Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[KommunistBear]

I love the grey overcast of western Washington with the green trees surrounding it.
Might be shitty weather for some but it is my cup of tea.
#gottaleavePhoenix

[Sobek-]

Give me freezing cold, dark rainy days any day, I love it. Reminds me of when we were kids and my best friend and I would sit there playing games in the middle of the night, in winter, A/C going full blast and the room sitting at a chilly 10 degrees celsius hahaha. We were such idiots. But regardless, I've always loved the rain and cold, not sure why. Probably because I was born in the Adelaide winter, which is pretty bloody cold.

It's in my bones?

[Inspector Jones]

Here's to another terrible birthday spent alone (Tomorrow).

Sorry for being dramatic; I just wanted to say it.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;44356967]Here's to another terrible birthday spent alone (Tomorrow).

Sorry for being dramatic; I just wanted to say it.[/QUOTE]

Mine have always been pretty uneventful too.

When I lived with my parents, I stopped celebrating birthdays after I turned 13, so every year they got me an oreo ice cream cake from Baskin Robbins. This year I got myself one. Ended up feeling more like a birthday than the past few years have because of that tradition.

...Then I took a bubble bath with a bottle of wine and a book, so that was nice too.

If you have any birthday traditions like that from your childhood, you could follow through with them. It makes the day feel a bit more significant.

[Heigou]

Last time I celebrated my birthday with anyone was I think around 11 years old, as Guy said, I just treat myself to something that I wouldn't otherwise. Maybe if I had friends I'd attempt at inviting some over for a party but I'm simply too busy being a vain shallow fuck trying to improve myself to have friends.

[Jacob_sword]

Hey guys, so this chick I've been talking to and gotten close too. Is getting wired and I don't know what to do. So we manly skype around midnight night for a couple of hours. And usually ends in webcam sex. Well I want to date her and I think if she's doing this stuff she would be open to dating me but when we get close in person she's like no I don't like being touch or just doesn't talk at all to me. So what the hell? Is she just using me for her on needs or does she like me? I don't know she says she does but doesn't act it unless were skyping.

[Splash Attack]

I have a sinking feeling that this girl I've been dating is trying to put me off. I asked two days ago if she would be free today/tonight. She said maybe and that she was supposed to be seeing her dad sometime today. I checked last night and she still said that she wasn't sure. Well today, I asked and she's been busy. But instead of visiting her dad, she has been helping a friend of hers study for a test. She said she didn't know how long it would take and that she'd let me know if she would be free... Well its been 4-5 hours and she is still supposedly studying.

I could just be paranoid, but somehow it feels like I'm getting the runaround. If she is, I really just wish that she would be more upfront and honest instead of dancing around the idea of going out and coming up with excuses.

[Taepodong-2]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;44365974]I have a sinking feeling that this girl I've been dating is trying to put me off. I asked two days ago if she would be free today/tonight. She said maybe and that she was supposed to be seeing her dad sometime today. I checked last night and she still said that she wasn't sure. Well today, I asked and she's been busy. But instead of visiting her dad, she has been helping a friend of hers study for a test. She said she didn't know how long it would take and that she'd let me know if she would be free... Well its been 4-5 hours and she is still supposedly studying.

I could just be paranoid, but somehow it feels like I'm getting the runaround. If she is, I really just wish that she would be more upfront and honest instead of dancing around the idea of going out and coming up with excuses.[/QUOTE]

Some girls are just like that and think they'd really hurt your feelings if they just straight up say no. Good intentions, bad execution. I had the same thing happen to me about a year ago but to be honest she would have hurt my feelings a lot less if she just straight up said no instead of getting my hopes up and crushing them.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;44365974]I have a sinking feeling that this girl I've been dating is trying to put me off. I asked two days ago if she would be free today/tonight. She said maybe and that she was supposed to be seeing her dad sometime today. I checked last night and she still said that she wasn't sure. Well today, I asked and she's been busy. But instead of visiting her dad, she has been helping a friend of hers study for a test. She said she didn't know how long it would take and that she'd let me know if she would be free... Well its been 4-5 hours and she is still supposedly studying.

I could just be paranoid, but somehow it feels like I'm getting the runaround. If she is, I really just wish that she would be more upfront and honest instead of dancing around the idea of going out and coming up with excuses.[/QUOTE]

Why not just ask her when she will be free? Rather than rescheduling yourself when you seem to be the open scheduled one.

[Splash Attack]

I don't see why she would be so worried about hurting my feelings. We've been on one actual date and went bowling with my cousin and her bf, which I wouldn't really even consider a date. We don't really have anything all that serious going on for feelings to be all that hurt.

[DireWolf]

[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;44366034]Some girls are just like that and think they'd really hurt your feelings if they just straight up say no. Good intentions, bad execution. I had the same thing happen to me about a year ago but to be honest she would have hurt my feelings a lot less if she just straight up said no instead of getting my hopes up and crushing them.[/QUOTE]

I fucking hate this shit, they would end up hurting my feelings a whole lot less if they just flat-out said 'no' or 'Thanks, but I'm not interested' or some shit like that instead of giving me hope and leading me on.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;44356967]Here's to another terrible birthday spent alone (Tomorrow).

Sorry for being dramatic; I just wanted to say it.[/QUOTE]

i never have birthday parties anymore

just eat a cake with your family like i do

or with anybody really

[editline]27th March 2014[/editline]

the cake just makes you feel better

[editline]27th March 2014[/editline]

call someone up n be like "hey eat cake with me" even if you haven't talked to them in forever

[editline]27th March 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;44365974]I have a sinking feeling that this girl I've been dating is trying to put me off. I asked two days ago if she would be free today/tonight. She said maybe and that she was supposed to be seeing her dad sometime today. I checked last night and she still said that she wasn't sure. Well today, I asked and she's been busy. But instead of visiting her dad, she has been helping a friend of hers study for a test. She said she didn't know how long it would take and that she'd let me know if she would be free... Well its been 4-5 hours and she is still supposedly studying.

I could just be paranoid, but somehow it feels like I'm getting the runaround. If she is, I really just wish that she would be more upfront and honest instead of dancing around the idea of going out and coming up with excuses.[/QUOTE]
date someone else then

it's not like she's your girlfriend you're only dating

[Inspector Jones]

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;44366844]i never have birthday parties anymore

just eat a cake with your family like i do

or with anybody really

[/QUOTE]

Nobody to eat cake with; no friends nearby; I said maybe ten words to my family today.

I didn't expect a party; but I do want to share at least one birthday with someone I care about.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;44366982]Nobody to eat cake with; no friends nearby; I said maybe ten words to my family today.

I didn't expect a party; but I do want to share at least one birthday with someone I care about.[/QUOTE]
first thing though

do you usually tell people when your birthday is

i don't, even if i've been friends for them for years and i probably assume you don't either

usually for birthdays you have to initiate it yourself you can't expect someone to come and share your birthday because they probably assume that you don't want them to

unless the people you know are really into that, but most people aren't

[editline]27th March 2014[/editline]

i don't even celebrate with my best friend, it's just not a thing we do

[editline]27th March 2014[/editline]

don't feel weird about asking people to be with you on your birthday either

it's normal for the birthday person to ask

[Splash Attack]

Aand now she is talking about meeting some of her family a month from now for Easter dinner.

These are the most mixed signals I have ever gotten from someone.

[Jacob_sword]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;44366982]Nobody to eat cake with; no friends nearby; I said maybe ten words to my family today.

I didn't expect a party; but I do want to share at least one birthday with someone I care about.[/QUOTE]

Hey man I feel your pain. I live on my own and I'm sick of being alone I just really want some one to be with me; but with my luck that's probably never going to happen.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;44367149]Aand now she is talking about meeting some of her family a month from now for Easter dinner.

These are the most mixed signals I have ever gotten from someone.[/QUOTE]

it's a month from now

do it some time in between and if she has absolutely no time in between it's not worth it and go date someone else

[Splash Attack]

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;44367405]it's a month from now

do it some time in between and if she has absolutely no time in between it's not worth it and go date someone else[/QUOTE]

Well I assumed we would be dating in between then and now. I just thought she was avoiding going out again tonight.

Our schedules aren't really all that compatible, so we don't have the opportunity to date or see each other as often as I would like. I think missing one of those opportunities got me a little paranoid.

[Heigou]

Hey I'd have a cake with anyone in this thread for their birthday.

[editline]27th March 2014[/editline]

ladies first

[Big Dumb Patriot]

My birthday isn't for forever, but I'd be very ammenable to receiving a cake.

[editline]27th March 2014[/editline]

Somebody send me a cake.

[Slowbro]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44367702]My birthday isn't for forever, but I'd be very ammenable to receiving a cake.

[editline]27th March 2014[/editline]

Somebody send me a cake.[/QUOTE]

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[tratzzz]

I pretty much broke up with my gf of almost 9 months.

I don't know how much of a friend we should still be, but we are dance partners so we still have to dance together. any tips?

(i still love her, she doesn't love me. teenage shit)

[Larry_G]

Went on a date thing yesterday with a girl I like, as in we went to the bar and watched a movie at my place afterwards. It was nice don't get me wrong but all of a sudden she starts talking about how she doesn't want to fall in love right now (because her ex had dumped for no reason, which was 4 months ago). That made me feel a bit shit, perhaps for no reason even.

I don't know, whenever girls say that, it feels like it actually translates to "I just haven't found the right guy yet". It just kinda made me feel that I wasn't the right guy, you know. But maybe that's a weird thing to assume, I'll ask her out some other time again and see how that goes.

[posomblo]

I (18, male) kind of like a girl (16) which goes to my school. We talk a little bit in school, but we rarely see each other in school (schedules). Recently (2 weeks ago) I asked for her number. But I haven't texted her that much because I find texts usually get pretty boring. Anyway, the main point is that she actually gave her number to me.

Now the thing is that when we do talk in school, it generally feels very good. I generally find many similarities between us and I feel what I think is romantic interest from my side. Now I'm not sure, I'm not that experienced with love and stuff. How do I even learn how it feels like? :v:

Anyway, do you guys think I should ask her out? What should I suggest we do?

[zenby]

So after a few months of being into a girl that I can't be with (we're good friends), I branched out because it was making me feel like shit
Now I've got a second girl that I'm into and can't be with (she's a bit of a shitty person, extremely fickle) and I'm feeling like shit again
Can I just turn off the chemicals in my brain causing me anxiety and making me feel like shit? That would be great.

[Caynug]

Imagine being in total love with a girl that loves you back the same way and amount but yet you can't be together because of her religion. Mind destroying like it's fighting against nature and yourself.

[Inspector Jones]

Was supposed to meet a new girl today from OKcupid; but she texted me today saying her friend got in a big fight today with her parents and she had to help her move. Having never met her; I have no idea if she's just blowing me off of if it's real. I tend to trust other people, so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.

Online dating can be pretty frustrating.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;44383473]Was supposed to meet a new girl today from OKcupid; but she texted me today saying her friend got in a big fight today with her parents and she had to help her move. Having never met her; I have no idea if she's just blowing me off of if it's real. I tend to trust other people, so I'll give her the benefit of the doubt.

Online dating can be pretty frustrating.[/QUOTE]

People you meet online have a lot less incentive to be friendly to you than someone you know in person. The fact that she even bothered coming up with an excuse shows that she's interested in you. I doubt she would give an excuse at all if she wasn't interested.

[Inspector Jones]

This is true, I'm inclined to believe her. Either way, it still sucks; I was looking forward to meeting her. We were going to go bowling. Sucks more that we probably won't meet until next weekend now.

Online dating still sucks though. I stand by that comment.

EDIT:

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;44383607]its only a week[/QUOTE]

But a week is a long time full of boring nothingness!

Seriously tough, I know. I should clarify, I'm not saying online dating sucks because the girl can't meet me today; shit happens in life we can't control.

[Fire Kracker]

its only a week