Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[RocketRacer]

The more I read this thread the more I see how fucking lucky people are.

And then there's me. "Yeah I'm good I got some friends I play Smite everyday with." :v:

[disseminate]

so fix it

[BigJoeyLemons]

Today I spent a few hours with my prom date at Six Flags on a field trip. It was fun, but her friend was with us too, and I guess they have this recurring pretend-ish joke(?) thing where her friend keeps saying she's her girlfriend and things of that nature, and it kind of weirds me out. I can't really talk to her about it though because we're not [I]~officially~[/I] in a relationship. Any tips?

[Behemoth_PT]

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[Tondier]

Well, fuck. I just got broken up with via text. Right in the middle of a conversation, out of nowhere. I mean, I kind of expected it to happen eventually, and I'm not as upset that I got broken up with, but the fact she did it right in the middle of a text conversation and not face to face upsets me. I even saw her a few times that day, but she elected to break up over text. If you're in an actual relationship for a few months, isn't it just common decency to talk about problems in your relationship, and not just break up at some arbitrary time? If she ever cared about me, wouldn't she have tried to work things out first?

I'm sorry if I'm not making much sense, I just need to vent.

[Doomevil]

In the first time ever in my whole history of being born, I asked a girl out.

Unfortunately she needs time since she got out of a relationship recently but at least I took it like a champ. Moving on.

[vizard38]

Deciding on whether to ask this girl out or something. I've spoken to her and her group on many occasions, but never just one on one. The obvious answer is yes, what's there to lose? There's only four days of school left and college is looming though, and she's an underclassmen so perhaps its best to just leave things be. Though I'm guessing the answer still would be yes, go try, cause there's nothing wrong in trying?

[zenby]

Ok so I talked to the girl at the art show and she made a multiple comments along the lines of things like, she really likes blue eyes, and I have blue eyes. But that doesn't particularly matter.
Then, I got fucking drafted into putting away tables, and by the time I escaped that she was getting ready to go and then she took off on her bike.

I could have stopped her, but sadly even though I'm fantastically intelligent I have a really slow cognitive tempo and so thinking of something as simple as that in the heat of the moment is really unlikely
On the bright side, I felt zero anxiety or nervousness around her. And, I have a few more chances during school to ask her, and if that fails we're both going to a party (nerd party, not crazy drunk party) and I'll for sure ask her there if I haven't already.

[Big Dumb Patriot]

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;44881529]Shit the girl I'm dating smokes so much weed I can't even keep up with her.

I think I hit the blunt too hard I felt I was flying when driving back.

Double checked. There's no bumps on my car.

Shhhh! Don't tell the cops, please.[/QUOTE]

Seems really fucking stupid to go driving while high. You're not just gambling with your own life, man. You're a threat to everybody else on the road. Have fun and smoke if you want to, but at least show a shred of common sense by staying out from behind the wheel. Car accidents are one of the most common causes of death in the world, yo, and over thirty percent of them are caused by impaired drivers.

[editline]22nd May 2014[/editline]

Seriously. I hate to be a stick in the mud, but why would you brag about that?

[Viper123_SWE]

[QUOTE=Viper123_SWE;44878329]Hi guys, i've been looking for this thread so that i could get some advice on a thing.
Several months back i saw this really beautiful and cute girl taking the same train as me 3 times a week, i started planning on, well, talking to her. (Because she looked like she's in my age.)
However, i have little if any experince with flirting etc. so pretty much all i did was to look at her, she saw me a few times too.

Now, during this Monday she was taking the same train as me home so as we stood there on station i simply told myself to go for it and went over to her.
The following train ride home was the best one i've had yet, we chatted during the entire ride and she seems just so... perfect. We're both at pretty much the same level of maturity, she is infact the same age as me and she even have a similar type of humor!

Now, i talked to her today as well and i managed to get her number but now i'm unsure of what to do.
I really want to like, invite her along for a walk during this or next weekend, maybe enjoy the sun and get some ice-cream etc. without sitting on a train that is gradually becoming more occupied.

Problem is that i have really no idea what to do, all i really need is some tips or something that could help me on the way.

Thanks.[/QUOTE]

I think i'm going to play it safe and send a text on Sunday (three day rule) and invite her to tag along during the next Saturday.

Does this sound good?

[RobbL]

[QUOTE]sav-machine said: Why are you even still on that site? All I ever see is creepy and horrible people. =/

I am using it to talk to a cutie angel who I will one day place in formaldehyde in a large glass jar and have as the centrepiece on my banquet table. He follows me on here so I hope he doesn’t read that.[/QUOTE]

pretty sure this is about me

[editline]23rd May 2014[/editline]

And I did read it

[editline]23rd May 2014[/editline]

take that

[editline]23rd May 2014[/editline]

Have I been issued an unofficial ban from mentioning okc on here or something?

[Breakfast Buddy]

How does one make friends when you're 27 living in the middle of nowhere with a career?

work with a bunch of married people around the same age

[Behemoth_PT]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;44883901]Seems really fucking stupid to go driving while high. You're not just gambling with your own life, man. You're a threat to everybody else on the road. Have fun and smoke if you want to, but at least show a shred of common sense by staying out from behind the wheel. Car accidents are one of the most common causes of death in the world, yo, and over thirty percent of them are caused by impaired drivers.

[editline]22nd May 2014[/editline]

Seriously. I hate to be a stick in the mud, but why would you brag about that?[/QUOTE]

I knew the paragons of virtue would strike down on me for that.

Listen it's 5 minutes from there to my place. Yes it's irresponsible, thank you for reminding me. I should be behind bars.

I drove through 5 minutes of dirt road where no one ever passes by and seriously I had to get home and wasn't that dead high not to make sense of where I was driving. Sure in a normal circumstance I wouldn't drive but I had to get home and I fucked up this time. Guilty.

I didn't go through the main road because of that. Instead I went through a dirt road through the fields till my home.

No I don't have the habit of driving under the influence of substances. To be honest when I'm the designated driver I never drink past 1 beer. EVER.

Yes, I did a mistake once, felt pressured into smoking weed and with the conversation smoked a little bit too much. I had class the next day early and I couldn't afford stay at her place till I sober up. Fucked up but shit happens. thank you for reminding me how dangerous it is to DUI,

I just thought it was fun to put everyone in danger. Next time I'm thinking about adding some LSD to my weed on my 5 minute dirt road trip back.

Seriously, people aren't perfect. Sometimes we make mistakes that put us in danger. We all do. It's not like making a joke about it is going to make it worse nor am I implying that I find it cool to DUI.

Chill.

[Big Dumb Patriot]

So what you're saying is that you know you fucked up by doing something stupid as hell, but that you accept no responsibility for it because you have a lot of dumb excuses and that everybody needs to chill out and get off your back because [I] hey, nobody died THIS TIME! [/I]

Grow up. Quit making excuses. What you did was grossly irresponsible, not because it puts YOU in danger, but because it puts everybody else in danger. So here's an idea: don't do it again! Next time you know you have to drive home, make sure you either have enough time to sober up first, or just don't get high in the first place. It's not difficult. How many other impaired drivers that accidentally killed somebody do you think tried to excuse their actions by saying, "well it was only five minutes!"

[editline]23rd May 2014[/editline]

Playing this down as something that only "paragons of virtue" care about is disgusting, man. It's something that any halfway decent person with a working head on their shoulders should care about. Put your own life in danger if you want to, but don't gamble with other people's well-being. Cars are deadly weapons. They kill more people every year than guns by a wide margin. You can't take that shit lightly.

[Behemoth_PT]

I'm sorry but you don't know me.
Can we stop over analyzing the fact that I made fun (not bragging) of the fact I drove home through a dirt road while on a little weed?

Dirt road man. nobody ever around. EVER. No cars no people, nobody. Only fields and farms around.

Irresponsible. Yes, I admited it already. Just don't tell me to grow up.

Thanks.

[BigJoeyLemons]

Let's please not make this a two-page argument on a petty little incident. How about we drop it now?

[Marzipas]

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;44889571]I'm sorry but you don't know me.
Can we stop over analyzing the fact that I made fun (not bragging) of the fact I drove home through a dirt road while on a little weed?

Dirt road man. nobody ever around. EVER. No cars no people, nobody. Only fields and farms around.

Irresponsible. Yes, I admited it already. Just don't tell me to grow up.

Thanks.[/QUOTE]

grow up

[Behemoth_PT]

Ok, you know what. I'm not coming back to this thread again. This is ridiculous.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;44889994]Ok, you know what. I'm not coming back to this thread again. This is ridiculous.[/QUOTE]

Don't let the DUI driver hit you on the way out!

[PuduEbooks]

Ouch

[BigJoeyLemons]

Okay, so I've got a prom to go to on Friday, and there's a chance that I'm going to slow dance with this girl. I need to learn how to slow dance. I'm sure it's not hard, but I don't think it's something I can just do perfectly on the first try.
What do you guys think I should do?

[Kindlinho]

[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44900806]Okay, so I've got a prom to go to on Friday, and there's a chance that I'm going to slow dance with this girl. I need to learn how to slow dance. I'm sure it's not hard, but I don't think it's something I can just do perfectly on the first try.
What do you guys think I should do?[/QUOTE]
Dance.

[zenby]

[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44900806]Okay, so I've got a prom to go to on Friday, and there's a chance that I'm going to slow dance with this girl. I need to learn how to slow dance. I'm sure it's not hard, but I don't think it's something I can just do perfectly on the first try.
What do you guys think I should do?[/QUOTE]

I had never slowed dance before my prom a week ago
Basically what you do is put your hands around the girl kinda low down her back, and then you pretty much stand there hugging and swaying and shuffling your feet a bit.
Or I could be wrong, but that worked pretty well for me

[BigJoeyLemons]

[QUOTE=ZenX2;44901420]I had never slowed dance before my prom a week ago
Basically what you do is put your hands around the girl kinda low down her back, and then you pretty much stand there hugging and swaying and shuffling your feet a bit.
Or I could be wrong, but that worked pretty well for me[/QUOTE]

Sounds pretty solid
cool, thanks

[WishesForFishes]

This has been on my mind for a couple years and I'm not sure if this is bad or not.
I've only had one girlfriend, this was back in high school, we dated for about a week or two, and some where in there near the end of that short time we had sex.
I know I wasn't her first, but she was my first.
The problem stems from I remember fucking NOTHING about her. I do not know her name, hardly her face, and only a little bit of a couple jokes she told. That's it.
I don't even know why I've forgotten everything, our break up was like cheerful as hell, pretty much being "this doesn't work" "no not really" "kbai you were cool" and then we never saw each other again. So like nothing was bad about our relationship at all.
Honestly though, I'd rather not find her again. I'm certain she doesn't remember me either and it'd just feel ultra awkward.

Is it bad I've just forgotten everything? I feel like such a dick. Am I a bad person for this?

[Protocol7]

My buddy's being a little fuckhead, and I don't know how to talk to him about it.

Alright, so I've known this guy since basically elementary school. We're usually pretty tight, and we used to hang out a lot. But these past couple of weeks have been complete bullshit, and I'm way fuckin' fed up.

So these last few weeks were pretty busy for the both of us. End of the semester and all that fun stuff. Alright, so bam, semester finally is over for the both of us. Girlfriend and I decide to invite him and a few other people over to drink last Friday. He says he can't. Doesn't have money for gas or booze. Understandable, except he expressed desire to go earlier that week and suddenly doesn't have money a few hours before? I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, except...

Next morning, I wake up and eventually check Facebook. He's eating breakfast. With some other people. At a restaurant that is *much* further than where we were planning on drinking.

Did I mention that he always complains about being broke to me, but somehow manages to find the time and money to go drinking with other people at least once a week?

And he has the gall to ask me to do his side job - street team for a local promoter - for him. I'm already lending him a laptop. Which, by the way, he broke. And I lent him this one because he broke his old one.

So yeah. I have a lot of reasons - justifiable, I think - to be mad at him. Feel free to prove me wrong, though. It's sort of hard to give the full story, but I think that's it. It's also the same guy I was bitching about last time I posted in this thread - the guy who got mad at us for trying to plan a nice birthday adventure.

What the fuck do I do? I have never dealt with anyone this difficult.

[WishesForFishes]

[QUOTE=Protocol7;44901693]-buddy is being a butt-[/QUOTE]

Talk to him about it.
Start the conversation like "hey man, I don't want this to become a fight or anything, but I feel like you aren't being honest with me. I'm worried about our friendship yo" or something.
Continue with something like "it seems to me like you're blankity blank blanking. Did I do something to you or something?"
The wording "I feel like" and "it seems to me like" is important. It puts all the stuff on you instead of blaming him. So he won't feel like you're attacking him or anything.

If he gets all pissed and shit and it becomes a huge fight, he may not be as great a friend as you thought. At that point I'd just cut ties with him, as hard as that may be.

[Protocol7]

[QUOTE=Katatonic717;44901830]Talk to him about it.
Start the conversation like "hey man, I don't want this to become a fight or anything, but I feel like you aren't being honest with me. I'm worried about our friendship yo" or something.
Continue with something like "it seems to me like you're blankity blank blanking. Did I do something to you or something?"
The wording "I feel like" and "it seems to me like" is important. It puts all the stuff on you instead of blaming him. So he won't feel like you're attacking him or anything.

If he gets all pissed and shit and it becomes a huge fight, he may not be as great a friend as you thought. At that point I'd just cut ties with him, as hard as that may be.[/QUOTE]

That makes sense.

I'll do it tomorrow - he's about to go out with friends again (after making an excuse to not go out yesterday night) and while that makes even more angry, I don't want to ruin his fun.

[WishesForFishes]

[QUOTE=Protocol7;44901851]and while that makes even more angry, I don't want to ruin his fun.[/QUOTE]
That is a fantastic outlook dude.
I wish more people would have that kind of thinking.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Protocol7;44901693]My buddy's being a little fuckhead, and I don't know how to talk to him about it.

Alright, so I've known this guy since basically elementary school. We're usually pretty tight, and we used to hang out a lot. But these past couple of weeks have been complete bullshit, and I'm way fuckin' fed up.

So these last few weeks were pretty busy for the both of us. End of the semester and all that fun stuff. Alright, so bam, semester finally is over for the both of us. Girlfriend and I decide to invite him and a few other people over to drink last Friday. He says he can't. Doesn't have money for gas or booze. Understandable, except he expressed desire to go earlier that week and suddenly doesn't have money a few hours before? I'll give him the benefit of the doubt, except...

Next morning, I wake up and eventually check Facebook. He's eating breakfast. With some other people. At a restaurant that is *much* further than where we were planning on drinking.

Did I mention that he always complains about being broke to me, but somehow manages to find the time and money to go drinking with other people at least once a week?

And he has the gall to ask me to do his side job - street team for a local promoter - for him. I'm already lending him a laptop. Which, by the way, he broke. And I lent him this one because he broke his old one.

So yeah. I have a lot of reasons - justifiable, I think - to be mad at him. Feel free to prove me wrong, though. It's sort of hard to give the full story, but I think that's it. It's also the same guy I was bitching about last time I posted in this thread - the guy who got mad at us for trying to plan a nice birthday adventure.

What the fuck do I do? I have never dealt with anyone this difficult.[/QUOTE]

Honestly after that birthday event I think he just probably don't feel like hanging out with you much right now, since it seems like that really wasn't resolved on the best of terms.
I'd probably just give him some space and time personally, but I suppose it can't hurt to talk and maybe get him to explain it so you can say sorry if it is that or something. Hopefully clear the air a bit.