like I have more female friends than male
The girl I've been talking to sent me a very confusing message. To quote: [QUOTE]although, if you do end up drugging me and using me as a skinsuit beer coosie all i ask is you (and i by default) go down in history bc of it :)[/QUOTE] I don't think I've ever received an invitation to become a murderer before, do any of you have similar conversations?
well I guess you could say College but without the dorms (we dont have Colleges like in America here), but I'll be off to work in the next half year.
Haha well, that Ball went just fine. It was technically our first date now, I even gave her a bottle of Bailey's right after (it's her favorite.) She has an ex however which I just realized and she doesn't want to rush things. She did tell me however that she always has a great time every time we go out together. Right now I'm trying to get her into purchasing a Disneypass.
[QUOTE=Squidman;44029850]The girl I've been talking to sent me a very confusing message. To quote: I don't think I've ever received an invitation to become a murderer before, do any of you have similar conversations?[/QUOTE] its called a joke
[QUOTE=NoDachi;44029945]its called a joke[/QUOTE] Whoa, that never occurred to me. Thanks!
then reboot your humor circuits and relax
[QUOTE=riku2211;44026449] I can definitely say that anything I say won't help you much, and I don't know how much you've been posting and how many times you may have heard stuff like this, but I'll give you something to think about anyway. I was exactly in your position about half a year ago. Terrible depression, wanted to kill myself, crippling loneliness. Except, the loneliness was also fueled by having recently been dumped. I got to feel what it was like to be loved and then had it taken away. There wasn't a day that went by that I didn't wish to just.... stop living. But even if you don't quite want to believe it, and even if it doesn't feel like it, things get better. They just kind of do. Life has a way of balancing itself out like that. I know how it feels to just not enjoy anything anymore. What turned it around for me was talking to someone. I had one person that I could actually open up to, and once I did, my life literally did a 180. I could not see a future for myself at all, it was all just darkness, I planned on finding SOME way to kill myself if I didn't die somehow by the end of Senior year. After I opened up though, Things escalated very quickly. Now I've found that 'balance', where I can accept feeling crappy for a time, knowing that it'll get better again. If you're having legitimate depression, which it sounds to me like you are, because everything you're saying I would've said exactly the way you said it, then if you try, you'll eventually learn to recognize when you're depressed, and with the help of others, you can fight against it, and just go on with your life without letting it drag you down. I've still yet to find a real meaning for my life, but I've at least become content with the way things are, and I've gained control over my depression, and you absolutely can too. If just for one moment, I want you to believe that, because tomorrow morning you probably won't. You can't just sit around and wait for things to change, though, because they won't. If there's one other thing I've learn in the last few years, it's that you seriously have to take action for anything to happen. Sometimes it feels like you have no option but to wait until you see an opportunity for something, but then you'll just have to do something else. Try to think of someone close to you, regardless who it is, that you can talk to. Just straight up say, maybe text or email them and ask to meet up, saying that you have something legitimately serious to talk about and that you would like if they could listen and maybe offer some advice. Facepunch is great, but these posts can't replace the words of someone close to you, who is also literally right next to you. If you can't, maybe try to see a therapist. I never wanted to, but something is better than nothing. If that's not an option, maybe try to get closer to someone you're already close to, THEN talk to them. Do SOMETHING. I can entirely understand the difficulty of actually figuring out something to do, but if you don't do anything, it will never change. That feeling of wanting a relationship, NEEDING a relationship, really won't go away until you find someone, but it will also become bearable once you've conquered your depression. And who knows, maybe by opening up to someone, you might just find that someone. I got lucky, honestly, and that's how it went down for me. It could be the same for you. Even if it isn't, getting a handle on your depression will help you immensely. So keep spouting bullshit, I'm pretty sure that's what this thread is here for. Like Heigou said, it's life experience. Right now it feels to you like this just IS life, but it's only a small, small portion of it. I'm only 6-7 months out from the six-month-long episode of depression I had, and boy does it seem so minuscule. If nothing else, try to at least hold a hope for the future.[/QUOTE] I just wanted to first thank you for taking the time to write that. It was a lot, and I appreciate the amount of thought it went into writing it. I post on here when I'm having an episode because I just need someone to talk to. I'm seeing a counselor, and I have friends that are helping me, but I just feel like it's not enough. I started seeing the counselor 2-3 months ago, and we've had around 5 or 6 sessions, but my state is getting worse and worse for some reason. Well, overall it's getting somewhat better, but the isolated episodes that I have are getting worse. I usually don't have episodes where I've cried for several minutes and only thought about killing myself, but they're getting more frequent now. I've had 2 in the past month. They occur often when I make an attempt to take action (i.e. joining a dating site or working out) against my depression. Recently, I've been having conflicting thoughts on what I want, what I need, etc. I'm just not sure about anything regarding my life anymore. I don't know what makes me happy. I don't know what I want to do. I don't know what I want. It's the only thing I think about everyday. I can't focus on work, on friends, on hobbies. I'm just not sure what to do anymore. I've been stuck in my room for the past month just trying to catch up on work and get my academics in check. I haven't hung out with friends or gone out at all except to class. I've been playing a lot of CS:GO because I've been trying to "go pro", but I suck so much and get discouraged that it just makes me feel worse and worse. But, that happens with every hobby/skill I try to learn. I set high standards for myself, and if I don't meet those standards, then I feel like complete shit. It makes me feel pathetic and worthless. I'm gonna stop ranting now.
[QUOTE=NoDachi;44029741]idk i find girls easier to talk to than men like I have more female friends than male[/QUOTE] Since June when I started my self-improvement adventures, I've made around 5 (maybe a few more) female friends compared to having none before, and they're all around 5' tall while I'm 6'3" I have no idea why it's like short women just gravitate to me now
Don't complain short women are cutie pies. Tall women are gross.
becuz tall men > short men
[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;44036010]Don't complain short women are cutie pies. Tall women are gross.[/QUOTE] You're damn right they're cutie pies [QUOTE=D3TBS;44036410]becuz tall men > short men[/QUOTE] And probably also because since June I've been slowly changing from looking like a grungy, gangly, slouching, feminine-looking, badly dressed jesus into a clean, confident, not-slouching, manly man with a nice haircut and not great but much better clothing
[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;44036010]Don't complain short women are cutie pies. Tall women are gross.[/QUOTE] she's the shortest person I know :v: it's okay, because I'm not much taller heh we're apparently the 'tiny couple' now but I think that's actually hilarious
[QUOTE=Saza;44037141]she's the shortest person I know :v: it's okay, because I'm not much taller heh we're apparently the 'tiny couple' now but I think that's actually hilarious[/QUOTE] This depends on if you count people you have met online as people you know, as I am in fact 4'11" thereby being the shortest of the short
[QUOTE=Rhenae;44037442]This depends on if you count people you have met online as people you know, as I am in fact 4'11" thereby being the shortest of the short[/QUOTE] you're the same height as my sister, actually - she's 20 I'm 5'7 or so, she's probably just over 5'2 or '3.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;44037442]This depends on if you count people you have met online as people you know, as I am in fact 4'11" thereby being the shortest of the short[/QUOTE] Have you considered moving to California and becoming friends with me
What are your opinions on french kissing.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;44037442]This depends on if you count people you have met online as people you know, as I am in fact 4'11" thereby being the shortest of the short[/QUOTE] There was a female in my Basic Training who was 4'9" and a guy who was just an inch taller.
[QUOTE=D3TBS;43988699]when is prom? Not familiar with american schools but I guess you should ask her when its the usual time? And going out with her once or twice isnt bad either, if it makes her more comfortable with you.[/QUOTE] Prom is in June-ish Or maybe even July-ish It could even be may for all I know. Anyways do I really have to go out with her beforehand? I don't have the balls or knowledge to ask her out. The closest thing to an actual attempt at asking someone out was 6 years ago when I gave chocolates to a girl (and apparantly they tasted really bad). [editline]24th February 2014[/editline] I should totally use some chocolate to ask her out
[QUOTE=RustledJimmys;44026996]Alright. I'm new to this thread, and will leave it if request, but I just wanted to ask something I've always had trouble doing so. I'm currently at an age where people make an extremely big deal about relationships and women and all that, and all I do is sit back and just not really give it thought. I haven't really felt anything about the matter, but I just wanted to ask if it's weird that I think this way, social status-wise etc. Thanks guys.[/QUOTE] [quote]is it weird[/quote] no If you're happy and you're not hurting anyone it literally does not matter. Once you get out of high school you'll find that the word "weird" generally is rarely used past legitimate mental or social disorders.
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44038578]Prom is in June-ish Or maybe even July-ish It could even be may for all I know. Anyways do I really have to go out with her beforehand? I don't have the balls or knowledge to ask her out. The closest thing to an actual attempt at asking someone out was 6 years ago when I gave chocolates to a girl (and apparantly they tasted really bad). [editline]24th February 2014[/editline] I should totally use some chocolate to ask her out[/QUOTE] do you need to? no. does it help you get what you want though? probably.
[QUOTE=kaine123;44037985]What are your opinions on french kissing.[/QUOTE] When done right its pretty great. When done wrong its pretty gross. My girlfriend was kind of put off by her last boyfriend's terribleness but now she's starting to like it a bit more.
when is it considered french kissing?
[QUOTE=Psygo;44041082]when is it considered french kissing?[/QUOTE] Open mouths, exchange of tongues.
there are other types of kissing?
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