Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Genericenemy]

Well I feel I've been messed about with, asked this good friend of mine on Easter Sunday if she could come round Tuesday and since then I've received absolutely fuck all back from her and I know she has been on. I am really disappointed with her.

[Zar]

[QUOTE=Genericenemy;44652060]Well I feel I've been messed about with, asked this good friend of mine on Easter Sunday if she could come round Tuesday and since then I've received absolutely fuck all back from her and I know she has been on. I am really disappointed with her.[/QUOTE]

Ask her "Did you see my message? I'm not sure if it got sent". Maybe she'll act it out to not hurt your feelings or some shit, but don't expect a miracle. At least you should get an answer out of it.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Zar;44652112]Ask her "Did you see my message? I'm not sure if it got sent". Maybe she'll act it out to not hurt your feelings or some shit, but don't expect a miracle. At least you should get an answer out of it.[/QUOTE]

Smacks of desperation. Strike up a conversation about something else. If she's seen the message and forgotten, or hasnt seen it, she will mention it. Otherwise you know shes ignoring it and it's time to move on. Don't be so passive aggressive!

[Zar]

[QUOTE=metallics;44652277]Smacks of desperation. Strike up a conversation about something else. If she's seen the message and forgotten, or hasnt seen it, she will mention it. Otherwise you know shes ignoring it and it's time to move on. Don't be so passive aggressive![/QUOTE]

I don't think it's a smack of desperation. it's just checking up before the day is there. he could wait a bit.

[Fire Kracker]

if she's your friend just spam her then
"asdflkjljhljasdkalsalgsad" repeat that like 20 times and when she asks "what" be like "mudda ass didn't answer my question atleast say no"

[editline]26th April 2014[/editline]

i mean she [I]is[/I] a good friend right

[Guy Mannly]

If you're actually good friends then it doesn't really make sense that she'd be surprised by you asking her to come over. It seems much more likely that she forgot to respond or something.

It wouldn't hurt to message her again to see if she saw your first message, I doubt she's doing it on purpose and if she is she's not exactly being direct about it.

[Zar]

last night me and my friends made a fire again, that was pretty sweet. it was chilly so the girls were all cuddly. cute girl leaned backwards for a drink and i was sitting next to her, she fell down from the log we were sitting on and dragged me with her. that was also pretty sweet.

[editline]27th April 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;44652810]If you're actually good friends then it doesn't really make sense that she'd be surprised by you asking her to come over. It seems much more likely that she forgot to respond or something.

It wouldn't hurt to message her again to see if she saw your first message, I doubt she's doing it on purpose and if she is she's not exactly being direct about it.[/QUOTE]

exactly what I was trying to say. just check up on her. it doesn't have to be such a big deal.

[cluelessidiot]

fuck.

so after a couple of months of college, i've been talking to a girl in and after class pretty much everyday, and I think she liked/likes me. she comes up to me after class, initiating conversation first, and we walk to our other classes together and just talk. i just realized the other day that she almost ran to catch up to me. fuck, im a fucking idiot. i just thought she was being friendly and that she wasn't interested at all.

now there's only like 2 weeks of this semester left. i wanna get to know her more but i dont even have her number. i thought asking at this point would seem pretty weird since i've shown no interest at all for months since i always assume someone finds me unattractive when i meet them. she's even asked if i bother her when i talk to her. that's how stoic i seem i guess, even though she's not bothering at all. i dont even know where i would begin to ask her for her number at all.

[Zar]

[QUOTE=cluelessidiot;44652912]fuck.

so after a couple of months of college, i've been talking to a girl in and after class pretty much everyday, and I think she liked/likes me. she comes up to me after class, initiating conversation first, and we walk to our other classes together and just talk. i just realized the other day that she almost ran to catch up to me. fuck, im a fucking idiot. i just thought she was being friendly and that she wasn't interested at all.

now there's only like 2 weeks of this semester left. i wanna get to know her more but i dont even have her number. i thought asking at this point would seem pretty weird since i've shown no interest at all for months since i always assume someone finds me unattractive when i meet them. she's even asked if i bother her when i talk to her. that's how stoic i seem i guess, even though she's not bothering at all. i dont even know where i would begin to ask her for her number at all.[/QUOTE]

ask her out, then get her number. be honest and tell her you had no clue if she brings it up or something. also is this a real story. just wondering if that username is a novelty account of some sort.

[cluelessidiot]

-snip-

[Zar]

shouldnt have said that, i think youre gonna get banned now lol. if the mods spot you at least.

[cluelessidiot]

anyways, like my username implies, i'm clueless. how should i ask for her number? after all this time of not showing interest? i must seem like such an asshole, and i feel like one too.

[editline]26th April 2014[/editline]

god dammit. im tired of realizing a girl likes me long after a class we had ends. it was terrible in highschool, my sister had to tell me that a girl liked me (usually her friends or mutual friends) because i am an idiot who doesn't know how attraction works. even when she told me that a girl was surely interested, i really didn't believe it. even on dates and get togethers with the said girl, i didn't think she was interested at all. the most pathetic thing is that i've never even had a girlfriend or come close, probably because of my pessimism. fuck me, i need to be hit on the head.

[Splash Attack]

You're way over thinking this. The next time you see each other, just ask her if she would like to go out. It's really that simple.

If you want her number so bad, either just ask her what it is or write yours down on her paper or something.

[lum1naire]

man I have not done well bouncing back, none of the girls I've been talking to have returned any interest

my last 2 ex's telling me 'they were out of my league' is sort of starting to get to me now lmao

[PuduEbooks]

So I've recently became aware that my girlfriend had depression last year, adding up to the fact that she suffers from anxiety and stress, she has a work and has to worry about her studies too. I don't even know how she manages. The thing is that I want to help with that somehow, in the end my job is to support her too, any ideas to help her deal with that?

[NoDachi]

Sigh that girl I met on holiday then asked me to stay with her in China, is being sent back home to Eastern Ukraine in two days.

Which really sucks because all the countries are revoking or cancelling Ukrainian Passport visa because of the ongoing conflict.

I originally planned on saving up some money here first before flying back out and travelling around Asia with her but as time passed I didn't really follow through with the plan.

My mother said she could come stay here, but the UK won't issue any visas anymore. I'm a little worried for her to be honest but she just wants to be with her family, I just wish I could be a little more helpful.

[redBadger]

what are some good dating sites? Preferably "free" ones.

[BigJoeyLemons]

[QUOTE=cluelessidiot;44652912]fuck.

so after a couple of months of college, i've been talking to a girl in and after class pretty much everyday, and I think she liked/likes me. she comes up to me after class, initiating conversation first, and we walk to our other classes together and just talk. i just realized the other day that she almost ran to catch up to me. fuck, im a fucking idiot. i just thought she was being friendly and that she wasn't interested at all.

now there's only like 2 weeks of this semester left. i wanna get to know her more but i dont even have her number. i thought asking at this point would seem pretty weird since i've shown no interest at all for months since i always assume someone finds me unattractive when i meet them. she's even asked if i bother her when i talk to her. that's how stoic i seem i guess, even though she's not bothering at all. i dont even know where i would begin to ask her for her number at all.[/QUOTE]

Ask if she wants to get a cup of coffee or something after class, and after the coffee just ask for her number before you leave.

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=redBadger;44654274]what are some good dating sites? Preferably "free" ones.[/QUOTE]

try okcupid i guess

[lum1naire]

[QUOTE=redBadger;44654274]what are some good dating sites? Preferably "free" ones.[/QUOTE]

use tinder

I'm not into that whole scene, but it's working for a lot of friends it seems

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=redBadger;44654274]what are some good dating sites? Preferably "free" ones.[/QUOTE]

OkCupid is the best by far.

[fruxodaily]

I made a Tinder account the other day and it said I was 23 and my interest included all the old shitty pages I liked on Facebook

Beautiful

[Genericenemy]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;44652810]If you're actually good friends then it doesn't really make sense that she'd be surprised by you asking her to come over. It seems much more likely that she forgot to respond or something.

It wouldn't hurt to message her again to see if she saw your first message, I doubt she's doing it on purpose and if she is she's not exactly being direct about it.[/QUOTE]

I dunno, we live about two hour long bus journeys away from each other but she suggested the last time we talked to each other that she be the one to make the journey this time.

[Sindri335]

Random thought: are long distance chat room relationships the purest form of love? I mean if a girl loves me simply from the chat that means shes ONLY in love with my personality and my humour. She doesn't care about looks or if I'm rich or material things. Then she will think like that persons look even more because I think its a fact that a good personality makes even your looks more appealing. Honestly I don't even care about talking to girls on a chat room vs. in real life because I think you have even better chances to finding PURE love in a chat room. Then when you finally meet in real life and look into each others eyes and press your lips together it will be a 1000% times romantic then a regular date when you hardly know each other

[Zar]

jesus christ Sindri stop serenading girls on the internet

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Sindri335;44660178]Random thought: are long distance chat room relationships the purest form of love? I mean if a girl loves me simply from the chat that means shes ONLY in love with my personality and my humour. She doesn't care about looks or if I'm rich or material things. Then she will think like that persons look even more because I think its a fact that a good personality makes even your looks more appealing. Honestly I don't even care about talking to girls on a chat room vs. in real life because I think you have even better chances to finding PURE love in a chat room. Then when you finally meet in real life and look into each others eyes and press your lips together it will be a 1000% times romantic then a regular date when you hardly know each other[/QUOTE]

This 100% sounds like your trying to make excuses for why you don't go out and try to meet people in person.

I wrote a long rambly response but decided to not to post it cause it was just way too all over the place.
In short though no. A chat room relationship is far closer to a friendship than a relationship. After all what sets a relationship from a close friendship? Physical intimacy and mutual attraction.
Its a nice idea that those hours will make your first kiss so much better, but if you don't have that physical spark when it actual happens? All that time can turn straight into a bust. Of course it would seem more romantic (assuming you guys do hit it off in person) than a first kiss on a regular date with someone you don't know much yet but that is simply because you have done the steps in a different order. A kiss down the road once that in person relationship has progressed the same amount of time and knowing will be just as good.
There are so many things in a relationship that just don't come in to play much or at all with a purely online relationship that it really sin't what I would consider a proper test of compatibility. You are able to filter online. Put your best foot forward and issues between the two or you are far further removed.

Either way "Pure" or "True" love are concepts I entirely disagree with anyway.

It got rambly again. I have difficulty trying to explain quite what I mean here.

[lordcrypto]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;44660758]This 100% sounds like your trying to make excuses for why you don't go out and try to meet people in person.

I wrote a long rambly response but decided to not to post it cause it was just way too all over the place.
In short though no. A chat room relationship is far closer to a friendship than a relationship. After all what sets a relationship from a close friendship? Physical intimacy and mutual attraction.
Its a nice idea that those hours will make your first kiss so much better, but if you don't have that physical spark when it actual happens? All that time can turn straight into a bust. Of course it would seem more romantic (assuming you guys do hit it off in person) than a first kiss on a regular date with someone you don't know much yet but that is simply because you have done the steps in a different order. A kiss down the road once that in person relationship has progressed the same amount of time and knowing will be just as good.
There are so many things in a relationship that just don't come in to play much or at all with a purely online relationship that it really sin't what I would consider a proper test of compatibility. You are able to filter online. Put your best foot forward and issues between the two or you are far further removed.

Either way "Pure" or "True" love are concepts I entirely disagree with anyway.

It got rambly again. I have difficulty trying to explain quite what I mean here.[/QUOTE]
just don't acknowledge sindri anymore

he's either

a. someone so autistic that nothing you say will help
b. a sleeper troll

[Guy Mannly]

I'm pretty sure he's still just trolling.

[editline]27th April 2014[/editline]

Crypto got to it before me

[Sindri335]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;44660758]This 100% sounds like your trying to make excuses for why you don't go out and try to meet people in person.

I wrote a long rambly response but decided to not to post it cause it was just way too all over the place.
In short though no. A chat room relationship is far closer to a friendship than a relationship. After all what sets a relationship from a close friendship? Physical intimacy and mutual attraction.
Its a nice idea that those hours will make your first kiss so much better, but if you don't have that physical spark when it actual happens? All that time can turn straight into a bust. Of course it would seem more romantic (assuming you guys do hit it off in person) than a first kiss on a regular date with someone you don't know much yet but that is simply because you have done the steps in a different order. A kiss down the road once that in person relationship has progressed the same amount of time and knowing will be just as good.
There are so many things in a relationship that just don't come in to play much or at all with a purely online relationship that it really sin't what I would consider a proper test of compatibility. You are able to filter online. Put your best foot forward and issues between the two or you are far further removed.

Either way "Pure" or "True" love are concepts I entirely disagree with anyway.

It got rambly again. I have difficulty trying to explain quite what I mean here.[/QUOTE]

Yeah youre right maybe it was too far to say its the purest form of love but at least it's not any less of a relationship then one in real life. I have exams now so I havent been meeting girls in person much lately

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Sindri335;44660178]Random thought: are long distance chat room relationships the purest form of love? I mean if a girl loves me simply from the chat that means shes ONLY in love with my personality and my humour. She doesn't care about looks or if I'm rich or material things. Then she will think like that persons look even more because I think its a fact that a good personality makes even your looks more appealing. Honestly I don't even care about talking to girls on a chat room vs. in real life because I think you have even better chances to finding PURE love in a chat room. Then when you finally meet in real life and look into each others eyes and press your lips together it will be a 1000% times romantic then a regular date when you hardly know each other[/QUOTE]

no it's actually very awkward and you sit there together kind of quiet