Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Viper123_SWE]

[QUOTE=Viper123_SWE;44885461]I think i'm going to play it safe and send a text on Sunday (three day rule) and invite her to tag along during the next Saturday.

Does this sound good?[/QUOTE]

Can someone verbally confirm that this is a good idea? I need someone's opinion before/if i send the text today.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Viper123_SWE;44902357]Can someone verbally confirm that this is a good idea? I need someone's opinion before/if i send the text today.[/QUOTE]

Just send it and stop fussing.

[NoDachi]

and stop pretending there is such a thing as a three day rule jesus christ

[WiggityWiz]

So my girlfriend and I got into a huge argument the other night about some stupid bullshit. After that I started to realize how she wasn't as great as I made her out to be. The next day she made no effort to talk or apologize I think because she always expects me to but I was done with that shit. She has always pushed me away and doesn't ever try, so I saw her last night and said we need to talk and she just said, "no thanks". So I ended it there. If she doesn't even want to try what's the fucking point. I ain't even mad doe.

[NO ONE]

[QUOTE=Katatonic717;44901644]This has been on my mind for a couple years and I'm not sure if this is bad or not.
I've only had one girlfriend, this was back in high school, we dated for about a week or two, and some where in there near the end of that short time we had sex.
I know I wasn't her first, but she was my first.
The problem stems from I remember fucking NOTHING about her. I do not know her name, hardly her face, and only a little bit of a couple jokes she told. That's it.
I don't even know why I've forgotten everything, our break up was like cheerful as hell, pretty much being "this doesn't work" "no not really" "kbai you were cool" and then we never saw each other again. So like nothing was bad about our relationship at all.
Honestly though, I'd rather not find her again. I'm certain she doesn't remember me either and it'd just feel ultra awkward.

Is it bad I've just forgotten everything? I feel like such a dick. Am I a bad person for this?[/QUOTE]

It sounds like you're thinking you made a loss on what little emotional you had/didn't have. I mean if you both got out of it what you both wanted from it, then no, there isn't much reason to feel ashamed, like a dick, etc.

You probably feel that way in part simply because you haven't had any other girl fill the same slot sort of speak. It sounds like it was just a fuckbuddy type of thing to begin with, so it is what it is. It doesn't matter you can't remember anything significant about her, you have no connection with her anymore, so it shouldn't affect a single thing.

[editline]25th May 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Ninja Guy;44904086]So my girlfriend and I got into a huge argument the other night about some stupid bullshit. After that I started to realize how she wasn't as great as I made her out to be. The next day she made no effort to talk or apologize I think because she always expects me to but I was done with that shit. She has always pushed me away and doesn't ever try, so I saw her last night and said we need to talk and she just said, "no thanks". So I ended it there. If she doesn't even want to try what's the fucking point. I ain't even mad doe.[/QUOTE]

You're not mad cuz you're learning to not waste your feelings on people that waste you.

[Viper123_SWE]

[QUOTE=NoDachi;44904001]and stop pretending there is such a thing as a three day rule jesus christ[/QUOTE]

As i said before, small/no experince at all and a friend always talked about the three day rule so yeah...

[chinatown]

3 day rule is bullshit that comes from some girly bimbo shitty teen tv show/movie or whatever the fuck. Just the fact that youre texting her doesn't make you look desperate. What you text though, does make you look desperate. And even if you do text her only 3 days later, if you think "Oh, 3 days have gone by, now I can text all I want!" then you just wasted 3 days for nothing. Text her right after so she has your name and number, at the end of the night or something, soon enough so that she doesn't forget you. Then just ask her when shes free to meet up and you're set.

[Viper123_SWE]

Yeah, i sent a text minutes after getting her number, i even helped her spell my name when she added me to her contact list so that part is done.

I also sent the planned text today, so far no answer but it is possible that she is busy (today is mother's day in Sweden, most swedes spend alot of time with their families then so she might not have noticed the text yet).

[Dub!]

[QUOTE=Ninja Guy;44904086]So my girlfriend and I got into a huge argument the other night about some stupid bullshit. After that I started to realize how she wasn't as great as I made her out to be. The next day she made no effort to talk or apologize I think because she always expects me to but I was done with that shit. She has always pushed me away and doesn't ever try, so I saw her last night and said we need to talk and she just said, "no thanks". So I ended it there. If she doesn't even want to try what's the fucking point. I ain't even mad doe.[/QUOTE]

I know this is cliché, but, are you me? I had this same issue with my ex. Eeugh. It's so annoying.

[Daniel Smith]

Because of my Aspergers and possible personality disorders, I feel like it would not be fair to be in a relationship with anyone because I won't be able to express love or feelings, but at the same time I want to be with someone. Is there a place online where I can meet people with the same problems? I'm only 19 but it is impossible for me to talk to people IRL.

[fruxodaily]

[QUOTE=Daniel Smith;44909495]Because of my Aspergers and possible personality disorders, I feel like it would not be fair to be in a relationship with anyone because I won't be able to express love or feelings, but at the same time I want to be with someone. Is there a place online where I can meet people with the same problems? I'm only 19 but it is impossible for me to talk to people IRL.[/QUOTE]
You can always give it a try, find someone who understands and give it a shot

I don't know if there's any sites however, you could try tinder?

[Heigou]

Met an asian qt3.14 yesterday and we're clicking pretty well, a bit excited so I can't sleep this night ahhhhhh.

Good boost in self confidence though, will be hitting PRs all day in the gym tomorrow.

Quick question though, met her over a dating site, thinking of asking if she's free next weekend and see if maybe we can meet up and do something together, anyone has suggestions on what we could do?

[Zar]

do an activity where you can talk to her. time is precious so you should "quickly" find out if you actually really do click that well. im 16 though so maybe my advice doesnt count.

[NO ONE]

[QUOTE=Heigou;44911424]Met an asian qt3.14 yesterday and we're clicking pretty well, a bit excited so I can't sleep this night ahhhhhh.

Good boost in self confidence though, will be hitting PRs all day in the gym tomorrow.

Quick question though, met her over a dating site, thinking of asking if she's free next weekend and see if maybe we can meet up and do something together, anyone has suggestions on what we could do?[/QUOTE]

Doesn't have to be elaborate or anything. Something simple such as dinner, bowling, or going for a walk will do.

[Loopoo]

My course is full of really immature people. It's my own fault for fucking up my studies, so I can't really complain that I'm 21 years old, stuck in a course with a group of 17 to 18 year olds (I remember I used to act like them, so if I were their age, I'd probably enjoy it more). It's tough, since most of them are second-language students, taking the course to build up their English.

When I hang out with girls, I can't really connect with them. What happens a lot of the time is I get ostracized from the group, since a couple of girls will develop feelings for me, and despite making it clear that I'm not looking for a relationship, they still carry on trying? Then I get blamed for leading them on and then a chunk of the group won't speak to me, since obviously if they did it'd be betraying their friend or something (it's like highschool!)?! I basically ended up losing out on a really fun group of people cause one girl crushed on me and then got really spiteful when I tried to tell her as kindly as possible that I wasn't interested in a relationship, so she got everyone to ignore me and it was really fucking awkward. You tell someone how you feel, and they seem reasonable about it, and you expect to go in the next day and everything's okay, but instead, the group just acts really brusque with you. I figured it wasn't worth my time, so I just started hanging out with different people.

I wish people were a bit more grown up about stuff, it'd make life much easier. I feel like I can't even be friendly with some girls, since they've still got that highschool mindset and mistake friendliness as me having feelings for them. I'm hoping it's better in actual university (we're in this primarily English-focused course, which has a highschool-university vibe about it) but I've been told by friends who are in uni that it's still got tonnes of pointless drama. I'm a really cheery, jokey type of person, and it sucks when I have to curtail my personality out of fear of throwing off the wrong signals. Wahhhh

Couple more months then I graduate and off to real University, hopefully.

[editline]26th May 2014[/editline]

tl;dr I'm a [U][I]supreme[/I] gentleman[/U] and it's getting me into all sorts of shenanigans (I'm joking, I'm just a normal person)

[Viper123_SWE]

Oh damn, that girl i texted sent a reply today, appareantly she's not looking for a relationship etc.

I sent back a text and thanked her for being honest at least, better luck next time i guess.

[Genericenemy]

So I'm thinking of inviting my friend over on the Thursday after we go to this event she asked me to go to. Was thinking of sorting it out with my parents and asking her before the event itself but I think I'm going to wait and see how it goes before asking her.

[RobbL]

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This guy literally has about 30 or so okc accounts from being repeatedly reported. What a disgusting creep.

best quote: [quote]women get themselves raped because they deprive guys of their sexual needs. They're lucky I have more control and no intention of messing up. (nobody gets to laugh at me getting taken down by the system, I play by its rules)[/quote]

[Loopoo]

Some people... Just how?

[Magic Scrumpy]

Why are some people so terrifying?

I don't believe I have any issues with social anxiety or anything of the like, but I kind of freak out around some people. I don't know why it's with only some people, and I feel like I can't control over whom I freak out. There isn't any correlation with finding people overly intimidating and any physical or personality trait. It seems almost random. It's weird.

[Squidman]

[QUOTE=Magic Scrumpy;44914599]Why are some people so terrifying?

I don't believe I have any issues with social anxiety or anything of the like, but I kind of freak out around some people. I don't know why it's with only some people, and I feel like I can't control over whom I freak out. There isn't any correlation with finding people overly intimidating and any physical or personality trait. It seems almost random. It's weird.[/QUOTE]

Hell is other people

[Daniel Smith]

[QUOTE=fruxodaily;44909627]You can always give it a try, find someone who understands and give it a shot

I don't know if there's any sites however, you could try tinder?[/QUOTE]

I don't have a phone so I can't use Tinder, and that may have been my only chance...

[chinatown]

[QUOTE=Viper123_SWE;44913832]Oh damn, that girl i texted sent a reply today, appareantly she's not looking for a relationship etc.

I sent back a text and thanked her for being honest at least, better luck next time i guess.[/QUOTE]

well thats what if she says

[Viper123_SWE]

What.

[Dub!]

[QUOTE=Viper123_SWE;44916878]What.[/QUOTE]

I think D3TBS is PUI :v:

[NoDachi]

posting under idiot?

[Dub!]

So I like this chick but she is already dating somebody

Well shit

[chinatown]

yeah sure, shes just not looking for a relationship, excuses

[Viper123_SWE]

I think she was honest, we got pretty good connection and when we talked about school i could hear that she was focusing alot of her time on it.

[chinatown]

well ill give you the benefit of the doubt, but focusing on your conversation about school doesnt necessarily mean shes interested in you romantically. But anyway, going up to her was a good move nontheless, i dont want to be a bummer to ruin it