Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Zar]

cant wait for the summer, gonna be done with school and go somewhere else. ill meet loads of new people.

[Zar]

one year at a new school, where i will be living with 130 other people. it will change me for the better. very fancy place.

[KGS]

It's been a while since i've visited this thread, but i could some advice.
(Sorry for the lengthy post. I'm bad at explaining stuff like this)

There's this girl that i've known for some time now. We spoke a lot last year and wen't out a lot (even though we both always brought some friends along, we always seemed to have a good bond). She really felt special to me, but i never had the balls to make a move or anything. We stopped having contact after she started dated somebody for a few weeks.

We started talking again a month ago or something and we still have a good bond. We're often going places again (sometimes just the 2 of us) and i feel like she might have feelings for me.
Tomorrow she's going to join me and 2 friends in a running thing organised by my school (doing my last year, so i might as well participate). I feel like i talked her into it but one of my friends joining me is a girl she's good friends with as well so i guess that played a role as well.
Later tomorrow we're going to a karaoke with some friends and i'm considering making a move after that as i really like her and i suspect she might be in to me as well but i'm scared that love might be making me a bit blind and i'm trying to think of how i should approach this. I always walk with her to her house and it seems ideal to make my move there.

My first thought was to tell her how i feel in some way that wouldn't leave her without words or make things awkward but i'm not sure what i expect from that. A good friend of mine told me to just kiss her and then see what happens, but i'm afraid of what would happen if she doesn't feel the same way (we've been good friends for a while and i don't want things to get awkward).

I need some opinions here.
One things sure, and that's that i'm going to go for it instead of being a pussy.
(Please don't quote this post)

[BigJoeyLemons]

How do you guys deal with the anxiety of waiting for a text?
I sent one a half hour ago and she's probably just busy, but I always get so scared when people take a long time to respond

[zenby]

Today, while waiting for a class to start, I said hello to and had a brief conversation with someone I don't talk to often instead of staring at my phone until it was time to go in
It may be such an insignificant thing, but just doing that makes me feel pretty accomplished

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44636054]How do you guys deal with the anxiety of waiting for a text?
I sent one a half hour ago and she's probably just busy, but I always get so scared when people take a long time to respond[/QUOTE]

half an hour is barely any time really. I used to be like that in my teens. Then I moved away and didnt have a cellphone for a year which kind of made me stop texting. That kind of helped in a way, but I guess the best is for you to kind of train yourself not to jump to your cellphone when it moves, rather wait a while for every reply, like half an hour to an hour. That alone fixed my habit of just writing when the phone rang and to be anxious when people dont reply texting "are you there?" kind of stuff. Then again there are some people who think its no problem to just write when you want. but thats not what this is about

[BigJoeyLemons]

I[QUOTE=D3TBS;44636495]half an hour is barely any time really. I used to be like that in my teens. Then I moved away and didnt have a cellphone for a year which kind of made me stop texting. That kind of helped in a way, but I guess the best is for you to kind of train yourself not to jump to your cellphone when it moves, rather wait a while for every reply, like half an hour to an hour. That alone fixed my habit of just writing when the phone rang and to be anxious when people dont reply texting "are you there?" kind of stuff. Then again there are some people who think its no problem to just write when you want. but thats not what this is about[/QUOTE]

I'm just always worried that they won't be available for long and if I take a long time to answer they might end up being busy again and not respond for hours

[Zareox]

I just text when I text. Sometimes it's immediate, other times it's not for an hour. Just kinda depends. Helps a lot when you text at work because when I'm doing nothing, I'll text, but the moment a customer comes in, phone is down and out of sight.

[editline]24th April 2014[/editline]

I've been talking to this chick, and I want to go on a date with her to kinda see how things go and if I feel more attached or whatever, but she refuses to go on a date yet because she's not quite ready. She wants to trust me a little bit more. But that doesn't make sense to me, because I just want to go on a date or two to even see if I want to pursue her more. That's what dating is about... I told her that and that I didn't want to let her down if she trusted me to date me and then I changed my mind or I felt I wasn't ready for another relationship. Gah, it's not complicated. It's a movie, or a dinner, just to talk in person. I might find her incredibly annoying in person, who knows...

[DarkeeScorp]

[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44636915]I

I'm just always worried that they won't be available for long and if I take a long time to answer they might end up being busy again and not respond for hours[/QUOTE]
give her a phone call man, she might be in trouble. ask if there's anything you can do to help. reassure her you're there to help. let her hang up first.

[Zar]

maybe shes masturbaiting. dont kill her boner

[Genericenemy]

I asked this girl if she wants to come round on Tuesday late on Sunday, still no reply and so I'm probably a lot more worried than you are.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44636915]I

I'm just always worried that they won't be available for long and if I take a long time to answer they might end up being busy again and not respond for hours[/QUOTE]

yeah but if you want to talk to her, then set up a date or something. Face to face is better anyway

[KGS]

Today started great.
We talked a lot, had a lot of fun, and on the way home she even slept on my shoulder (might sound like nothing, but it's another small victory to me).

I'm having a bit to much time to think about tonight though. I'm considering to just tell her in the best way possible when i walk her home. We'll probably both be a bit tipsy so i guess that might help the situation.
I still got a few hours to figure this all out.
I got 2 joint's ready as well in case tonight ends up bad, so i got that going for me i guess.

[Zar]

hmmm im in a pretty good spot in my life right now i think. i feel focused on my future and im actively trying to find as many things to go do as possible.

[tillmash]

Just like to share an experience of mine:

17/M Never really had a girlfriend, not scared or introverted, anything like that, just never made an effort i have never really been dependent on others. So i was super bored one night, decided to go on omegle and fuck with people, haven't touched the site in years.

After a few hours, a few strange encounters, i meet the second female of the night, this super cute asian girl. We talk for a few hours, i get her skype contact details. We talk every night, 11pm on the dot, fall asleep watching eachother. We have so many things in common, other than gaming ;)

We finally decide to meet up in london, she lives quite far away from me so meeting took a long time. Arrive in london, everything i imagined, we hit it off super well. Through the day we just walk around, go parks galleries and such, find so much more in common. Comes 8pm, in waterloo, about to cross the barriers she wants me to stay, long hugging embrace, i miss my train for her.

We end up spending another 2 hours in london. Back to waterloo for my departure again 1 minute till train leaves, long stare, long hug, throw in a kiss. Amazing.

That's it, pretty damn sure we are in love, i know it was pretty quick but, she is my girlfriend now aswell. Talk constantly every day still :)

I felt like putting this up there for anyone who feels like they can't find love or someone special. My girlfriend jumped out of nowhere, from seemingly impossible chances, it didn't take a load of effort.
For anyone feeling down on their luck, just stay strong guys, there IS someone for everyone, and fate will make sure you find eachother :)

[Big D Duchovny]

[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44636054]How do you guys deal with the anxiety of waiting for a text?
I sent one a half hour ago and she's probably just busy, but I always get so scared when people take a long time to respond[/QUOTE]

Personally - though I might just be an asshole - I don't respond to stuff if I don't feel like doing it right then and there. Like, there are people I like a lot (among them is my girlfriend), but I don't always respond immediately. Sometimes it takes even a few days for me to really get around answering.

[Heigou]

[QUOTE=tillmash;44643536]Just like to share an experience of mine:

17/M Never really had a girlfriend, not scared or introverted, anything like that, just never made an effort i have never really been dependent on others. So i was super bored one night, decided to go on omegle and fuck with people, haven't touched the site in years.

After a few hours, a few strange encounters, i meet the second female of the night, this super cute asian girl. We talk for a few hours, i get her skype contact details. We talk every night, 11pm on the dot, fall asleep watching eachother. We have so many things in common, other than gaming ;)

We finally decide to meet up in london, she lives quite far away from me so meeting took a long time. Arrive in london, everything i imagined, we hit it off super well. Through the day we just walk around, go parks galleries and such, find so much more in common. Comes 8pm, in waterloo, about to cross the barriers she wants me to stay, long hugging embrace, i miss my train for her.

We end up spending another 2 hours in london. Back to waterloo for my departure again 1 minute till train leaves, long stare, long hug, throw in a kiss. Amazing.

That's it, pretty damn sure we are in love, i know it was pretty quick but, she is my girlfriend now aswell. Talk constantly every day still :)

I felt like putting this up there for anyone who feels like they can't find love or someone special. My girlfriend jumped out of nowhere, from seemingly impossible chances, it didn't take a load of effort.
For anyone feeling down on their luck, just stay strong guys, there IS someone for everyone, and fate will make sure you find eachother :)[/QUOTE]

I met this super cute asian girl on Omegle who lives really close to me, we became great friends but then I crushed on her hard and she rejected me, cue to now (About 5 years since I met her) and I'm still hoping somewhere deep down that something will happen lolol

[KGS]

I'm nearing the end if the evening, anybody got some advice for me? I could really use it. i'm getting pretty nervous.

[PuduEbooks]

[QUOTE=0lenny0;44645236]I'm nearing the end if the evening, anybody got some advice for me? I could really use it. i'm getting pretty nervous.[/QUOTE]

If she likes you she will be happy even if you slutter like a bad printer and fucking raviolis fall from your pockets.
If she doesn't the worst that could happen is a no and life just keeps going.
Good luck

[BigJoeyLemons]

She never answered the one from last night, but I figured she ignored it since it was small talk.

I sent her one about 45 minutes ago and this time it's about prom, and still nothing. I'm like half-worried because I have no idea what it could mean, if anything. Normally she responds within ten minutes

EDIT:
It's all fine, she replied around 11:50 and we had a little chat. No issues now, I'm happy :)

[KGS]

I didn't go through with it, her brother walked with us and i guess i pussied out. Should i text her about it or should i wait till i get another opportunity? (i hate waiting)

[editline][B]value[/B][/editline]
I texted her to come back outside, and i told her how i feel. But sadly i got rejected. She told me that she hasn't gotten over her previous break-up yet, and how she feels good around me, and that she really likes me as a friend but that's all.It was worth a try i guess.

[fruxodaily]

[QUOTE=Handsome Matt;44622855]do you guys miss school[/QUOTE]

I'm in year 12 right now and I feel like I will miss it

Even tho my mates can be fucking assholes, they are my good mates and I've always had fun being around them at parties or gatherings and shit

I can't wait to graduate but I'm scared to at the same time you feel?

[Zar]

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;44649198]I'm in year 12 right now and I feel like I will miss it

Even tho my mates can be fucking assholes, they are my good mates and I've always had fun being around them at parties or gatherings and shit

I can't wait to graduate but I'm scared to at the same time you feel?[/QUOTE]

I feel this way. Right now I just wanna do music, I want to be a guitarist. I'm not very experienced at all, and if things don't work out, I need something to fall back on so I can lead a mediocre life instead of my dream.

[Sindri335]

What do you guys think of this advice? [url]http://www.wikihow.com/Become-an-Alpha-Male[/url] I've been wanting to become more alpha male, women just don't seem to want a nice guy that wants to LISTEN to their feelings. Well I'm not gonna be an asshole or anything I'm not gonna be that kinda guy but maybe I can be alpha and when I have a girlfriend show her the real side and she will realize It's better to have a guy that spoils women

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Sindri335;44649419]What do you guys think of this advice? [url]http://www.wikihow.com/Become-an-Alpha-Male[/url] I've been wanting to become more alpha male,[b] women just don't seem to want a nice guy that wants to LISTEN to their feelings.[/B] Well I'm not gonna be an asshole or anything I'm not gonna be that kinda guy but [b]maybe I can be alpha and when I have a girlfriend show her the real side and she will realize It's better to have a guy that spoils women[/b][/QUOTE]

I think you need to get your head out of your ass.

[fruxodaily]

You don't have to be an alpha to get girls interested in you lmao

Good personality, good confidence and good humour seems to work, for me at least. I don't really try like I used to and that seems to work better for me imo, girls can be a huge pain in the ass and when I decided to get rid of most of my female friends I found life to be wayy more pleasant.

Besides, I cannot take you seriously Sindri all your post seems like massive trolls. Either you're for real and I hope to god you're not or you're some huge troll

[disseminate]

[QUOTE=Sindri335;44649419]What do you guys think of this advice? [url]http://www.wikihow.com/Become-an-Alpha-Male[/url] I've been wanting to become more alpha male, women just don't seem to want a nice guy that wants to LISTEN to their feelings. Well I'm not gonna be an asshole or anything I'm not gonna be that kinda guy but maybe I can be alpha and when I have a girlfriend show her the real side and she will realize It's better to have a guy that spoils women[/QUOTE]

I think you are 10 years old

[Sindri335]

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;44649574]You don't have to be an alpha to get girls interested in you lmao

Good personality, good confidence and good humour seems to work, for me at least. I don't really try like I used to and that seems to work better for me imo, girls can be a huge pain in the ass and when I decided to get rid of most of my female friends I found life to be wayy more pleasant.

Besides, I cannot take you seriously Sindri all your post seems like massive trolls. Either you're for real and I hope to god you're not or you're some huge troll[/QUOTE]

Ugh yeah you guys are right I shouldn't change who I am , and I don't want to stoop down to the level of Justin Bieber or something.

[Kindlinho]

This guy, man. I think he's for real.

[ichiman94]

What have I done?

There is a girl who was [b]really[/b] into me when we were about 8-10 years old (we probably kissed and all that stuff). For a few years she moved to somewhere else, having no possible communications between us, then after few more years she moved back into my town. I don't know why but I didn't want to meet her. I was acting as I didn't know her and never greeted her back whenever she greeted me. Then like 5 years ago she stopped greeting. Fast forward to nowadays, I sent a message to her "We should meet up and talk :)" like a year ago, which I've got no response for. I was drunk or what to think it's a good idea to send a message like that. She once sat next to me on the bus when there was like a hundred empty seats whatever still no conversation. She came to our house few weeks ago, I was doing webdev upstairs and I heard that she was telling that little message to my mother a little bit spiced up like I was commenting on her looks and I still don't greet her. Dad said "He can't greet anyone!" oh wow thanks. Anyway, I heard numerous rumors from a lot of people about her two week old relationships, always touching more dicks than knobs and sleeping with everyone on the first night. Mom sometimes tells something about her because she was my childhood friend, things like how she is smart but is in bad friend circles etc. Mom tells these things as I am supposed to save her or something... Well, these messages and her way of not giving up makes me think that she still feels something about me, like how she have not forgotten that one facebook message. I am subconciously bombarded with suggestions to fix the relationship.

Facepunch please, what should I do? It's tearing me up.