Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[JackAttack]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;44041628]there are other types of kissing?[/QUOTE]

Several.

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=jackattack;44045082]Several.[/QUOTE]

butt kissing
i kiss your butt

[kaine123]

So I found out she left a little note in my bag when I wasn't looking while we were together at school today.
[QUOTE]
Oh, but if I had the stars from the darkest night
And the diamonds from the deepest ocean
I'd forsake them all for your sweet kiss
For that's all I'm wishin' to be ownin'.
[/QUOTE]

I love how she knew it was from one of my favorite songs! (Boots of Spanish Leather by Bob Dylan)

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;44046361]butt kissing
i kiss your butt[/QUOTE]

the black kiss

or the french kiss of the black kiss, which you can think of as the african french kiss, but its actually called the salad tossing

[E Quantifier]

Hopefully I'm not to late to the height conversation, as a 5'4 18 year old guy, do I have any chance of getting any taller? I've kind of sat here for the last 2 years and I'm getting a little concerned that I'm going to get any taller. My parents are both short, but I'd still like to get up another inch or two. I'm starting to feel weird because every other guy I know is taller than me. There's a small number of girls that are shorter than me and I'm one of those insecure guys who would feel weird dating someone taller. I mean it's not the end of the world being short, but I'd like to be closer to the upper end of short.

[chinatown]

would say you can still grow a bit in the next years but dont expect anything major. Just live with it though.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;44036010]Don't complain short women are cutie pies.

Tall women are gross.[/QUOTE]

Praise be to tall girls, for me at least. It's amazing when you don't have to bend your knees to kiss someone.

[Blueridge]

Jesus christ does talking to moms ever get better? Whenever I try talking to her she keeps asking me rhetorical questions, where both responses would make me sound like an ass, so I just stay silent on the phone hoping she gets the hint. But she doesn't, she says they're probing questions and that she asks her students(around ~14, 15) the same ones and they're able to respond to them. But it's like, much different to respond to those questions to a teacher than it is your mom.

[HighdefGE]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;44022476]
just do the same thing to her. Start distancing yourself, have her chase you for your attention.[/QUOTE]

Right, so after several days she called me again like she was excited to talk with me. Her tone changed when she asked if I was okay when I told her that I was busy and that I'd call back later tonight (I didn't). The only issue is I don't want her to think that I'm disinterested and therefore never call me again, but at the same time I feel very tempted to call her back and the only thing that's stopping me is:
1) knowing I'll end up chasing her which I will not do and
2) nothing to talk about

So how do I have her chase me for my attention without making it look like I'm disinterested? Should I wait for her to call me again or do I call her back myself tomorrow? And should I wait for her to invite me somewhere or try again myself?

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Blueridge;44049558]Jesus christ does talking to moms ever get better? Whenever I try talking to her she keeps asking me rhetorical questions, where both responses would make me sound like an ass, so I just stay silent on the phone hoping she gets the hint. But she doesn't, she says they're probing questions and that she asks her students(around ~14, 15) the same ones and they're able to respond to them. But it's like, much different to respond to those questions to a teacher than it is your mom.[/QUOTE]

just be an ass

it is your mom, i'm an ass to my mom all the time(i love her very much though) but if she's asking me things just to make me sound like an ass i just give her what she wants

[redBadger]

[QUOTE=Blueridge;44049558]Jesus christ does talking to moms ever get better? Whenever I try talking to her she keeps asking me rhetorical questions, where both responses would make me sound like an ass, so I just stay silent on the phone hoping she gets the hint. But she doesn't, she says they're probing questions and that she asks her students(around ~14, 15) the same ones and they're able to respond to them. But it's like, much different to respond to those questions to a teacher than it is your mom.[/QUOTE]

Just respond "I'm in the middle of a three way...call you back"

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=HighdefGE;44049831]Right, so after several days she called me again like she was excited to talk with me. Her tone changed when she asked if I was okay when I told her that I was busy and that I'd call back later tonight (I didn't). The only issue is I don't want her to think that I'm disinterested and therefore never call me again, but at the same time I feel very tempted to call her back and the only thing that's stopping me is:
1) knowing I'll end up chasing her which I will not do and
2) nothing to talk about

So how do I have her chase me for my attention without making it look like I'm disinterested? Should I wait for her to call me again or do I call her back myself tomorrow? And should I wait for her to invite me somewhere or try again myself?[/QUOTE]

You said you would call back. Therefore you should. Distancing yourself isnt refusing to contact them, its just contacting them if they contact you.
Its kinda an ass thing to say you'll call back then don't and it will definitely come off as not being interested.

[Taepodong-2]

You all probably remember me as a total social retard and some whiny cunt going like "wah wah why dont girls like me" just a couple months ago. Well that changes because today I asked a girl if she wanted to go for coffee and she said yes.

[redBadger]

[QUOTE=HighdefGE;44049831]Right, so after several days she called me again like she was excited to talk with me. Her tone changed when she asked if I was okay when I told her that I was busy and that I'd call back later tonight (I didn't). The only issue is I don't want her to think that I'm disinterested and therefore never call me again, but at the same time I feel very tempted to call her back and the only thing that's stopping me is:
1) knowing I'll end up chasing her which I will not do and
2) nothing to talk about

So how do I have her chase me for my attention without making it look like I'm disinterested? Should I wait for her to call me again or do I call her back myself tomorrow? And should I wait for her to invite me somewhere or try again myself?[/QUOTE]

I think you made a risky move by not calling her back at all. I would call her first thing in the morning to check up and apologize (make an excuse) and see if she wants to do something that day.

[Heigou]

Anyone has experience with dealing with suicide? My used-to-be best friend attempted suicide and I saved his ass, unfortunately things happened and while we're still on very good terms, we're more like acquaintances than anything else because he's busy with work, his girlfriend and his kid.

However, today I received news that an old friend of mine from High school ended his life and I feel like shit, this guy was an amazing person and he's one of the person that made my high school life worth it, always there to put a smile on my face. Unfortunately, I couldn't save him like I saved my ex best friend, he didn't have a facebook and because we got busy with our personal lives, we just kind of lost contact with each other and that's a fucking terrible way to be remembered of a great person that I used to love hanging out with.

I feel like shit that I wasn't there for him, not once had I thought that he would do something like that, I don't know what happened in the years since we left high school but what the fuck.

I have no friends left as it is and learning news like that of these old friends fucking sucks.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Heigou;44051205]Anyone has experience with dealing with suicide? My used-to-be best friend attempted suicide and I saved his ass, unfortunately things happened and while we're still on very good terms, we're more like acquaintances than anything else because he's busy with work, his girlfriend and his kid.

However, today I received news that an old friend of mine from High school ended his life and I feel like shit, this guy was an amazing person and he's one of the person that made my high school life worth it, always there to put a smile on my face. Unfortunately, I couldn't save him like I saved my ex best friend, he didn't have a facebook and because we got busy with our personal lives, we just kind of lost contact with each other and that's a fucking terrible way to be remembered of a great person that I used to love hanging out with.

I feel like shit that I wasn't there for him, not once had I thought that he would do something like that, I don't know what happened in the years since we left high school but what the fuck.

I have no friends left as it is and learning news like that of these old friends fucking sucks.[/QUOTE]

You can't expect yourself to be there for everyone... especially people you aren't particularly close to. It's terrible and tragic when a person gets to that point where they no longer feel able to carry on, but it's not necessarily the fault of anyone around them.

To be blunt about it... death happens, in some form or another, whether we like it or not and you cannot change that. You need to accept it, grieve and move on. Perhaps now is a time to reconnect with old mutual friends? I'm sure they could do with support and I'm sure you would also benefit.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=HighdefGE;44049831]Right, so after several days she called me again like she was excited to talk with me. Her tone changed when she asked if I was okay when I told her that I was busy and that I'd call back later tonight (I didn't). The only issue is I don't want her to think that I'm disinterested and therefore never call me again, but at the same time I feel very tempted to call her back and the only thing that's stopping me is:
1) knowing I'll end up chasing her which I will not do and
2) nothing to talk about

So how do I have her chase me for my attention without making it look like I'm disinterested? Should I wait for her to call me again or do I call her back myself tomorrow? And should I wait for her to invite me somewhere or try again myself?[/QUOTE]

Well, I know these little games may be hard sometimes but dont give in. Contacting her doesnt directly mean youre already chasing her, but dialing your attention to her to a minimum should make her notice it. You can still keep this up a couple of days, then you if you want to, you can call her, but only to ask her to go out with you for a coffee or something.

[HighdefGE]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;44050438]You said you would call back. Therefore you should. Distancing yourself isnt refusing to contact them, its just contacting them if they contact you.
Its kinda an ass thing to say you'll call back then don't and it will definitely come off as not being interested.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=redBadger;44050695]I think you made a risky move by not calling her back at all. I would call her first thing in the morning to check up and apologize (make an excuse) and see if she wants to do something that day.[/QUOTE]

I know it was kind of asshole-ish of me not to call back but my point was she's done the same thing several times, which led me to believe she lost interest.. until she calls me again days later. What I'll do is actually call her later today in between classes and make an excuse.

[editline]26th February 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;44052403]Well, I know these little games may be hard sometimes but dont give in. Contacting her doesnt directly mean youre already chasing her, but dialing your attention to her to a minimum should make her notice it. You can still keep this up a couple of days, then you if you want to, you can call her, but only to ask her to go out with you for a coffee or something.[/QUOTE]

My other problem lies here. I don't know whether I should be the one initiating for us to meet up again. I've tried before twice over a course of two weeks; the first time was actually genuine, second time not sure. Third time she invited me to go skiing but said she was unsure if she would go or not and would get back to me. She never did.

And that's why I'm debating with myself if should even continue talking to her, knowing there's a chance she'll make yet another excuse. The way I want to go about it is have [i]her invite me[/i] somewhere because I know if she does, then she's still interested. Any of you guys have better ideas?

[chinatown]

Look, if shes still talking to you there's probably still some interest from her. I wouldn't wait for her to to ask though, that can take a long time. Just ask her to go out with you. Ask her first when she has free time, then you'll know when shes actually not busy and youll avoid a lot of rescheduling.

But ultimately, if you dont want to, just drop the girl and move on. If she wants to come back, let her come, but dont become dependent on her

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;44052403]Well, I know these little games may be hard sometimes but dont give in. Contacting her doesnt directly mean youre already chasing her, but dialing your attention to her to a minimum should make her notice it. You can still keep this up a couple of days, then you if you want to, you can call her, but only to ask her to go out with you for a coffee or something.[/QUOTE]

It's pretty counterproductive to go to so much trouble to make it look like you don't care.
This kind of behavior is just... stupid at this point, when people have their cell phones on them 99% of the time. Unless you actually have a busy schedule and the person knows it, it's not particularly believable that you'd be so busy for days on end that you can't be bothered to call.

[QUOTE=HighdefGE;44053287]The way I want to go about it is have [i]her invite me[/i] somewhere because I know if she does, then she's still interested. Any of you guys have better ideas?[/QUOTE]

Do that. Just tell her to contact you when she's free and wants to meet up.

[ROFLBURGER]

Where do I purchase the balls to ask someone out

[RobbL]

Liquor store

[Saza]

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44056940]Where do I purchase the balls to ask someone out[/QUOTE]

I more or less noticed that we both really liked the other so I just kept in my head the idea that there's literally no reason beyond act of god she would say no - and, well, here we are going to a movie tonight

[WastedJamacan]

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44056940]Where do I purchase the balls to ask someone out[/QUOTE]

[QUOTE=RobbL;44056981]Liquor store[/QUOTE]

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[JackAttack]

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44056940]Where do I purchase the balls to ask someone out[/QUOTE]

You already have them, you just need to stretch them out a bit.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;44056334]It's pretty counterproductive to go to so much trouble to make it look like you don't care.
This kind of behavior is just... stupid at this point, when people have their cell phones on them 99% of the time. Unless you actually have a busy schedule and the person knows it, it's not particularly believable that you'd be so busy for days on end that you can't be bothered to call.[/QUOTE]

Yeah we had this discussion before. Again, its true that most people have their cellphones with them, but sometimes if youre someone like me, you dont reply because you're busy, you forgot about it, you dont feel like replying right away or just replying in general.
And then again replying right back at everything someone says can have its own effects.

[editline]26th February 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;44056940]Where do I purchase the balls to ask someone out[/QUOTE]

[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w_-BNO_vs4M[/media]

[ROFLBURGER]

Oh my got I was just thinking of that joke when I posted that

Yeah but it's wired. I can't tell if it's the fact that I'm a pussy or unmotivated to ask people out.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;44057661]Yeah we had this discussion before. Again, its true that most people have their cellphones with them, but sometimes if youre someone like me, you dont reply because you're busy, you forgot about it, you dont feel like replying right away or just replying in general.
And then again replying right back at everything someone says can have its own effects.[/QUOTE]

And if you legitimately forgot about it then that's understandable, but most people don't possess the acting skills to convince the other person that they legitimately "forgot" to call and aren't just playing a stupid game.

[Gnomerz]

I don't know if this counts as a social question, more scholarly than anything.

Basically, I'm a sophomore in High School. I've recently found out I have an 80% GPA or 2.7 depending on what you prefer. I'm wondering how high I could possibly bring that up within the next 2 and a quarter years in high school?

Freshman year, I did 100% shit in school. I was failing biology, and algebra, and was just doing horrible. This year I've been maintaining high 70s, and low to mid 80s grades. I've been slowly getting them up more and more.

Also, I don't know if this matters, but my schedule for next year is:

AP Physics I
AP English III
Honors US History II
Pre-calculus
AP Computer Science III
Honors Cyber security
Intro to Web Design I

Do you think the AP/Honors classes will aid in bringing up my GPA if I give it my all? I'm talking going all out studying, getting every piece of homework done, and all of that jazz.

I'm aiming to get my GPA to a 90, or 3.7. If this is possible, it'd would make my life. I'm pissed I hadn't taken school seriously earlier.

[redBadger]

AP classes weigh higher than regular classes therefore with AP classes you can get a 4.5 GPA I believe. At least that's how it worked when I was in high school