Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Zethiwag]

yeah man i was in a bad place. Not even goin to read my posts, they look kind of embarrassing. We talked about it at 4am and after lots of crying and a good finishing blowjob, I broke up with her on principle

[editline]5th April 2014[/editline]

We're still texting though. Like a director's cut of our relationship. Wacky stuff.

[DireWolf]

Taking a girl out to eat at an Italian place tonight, going to ask her out to prom there. Wish me luck guys.

[chinatown]

dont forget the ring

[DireWolf]

why do i even try

[BigJoeyLemons]

[QUOTE=Wealth + Taste;44465186]why do i even try[/QUOTE]

Oh shit man, what happened?

[KommunistBear]

I feel like my personal idea of success is very similar to my desire for sleep:
When I lay in bed urgently wanting to sleep, I think about "how I'm not asleep and how it's getting late, and I don't need to be up this late and this is going to suck in the morning."
I just discovered that to remedy that I generally just distract myself from such thoughts by having imaginary conversations with various people in my head.

I'm so constantly worried that I'll never be able to reach success and that I will never succeed.

So now I've got the problem figured out what is this remedy?

[DireWolf]

And would it have been worth it, after all,
After the cups, the marmalade, the tea,
Among the porcelain, among some talk of you and me,
Would it have been worth while,
To have bitten off the matter with a smile,
To have squeezed the universe into a ball
To roll it toward some overwhelming question,
To say: “I am Lazarus, come from the dead,
Come back to tell you all, I shall tell you all”—
If one, settling a pillow by her head,
Should say: “That is not what I meant at all;
That is not it, at all.”

[Genericenemy]

What's a good way to say "I think we could meet up more often" without coming across as clingy? Going back to that friend again I don't think the bus journey is that bad at all and I'd really love the opportunity to see her fairly often.

[Dysentery]

"we should hang out more often :)"

[rammaster]

-snip-

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Genericenemy;44469677]What's a good way to say "I think we could meet up more often" without coming across as clingy? Going back to that friend again I don't think the bus journey is that bad at all and I'd really love the opportunity to see her fairly often.[/QUOTE]

"I think we could meet up more often"

in a confident way

[Genericenemy]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;44477450]"I think we could meet up more often"

in a confident way[/QUOTE]

I'm not sure if it can come out as confident in a text based internet chat.

[Zar]

just be like, fuck da grammar. so they can see how relaaaaaxed you are.

[chinatown]

baybee boo lemme hitchu up mo frequelently nomsayin?

[Zar]

oh man if everything works out for me, i should have a refund for my defective laptop by the end of this week, and a new laptop 3 days before my final exams. shitt!

[zenby]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;44470692]"we should hang out more often :)"[/QUOTE]

I tried this with a friend I don't see often and it did nothing

[Zar]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;44484305]I tried this with a friend I don't see often and it did nothing[/QUOTE]
Dont just say that, mention it and ask them to do stuff every now and then

[editline]8th April 2014[/editline]

As in just ask them to come over whenever you feel like it, after you mentioned you wanna hang out

[Dysentery]

yeah i mean it's your idea to hang out more, you gotta ask them and shit or else they'll probs just think you're a jerk for saying that and not asking to hang out

[Zar]

[QUOTE=Dysentery;44486272]yeah i mean it's your idea to hang out more, you gotta ask them and shit or else they'll probs just think you're a jerk for saying that and not asking to hang out[/QUOTE]

exactly, it isnt tell them to ask you to go do stuff, it is telling them you like their company and so they should be more willing to hang out

[editline]8th April 2014[/editline]

more willing to hang out the next time you ask them

[zenby]

Believe me, I ask them if they want to hang out plenty
They're just kinda shit at managing their time and make and forget about piles of plans they make

[Causicus]

First post here but I guess i'd like to post this somewhere. In school all of my grades are bad, I have good grades but not in the classes where it counts, I've been lacking the motivation to do any work that has to do with school. I don't have any disabilities when it comes to learning but i'm underachieving, I want to do good with all of my person but I can't bring myself to, now I was recommended to this program where they pull me out of high school for the last 2 years and I go to the local college for those 2 years, with personalized classes and stuff like that, with the opportunity to return senior year.

Now of course I needed a break, so I signed up, I knew that this meant that I'd be leaving behind all of my friends, but I thought that I can probably still find ways to hang with them and organize things through social networking etc..

It just hit me in a different way tonight that I wouldn't be able to do any of the things that I took for granted at my school, I wouldn't be able to talk to the teachers I know, or hang out with friends at the break period, things as simple as that, I chose my academic career over staying with my friends. I just can't see myself leaving, and now it's all so real now that it's been laid out in front of me, anyways I dunno how I'm going to be able to do this and be the same, sorry for the long post, I'm probably
over-thinking this anyways.

[junker154]

I think not being as ambitious and motivated is a major part when going through high school. I had my lows and highs, at times I was so underachieving and didn't give a damn. Altough going to a completely different school for that particular reason seems a bit extreme in my opinion. Like I said, it happens pretty naturally at some point.

[Zar]

[QUOTE=junker154;44497291]I think not being as ambitious and motivated is a major part when going through high school. I had my lows and highs, at times I was so underachieving and didn't give a damn. Altough going to a completely different school for that particular reason seems a bit extreme in my opinion. Like I said, it happens pretty naturally at some point.[/QUOTE]

which is what happend for me the past few months. im back on track though. at least i think i am.

[editline]9th April 2014[/editline]

speaking of school, exams are coming up in less than a month, and i still dont have my laptop. lenovo support is terrible, they had my laptop in for repairs for 3 weeks before they just said fuck it, you're getting a refund.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=junker154;44497291]I think not being as ambitious and motivated is a major part when going through high school. I had my lows and highs, at times I was so underachieving and didn't give a damn. Altough going to a completely different school for that particular reason seems a bit extreme in my opinion. Like I said, it happens pretty naturally at some point.[/QUOTE]

True it can happen on its own but at what costs, if your grades are shit like mine or my bf through lack of motivation your kinda screwing over your chances for college and uni

[editline]9th April 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Zar;44497368]which is what happend for me the past few months. im back on track though. at least i think i am.

[editline]9th April 2014[/editline]

speaking of school, exams are coming up in less than a month, and i still dont have my laptop. lenovo support is terrible, they had my laptop in for repairs for 3 weeks before they just said fuck it, you're getting a refund.[/QUOTE]

Excuse me are you complaining about a company that decided to give you a refund? Your frikkin lucky dude.

[The Maestro]

Asking a girl out real soon. Wish me luck, mates.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Causicus;44496294]First post here but I guess i'd like to post this somewhere. In school all of my grades are bad, I have good grades but not in the classes where it counts, I've been lacking the motivation to do any work that has to do with school. I don't have any disabilities when it comes to learning but i'm underachieving, I want to do good with all of my person but I can't bring myself to, now I was recommended to this program where they pull me out of high school for the last 2 years and I go to the local college for those 2 years, with personalized classes and stuff like that, with the opportunity to return senior year.[/QUOTE]

That's actually kind of a cool idea, I didn't know that was a thing school boards suggested.

Some people do better in college than they did in high school because of how different the classes are. College is a lot more self-motivated so it can go either way. It's also normal for students to be poor with academics until they reach their early 20s, which is why older college students tend to have better GPAs. Just keep in mind that you'll still need to work hard in college to keep up - the difference tends to be that college classes assign less busy work but move at a faster pace with the expectation that you'll be spending several hours a week studying the material outside of class.

Speaking from personal experience, you probably won't keep in touch with a lot of people you went to high school with simply because it's not convenient to see them every day anymore. I dropped out and got a GED to start attending college early and all of my friends from school forgot I existed the day I stopped showing up (and my best friend who I hung out with after school every day stopped talking to me when I moved out of walking distance, but that's not totally relevant). Your close friends will probably still make time for you, but there are probably a few people who only talk to you because you're both there anyway. I personally didn't mind it, but it's a bit harder to make new friends at college than it is at high school, especially considering you might be younger than most of your classmates.

I don't think it will make a huge difference to your grades if you attend community college. If you aren't willing to put in time outside of class to study and do homework, you will fail in either environment. If your GPA is bad right now, I wouldn't worry too much - getting into a prestigious college isn't as vital as people make it out to be. You might want to consider just finishing high school and taking a light courseload at first when you start college, or getting a job and taking a break from school for a couple years.

[Zar]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;44498828]True it can happen on its own but at what costs, if your grades are shit like mine or my bf through lack of motivation your kinda screwing over your chances for college and uni

[editline]9th April 2014[/editline]

Excuse me are you complaining about a company that decided to give you a refund? Your frikkin lucky dude.[/QUOTE]

Terrible support. You do realize I'm protected by the EU consumer law? im happy that im getting a refund, it hasnt processed yet though and it was really friggin hard to communicate with them to get things going.

[Big Dumb Patriot]

Hey Guy, what happened with your living situation? All smoothed over?

[The Maestro]

[QUOTE=The Maestro;44498942]Asking a girl out real soon. Wish me luck, mates.[/QUOTE]

Did this. She said yes; We're planning to go to coffee on Friday.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44500151]Hey Guy, what happened with your living situation? All smoothed over?[/QUOTE]

Boyfriend and I decided to sort everything out. We're back together. Things are actually going a lot better than they were before we broke up - we're working on communicating better and are trying to spend a lot more time together.