Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[zenby]

[QUOTE=Disseminate;44832110]$10 says she actually just wants to talk[/QUOTE]

That would be alright too. But then again a week after we met she told me she wanted to fuck me, and then there's the naked pictures and getting fairly close to a relationship a few months ago (which fizzled out because she's the "I'm gonna be single so I don't have to commit" type)

So like, it's very possible she just wants to talk, but given our history and her personality (both of which I can't perfectly explain in a few sentences), other things aren't completely out of the question

[MxOAgentJohnson]

I havent felt like dating for a while now, i think i'm broken, i've just completely dropped dating and meeting girls out of my life since i got myeslf together

[Lukeo]

then don't?

[Zar]

[QUOTE=Lukeo;44833659]then don't?[/QUOTE]

he already said he isnt doing it. he is just expressing himself, like everyone else here on on the internet

[paindoc]

snip

[Behemoth_PT]

Damn. Just had an amazing barbecue party in my house.

I'm so full of meat I'm rolling instead of walking.

But all in all it was great! met amazing new people and it helped me stay positive with all that's been happening.

Too bad the girl I've been currently dating couldn't come because she had to work but still the meat overdose was worth it.

Now excuse me while I head to the kitchen for some digestive tea and pills.

[redBadger]

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;44835870]Damn. Just had an amazing barbecue party in my house.

I'm so full of meat I'm rolling instead of walking.

But all in all it was great! met amazing new people and it helped me stay positive with all that's been happening.

Too bad the girl I've been currently dating couldn't come because she had to work but still the meat overdose was worth it.

Now excuse me while I head to the kitchen for some digestive tea and pills.[/QUOTE]

Too bad she wasn't there to get some meat.

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Zar;44831140]Was at a party last night. It was pretty good I guess, except that I fell asleep and missed like an hour of it.[/QUOTE]

oh talking about falling asleep. Was at a house party yesterday, we had a beer pong tournament and one of the guys passed out on the couch completely. So everybody started taking pictures, writing stuff on him and doing shit. My drunk self stuff his underpants with cake and a carrot sticking out

[Daniel Smith]

Having Aspergers makes it very hard to find a friend, let alone a lover. I've never had a relationship but I have had experiences with feelings and friends.

Here's a few useful things I picked up over the years:

1) If a girl sometimes casually talks about sex, it does not mean she likes you, it could just mean she's comfortable.

2) Thee will always be someone who would make a better partner for her than you, but just don't think about it.

3) NO DOES NOT MEAN LATER, IT MEANS NO!

4) Never ever imagine yourself in a fictional relationship with her, that creates infatuation and will only drive your current friendship apart.

[Zar]

[QUOTE=D3TBS;44836920]oh talking about falling asleep. Was at a house party yesterday, we had a beer pong tournament and one of the guys passed out on the couch completely. So everybody started taking pictures, writing stuff on him and doing shit. My drunk self stuff his underpants with cake and a carrot sticking out[/QUOTE]
i was missing for an hour and no one noticed. i had gone upstairs to think for a few minutes and then i fell asleep

[Taepodong-2]

So a girl I know posted on Facebook that she got a new phone and number and had nobody's number on her phone and she wanted people to text her so she could put their numbers in her phone so I decided to text her. I know her from university and I talk to her semi regularly during the school year so it's not like I'm some random guy, but I'm just wondering if I did something creepy. We ended up chatting for about an hour so she probably didn't find it creepy, just wondering what everyone else thinks.

[Heigou]

Nah man, nothing creepy about that.

[Sashaisme]

so that whole prom thing?

it all went pretty well. I met up with some friends from the bus and would hang out with them in intervals.

I spent most of my time dancing.

[zenby]

Holy shit prom went so much better than I was expecting
So, that girl who texted me turned out to still be with her mister, so I did talk with her a bit but not much
Instead I just danced the whole time and really found my groove, just had shitloads of fun dancing with friends and stuff
And them at the very end there was a slow dance and basically everyone was had someone else except me and this one girl, who is much nicer, much hotter, and better in every way compared to the first
So I asked her if she wanted to dance, and so we did. Started off awkwardly holding her at a distance but by the end we were as close as you can get and she had her head on her chest and just, wow it was awesome. And the whole time my two best friends were flipping me off cos they think she's the bomb too.
And afterwards she gave me another hug. And that just really made the night
And we're going to the same college, same dorm which makes that even better...

[Psygo]

Removed.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Psygo;44838740]and also she gets a little sad whenever she notices signs of asperger in herself[/QUOTE]

Just making sure - has she been diagnosed with it by a professional?

[Psygo]

Removed.

[paindoc]

Snipped so irl friend doesn't read

[PuduEbooks]

[QUOTE=Psygo;44839262]as far as i know yes, she has had some previous troubles and went to a mental hospital where one person instantly said that she had it.[/QUOTE]

Doesn't sound like asperger's, my girlfriend has it and apparently it includes difficulty developing social skills or some shit, along with a very specific skill on something else. And for some reason that skill for her is everything, because is hard to find something she doesn't know how to do perfectly.

[fruxodaily]

Finally got my tinder age correct on another FB account, find my first match out of plenty so I thought I should say hello how are you

She responds "how hard will you fuck me"

Lovely way to kick off a conversation

[redBadger]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;44838571]Holy shit prom went so much better than I was expecting
So, that girl who texted me turned out to still be with her mister, so I did talk with her a bit but not much
Instead I just danced the whole time and really found my groove, just had shitloads of fun dancing with friends and stuff
And them at the very end there was a slow dance and basically everyone was had someone else except me and this one girl, who is much nicer, much hotter, and better in every way compared to the first
So I asked her if she wanted to dance, and so we did. Started off awkwardly holding her at a distance but by the end we were as close as you can get and she had her head on her chest and just, wow it was awesome. And the whole time my two best friends were flipping me off cos they think she's the bomb too.
And afterwards she gave me another hug. And that just really made the night
And we're going to the same college, same dorm which makes that even better...[/QUOTE]

The important question is did you get her number

[zenby]

[QUOTE=redBadger;44840132]The important question is did you get her number[/QUOTE]

We're friends on Facebook and I've known her (but only to the level of an acquaintance I've had classes with) since middle school, so that's not as urgent as it would be otherwise
I think I might ask her out in a few days, probably just for coffee

[RobbL]

[QUOTE]haha i nearly wrote i dnot want to get with u naymore instead[/QUOTE]

what sort of slip is that

[Big Dumb Patriot]

Every time I come in here to ask for some advice regarding Itty Bitty Girlfriend, I get a paragraph or so in, and realize I already know the answer. There are some things about her that I'm not totally comfortable with (namely, her fursuit and related interests [non-sexual]). I keep coming in to ask how to tell her that I don't like her having a picture of her wearing her fursuit as her Facebook picture, or something like that, and then realize that I really can't, or at least that I shouldn't. I mean, it's petty and unfair of me to tell her that she can't do something she likes just because I'm made mildly uncomfortable by it, right? Probably, I think.

I guess I could use a second opinion, just so I quit bouncing around on it?

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=paindoc;44835074]How do you move on.

because I got rejected and while the rational side of me knows it probably wouldn't have lasted and that its not a big deal I still can't quite manage to do it for whatever reason.

I've just been acting like it doesn't matter, but so far faking until I make it just isn't happening[/QUOTE]
you don't need to fake anything

just vent to someone you trust for about a week, and just don't talk about it to anyone related to the rejection to avoid and embarrassment or regrettable actions

usually after a while you feel better because everyone also feels awful when they are rejected by their crush

[PuduEbooks]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44846902]Every time I come in here to ask for some advice regarding Itty Bitty Girlfriend, I get a paragraph or so in, and realize I already know the answer. There are some things about her that I'm not totally comfortable with (namely, her fursuit and related interests [non-sexual]). I keep coming in to ask how to tell her that I don't like her having a picture of her wearing her fursuit as her Facebook picture, or something like that, and then realize that I really can't, or at least that I shouldn't. I mean, it's petty and unfair of me to tell her that she can't do something she likes just because I'm made mildly uncomfortable by it, right? Probably, I think.

I guess I could use a second opinion, just so I quit bouncing around on it?[/QUOTE]

Yep, you're right, you could state your opinion and make some suggestions, but at the end of the day it's her decision, and you should leave that clear.

[Dick Slamfist]

I'm kind of in awe and slight agony

been talking to this girl, was planning on asking her out this weekend
and then yesterday she straight up asks me instead

shit
now I can't overcome anything

[NoDachi]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44846902]Every time I come in here to ask for some advice regarding Itty Bitty Girlfriend, I get a paragraph or so in, and realize I already know the answer. There are some things about her that I'm not totally comfortable with (namely, her fursuit and related interests [non-sexual]). I keep coming in to ask how to tell her that I don't like her having a picture of her wearing her fursuit as her Facebook picture, or something like that, and then realize that I really can't, or at least that I shouldn't. I mean, it's petty and unfair of me to tell her that she can't do something she likes just because I'm made mildly uncomfortable by it, right? Probably, I think.

I guess I could use a second opinion, just so I quit bouncing around on it?[/QUOTE]

looks like the honeymoon period is over

[PuduEbooks]

Now the real thing begins

[Big Dumb Patriot]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;44848534]looks like the honeymoon period is over[/QUOTE]

Things are still great on the whole; this one thing has bothered me from the get-go. I just gotta get my head out of my butt about it, though. It's unrealistic to think that we're going to have every little thing in common, and this is only going to be a problem for the relationship if I make it one, which would be a very silly thing to do!