Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Zar]

[QUOTE=Leader of Me;44596954]This other girl who I'm friends with has gotten really strange around me. She's talking to me more often and keeps "joking" about going a date with me. I don't know if she is joking though.[/QUOTE]

ask her if shes asking you to take her on a date. dont just pretend you have no clue

[editline]20th April 2014[/editline]

as in do it the next time she "jokes" about it

[bradhl]

Well i'm pretty sure my girlfriend's parents have taken both her phone and iPod, this is such bullshit. She's 18 in a few days and they treat her like a five year old, they never let her go out (like ever, only for work and tafe) they take all her paychecks from work and the moment she does something they don't like they take her phone and ipod. Pretty sure they caught her snapchatting nude photos to me the other night and took her stuff for it, they're such controlling cunts. Any advice you guys can give me on the current situation? (keep in mind that i now have no way of contacting her bar sending her a letter, which i'm sure her parents will intercept anyways)

[Splash Attack]

That's something she needs to discuss with her parents, not you. She should tell them how she feels about them being so controlling and explain how she is no longer a child and can start to make her own choices.

If she lives in their house and they pay for her phone, that will make it kinda difficult. Also, taking her own paychecks is both wrong and very illegal.

[Inspector Jones]

Sigh

Haven't been having any luck in the dating world after that girl ended things with me. Thinking of calling it and just go back to being lonely for a few more years.

[Heigou]

I don't think being lonely is too bad, I talked about that in this thread a few times. I'm 22 years old, I haven't dated a girl ever, never kissed, fucked, hugged, whatever, I have next to no friends but I'm still content.

While I'm not lonely by choice, I'm still content with it because I have a freedom that most people don't seem to have the luxury of having, I can do mostly anything I want and never get judged for it, I can learn new things and improve myself how I see fit.

Outside of the feelings of loneliness here and there, it's not such a bad thing, obviously I would like to socialize more and it's probably not the most healthy of things for me to have been in nigh solitude for almost my entire life but I'm just trying to give you a bit of perspective here. Everything in moderation is good, having a good balance of being by oneself and having a good balance of being with someone other than oneself.

[Zar]

good for you, really i mean it. im 16 and im stuck with these terrible friends. i do way too much for them and i only get shit for it. just a couple of minutes ago they pissed me off enough so i just left. Simply just left. fuck that, i guess ill be in my room as usual

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Heigou;44598377]I don't think being lonely is too bad, I talked about that in this thread a few times. I'm 22 years old, I haven't dated a girl ever, never kissed, fucked, hugged, whatever, I have next to no friends but I'm still content.

While I'm not lonely by choice, I'm still content with it because I have a freedom that most people don't seem to have the luxury of having, I can do mostly anything I want and never get judged for it, I can learn new things and improve myself how I see fit.

Outside of the feelings of loneliness here and there, it's not such a bad thing, obviously I would like to socialize more and it's probably not the most healthy of things for me to have been in nigh solitude for almost my entire life but I'm just trying to give you a bit of perspective here. Everything in moderation is good, having a good balance of being by oneself and having a good balance of being with someone other than oneself.[/QUOTE]

Its a good attitude to have. In general you should be happy with what you have, but still know there's more to be achieved

[Behemoth_PT]

[QUOTE=Inspector Jones;44597959]Sigh

Haven't been having any luck in the dating world after that girl ended things with me. Thinking of calling it and just go back to being lonely for a few more years.[/QUOTE]
Don't give it up.

Take some time to heal up from the breakup. You don't need to start dating right away. In fact until you get it out of your system, dating might not be a good idea.

It's gonna be 2 years in September since I broke up with my ex. Felt like shit, lost faith in women and all that. Took me some time to get back on track too. I mean, all this time.

In my case, I kinda let myself go. Didn't get depressed nor anything, it all just made me a little bit socially indifferent, you know staying at home more often and all that.

Just don't let yourself go that way. Keep going out with your friends, staying active and all that. Sports and contact with friends help a lot.

[Leader of Me]

There's this other girl who was a really good friend of mine but she decided to not be friends with me after she got a boyfriend. They broke up and now out of nowhere she wants to come back into my life. It feels hell weird like, she's acting like nothing even happened when in reality it really upset me. I don't get why people can leave your life and then suddenly come back like nothing happened.

[kaine123]

A few days ago I asked my girlfriend to prom in an interesting way.

I told her to meet me at a cafe on the main street of the downtown/waterfront area of our town. I left a note attached to the wall where I told her I'd be standing with her name written on it. It had a clue for a location containing a small present and the next location. This led her on a small scavenger hunt around the waterfront. I was standing at the top floor of a building so I could see her progress as she went around and found the locations. I made my way through a back street so I could get to the last location and wait for her there. As soon as she found me from the last clue, she ran up and hugged and kissed me so much it was wonderful. I'm the first guy who's done something like that for her apparently. I asked if she wanted to go to prom with me and she enthusiastically said yes.

[Fire Kracker]

im trying to help out my friend find a girlfriend but theni don't know anybody that would like him :\

he's not unattractive but his personality puts generally most people off

[NoDachi]

having an unattractive personality is probably the most difficult thing to fix tbh

[Marzipas]

Being 'lonely' as its being put is perfectly fine imo. Never been on a date, never been in a relationship, but have a really strong circle of friends and its just fine for me. The idea of a relationship is appealing sometimes sure, but I have so many things that I enjoy doing I just feel that I'd be taking time away from them to just spend time with a single person, which isn't very appealing in my eyes.

If not being in a relationship bothers you, just find things to do, get a good hobby, meet people in that. That's what I've done since starting uni and I honestly wouldn't want it any other way.

[editline]21st April 2014[/editline]

As long as you meet people in a friendly way you'll be fine. Don't rush into things thinking its a failure if you have a non-existent love life. There's more to life than wanting to pander to one other person.

[Uncle Fassbender]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;44605787]having an unattractive personality is probably the most difficult thing to fix tbh[/QUOTE]

Is it possible to fix at all? How would someone train themselves to be someone else?

[Zannabluke]

today I made my crush piss herself from laughing at a joke of mine. 't was pretty embarassing, to be honest :v:

Later on, she stared at me and burst out laughing once again. When I asked her the reason of her laughs, since I didn't even make a joke this time, she added that my face makes her smile.

i like this girl a lot.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;44606496]Is it possible to fix at all? How would someone train themselves to be someone else?[/QUOTE]

By not being completely focused on the idea of getting into a relationship. Focusing on improving yourself and finding things you're passionate about is what makes a person interesting, not trying to be agreeable to potential partners.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;44529213]I'm in the opposite situation and I feel the same way.

I've been going out of my way trying to make friends for the past few months because I moved a year and a half ago and don't really know anyone where I live aside from my boyfriend and roommate. I've met a few guys who I thought seemed like good potential friends and they always seem to lose interest as soon as they hear I have a boyfriend.

Last week I lost three good friends of mine when my boyfriend and I were having issues - two of them stopped talking to me because they were both interested in me and realized when I got back with him that I wasn't going to date them. The third is my roommate, who apparently likes me a lot less than he likes my boyfriend and tried to kick me out of my apartment. I've been trying to meet new people, but a lot of the girls I've talked to seem to either brush me off or turn out to be completely insane and the guys will only continue talking to me if they think they're going to sleep with me (which apparently the guy I sit next to in government does, because he's been on a whole new level of creepy ever since I mentioned I couldn't meet for a group project because I had to deal with that).

Just venting.[/QUOTE]

So after all this happened last week... Today I lost a close friend of mine who has been a big support system for me for the past 4 years, as well as being the only person I'm close with who hasn't caused drama due to being attracted to me at some point or another. Over stupid bullshit drama related to a video game. I tried to talk it over with him and he won't even answer my messages.

I'm lucky to have my boyfriend, but I feel like nobody else respects me right now.

[Sobek-]

Guy, I've been away for a bit, barely checked in much sorry... How are things going for you at the moment? Last I saw you worked some things out and you were back together, seems that's still the case? Hope it's all going well for you :)

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;44612418]So after all this happened last week... Today I lost a close friend of mine who has been a big support system for me for the past 4 years, as well as being the only person I'm close with who hasn't caused drama due to being attracted to me at some point or another. Over stupid bullshit drama related to a video game. I tried to talk it over with him and he won't even answer my messages.

I'm lucky to have my boyfriend, but I feel like nobody else respects me right now.[/QUOTE]

Hopefully (he?) will come around, sounds like an incredibly dumb thing to end a 4 year friendship over.
At least you still have the thread? We respect and care about you : )

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;44606496]Is it possible to fix at all? How would someone train themselves to be someone else?[/QUOTE]

Well the first mistake youre doing is seeing that better version of yourself as "someone else"

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Sobek-;44612764]Guy, I've been away for a bit, barely checked in much sorry... How are things going for you at the moment? Last I saw you worked some things out and you were back together, seems that's still the case? Hope it's all going well for you :)[/QUOTE]

My boyfriend and I are doing great right now - better than before we had issues, honestly. We've been spending a lot more time together and are working on our communication.

[QUOTE=Rhenae;44612809]Hopefully (he?) will come around, sounds like an incredibly dumb thing to end a 4 year friendship over.
At least you still have the thread? We respect and care about you : )[/QUOTE]

I can't think of anything he could really say to convince me that he's worth still being friends with. He was someone I trusted a lot and it baffles me why he would act so uncharacteristically rude to me all of a sudden and then refuse to even talk to me. I guess after losing three other people who I thought were there to support me, I don't see much point in keeping my hopes up on the fourth. Having close friends besides my boyfriend has gotten to be more trouble than it's worth.

I do appreciate you guys listening to me bitch here. It helps to get my thoughts out in writing, at least.

[Protocol7]

So I had a hell of a weekend. Me and this girl started off way back when just kinda having tickle fights and whatnot, then it went into holding hands. Sprinkle in a couple dinner dates these last few weeks too. This Saturday we made our relationship official, and Sunday I met her parents and got their seal of approval. Then these last two nights have been spent making out.

I've never had a girlfriend so into me before. :v: And having cool parents is always a plus. Especially since she's an only child and a huge daddy's girl.

[Rhenae]

I have ann interview in an hour for a casual dining resteraunt in an hour, tips anyone? Desperately need a job right now and my last interview went kinda crap

[Genericenemy]

Is it OK to feel a bit worried about getting a reply back from someone. I messaged this girl on Sunday about coming round next Tuesday and despite me constantly reassuring myself there is quite a good few days before the window of reply closes I still can't feel totally at ease.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;44613934]I have ann interview in an hour for a casual dining resteraunt in an hour, tips anyone? Desperately need a job right now and my last interview went kinda crap[/QUOTE]

What position? Do you have any previous experience? Any story that makes you stand out for the skills they want? Show them how much youre interested in food or drinks or whatever your position has, and how your position is important to the team etc I guess. Good luck

[Jacob_sword]

Guys I don't know what to do. This girl I met last week we been talking and getting really close. So I told her I really like her and shes hinted that she really likes me too but she has a boyfriend and has told me shes been dating him for a year. Well Sunday night we were talking and she told me how they were planning on having a house and 2 kids and I just lost it in my head. I really love her and I couldn't even find the words to say to that. In fact my body just started shutting down after she said that. we haven't talked since. What the hell am I suppose to say?

[Heigou]

Red flag.

[Zar]

[QUOTE=Heigou;44614777]Red flag.[/QUOTE]

combine Heigous countrys flag and my countrys flag and it still isn't red enough

[chinatown]

you met her last week and youre already this deep? get a grip man

[Jacob_sword]

One I would agree with you guys but this girl is different