Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

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[lifemonkey]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40496270]Thats good, soy milk especially seems to have every vitamin in existence thrown in it. It's one of my favourite drinks since I got some :v: It's definitely been helpful for me since I don't eat that healthy, and I was certainly lacking some vitamins.

Plant fats are not fully hydrogenated, making their structure bendy and spreading them out, animal fats are fully hydrogenated so they have a straight structure, packing them closer together. You'll have to consume a lot of plant fats to equal out to some of your animal fat, unless you eat artifically hydrogenated things (like margarine) but those arn't very healthy since they have some trans fats (badly formed fats your body can't digest properly so they just get to float in your blood stream)

It might seem like your eating a lot of fats and oils when it really doesn't balance out to a lot

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I talk too much :v:[/QUOTE]

I should look up what I need to maintain a balanced diet or something, in all honesty, I usually eat whatever my girlfriend makes, and then when she isn't home it's spaghetti or vermicelli, with lots of spices... Lol. I'll have to look at where I can find more plant fats.

[QUOTE=smileykiller447;40497184]If you drink coffee black, then I think it wouldn't be so unhealthy.[/QUOTE]

I do drink coffee black. My girlfriend throws sugar in hers, I can't stand it. Just one bit of sugar leaves a ridiculously sweet taste in my mouth, hurts my teeth even.

[QUOTE=thisispain;40497294]lifemonkey i hope you dont have severe withdrawal issues tho
i still in times of stress really ache over having a cigarette, its kind of pathetic but i can't help it. its what happens when you reach for it to mitigate anxiety.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, when I quit for two months, I still had withdrawals, there will always be a sort of temptation. Even if I quit for years, I'm sure it's something that I will have to face for the rest of my life, but overcome it. I feel like every day I am becoming more prepared to take on the challenge of quitting though, time will tell, I suppose. I think this pack will be my last, but those are pretty famous words, lol.

I have an extremely addictive personality, so I just hope that when I do make my next attempt, which I strongly want to be the successful attempt, I succeed and can beat my temptations. I dunno. Smoking is just awful. :(

[Heigou]

Diet blows my mind, I've been working out for the past 2 years and went from 265 lbs to 177 lbs currently and I never embarked on any grand diet.

I just cut out the processed garbage and ate less calories than I burnt in a day and voila.

It's not hard, avoid sugar, trans and saturated fat, aka any processed garbage, eat vegetables with your meat/fish and bam, health.

[Megafan]

[QUOTE=Heigou;40497896]Diet blows my mind, I've been working out for the past 2 years and went from 265 lbs to 177 lbs currently and I never embarked on any grand diet.

I just cut out the processed garbage and ate less calories than I burnt in a day and voila.

It's not hard, avoid sugar, trans and saturated fat, aka any processed garbage, eat vegetables with your meat/fish and bam, health.[/QUOTE]

Assuming one has the money for fresh produce and the time/energy in a day to prepare a balanced meal, of course.

[lifemonkey]

[QUOTE=Megafan;40498168]Assuming one has the money for fresh produce and the time/energy in a day to prepare a balanced meal, of course.[/QUOTE]

It is expensive, all diets are. But, like everything in life, you have to pay the price for what you want. It is definitely a lot easiest (and much more appealing) to be lazier with foods, and cheaper with money. I am definitely that type of person. While my girlfriend prepares full-out fancy meals with all sorts of veggies and fruits, I throw in some pasta and slap some siracha sauce on it, that's a meal to me. A cheap one, and it fills me up good enough.

If I was single, I'd definitely be much less healthy, but quite a bit more financially stable.

[thisispain]

for me personally id rather just eat less and healthier than eat more and it be junk, but i cant deal with junk food so i dont have much of a choice

[killerteacup]

oi tpain send me some vinyls yes? yes ok thank you I expect them in the week

I hate junk but its pretty hard as a student to live solely off healthy food

cheeseburgers are like $2 man

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;40497091]oh, update on this
it turns out there are a lot more reasons than her smoking pot
for instance apparently her texan hospitality does not apply to people of other ethnicities because after my roommate showed her a video of a black male on youtube she started spewing off racist slurs and complaining about how "some of them are ok but most of them aren't"[/QUOTE]

Holy crap :v: Well I guess talking it out certainly would have helped eh?

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40498403]Holy crap :v: Well I guess talking it out certainly would have helped eh?[/QUOTE]

i think they broke up today
my roommate worked for his ex's mom at her house up until today, today was his last day. they had met because he had started working there. current girl didn't know that (roommate thought for sure that he had told her about it so it was an honest mistake on his part) and spent the entire day acting bitchy about it and being suspicious of him so he took her home

[It's crispy]

[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;40476878]Regarding her, there isn't really anything you can do. She's a lesbian, the prospect of you having a romantic relationship with her seems out of the question, but she is still your friend and you should be happy about it.
All you can really do is try take your mind of the feelings you have towards her.
Go play some games or go read something, keep yourself occupied. Try chatting with other girls, despite you being shy you were able to muster up the courage to talk to her in the first place, so with a bit of added effort you might be able to do it again.[/QUOTE]

Yeah, I'm really happy that she's my friend at all. We have so much in common, she's so nice, she's pretty, and she's really fun to work with, she's basically the friend I've always been looking for. None of my classmates were ever interested in any of the things I like to do, but she's interested in all of them and super motivated and wants to learn the things that I can teach her. And she's skilled at what she does.

I guess I'm just kind of upset because I've finally found the girl I've been looking for, and she just happens to be a lesbian. She's the only girl I've ever had the guts to approach and I feel terrible when I realize she'll never love me like I love her. I know I should be able to talk to other girls but she's just so special and unique and exactly the person I've always wanted to be with.

[QUOTE=TrannyAlert;40489440]She might be bi?

Just keep it up with her, I'm jealous of you just having a good friend like that, that's something I don't even have.[/QUOTE]

I'm fairly sure she used the word "lesbian" when talking to my other friend. I'm not completely sure if I remember it right, though. Although she IS really shy, and all of her friends other than me are/have been girls, and I don't think she's ever been in a relationship other than this internet one, so... What am I saying, of course she knows what her own sexual orientation is. But aaugh I just want to be with her

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;40492765]non-physical intimacy isn't something exclusive to romantic relationships. it's normal for friends to hug each other and stuff like that. just because she's lesbian doesn't mean you can't be close
if she's lesbian all you can do is accept that nothing's going to happen between you romantically and move on, it'd be really shitty to try and pursue a relationship with her when she's already made it clear she's not interested[/QUOTE]

Of course I'm not trying to pursue a romantic relationship with her knowing that she's lesbian. That would be foolish, I just can't get over her. And yeah, I guess hugging and stuff will happen over time as we become closer friends. (Just to be clear she hasn't actually made it clear that she isn't interested, we haven't talked about that kind of thing at all. The only time any of use have actually mentioned a relationship is after my other friend had revealed to her that I was in love with her and I just had to make it clear that I wasn't only hanging out with her because I wanted her to be my girlfriend, but because I really do enjoy being with her.)

At least I guess I should be happy that her being lesbian means that there's no risk of us getting together and then breaking up, not being friends anymore. A non-romantic relationship is less fragile than a romantic one.

[SundayRoast]

[QUOTE=Eric95;40499178][/QUOTE]

Makes me grateful for my situation being complicated but at least having some light at the end in regards to turning into a romantic relationship.

[Boss]

And here we go again

[SundayRoast]

[QUOTE=Boss;40499866]And here we go again[/QUOTE]

I guess there's nothing complicated with that she went out to the movies with me and that her boyfriend doesn't seem to know. Not that it would usually trigger some kind of reaction when someone goes out with your girlfriend every week if it happens to come out.
If he'd know then I guess it would paint quite a clear picture, but I haven't asked her yet about if she knows.

But hey I was supposed to keep my mouth shut.
And I'm 100% wrong and there is nothing going on with the exception of my imagination. Right?

[aeeh]

hmhm...someone want a dinner with me in Berlin ? This Saturday 20pm? Prefer a girl :P

[JesterUK]

[QUOTE=Fridolin;40499947]hmhm...someone want a dinner with me in Berlin ? This Saturday 20pm? Prefer a girl :P[/QUOTE]

I don't think this thread is for that. Try Craigslist?

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Fridolin;40499947]hmhm...someone want a dinner with me in Berlin ? This Saturday 20pm? Prefer a girl :P[/QUOTE]

sure okey ^_^ teehee u cute

[MindMuncher]

Okay so maybe my assumption that my prom date wasn't all that into me was a bit premature. She asked me to go to a smallish music festival with her the day before, but I had kinda assumed that it was a just as friends sort of thing because we both ended up going with groups and it rained before we could meet up so that didn't happen. Then at prom there was pretty limited connection and she didn't do a whole to facilitate it. If you watched her behavior from just prom, you'd agree with me I'm betting. Her friend was a lot more into me it seemed.
But to be fair, she did seem specifically interested in going to the festival with me and asked me to it and told me to make sure not to get scheduled work that day, and then prom may have been a bit weird for her in that department since she was with her friends and one of them was obviously hitting on me and stuff. I didn't relate at the time since most of them were strangers to me and I wouldn't have cared what they saw me doing really, but she would care and I had failed to empathize.

Anyway, that's mostly stuff I just thought of, though it does come off as over-analyzing, I only say it to offer some explanation so that both sides seem justified to you, my audience.
The real important bit is that I asked her out since I was tired and had that feel-good/inhibitions-lowered feeling you get after the gym going and figured 'fuck it, if she wants to we're golden, if not, that's that'.

She was all enthusiastic sounding and now I'm going to show her how to eat Pho noodle soup with plenty of slurping and we might be going to a fair. We're golden.

[Dark_Light]

You're def golden.

[rammaster]

So, I have this girl's number and I've always been bad at like text conversations. I feel like I run out of things to say or I might sound stupid or something or intruding. Wat do?

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=Rammaster;40510252]So, I have this girl's number and I've always been bad at like text conversations. I feel like I run out of things to say or I might sound stupid or something or intruding. Wat do?[/QUOTE]

[B]No:[/B]
[B]Y[/B]: Hey
[B]H[/B]: Hi
[B]Y[/B]: How are you?
[B]H[/B]: I'm good
[B]Y[/B]: Good

Then other than that you just need to make the conversations flow. I'm pretty sure girls like it when you refer back to things they have said, because it shows you where paying attention. On top of that, girls do like you asking questions but don't interrogate them. Also if a compliment them when it feels right, don't force them in their because you have nothing else to say.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Rammaster;40510252]So, I have this girl's number and I've always been bad at like text conversations. I feel like I run out of things to say or I might sound stupid or something or intruding. Wat do?[/QUOTE]

Even if you can't think of anything to say, ask an open ended question (anything you cant answer with a simple yes/no/good/bad)

So long as you are good at prompting the other person to speak you dont have to say too much.

[Nikeos]

its the worst when you go to ask someone an open ended question and their answer is anything similar to "idk lol"

ugh

[JaegerMonster]

[QUOTE=Nikeos;40512487]its the worst when you go to ask someone an open ended question and their answer is anything similar to "idk lol"

ugh[/QUOTE]

Welp use that opportunity to tease them about having such a dumb answer.

Not everyone finds it easy to pour their goddamn heart and mind out to someone they've just met.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Nikeos;40512487]its the worst when you go to ask someone an open ended question and their answer is anything similar to "idk lol"

ugh[/QUOTE]

It's tough I know but if you get that response prompt them and ask them other related questions. If they keep giving you idk lol they probably just dont want to talk to you.

[rammaster]

I also hate it when they take forever to reply. They're probably busy and stuff but I can't help feeling ignored sometimes.

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=Rammaster;40514089]I also hate it when they take forever to reply. They're probably busy and stuff but I can't help feeling ignored sometimes.[/QUOTE]

According to my friend who is a girl, sometimes she will do stuff just so that it looks like she isn't waiting on them to talk to them. I do the same now, it's less demoralizing as well when they don't reply.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;40514173]my ex gf keeps periodically texting me all cool like and like every time 8 texts in it becomes a passive aggressive debate about how i picked my current gf over getting back with her like i'm a bad guy even though i said i was rather sure i didn't want to get back together after communicating again for a month[/QUOTE]

My ex sometimes checks up on me to make sure that she is having more fun than me.

[QUOTE=JaegerMonster;40513707]Welp use that opportunity to tease them about having such a dumb answer.

Not everyone finds it easy to pour their goddamn heart and mind out to someone they've just met.[/QUOTE]

It's a bit weird when you are speaking to a girl for the first time and you start to 'tease' them.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Yahnich;40514173]my ex gf keeps periodically texting me all cool like and like every time 8 texts in it becomes a passive aggressive debate about how i picked my current gf over getting back with her like i'm a bad guy even though i said i was rather sure i didn't want to get back together after communicating again for a month[/QUOTE]

Am I the only one who still gets along with their exes?

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40516018]Am I the only one who still gets along with their exes?[/QUOTE]

Yes, because that is a myth. Keeping a friendship after breaking up with someone if like keeping your dog once it is dead

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40516237]Yes, because that is a myth. Keeping a friendship after breaking up with someone if like keeping your dog once it is dead[/QUOTE]

So your just gonna deny that I get along fine with my exes and neither of us feel the need to make eachothers lives shit for it? Yeah k bro.

[RainbowStalin]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40516237]Yes, because that is a myth. Keeping a friendship after breaking up with someone if like keeping your dog once it is dead[/QUOTE]

Not if you both agree that a romantic relationship isn't right for you but just because you don't love each other doesn't mean you can't stay friends.