Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;40516352]Not if you both agree that a romantic relationship isn't right for you but just because you don't love each other doesn't mean you can't stay friends.[/QUOTE]

Yes, but you're never going to be friends again. It's just awkward.

[MindMuncher]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40516237]Yes, because that is a myth. Keeping a friendship after breaking up with someone if like keeping your dog once it is dead[/QUOTE]

[i]Some[/i] people do that.

[img]http://nursetalksite.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/stuffed-dog-960x638.jpg[/img]

Oh god those people...

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40516804]Yes, but you're never going to be friends again. It's just awkward.[/QUOTE]

It's awkward if you make it awkward. It can be perfectly fine if your not a dumbass about it.

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40517476]It's awkward if you make it awkward. It can be perfectly fine if your not a dumbass about it.[/QUOTE]

It depends on the intimacy of the relationship. I still believe it a myth

[robmaister12]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40516804]Yes, but you're never going to be friends again. It's just awkward.[/QUOTE]

Not necessarily... if you're mature about it the residual awkwardness will fade away pretty quickly. And I'm not saying this as something that could theoretically happen, I'm speaking from experience.

[ArgvCompany]

[QUOTE=robmaister12;40518185]Not necessarily... if you're mature about it the residual awkwardness will fade away pretty quickly. And I'm not saying this as something that could theoretically happen, I'm speaking from experience.[/QUOTE]

This. It depends a lot on how strong your friendship is, and for how long you've been friends.

[blacksam]

I went on a date with the girl I asked to prom, we had coffee at a hipster cafe. What I thought was going to be a harmless coffee date turned into an intelligent conversation about all sorts of things ranging from Aristotle to movies. I think we hit it off really well. She said that she wants to go to the prom as friends, and that's cool with me, but what exactly does that mean?

[ArgvCompany]

[QUOTE=blacksam;40518379]I went on a date with the girl I asked to prom, we had coffee at a hipster cafe. What I thought was going to be a harmless coffee date turned into an intelligent conversation about all sorts of things ranging from Aristotle to movies. I think we hit it off really well. She said that she wants to go to the prom as friends, and that's cool with me, but what exactly does that mean?[/QUOTE]

I'm pretty sure she means that she isn't interested in a relationship at the moment. For the prom she just wants to be friends, which is pretty clearly said.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=blacksam;40518379]I went on a date with the girl I asked to prom, we had coffee at a hipster cafe. What I thought was going to be a harmless coffee date turned into an intelligent conversation about all sorts of things ranging from Aristotle to movies. I think we hit it off really well. She said that she wants to go to the prom as friends, and that's cool with me, but what exactly does that mean?[/QUOTE]

Means she wants to go to prom as friends :v:. You can't go do a psychoanalysis on every statement, people say what they mean.

[editline]3rd May 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40518180]It depends on the intimacy of the relationship. I still believe it a myth[/QUOTE]

You just said it depends then said it doesn't happen. Make up your mind.

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=blacksam;40518379]I went on a date with the girl I asked to prom, we had coffee at a hipster cafe. What I thought was going to be a harmless coffee date turned into an intelligent conversation about all sorts of things ranging from Aristotle to movies. I think we hit it off really well. She said that she wants to go to the prom as friends, and that's cool with me, but what exactly does that mean?[/QUOTE]

"she wants to go to the prom as friends" means "she wants to go to the prom as friends"

Girls aren't that cryptic!

[killerteacup]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40516018]Am I the only one who still gets along with their exes?[/QUOTE]

Yes

one of my exes after we broke up used to purposefully come hang around my group of friends so she could broadcast that every Wednesday on student night she was getting mega pissed and hooking up with at least 3 guys and how great a time she was having

then after that was done she started going up to my friends and saying "oh is he okay I hope I didn't hurt him" as if she hadn't been trying to do that the whole time

now she's with an acquaintance of mine and posts all of their relationship events and everything that ever happens to his wall on facebook so I get to see them because I removed her from my friends list and i'm honestly wondering if she's doing it to flaunt it at me - seems like the sort of thing she'd do but jokes on her its been like over a year why would I care

then another ex I had actually runs away whenever she sees me. Like, physically runs away lal

[thisispain]

[QUOTE=killerteacup;40519433]
then another ex I had actually runs away whenever she sees me. Like, physically runs away lal[/QUOTE]

honestly, this is almost pretty much what i do lol

[killerteacup]

I almost do

I just pretend I don't see them and walk past them without giving eye contact, its awesome

[FreddiRox!]

Anyone remember that video where this guy says how to make your ex jealous over Facebook? Like he uploads pictures and leaves hints like handbags in the background?

[Bobie]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40516237]Yes, because that is a myth. Keeping a friendship after breaking up with someone if like keeping your dog once it is dead[/QUOTE]

im glad i dont have to compare any of my exes to a dead dog

[johnsten]

[QUOTE=Bobie;40523427]im glad i dont have to compare any of my exes to a dead dog[/QUOTE]

henier dog

[FreddiRox!]

[QUOTE=Bobie;40523427]im glad i dont have to compare any of my exes to a dead dog[/QUOTE]

well they where my bitches

[B]HEHAAHAYHAUEHUHEUH[/B]

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;40516018]Am I the only one who still gets along with their exes?[/QUOTE]

I only really get along with exes if they actually want to be friends with me after the relationship, of which 75% of the time they don't. I'm really close to the one ex I still talk to, but it makes sense, I broke up with her because she was a better just being a friend than being a girlfriend.

[Leader of Me]

How do I get more physical with my girlfriend?

[Splash Attack]

I was friends with one of my ex's for a long time after we broke up. We even became best friends for a long time. We stopped talking altogether for an unrelated reason, but it is still possible.

[editline]4th May 2013[/editline]

[QUOTE=Leader of Me;40525321]How do I get more physical with my girlfriend?[/QUOTE]

touch her butt.

[Riku2211]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;40525447]I was friends with one of my ex's for a long time after we broke up. We even became best friends for a long time. We stopped talking altogether for an unrelated reason, but it is still possible.

[editline]4th May 2013[/editline]

touch her butt.[/QUOTE]

thats actually not bad advice

[QUOTE=Leader of Me;40525321]How do I get more physical with my girlfriend?[/QUOTE]

Just, as physical as you DO get, whenever you do that, just push it a little further. Not too far, though. I think girls like it when you're the one making the moves. My ex did, anyway.

Or, you know, talk to her about it.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Splash Attack;40525447]touch her butt.[/QUOTE]

i advocate butt touching.

[Dark_Light]

My ex and I were very up and down after we 'officially' broke up. Spent longer than our actual relationship trying to maintain [I]something[/I] between us, but there were too many conflicting emotions and ambiguities and the rest of it (uh, a lot of 'accidental' sex was also maybe a part of it) to stay so close with one another after everything else had just happened. When we eventually did cut things off for good, it still took some time before I felt completely 'over' it, and by that point, I didn't really feel inclined to pursue a friendship with her anyway. I didn't (and don't) hold any grudges or anything, and I still appreciate the time that we had together, but I simply don't have much feeling for her one way or the other anymore (in a platonic sense).

We've spoken briefly since and I think we've seen each other as well and it hasn't been awkward or anything, and if we both wanted to we could still be friends and I doubt it'd be uncomfortable, but right now I just don't feel that need. I guess my point is that there are no hard rules or 'myths' about any of this shit. Getting some space and time away from each other [I]right[/I] after the breakup makes sense, but beyond that, if you both want to be friends and there isn't anything ambiguous or unclear about it, then sure, why not. As long as you're both on the same page and you can both be honest about that, it doesn't have to be awkward.

[Behemoth_PT]

Today is my birthday. Yeah! :dance:

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=FreddiRox!;40523409]Anyone remember that video where this guy says how to make your ex jealous over Facebook? Like he uploads pictures and leaves hints like handbags in the background?[/QUOTE]

Yeah it was pretty funny, although if I remember right the thread convo after it took it [I]wayyyy[/I] too seriously.

[zukriuchen]

I have a little more than a month left here in the US before I go back to my country, should I just not bother with girls here anymore (obviously not gonna look for a serious relationship) or should I still take possible opportunities?

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Zukriuchen;40530819]I have a little more than a month left here in the US before I go back to my country, should I just not bother with girls here anymore (obviously not gonna look for a serious relationship) or should I still take possible opportunities?[/QUOTE]

Thats up to you and what your looking for? Do what you want, just make sure if you do start hooking up with someone they know your not sticking around.

[Deathco]

I'm friends with this girl, and I don't want a relationship with her. How do I approach just being friends? It feels awkward to treat her just like all my buddies.

[zukriuchen]

I don't mean to be condescending but I don't see what's hard about that

You don't have to treat her "just like one of your buddies", there's a lot of stuff I only talk about with my female friends

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Deathco;40531085]I'm friends with this girl, and I don't want a relationship with her. How do I approach just being friends? It feels awkward to treat her just like all my buddies.[/QUOTE]

I'm not sure how this is a problem, unless she likes you in that way or something?