• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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I'm an ugly, boring, terrible guy to be around with, what's there to even make me special or unique from everyone else? I'm willing to bet money I'm going to die alone of old age
Bad taste in anime too.
You can't have good taste in it or you wouldn't like it!
[QUOTE=GURREN LAGANN;44926325]I'm an ugly, boring, terrible guy to be around with, what's there to even make me special or unique from everyone else? I'm willing to bet money I'm going to die alone of old age[/QUOTE] With a mindset like that, what else are you supposed to be expecting?
I'm absolutely head-over-heels for this one girl and I honestly can't tell whether or not she likes me back. There are what seem to be some pretty big hints that suggest both that she does and she doesn't. I really don't want to write up an essay about it, so I'll try to keep the post to bullet points and short anecdotes. Hopefully everything stays reasonably organized. Please forgive me if this becomes some sort of monster post. I'm just going to jump into these lists here. Sorry for a lack of transition. [b]HINTS THAT IMPLY SHE LIKES ME[/b] [code] - I often catch her looking at me, and when I do she darts her eyes away as quickly as possible - She laughs at a lot of what I say, even if it's stupid. - She seems to be flirtatious with me - She picks up a lot of my verbal habits (for a lack of a better term); e.g. I say "rude" often, and she has begun to do so as well. [/code] I don't know whether to really value these as much, for they are very simple and universal signs. [u]Supporting Anecdotes for the Above[/u] [quote]During our math class, I was doing that "Ans+1" thing on a calculator so it would show me how many times I had pressed the enter key. When she noticed that I was doing this, she started trying to mess up my progress. I playfully tried to prevent her from clearing the calculator and thus ruining my score, and by doing that we broke the hand touch barrier multiple times. Eventually, she successfully cleared the memory and my score of ~5000 was lost. R.I.P. I then typed on the calculator (it was one of those calculators where you can use the alpha-lock to type letters) a message "mourning" the loss of my glorious score of 5000 (in hindsight, yeah, I must have been acting really stupid around her). She read it, smiled and typed back a message making fun of my "loss." It was all light-hearted and fun.[/quote] [quote]The below picture is one of our seating arrangement, for I doubt I'll be able to explain this well without a visual aid. I'm not an artist, so what you see may haunt you for the rest of your life. [t]http://puu.sh/943lA.png[/t] Yes, I sit kind of between the two tables. I do my work facing my friends, but that's irrelevant. Today, she turned her chair so that her shoulder touched the back of my hand, which, as shown by the picture, was hanging off her table. Assuming it was an accident, I ignored it (it made me kind of nervous though). Her shoulder bounced back after less than a second, which was what made me think it was unintentional contact. However, not too long after, she lightly slammed her shoulder into the back of my hand again. Feeling playful, I lightly pushed on her shoulder. She rode the momentum from that until her chair turned 180 degrees, which is when she turned the chair back towards me, hitting my hand again. This happened several times, and while it was happening she said to the other woman at her table, "It's not rude; it's efficiency. Look at this; I'm riding the momentum from Mark's pushes, so it's all his doing." When I stopped pushing on her shoulder, she faced me and laughed.[/quote] I might add some more stuff here. [b]HINTS THAT IMPLY SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME[/b] [code] - She is also very friendly with her friends, so the above anecdotes might not mean much. - She doesn't make a point to talk to me much. [/code] [b]HINTS WITH AMBIGUOUS IMPLICATIONS[/b] [code] - She often talks to another guy with whom she has a lot in common. - When one of my friends slipped to her online (not by my request) that I like her, she replied "I'm not interested in a relationship; I want to focus on my studies. [/code] [b]OBLIGATORY SELF-DOUBT THAT MAKES ME THINK SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME (Superfluous)[/b] [code] - I'm not a very attractive dude. I don't have a great face and I have a humorously small bone frame and I'm exceedingly lightly muscled. - I'm socially awkward, and as such sometimes I get nervous and end up being really obnoxious or overbearing. [/code] I know I'm asking a lot of you guys, but can you guys tell me what you think of this? I feel like I swayed it to make you all think she likes me, for it's the only one I could provide anecdotal evidence for, but this difference in evidence really means nothing. If someone would be willing to help me, I would greatly appreciate it. If I need to elaborate on anything, I would be glad to do so. Thanks! [editline]27th May 2014[/editline] And this turned out to be a monster post. Oops.
[QUOTE=Magic Scrumpy;44927304]I'm absolutely head-over-heels for this one girl and I honestly can't tell whether or not she likes me back. There are what seem to be some pretty big hints that suggest both that she does and she doesn't. I really don't want to write up an essay about it, so I'll try to keep the post to bullet points and short anecdotes. Hopefully everything stays reasonably organized. Please forgive me if this becomes some sort of monster post. I'm just going to jump into these lists here. Sorry for a lack of transition. [b]HINTS THAT IMPLY SHE LIKES ME[/b] [code] - I often catch her looking at me, and when I do she darts her eyes away as quickly as possible - She laughs at a lot of what I say, even if it's stupid. - She seems to be flirtatious with me - She picks up a lot of my verbal habits (for a lack of a better term); e.g. I say "rude" often, and she has begun to do so as well. [/code] I don't know whether to really value these as much, for they are very simple and universal signs. [u]Supporting Anecdotes for the Above[/u] I might add some more stuff here. [b]HINTS THAT IMPLY SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME[/b] [code] - She is also very friendly with her friends, so the above anecdotes might not mean much. - She doesn't make a point to talk to me much. [/code] [b]HINTS WITH AMBIGUOUS IMPLICATIONS[/b] [code] - She often talks to another guy with whom she has a lot in common. - When one of my friends slipped to her online (not by my request) that I like her, she replied "I'm not interested in a relationship; I want to focus on my studies. [/code] [b]OBLIGATORY SELF-DOUBT THAT MAKES ME THINK SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME (Superfluous)[/b] [code] - I'm not a very attractive dude. I don't have a great face and I have a humorously small bone frame and I'm exceedingly lightly muscled. - I'm socially awkward, and as such sometimes I get nervous and end up being really obnoxious or overbearing. [/code] I know I'm asking a lot of you guys, but can you guys tell me what you think of this? I feel like I swayed it to make you all think she likes me, for it's the only one I could provide anecdotal evidence for, but this difference in evidence really means nothing. If someone would be willing to help me, I would greatly appreciate it. If I need to elaborate on anything, I would be glad to do so. Thanks! [editline]27th May 2014[/editline] And this turned out to be a monster post. Oops.[/QUOTE] you're overthinking it
I think you should just over analysing that crap and just do what the title says.
jesus
Going a little overboard is something I kinda tend to do. Sorry. Should I snip it?
you also went overboard with the presentation of your story, good god
oops. sorry. [editline]28th May 2014[/editline] This is exactly what I was referring to when I said something about going overboard. I really need to work on that. :v:
So I think I stumbled apon a MILF.... let me explain. I started doing hot yoga (Bikram) in the same city I work not too long ago, probably only a month or so ago. It's a really professional and well established studio with a great owner and so on. The owner employs a good amount of instructors to cover all the possible times for classes (a lot), so you don't always end up getting a class run by her. She (the owner) is a very enticing businesswoman. I noticed early on how much she likes to keep students in the know and comfortable, so I didn't even bat an eye when she tracked me down on Facebook and friended me. She is so devoted to keeping close to students, she personalizes emails. She of course admits to using a template, but will still personalize them. I just picked up on some insanely flirtatious things in those emails, and the most recent one(got it today), I kid you not, reads: [quote]"Dear ---, 1.$30/30 Days introductory offer ends Saturday, May 31 (totally rad, so don't miss out). 2.June 'PYO' Challenge starts Sunday, June 1 (totally rad, so don't miss out). 3.Time and money are valuable assets. Reading my emails and/or routinely checking my website or Facebook page promotes the conservation of both. [B]4.I love you and think you're really cute. Let's get together sometime. [/B]"[/quote] I'm starting to put things together and think, especially after that, that perhaps there is a real interest here. But, at the same time, I have my doubts, and think she might be using her business skills to try and seduce me or something to keep me as a consistent student. Quickly browsing her Facebook, she appears to be a single mom. I don't know how old she is (appears to be in early 30s), but she is fucking incredibly attractive, so I am flattered by all this. But, again, I'm having trouble getting a clear read from her. There are all these good signs, but it still feels kinda off. I mean I guess at this point it probably would be best to try and discuss this so I can figure out where she is coming from, but the question is do I email, FB message, or wait til I catch one of her classes again?
[QUOTE=Magic Scrumpy;44927707]oops. sorry. [editline]28th May 2014[/editline] This is exactly what I was referring to when I said something about going overboard. I really need to work on that. :v:[/QUOTE] ask her out and get it over with [editline]28th May 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=NO ONE;44927751]So I think I stumbled apon a MILF.... let me explain. I started doing hot yoga (Bikram) in the same city I work not too long ago, probably only a month or so ago. It's a really professional and well established studio with a great owner and so on. The owner employs a good amount of instructors to cover all the possible times for classes (a lot), so you don't always end up getting a class run by her. She (the owner) is a very enticing businesswoman. I noticed early on how much she likes to keep students in the know and comfortable, so I didn't even bat an eye when she tracked me down on Facebook and friended me. She is so devoted to keeping close to students, she personalizes emails. She of course admits to using a template, but will still personalize them. I just picked up on some insanely flirtatious things in those emails, and the most recent one(got it today), I kid you not, reads: I'm starting to put things together and think, especially after that, that perhaps there is a real interest here. But, at the same time, I have my doubts, and think she might be using her business skills to try and seduce me or something to keep me as a consistent student. Quickly browsing her Facebook, she appears to be a single mom. I don't know how old she is (appears to be in early 30s), but she is fucking incredibly attractive, so I am flattered by all this. But, again, I'm having trouble getting a clear read from her. There are all these good signs, but it still feels kinda off. I mean I guess at this point it probably would be best to try and discuss this so I can figure out where she is coming from, but the question is do I email, FB message, or wait til I catch one of her classes again?[/QUOTE] Wait til you catch one of her classes and ask her out for a coffee, unless you rarely see her, in which case, phone
Not sure if this is the correct thread but my friends 18th was a disaster tonight. In short, my friend C is getting involved with J, and J's ex took this news in the worst possible way (we're in the same group of friends and were at the bar, but none of us were really drunk) and fucking assaulted C. I never thought he was capable of that, they are good friends and the breakup happened a long time ago, so imo, it"s not really anyones business and the ex is acting like she belongs to him. Everyone is home safe now but it will take a long time to recover. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? I just hate seeing my friends fall out like this. Sorry for any mistakes, typing from my phone
I don't know what to do with the pictures of me and my ex... I'm thinking about burning them, but then I thought if we ever got back together that she would be offended but at the same time. I need to move on and I can't bring myself to throw them away, so I think burning would be the easiest. ( I'm weird )
[QUOTE=Zerokateo;44928504]I don't know what to do with the pictures of me and my ex... I'm thinking about burning them, but then I thought if we ever got back together that she would be offended but at the same time. I need to move on and I can't bring myself to throw them away, so I think burning would be the easiest. ( I'm weird )[/QUOTE] You could make a time capsule of regrets and throw it in your septic tank or something. I live in NC so we have convenient lagoons of pig shit everywhere for this purpose. That way you won't be tempted to dig it up later to reminisce nostalgically about or drunkenly masturbate over.
[QUOTE=Squidman;44928616]You could make a time capsule of regrets and throw it in your septic tank or something. I live in NC so we have convenient lagoons of pig shit everywhere for this purpose. That way you won't be tempted to dig it up later to reminisce nostalgically about or drunkenly masturbate over.[/QUOTE] Already burning them.
"Oh hey. She's cute!" Lesbian. Why does this always happen to me :v:
[QUOTE=Magic Scrumpy;44927304]I'm absolutely head-over-heels for this one girl and I honestly can't tell whether or not she likes me back. There are what seem to be some pretty big hints that suggest both that she does and she doesn't. I really don't want to write up an essay about it, so I'll try to keep the post to bullet points and short anecdotes. Hopefully everything stays reasonably organized. Please forgive me if this becomes some sort of monster post. I'm just going to jump into these lists here. Sorry for a lack of transition. [b]HINTS THAT IMPLY SHE LIKES ME[/b] [code] - I often catch her looking at me, and when I do she darts her eyes away as quickly as possible - She laughs at a lot of what I say, even if it's stupid. - She seems to be flirtatious with me - She picks up a lot of my verbal habits (for a lack of a better term); e.g. I say "rude" often, and she has begun to do so as well. [/code] I don't know whether to really value these as much, for they are very simple and universal signs. [u]Supporting Anecdotes for the Above[/u] I might add some more stuff here. [b]HINTS THAT IMPLY SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME[/b] [code] - She is also very friendly with her friends, so the above anecdotes might not mean much. - She doesn't make a point to talk to me much. [/code] [b]HINTS WITH AMBIGUOUS IMPLICATIONS[/b] [code] - She often talks to another guy with whom she has a lot in common. - When one of my friends slipped to her online (not by my request) that I like her, she replied "I'm not interested in a relationship; I want to focus on my studies. [/code] [b]OBLIGATORY SELF-DOUBT THAT MAKES ME THINK SHE DOESN'T LIKE ME (Superfluous)[/b] [code] - I'm not a very attractive dude. I don't have a great face and I have a humorously small bone frame and I'm exceedingly lightly muscled. - I'm socially awkward, and as such sometimes I get nervous and end up being really obnoxious or overbearing. [/code] I know I'm asking a lot of you guys, but can you guys tell me what you think of this? I feel like I swayed it to make you all think she likes me, for it's the only one I could provide anecdotal evidence for, but this difference in evidence really means nothing. If someone would be willing to help me, I would greatly appreciate it. If I need to elaborate on anything, I would be glad to do so. Thanks! [editline]27th May 2014[/editline] And this turned out to be a monster post. Oops.[/QUOTE] I can't tell if this was absolutely creepy or absolutely adorable. I'm gonna go with absolutely adorable.
It might be adorable on an internet forum, but if I were the girl and I saw him write that, I'd get mega creep vibes. You're looking too much into it. I really hope hints of desperation don't come through when you talk to her!! Just be yourself. Whatever happens happens. There's plenty of tuna in the sea, and with modern day standards of economical fishing, there's more than enough to go round. PS: it depresses me to think of tuna going extinct. [editline]28th May 2014[/editline] But seriously, I've found the mindset of "Okay, I'm not too fussed about whether or not she likes me, so I'll just carry on being myself and treating her like a normal human being, and when I feel she might be interested in me, I'll just go ahead and invite her out" makes things a lot better. When you over analyze ever detail and every interaction, you just drive yourself mad.
All girls that are interested in me turn out to be hardcore religious girls, whyyyyy. Jehovas witnesses last year, this year muslim.
[QUOTE=Darkslicer;44931967]All girls that are interested in me turn out to be hardcore religious girls, whyyyyy. Jehovas witnesses last year, this year muslim.[/QUOTE] Maybe you subconciously have a thing for fundamentalists, and your mind can sniff them out on it's own. Embrace it.
put the fun back into fundamentalism
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[QUOTE=Darkslicer;44931967]All girls that are interested in me turn out to be hardcore religious girls, whyyyyy. Jehovas witnesses last year, this year muslim.[/QUOTE] They want to offer you to their gods as a sacrifice probably because you're virgin and all that
Well I just lost a lot of friends. I lost my girlfriend and now I've lost people I talk to a lot. I was in PE and after I finished the stupid V-sit thing you gotta do, I walked over to a group of my 'friends.' They were talking shit about me. Mean things. At least I thought. My friend Katey, really cute girl, about a 8-9. She gave me her earnings to put away because she didn't have any pockets so I put them in mine. All was fine. Once I noticed they were supposedly talking shit about me, she asked for them back. In my mind I thought, "Bitch, fuck off." So I threw her earings across the room and walked off and sat alone for the rest of the class. Ended up being that they didn't say anything about me. That they were 'joking' and it was no big deal. Now I look like a fool to them and none of then really like me anymore as I made a scene. I knew at that point that none of them really cared about me. None of them were really my friends. When do I start making real friends, guys? The ones who you can sit down and talk to and have fun times with. I miss that. :c
When shit like that happens, you should try and be the better man. [editline]28th May 2014[/editline] Even if you feel like crap.
[QUOTE=Heigou;44934252]When shit like that happens, you should try and be the better man. [editline]28th May 2014[/editline] Even if you feel like crap.[/QUOTE] I feel as if I try anything to be out there I just get shot down.
[QUOTE=Dub!;44934215]Well I just lost a lot of friends. I lost my girlfriend and now I've lost people I talk to a lot. I was in PE and after I finished the stupid V-sit thing you gotta do, I walked over to a group of my 'friends.' They were talking shit about me. Mean things. At least I thought. My friend Katey, really cute girl, about a 8-9. She gave me her earnings to put away because she didn't have any pockets so I put them in mine. All was fine. Once I noticed they were supposedly talking shit about me, she asked for them back. In my mind I thought, "Bitch, fuck off." So I threw her earings across the room and walked off and sat alone for the rest of the class. Ended up being that they didn't say anything about me. That they were 'joking' and it was no big deal. Now I look like a fool to them and none of then really like me anymore as I made a scene. I knew at that point that none of them really cared about me. None of them were really my friends. When do I start making real friends, guys? The ones who you can sit down and talk to and have fun times with. I miss that. :c[/QUOTE] just tell them you were having a bad day sorry but you really did overreact, a lot of people joke about their friends behind their back and talk shit but in the end it doesn't actually mean anything, and if you can hear them, they probably wanted you to hear them to see a reaction whenever I date someone, their friends always talk shit about me with her, but usually they're the ones that are there for both of us, unbiased, when we break up and the shit talking usually is just what it is girls are usually more guilty of this, but to say i've never talked shit about any of my friends whom i love would be a lie
[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;44934371]just tell them you were having a bad day sorry but you really did overreact, a lot of people joke about their friends behind their back and talk shit but in the end it doesn't actually mean anything whenever I date someone, their friends always talk shit about me with her, but usually they're the ones that are there for both of us, unbiased, when we break up and the shit talking usually is just what it is girls are usually more guilty of this, but to say i've never talked shit about any of my friends whom i love would be a lie[/QUOTE] I feel like I didn't overreact, it's been a build up of a lot of shit that I don't care to list.
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