Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Jmir 54]

I skipped a class today because I was too tired which is rare for me. Its literally the first time I skipped class in my four years at college except for that one time I accidentally overslept.

Im gonna try and make the most out of this day now.

[Zar]

I'm coughing a little. perfect excuse to just stay home tomorrow. I want to sleep the days away until the summer comes.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Zar;44410415]my life just sucks at the moment. If I'm with my friends, I'm just reminded how everyone but me are way closer than I am with them. And I'm tired of constantly being the one to start every single conversation. Nobody ever tries to get in touch with me.[/QUOTE]

Sometimes maybe its not the other people, it's you. Give people a reason to talk to you. If you're uninteresting and you're waiting for people to come to talk to you, and then blame them for not coming, maybe it's you? Either be so miserable people will pity talk to you or start engaging more.

[Zar]

i keep starting every single conerversation. people only strike me up if they feel bad for me.

[BigJoeyLemons]

[QUOTE=Zar;44413141]i keep starting every single conerversation. people only strike me up if they feel bad for me.[/QUOTE]

I've had that for a while.

A few weeks ago I started acting all introverted and quiet and sad (mainly because that's how I actually felt and I didn't feel like hiding it anymore), and some people, even teachers, were asking me if something was wrong. For some reason, though, I shrugged it off and told them I was just tired.

I was seeking attention and brushed it away once people started giving it to me. It's a little odd, I'm not quite sure why that happened.

I've gone back to acting happy now, though. Mainly because when I act sad it makes me stop wanting to do school work and I fall pretty far behind and "depression" isn't a worthy excuse for that

[KommunistBear]

When you say "'depression'" do you mean to say that your sense of sadness isn't true depression or are you saying that depression is not something that could make you stop everything?

[BigJoeyLemons]

[QUOTE=KommunistBear;44413634]When you say "'depression'" do you mean to say that your sense of sadness isn't true depression or are you saying that depression is not something that could make you stop everything?[/QUOTE]

It's not what could be formally classified as depression, it's just a prolonged melancholy state brought on by some stress. I use "depression" loosely in this context, not in reference to actual, clinical depression.

[zenby]

[QUOTE=Squidman;44410769]About to engage in a radical self-improvement program. Using equipment obtained from Craigslist, some rope, and a few tarps I constructed a gym in my backyard. I would have rather had it inside but the basement is full of plants, fertilizer and electrical equipment from another one of my roomies' failed pot cultivation projects.

It's been a year since I've lifted mostly because I couldn't afford a gym membership, food, and beer all at the same time but now I have a better job and my very own gym. So what exactly does this have to do with super friendly social and love advice? Well basically all I'm saying is that meeting people and talking with them has everything to do with your confidence level, and I highly suggest doing whatever will make you feel more confident in yourself*

Even if you are a reprehensible pile of flesh that happens to be genetically identical to a human being and your sole merit is not actually being Hitler, if you act confident enough people you interact with will assume you have something to be confident about, because nobody could be that delusional, right?

The key to fooling other people is to first fool yourself**

*note that I am not a trained professional with a degree in communications or human psychology, just a man with some Craigslist gym equipment and a tenuous grip on reality.

**[U]Turning Tricks: A guide to fooling your way through life[/U] please buy my book it's on amazon for $10 not refundable[/QUOTE]

you are one of my favorite posters

[QUOTE=Zar;44410415]my life just sucks at the moment. If I'm with my friends, I'm just reminded how everyone but me are way closer than I am with them. And I'm tired of constantly being the one to start every single conversation. Nobody ever tries to get in touch with me.[/QUOTE]

I have this problem but with only one of my friends, a few months ago we would talk a lot and they would start conversations, but over time I've talked with her less and less through texting/snapchat/whatever, and I see her like once every 3 months
I guess sometimes you just end up with friends who A) have a bunch of friends besides you and B) are a bit flaky in the first place

[Zar]

my grades took a hit, my teachers asked me if something was wrong, shrugged them off. my friends havent asked me about anything. told a girl who i find is very nice and honest everything, and now i managed to piss her off. she was the only person who would contact me to just hear how i was doing.

[richandricher]

Hey how would you guys handle this situation, i asked a girl out but she already has a boyfriend, but she still wants to meet for drinks. We aren't close friends so feels kinda odd, in the past girls ether said yes or outright no, so I'm kinda of unsure of how to continue.

[Caynug]

-problem solved-

Patience is always the key, I am a fool.

[editline]1st April 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=richandricher;44419008]Hey how would you guys handle this situation, i asked a girl out but she already has a boyfriend, but she still wants to meet for drinks. We aren't close friends so feels kinda odd, in the past girls ether said yes or outright no, so I'm kinda of unsure of how to continue.[/QUOTE]

Go out with her, if she thinks you are cool she might leave her boyfriend for you. I know 2 people that had this situation, the girls weren't happy with the relationship.

[loppan997]

-I see-

[disseminate]

Oh, to be young again...

She's just being sociable. Ask her out.

[editline]1st April 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=loppan997;44423468][SP]I've been bullied for 9 years and only had 1 real friend, and thats a guy. So I don't know all these girl things by hand sence I never had any chance of learning them. (My defence if this post is stupid)
[/SP][/QUOTE]

Also, join the club. It's not an excuse.

[Plattack]

Almost asked out someone I met through drama club the other day and then I realized they're three years younger than me. This wouldn't be a problem if we were both like ten years older but when I'm seventeen and they're fourteen it feels a little weird. I thought they were a bit older than they are, which admittedly is already pushing what I feel is a reasonable high school relationship.

I thought about it, but I don't want to be known as "that guy" (you know the one). Thoughts?

[chinatown]

on one side i dont know if i would date a 14 year old if i was 17. But then again i also think its stupid not to do certain things because society gets a bit uncomfortable with it. (not talking about rape or murder) But in a lot of things in life you just have to say "Fuck it" and go ahead if thats what you really want

[vizard38]

Been a while since I visited this thread, howdy. I just wanted to ask for some opinions regarding a situation. I was planning a trip for a college tour over spring break and asked some friends if they wanted to come. Friend A said she wanted to but asked if she could bring a friend. I was completely fine with that. Thing is, I had a thing for her friend a few years back, though after saying some stupid things (and her going after a friend of mine), we both just stopped talking.

Recently however some things came up. Another friend that was going on the tour, B, came up to me. He told me that he had been talking to A's friend, and she was accusing me of having wrote stories about her.

I'm not sure what to think. I'm very much offended and confused as to why someone would tell her that I did this or if she would just make this up herself. I haven't talked to her for two, nearly three years, so I don't know what's up.

[quote=zar]my life just sucks at the moment. If I'm with my friends, I'm just reminded how everyone but me are way closer than I am with them. And I'm tired of constantly being the one to start every single conversation. Nobody ever tries to get in touch with me.[/quote]

I completely understand what you mean. Whether its Steam, social media, or text, nobody really seems to initiate anything with me. Hell, I've seen my friends join groups in LoL without asking me to play yet I'm online. I don't act sad or anything; I usually have this air of confidence and this happy-go-lucky attitude. It just seems like while I'm there for everyone, I can't call anyone a best friend. Not a single person that I can relate these kind of problems, which is something I've always sought for.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;44424773]on one side i dont know if i would date a 14 year old if i was 17. But then again i also think its stupid not to do certain things because society gets a bit uncomfortable with it. (not talking about rape or murder) But in a lot of things in life you just have to say "Fuck it" and go ahead if thats what you really want[/QUOTE]

except three years is a huge developmental difference at that age...

[chinatown]

I dunno, it's up to him. If he wants to or not.

[Saza]

[QUOTE=Plattack;44424659]Almost asked out someone I met through drama club the other day and then I realized they're three years younger than me. This wouldn't be a problem if we were both like ten years older but when I'm seventeen and they're fourteen it feels a little weird. I thought they were a bit older than they are, which admittedly is already pushing what I feel is a reasonable high school relationship.

I thought about it, but I don't want to be known as "that guy" (you know the one). Thoughts?[/QUOTE]

I think it really depends on both people. I'm almost 18, just under two years apart with my girlfriend. I'm a senior, she's a sophomore and a couple people would think that strange on paper, but like I said, it really just depends on the two of you. how close is she to 15, how close are you to 18 etc

[Guy Mannly]

If the girl's parents are okay with them seeing each other even after he turns 18, then the details don't matter.

If there was a huge maturity gap between them that made dating a bad idea, they would see it pretty quickly. No reason to try to police who he's dating. They're both in high school, they're both minors, who gives a shit about the rest.

[SanderMan]

Alright guys here's a prompt for you: I have a neighbor who I sort of know, but don't see all that often. I suppose you could say we're on friendly terms but we don't know each other all that much. Would it be bad to go to her door and ask her out for a walk?

[Boba_Fett]

[QUOTE=SanderMan;44426367]Alright guys here's a prompt for you: I have a neighbor who I sort of know, but don't see all that often. I suppose you could say we're on friendly terms but we don't know each other all that much. Would it be bad to go to her door and ask her out for a walk?[/QUOTE]
That's not a terrible idea, but you probably want to start with something a little more casual. Strike a conversation up with her sometime, get a better understanding of who she is and what she likes, then ask her on a walk at the end of the conversation.

[editline]2nd April 2014[/editline]
I haven't really met any girls I like in a while. It's a little disheartening because my options feel so limited at the moment.

There was a girl I got along with really well back in November, but we drifted apart and she found a boyfriend from her own country. I like to think that I've moved on, but sometimes I really have my doubts.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Plattack;44424659]Almost asked out someone I met through drama club the other day and then I realized they're three years younger than me. This wouldn't be a problem if we were both like ten years older but when I'm seventeen and they're fourteen it feels a little weird. I thought they were a bit older than they are, which admittedly is already pushing what I feel is a reasonable high school relationship.

I thought about it, but I don't want to be known as "that guy" (you know the one). Thoughts?[/QUOTE]
it's fine if your in highschool because you guys are in a relatively similiar stage of life

but i know someone who's 19 dating a freshman in [I]highschool[/I]
and it disgusts me

he gets mad at her too for not understanding his problems(not abusive mad but he starts to cry n whine about it) but then it's like dude come the fuck on of course she doesn't understand she's 14 and you're in college

i'd be even more sick if he wasn't so immature himself

[Guy Mannly]

Boyfriend and I just broke up. Trying very hard not to vomit right now.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;44433003]Boyfriend and I just broke up. Trying very hard not to vomit right now.[/QUOTE]

What happened? If you don't mind my asking. It sounded like you guys were going so well

You know we are all here to support you man

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;44433774]What happened? If you don't mind my asking. It sounded like you guys were going so well

You know we are all here to support you man[/QUOTE]

I guess it just had to do with how we saw our future. He was planning to spend the rest of his life with me but I didn't really see it happening. I'm only 20 and I haven't really been single since I was 15 between my last ex and this one - I've been thinking I'd rather spend some time on my own, maybe travel a bit. Not ready to settle down yet. Now that we broke up, I'm thinking about picking up and moving to another state since I don't have anything tying me down to where I am now.

The breakup went as well as it could have, though. We ended it on good terms. I'm keeping the apartment and he's picking up his stuff to move in with his parents tomorrow (which he had kept talking about doing beforehand anyway, so it works out okay). No drama with our roommate either, and he isn't taking sides or anything, so that's a plus.

[Heigou]

I have a friend in a similar situation though he went for his girlfriend instead of what he wanted to do, he's a soldier but his girlfriend didn't want him to keep being one in fear that something would happen to him and so he decided to go for another career instead.

Anyway this isn't about my friend so best of luck and stay mannly, guy. Not sure what else to say, got shit for experience in relationships. Maybe it's time to finally plan for them trips.

[editline]3rd April 2014[/editline]

u still have me if you want to try some french canadian ;)))

[chinatown]

hey bb hmu xoxo im dtf ;)

[Big Dumb Patriot]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;44434201]I guess it just had to do with how we saw our future. He was planning to spend the rest of his life with me but I didn't really see it happening. I'm only 20 and I haven't really been single since I was 15 between my last ex and this one - I've been thinking I'd rather spend some time on my own, maybe travel a bit. Not ready to settle down yet. Now that we broke up, I'm thinking about picking up and moving to another state since I don't have anything tying me down to where I am now.

The breakup went as well as it could have, though. We ended it on good terms. I'm keeping the apartment and he's picking up his stuff to move in with his parents tomorrow (which he had kept talking about doing beforehand anyway, so it works out okay). No drama with our roommate either, and he isn't taking sides or anything, so that's a plus.[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry about your boyfriend, but if you go to Florida, we can be friends. :)

[chinatown]

So you've been in a relationship for the last 5 years? How do you feel now being single again? I assume you havent lived much of the single life?

[editline]3rd April 2014[/editline]

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