• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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His point is decent I just don't know why you decided to make it in response to BDA of all people.
NO NO NO WAIT I wasnt even talking about BDA [editline]24th March 2014[/editline] I was referring to another post up^ But even BDA went out with a couple of other girls before he started with his girl, so why would i argue against that?
Was in Columbus over the weekend. Tried to score a coffee date with a girl who worked at some antique store but I guess she had a fiance. I don't feel bad about it at all because we still chatted for a decent while afterwords, and there was hardly any awkwardness between us.
I know confessions are weird and awkward and shit, but what's the least awkward way for me to tell this girl I like her and want to be more than just friends?
I'm so confused. Please, help! I don't do "infatuation" anymore! I learned that lesson in my teens. If it ain't goin' anywhere, I shrug and move on. Sometimes I even do it much too quickly. My Valentine's girl got all miffed at me, because after we shacked up with each other for the holiday, I basically split. I asked her out twice more, but she artfully ignored both invitations by changing the subject. So, naturally, I figured it was a bust and started seeing other people. She comes back a couple weeks later like, [I]I just needed some time to think. You weren't supposed to go![/I] Whoops! Unless the person you're referring to me currently being "infatuated" with is my girlfriend, in which case, what's the problem? We kinda dig each other! Obviously I'm not going to go out looking for new prospects while this one is working out so well for me. [editline]24th March 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=Taepodong-2;44340673]I know confessions are weird and awkward and shit, but what's the least awkward way for me to tell this girl I like her and want to be more than just friends?[/QUOTE] [u]Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT[/u] "Would you like to go out with me?" "Hey, friendo, I was thinking it'd be nice to take you out for a date." "Let's go have dinner and then possibly sleep together." etc.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44340718] [u]Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT[/u] "Would you like to go out with me?" "Hey, friendo, I was thinking it'd be nice to take you out for a date." "Let's go have dinner and then possibly sleep together." etc.[/QUOTE] Except we've already been on dates though. I just don't feel like I've made it super clear I like her as more than a friend if that makes any sense.
Then tell her. You just gotta be up front about it.
Had this guy ask me today - out of the blue - if my jacket was from Marks and Spencer. Genuinely just standing in a group, everyone's happy, talking about the shit they did today, and then he goes to ask me a question, but stops halfway through and shakes his head. I tell him "No, go ahead, what?" and then he pops the question: "Did you get that jacket from Marks and Spencer?", and then awkwardly looks around waiting for people to laugh. No one did. Funnily enough, a few weeks back, I overhead him do the same shit to a girl. She comes in wearing a jacket and he just tells her straight up: "Don't wear that jacket again, it doesn't look good on you, it makes you look bad". So I don't know if he's being sincere in his opinion, or if his self-esteem is so low he tries to bolster it at other peoples' expense. It was embarrassing when he looked around with his smug "that was a killer joke" smile on. Felt slightly bad for him. Some people are just dickheads for the sake of being dickheads. It's crazy. Why would you go out of your way to mock someone else? [editline]24th March 2014[/editline] For those of you wondering, my jacket isn't from M&S! Such hurtful words :(
I had a similar(?) experience over the weekend. I was in Columbus for this acting class, and this one guy seemed rather odd and eccentric.(I suspect he was autistic)Seems like he was expecting to be totally loved by the instructor and be placed above all the rest of the class, and totally shut down when that didn't happen. He became totally uncooperative near the end and just sat in his chair with his hands clasped together. Felt pretty bad for him.
[QUOTE=loopoo;44341322]Had this guy ask me today - out of the blue - if my jacket was from Marks and Spencer. Genuinely just standing in a group, everyone's happy, talking about the shit they did today, and then he goes to ask me a question, but stops halfway through and shakes his head. I tell him "No, go ahead, what?" and then he pops the question: "Did you get that jacket from Marks and Spencer?", and then awkwardly looks around waiting for people to laugh. No one did. Funnily enough, a few weeks back, I overhead him do the same shit to a girl. She comes in wearing a jacket and he just tells her straight up: "Don't wear that jacket again, it doesn't look good on you, it makes you look bad". So I don't know if he's being sincere in his opinion, or if his self-esteem is so low he tries to bolster it at other peoples' expense. It was embarrassing when he looked around with his smug "that was a killer joke" smile on. Felt slightly bad for him. Some people are just dickheads for the sake of being dickheads. It's crazy. Why would you go out of your way to mock someone else? [editline]24th March 2014[/editline] For those of you wondering, my jacket isn't from M&S! Such hurtful words :([/QUOTE] Sometimes I forget how far out of social loops I am. Whats wrong with M&S?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;44341426]Sometimes I forget how far out of social loops I am. Whats wrong with M&S?[/QUOTE] Nothing, usually. But this guy said it with the express purpose of attempting to get laughs at my expense.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;44340936]Except we've already been on dates though. I just don't feel like I've made it super clear I like her as more than a friend if that makes any sense.[/QUOTE] Then you should have made it clear long ago. Its not too hard to be clear enough that you're into her and not say stupid shit. But for the love of god dont go write a letter about how you love her.
I am unfamiliar with Marks & Spencer, but how/why is that insulting? I pulled up their web page and didn't see anything outrageously offensive. [editline]24th March 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=Taepodong-2;44340936]Except we've already been on dates though. I just don't feel like I've made it super clear I like her as more than a friend if that makes any sense.[/QUOTE] Was she aware that they were actually dates, or did you phrase it like you were just "hanging out?" Because I imagine it would be pretty frustrating to be asked to "hang out," only to arrive and have the person who invited you along be, like, [I]Surprise, it's actually a date![/I]
I feel discouraged from drawing because I realized that I barely improved in the last few months but I know that stopping is counter-productive. What should I do?
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44343312]I am unfamiliar with Marks & Spencer, but how/why is that insulting? I pulled up their web page and didn't see anything outrageously offensive. [/QUOTE] It's like asking someone if they bought their jacket from Walmart (but not as bad, M&S is kinda posh in the UK, but it's not like Ralph Lauren or Hugo Boss or something). He meant it to be insulting. I just wanted to vent on an internet forum about how it hurt my feelings.
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;44343497]I feel discouraged from drawing because I realized that I barely improved in the last few months but I know that stopping is counter-productive. What should I do?[/QUOTE] This is probably stating the obvious, but you need to be patient with yourself. If you do something enough, you'll gradually get better at it - the results might not be immediate, but no matter what you're doing, you'll gradually realize what works well or doesn't work well and be able to fix those problems in future attempts. I would suggest deciding whether you want to take drawing seriously or if you want to leave it as a fun hobby. If you're seriously interested in improving, I would suggest looking into resources for learning proper anatomy, perspective, etc (I don't do visual art so I can't give specific recommendations here). I'm sort of in the same boat as you right now - after slacking on music for a long time, a few weeks ago I decided to start taking piano more seriously. I have a habit of slacking on work, so I've made a rule for myself to devote at least 30 minutes a day to something music related, whether it's reading about music theory or actually playing piano. Most days I'm able to manage an hour or more of practice and study, since I've been blessed with a lot of free time as of late. I also study music theory lessons on my tablet between my classes or while I'm waiting at school for whatever reason. There are compositions that I had never perfected playing and just left at "good enough". Instead of flipping through different pieces of music and playing whatever interests me at the moment, I've started taking a different approach of working on a single piece of music until I have it at the level where I could perform it (for me, that means continuing to play the piece well after I've mastered the notes themselves and being able to play it as my own unique interpretation). I also tend to devote huge amounts of time to just practicing a specific technique - I spent about 30 minutes yesterday just working on tremolo because I felt I'm a bit weak in that area. If you've mostly been drawing random things, you might want to apply that approach to drawing - devote a few days or weeks to mastering one specific aspect of drawing.
[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;44343497]I feel discouraged from drawing because I realized that I barely improved in the last few months but I know that stopping is counter-productive. What should I do?[/QUOTE] [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7eqBl6c_Sc[/media] Its a long listen, but its well worth it. Any person in the creative field or trying to get in it should listen to this
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44343312]I am unfamiliar with Marks & Spencer, but how/why is that insulting? I pulled up their web page and didn't see anything outrageously offensive. [editline]24th March 2014[/editline] Was she aware that they were actually dates, or did you phrase it like you were just "hanging out?" Because I imagine it would be pretty frustrating to be asked to "hang out," only to arrive and have the person who invited you along be, like, [I]Surprise, it's actually a date![/I][/QUOTE] I did phrase it as hanging out. But we did cuddle last time and on our first "date" she got all dressed up with a cute outfit as if it was a date so she may have seen them as such, even if I didn't say they were. But seriously though how bad did I fuck up by not straight up saying it's a date, even if there is the chance she may have seen them as such?
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;44345090]I did phrase it as hanging out. But we did cuddle last time and on our first "date" she got all dressed up with a cute outfit as if it was a date so she may have seen them as such, even if I didn't say they were. But seriously though how bad did I fuck up by not straight up saying it's a date, even if there is the chance she may have seen them as such?[/QUOTE] If you ended up cuddling, it sounds like she got the message.
I finally talked to CWG about my moving to Florida, and it went better than expected! I changed my plans a bit so that we would have enough time to really see where the relationship was heading. Instead of moving in July, like I planned, I'll be going down at the end of Summer, in about six months. She said she's crazy about me, and she'd keep an open mind as we move forward. Not bad!
Way to go BDA!
Good news about my situation. We're back to friends, and the guy she likes, may not even like her.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44346769]I finally talked to CWG about my moving to Florida, and it went better than expected! I changed my plans a bit so that we would have enough time to really see where the relationship was heading. Instead of moving in July, like I planned, I'll be going down at the end of Summer, in about six months. She said she's crazy about me, and she'd keep an open mind as we move forward. Not bad![/QUOTE] Why would you move to florida. It sucks down here :v (mainly south florida where nobody comes though. Orlando and tampa are fine I guess)
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[QUOTE=Catscratch;44347675]Why would you move to florida. It sucks down here :v (mainly south florida where nobody comes though. Orlando and tampa are fine I guess)[/QUOTE] I'm moving to Fort Lauderdale for school! I'm studying marine engineering so that I can can potentially crew on yachts and things like that. The ocean is my Shangri-La, so I am very excited! Plus, you don't know how good you have it with that whole "no real winters" thing. This past winter (the winter that is still sitting outside sending flurries) has broken my spirit. I never want to see another.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44349421]I'm moving to Fort Lauderdale for school! I'm studying marine engineering so that I can can potentially crew on yachts and things like that. The ocean is my Shangri-La, so I am very excited! Plus, you don't know how good you have it with that whole "no real winters" thing. This past winter (the winter that is still sitting outside sending flurries) has broken my spirit. I never want to see another.[/QUOTE] Holy shit what you're moving near me! :O but not the 'no real winters' is not lucky. it's hot as fuck. 70 degrees is a blessing of a day
I love hot weather. It recharges me! Gimme a scorcher of a day and a beach to sprawl out on half nekkid, and I'll be a happy guy. Make me trudge out on an ugly grey morning to scrape ice from my windows and dig out my car before driving to work, however, and I'll be grumpy all goddamn day.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44350319]I love hot weather. It recharges me! Gimme a scorcher of a day and a beach to sprawl out on half nekkid, and I'll be a happy guy. Make me trudge out on an ugly grey morning to scrape ice from my windows and dig out my car before driving to work, however, and I'll be grumpy all goddamn day.[/QUOTE] I automatically feel great if theres a blue sky and a sun shining on me. It is just so nice and beautiful. [editline]25th March 2014[/editline] A clear blue sky
It was drizzling slightly today, grey and overcast skies, everything had a really thin sheen of water on it and the air just smelled so nice. I love sunny days and rainy days. Rainy days are awesome to me. [editline]25th March 2014[/editline] And having spent a lot of time in the Middle East, I'd rather pass on overly hot days. Warm, sunny days are where it's at.
I like rainy days too, as long as they're not cold rainy days.
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