Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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Hahahahahaha, no. Don't put ANYBODY on a pedestal is like the first fucking rule of meddling with the opposite sex. She's as "different" as millions of other girls out there.
[QUOTE=Jacob_sword;44616348]One I would agree with you guys but this girl is different[/QUOTE]
hahahahhaah that is exactly what i thought about this girl who is now being incredibly rude to me for no reason.
[editline]22nd April 2014[/editline]
i should start hitting the gym instead of sitting at home worrying about nonsense
I've been sitting here listening to my roommate beating his son and yelling like a madman and hearing both of them scream for 20 min for the 3rd time this week now.
I don't know what to do, I just wrote a long text of it to have a picture of what's happening, but I don't want to post it so public.
I've calmed down a bit now as it happened ~2 hours ago now.
[QUOTE=Zar;44616644]hahahahhaah that is exactly what i thought about this girl who is now being incredibly rude to me for no reason.
[editline]22nd April 2014[/editline]
i should start hitting the gym instead of sitting at home worrying about nonsense[/QUOTE]
Be swole and lonely like me bro, you don't need no love when you're all the love you need, just remember to buy a ceiling mirror above your bed.
[QUOTE=Doqqy;44616844]I've been sitting here listening to my roommate beating his son and yelling like a madman and hearing both of them scream for 20 min for the 3rd time this week now.
I don't know what to do, I just wrote a long text of it to have a picture of what's happening, but I don't want to post it so public.
I've calmed down a bit now as it happened ~2 hours ago now.[/QUOTE]
If its actually child abuse, you should phone the cops. Not doing it (if it is actually child abuse) could lead to charges of criminal negligence, or being an accessory.
Alright, I've got a little prom drama.
As many of you guys know, last year I asked out a girl who I'd liked for about two years at the time. She said no, but we remained friends and I still kinda liked her anyway. Let's just call her Girl 1.
At the beginning of this year, I started talking to a senior girl (high school, I'm a junior) and she seemed really into me, so then I got into her. We didn't have any classes together after the first quarter, though, and we sort of stopped talking. Let's call her Girl 2.
As prom was coming around, I kept telling myself to ask Girl 2 to junior prom, even though I hadn't really spoken to her since November. She's the type of girl who'd say yes to anyone, but I was still paranoid as hell. I considered Girl 1 my second option because we get along so much better now, and I figured that if neither of us had dates I could ask her.
Well, the prom forms are due next Wednesday (the 30th), and I was planning on asking Girl 2 this Wednesday, since that's the day she gets back from a vacation.
Yesterday one of Girl 1's friends asked me about what table I was sitting with at prom (we're allowed to choose which table we sit at) and the question quickly led to who I was going with. I told her I was going to ask Girl 2, and she seemed kind of disappointed. I then explained that my second option was Girl 1, and she lightened up and said she thought I'd ask her.
This made me reconsider who I was asking, since I realized that Girl 2 is a senior and doesn't need to go to junior prom, and Girl 1 definitely has no date and might not get one, which would suck for her. I decided that I didn't really like Girl 2 that much, and changed my mind and decided to ask Girl 1.
So today after school I asked her. It was a silly prom proposal (not cheesy or lame), but it was the kind of thing she'd say yes to, and she said yes, of course. In the conversation afterward, she asked if I asked her because of my conversation with her friend earlier. I said that I kind of did, and that she was originally my second choice. I realized this sounded really shitty and apologized several times, explaining that i didn't really word it right and then I tried to explain it better, but it didn't really work out well. One of our friends helped lighten the situation by comparing it to college applications, that she was my "reach" college and that I wasn't realistically planning on asking her.
Long story short, I still feel bad about it (as I should, please don't berate me for misspeaking) and I think I need to clarify it to her. Should I send her a text to explain that I really wanted to go with her, and that I was really only planning on asking Girl 2 because I talked to her a few times months ago, and that I really would rather have gone with her? I'd make it more clear in the text, of course.
I'm sorry for the way this was written. It just happened around 2 and a half hours ago, so some parts of it are clear in my mind while others aren't. I just really need some tips
dunno what to think, bumped into my old drum instructor from years ago today. Haven't seen him in ages but he was a really nice guy. Had a chat with him and it turns out he was ready to move to america with a band, but the woman he was about to marry's son died so all that fell through, and since then he's had four heart attacks, been told he had two weeks to live, but lived on for two years. Worse still, he said he's pretty much skint.
I probably wont see him again, but just hearing about that has made me feel really sad for him and i just cant stop thinking about it. Just feels horrible not to see someone for ages and hear that. He was asking me how I'm getting on and it actually hurt telling him that everything was going good.
Just felt like i had to put this somewhere. not sure why. never had something like this happen before really.
[editline]22nd April 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44617367]Alright, I've got a little prom drama.
As many of you guys know, last year I asked out a girl who I'd liked for about two years at the time. She said no, but we remained friends and I still kinda liked her anyway. Let's just call her Girl 1.
At the beginning of this year, I started talking to a senior girl (high school, I'm a junior) and she seemed really into me, so then I got into her. We didn't have any classes together after the first quarter, though, and we sort of stopped talking. Let's call her Girl 2.
As prom was coming around, I kept telling myself to ask Girl 2 to junior prom, even though I hadn't really spoken to her since November. She's the type of girl who'd say yes to anyone, but I was still paranoid as hell. I considered Girl 1 my second option because we get along so much better now, and I figured that if neither of us had dates I could ask her.
Well, the prom forms are due next Wednesday (the 30th), and I was planning on asking Girl 2 this Wednesday, since that's the day she gets back from a vacation.
Yesterday one of Girl 1's friends asked me about what table I was sitting with at prom (we're allowed to choose which table we sit at) and the question quickly led to who I was going with. I told her I was going to ask Girl 2, and she seemed kind of disappointed. I then explained that my second option was Girl 1, and she lightened up and said she thought I'd ask her.
This made me reconsider who I was asking, since I realized that Girl 2 is a senior and doesn't need to go to junior prom, and Girl 1 definitely has no date and might not get one, which would suck for her. I decided that I didn't really like Girl 2 that much, and changed my mind and decided to ask Girl 1.
So today after school I asked her. It was a silly prom proposal (not cheesy or lame), but it was the kind of thing she'd say yes to, and she said yes, of course. In the conversation afterward, she asked if I asked her because of my conversation with her friend earlier. I said that I kind of did, and that she was originally my second choice. I realized this sounded really shitty and apologized several times, explaining that i didn't really word it right and then I tried to explain it better, but it didn't really work out well. One of our friends helped lighten the situation by comparing it to college applications, that she was my "reach" college and that I wasn't realistically planning on asking her.
Long story short, I still feel bad about it (as I should, please don't berate me for misspeaking) and I think I need to clarify it to her. Should I send her a text to explain that I really wanted to go with her, and that I was really only planning on asking Girl 2 because I talked to her a few times months ago, and that I really would rather have gone with her? I'd make it more clear in the text, of course.
I'm sorry for the way this was written. It just happened around 2 and a half hours ago, so some parts of it are clear in my mind while others aren't. I just really need some tips[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't keep bringing it up, if you really do like her then just make her feel good and be genuinely nice to her. If you just mention again like all "oh by the way when i said you were my second choice..." you'd most likely make things more awkward again.
If she seems like she is still hurt in some way by it, then maybe bring it up, but I'd just try and leave it. It's one of those things that is just quite risky to get into.
How the fuck is this gonna work out? My girlfriend has major depression and schizophrenia, I do too. She is always afraid of fucking it up for us, IDFK..
[QUOTE=Marzipas;44617389]
I wouldn't keep bringing it up, if you really do like her then just make her feel good and be genuinely nice to her. If you just mention again like all "oh by the way when i said you were my second choice..." you'd most likely make things more awkward again.
If she seems like she is still hurt in some way by it, then maybe bring it up, but I'd just try and leave it. It's one of those things that is just quite risky to get into.[/QUOTE]
That's a really good point. I just felt like I kind of insulted her though, you know? By not saying she was my first choice. I don't really want her to think she wasn't when really she was the only person I could really see myself going with.
Hey guys.
Remember me fussing to much and being all insecure about that girl I am in love with and how I said that I would only post here again if something happened?
Well it happened today. I'm the happiest man in the world.
I've had a crush with this girl for like 6 years, and as the years passed I started growing more in love with her to this day. I can't even remember me coming back home by train, my head was in the clouds.
Oh well, but let's cut to the story as you surely want to hear it.
So basically since we're going to a festival together this Thursday she decided it would be a good idea to come by my university to pick up some of my things that I wanted to bring, so I wouldn't have to go back home to pick my stuff up on Thursday.
So yeah, brought some of my stuff to university, she came by, we went for a snack at the bar, I had a test, she waited for me, after that I invited her for dinner at my university, we ate like kings and started heading back to the metro.
So yeah, we were talking and talking, and laughing all the way through, and the more I looked at her the more I wanted to kiss her so bad. I wanted to kiss her at the metro stop but my courage lacked at the time.
Well, we arrived at the train station, her train was leaving early, in 4 minutes, so we stayed chatting a bit. Kinda happened the same as last time when I almost kissed her but didn't have the courage.
So yeah, her train arrives, she gives me a kiss goodbye on the cheek, my heart starts pounding in my chest. "Oh God, she's going away, do something you fool".
So, the situation at the station near her place pops in my mind, I am overwhelmed by the idea of losing another great opportunity.
As she started to head back, I dropped my bags on the floor, called her name and kissed her right there in my arms. And it was this long, intense kiss. I'm still in orbit.
Wow, seriously. Wow. 6 years, guys. I give this advice to you from this whole experience. If you're in love with a girl, NEVER give up.
holy shit i think i shed a tear
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;44617945]bigge storee[/QUOTE]
Was this a girl that was aware of the crush you had on her beforehand? I guess what I'm asking is if this was some sort of rejected but made it work with years of persistence kind of thing.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;44617945]Hey guys.
Remember me fussing to much and being all insecure about that girl I am in love with and how I said that I would only post here again if something happened?
Well it happened today. I'm the happiest man in the world.
I've had a crush with this girl for like 6 years, and as the years passed I started growing more in love with her to this day. I can't even remember me coming back home by train, my head was in the clouds.
Oh well, but let's cut to the story as you surely want to hear it.
So basically since we're going to a festival together this Thursday she decided it would be a good idea to come by my university to pick up some of my things that I wanted to bring, so I wouldn't have to go back home to pick my stuff up on Thursday.
So yeah, brought some of my stuff to university, she came by, we went for a snack at the bar, I had a test, she waited for me, after that I invited her for dinner at my university, we ate like kings and started heading back to the metro.
So yeah, we were talking and talking, and laughing all the way through, and the more I looked at her the more I wanted to kiss her so bad. I wanted to kiss her at the metro stop but my courage lacked at the time.
Well, we arrived at the train station, her train was leaving early, in 4 minutes, so we stayed chatting a bit. Kinda happened the same as last time when I almost kissed her but didn't have the courage.
So yeah, her train arrives, she gives me a kiss goodbye on the cheek, my heart starts pounding in my chest. "Oh God, she's going away, do something you fool".
So, the situation at the station near her place pops in my mind, I am overwhelmed by the idea of losing another great opportunity.
As she started to head back, I dropped my bags on the floor, called her name and kissed her right there in my arms. And it was this long, intense kiss. I'm still in orbit.
Wow, seriously. Wow. 6 years, guys. I give this advice to you from this whole experience. If you're in love with a girl, NEVER give up.[/QUOTE]
Wow. Damn.
How did she react afterward, though? By the sound of it it didn't go badly, but I'm curious about the full story. And now you'll get to see her this Thursday at that Festival, right? That really must've taken some balls, kudos to you, dude.
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[QUOTE=Heigou;44618225]Was this a girl that was aware of the crush you had on her beforehand? I guess what I'm asking is if this was some sort of rejected but made it work with years of persistence kind of thing.[/QUOTE]
Yes, she's the one.
I wouldn't call it years of persistence, I mean, I moved on too at the time, didn't become obsessed or anything about her, I just let it go, was able to respect the distance and the circumstances, (and it wasn't easy at times. When she went abroad I actually tried to convince myself to forget about her without success.) been with other people in the meantime, she's been with other people too in the meantime. We never broke contact though. Always kept going out, having fun together when we could, even if it was only once a year we always found the time to be with each other, and we actually enjoyed the time we've been together.
It wasn't persistence, to be honest, I think it was a mix of hope, love and friendship all together and never giving up. I mean people change, I sure changed a lot in 6 years and I hope I'll change in the future. You never know until you take the chance.
[QUOTE=riku2211;44618237]Wow. Damn.
How did she react afterward, though? By the sound of it it didn't go badly, but I'm curious about the full story. And now you'll get to see her this Thursday at that Festival, right? That really must've taken some balls, kudos to you, dude.[/QUOTE]
The long story has been told here a few pages ago, even did a summary of it.
Well to be honest, it was a long and warm kiss. I don't know, I kinda zoned out when it happened, as I said my heart was pounding at the time.
After a while she hesitated a bit. Asked me why did I do it. I answered her that I've been wanting to do it for a long time, she smiled but I sensed something.
And she told me right away that she was recovering from her last relationship which as she told me really struck her at the time because unfortunately they had to part ways forever due to circumstances.
Although it surprised me at the time, I'm very glad she was honest with me.
I asked her if she liked me then, she said yes, she said that she liked me a lot, because I've been a great friend and always been close to her. Gosh she told me she loved being with me, our talks, the things we do together that are unique and all that but she wants to go steady. I mean, it's understandable and I'm ok with it. It wasn't my fault that I parachuted right into her heart like that at that moment but well, I couldn't wait any longer.
I'm going to give her the space she needs of course, but I'm gonna show her that I'm there, I care and I want to be with her. And truth be told, what can I do? I already did a lot. Took a chance and I surely don't want to force her into something she's not ready, so I respect and care for her enough to give her the space she needs.
I'm kinda relaxed about it. I mean, it's fair and things are what they are. You can't change people out of the blue. Right now I'm happy with where events brought us and I really feel like that's all I need to focus on. (with my feet on the ground of course).
We'll see.
Sounds like you got damn lucky, I'm not expecting shit to happen with this girl I've been interested in for the past 5 years after having being rejected so many times by her with her explicitly stating that anything more won't happen hahaha.
[QUOTE=Heigou;44618554]Sounds like you got damn lucky, I'm not expecting shit to happen with this girl I've been interested in for the past 5 years after having being rejected so many times by her with her explicitly stating that anything more won't happen hahaha.[/QUOTE]
Oh well, if she's telling you that on and on then there's not much to do. It sucks.
I kinda brought up that episode when she rejected me when I was 16 years old and she told me she can't remember me telling her that I liked her.
The only thing she remembers from that time is when I got her a ticket I won somewhere for a summer festival.
I didn't go, but I sure wanted her to.
I mean, in this 6 year time I never brought up any feelings I had for her. Never told her I liked her more than friends nor anything. We've just been having fun and I've been patient, being there and all that. I didn't tell her I like her, only let her know how I loved hanging out with her and all that, here and there I let her know and coming up with great ways to have fun.
I mean, I never put my intentions in front of our friendship, and I think that was the key in all this.
I don't know your case with this girl. But I think your first mistake was to tell her successively that you wanted more than friendship despite she telling you she only wants to be friends. Go easy. I think the problem is that people want things right away and forget that people that care about us don't just run away.
Oh well, I'm sleepy now, and she's starting to text me. I'm gonna head up to bed and dream a little more about her.
See you tomorrow guys!
If someone gives you a solid no, you should only really need that first no and leave it be.
The girl I kissed today gave me a solid no 6 years ago. Apparently she forgot about it.
I don't understand women.
My uncle Dick used to say that restraining orders were only recommendations. He also told me that nobody has received a handjob while wearing cargo pants since Vietnam. He'll be out on parole probably by 2019.
Persistence is a noble trait, but once the court orders start to pile up it might be time to cut your losses and move on to alcoholism.
But I'm glad you posted that story Behemoth_PT, I could truly feel the hands of love gently twanging away at my remaining heartstrings, and I'm sure all the other hardened cynics in this thread can say the same.
I wish you and Miss Behemoth_PT the best of luck in your future romantic interactions, make sure to wear sunscreen
[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44617367]
Long story short, I still feel bad about it (as I should, please don't berate me for misspeaking) and I think I need to clarify it to her. Should I send her a text to explain that I really wanted to go with her, and that I was really only planning on asking Girl 2 because I talked to her a few times months ago, and that I really would rather have gone with her? I'd make it more clear in the text, of course.[/QUOTE]
So I decided (by the suggestion of a friend) to text her what was on my mind, and it's been a little more than ten minutes and I haven't gotten a response and I'm real scared now and [I][B]woah[/B][/I]
Right while I was typing this she replied: "Aw! Really don't worry about it, I wasn't mad or anything"
I'm so damn relieved holy shit
[editline]22nd April 2014[/editline]
Now we're planning out what table we're going to sit at, this is so nice!
A few months ago I went on a few dates with this chick who worked for the same company at a different store. But holy shit when someone says hourglass body, this chick had it. Biggest boobs I've ever seen on such a small frame, and an ass crafted by Zeus himself. Too bad it only went as far as a couple dates :dance:
ok I was drunk and it seems as if something terrible happened
I think I got made to set up a tinder account
shit son
[QUOTE=Squidman;44619003]My uncle Dick used to say that restraining orders were only recommendations. He also told me that nobody has received a handjob while wearing cargo pants since Vietnam. He'll be out on parole probably by 2019.
Persistence is a noble trait, but once the court orders start to pile up it might be time to cut your losses and move on to alcoholism.
But I'm glad you posted that story Behemoth_PT, I could truly feel the hands of love gently twanging away at my remaining heartstrings, and I'm sure all the other hardened cynics in this thread can say the same.
I wish you and Miss Behemoth_PT the best of luck in your future romantic interactions, make sure to wear sunscreen[/QUOTE]
Never stop posting, you always crack me up!
[QUOTE=Handsome Matt;44622855]do you guys miss school[/QUOTE]
im almost done with regular danish school, and im happy ill be leaving for new things. things were getting really dull.
[QUOTE=Handsome Matt;44622855]do you guys miss school[/QUOTE]
As a 22 years old person with little to not social life as I didn't get in college/university after high school because I'm a poor sod, absolutely.
This brings me to a quick question, where are good places to meet people? Since I live the city and there's fucking nobody to meet, I'm thinking about just driving up to the city simply for socializing or some shit. I know Bars and clubs but I'm not much of a drinker.
[QUOTE=Handsome Matt;44622905]I've got 6 weeks left.. I fear I'm going to miss just.. Hanging out, always being surrounded by friends all the time. ;c[/QUOTE]
All of my friends are going different places. One girl going to USA for a year, I'm going to something we call an afterschool (I guess I could call it Danish college) where I will also be going to Canada and Bangladesh. 4 other also going to an afterschool. it will change us all for the better, and we will get plenty of new friends.
[editline]23rd April 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=Heigou;44622914]As a 22 years old person with little to not social life as I didn't get in college/university after high school because I'm a poor sod, absolutely.
This brings me to a quick question, where are good places to meet people? Since I live the city and there's fucking nobody to meet, I'm thinking about just driving up to the city simply for socializing or some shit. I know Bars and clubs but I'm not much of a drinker.[/QUOTE]
establishing a network is hard. go to a concert or something, or just say yes each time one of your friends ask you to go do something. maybe he/she will bring his own friends and then you can expand your circle of friends. that's what I did, I got tons of friends now. even though I'm not really close with any of them :(
[QUOTE=Handsome Matt;44622855]do you guys miss school[/QUOTE]
at first I did, but once I got engrossed in uni and heard some people I knew from the year below me hating school, I realised how shit it was in comparison.
Sure its nice that you'd see your good friends basically every day, since now I only see most of them a few times a month, but its something to look forward to.
That's the only thing that bothers me to be honest. I have friends at uni but none of them compare to the people I know (and luckily still know) from school.
[QUOTE=Zar;44622968]All of my friends are going different places. One girl going to USA for a year, I'm going to something we call an afterschool (I guess I could call it Danish college) where I will also be going to Canada and Bangladesh. 4 other also going to an afterschool. it will change us all for the better, and we will get plenty of new friends.
[editline]23rd April 2014[/editline]
establishing a network is hard. go to a concert or something, or just say yes each time one of your friends ask you to go do something. maybe he/she will bring his own friends and then you can expand your circle of friends. that's what I did, I got tons of friends now. even though I'm not really close with any of them :([/QUOTE]
bro, I'd need friends in the first place lmao get a load of this guy
hey! you said little to no. i was assuming you had just a tiny amount of people, sometimes that's enough. i dunno it's weird meeting random people. go to a festival and listen to some good music. maybe you'll meet some nice people.
[editline]23rd April 2014[/editline]
if there are any festivals at this time of the year. just a suggestion.
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