Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Loopoo]

As a guy who has dated Muslim girls, don't botherrrrrr, it's really tough. They're torn between wanting to be intimate, but ultimately not being intimate because of the overwhelming guilt they feel. It's a really tough position to be in as a boyfriend, as on the one hand, if you really like them, it's awesome, but then the lack of intimacy and having to hide from all her super-zealous family and friends is the worst.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Dub!;44934417]I feel like I didn't overreact, it's been a build up of a lot of shit that I don't care to list.[/QUOTE]

I'm sure you've heard the line "laugh, and the world laughs with you" before.

Everyone has their own problems. Being friends with someone isn't enough for them to want to hear about yours.

Furthermore, you need to realize that just because you have your own reasons doesn't mean other people are aware of them (or that they would agree they're good reasons if they knew about them). To your friends, your antics probably made you come across as someone who can't take a joke.

[editline]28th May 2014[/editline]

As for making "real friends"... Not many people will want to be friends with a loose cannon.

[Dub!]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;44935449]I'm sure you've heard the line "laugh, and the world laughs with you" before.

Everyone has their own problems. Being friends with someone isn't enough for them to want to hear about yours.

Furthermore, you need to realize that just because you have your own reasons doesn't mean other people are aware of them (or that they would agree they're good reasons if they knew about them). To your friends, your antics probably made you come across as someone who can't take a joke.

[editline]28th May 2014[/editline]

As for making "real friends"... Not many people will want to be friends with a loose cannon.[/QUOTE]

Thank you for being honest with me. I'll think about doing that before I actually do it for next time. I'm not known for making scenes like that.

[Saza]

about a week old, cross post

[QUOTE=Saza;44891544]and just like that things are over

my girlfriend's mom told her today they're moving to ireland in a month, which for more than three quarters of i'm out of town

so we ended things today. i enjoyed the two of us a lot but i don't feel [i]bad[/i]. or anything, really. i feel bad that i don't have any feelings about this.
[/QUOTE]

it's a bit of a long story, but my girlfriend's moving out of the country and I'm not going to be around much for the month she's got left here.. so, we decided to end it. there's no hard feelings, neither one of us is mad or anything, but it's hard for me to talk about this to anyone, really.

It's not because I'm going to miss her. It's because I don't feel sad that it's over, or that I don't really feel much emotion anymore. That's a bit of another problem, though.

I'm not really asking for any response here to my problem. I'm telling you all that the past ~3 months of my life have been wonderful, and if you're having doubts about yourself, just fuckin' ask if she wants to go see a movie with you in a day or two and do it!

[NO ONE]

Welp, might have to scratch that notion I had about that yoga intsructor MILF.

I messaged her earlier and she replied with:

"Hi! I'm always trying to let my clients know that they are loved. Because they really are!"

So it feels kinda like she really just likes to make students feel like she is a super open & friendly person who they can talk with and so on. Like I said, she is quite a savvy businesswoman, so I didn't really take it that it was some sort of crazy strain of luck that she was coming of flirtatious.

Although I guess it shows just how fucking horny and dirty I can be. Thinking I'll be getting it on with my yoga instructor :v:

[Dub!]

[QUOTE=NO ONE;44937564]Welp, might have to scratch that notion I had about that yoga intsructor MILF.

I messaged her earlier and she replied with:

"Hi! I'm always trying to let my clients know that they are loved. Because they really are!"

So it feels kinda like she really just likes to make students feel like she is a super open & friendly person who they can talk with and so on. Like I said, she is quite a savvy businesswoman, so I didn't really take it that it was some sort of crazy strain of luck that she was coming of flirtatious.

Although I guess it shows just how fucking horny and dirty I can be. Thinking I'll be getting it on with my yoga instructor :v:[/QUOTE]

Fuck'er right in the pussy, man.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=NO ONE;44937564]Welp, might have to scratch that notion I had about that yoga intsructor MILF.

I messaged her earlier and she replied with:

"Hi! I'm always trying to let my clients know that they are loved. Because they really are!"

So it feels kinda like she really just likes to make students feel like she is a super open & friendly person who they can talk with and so on. Like I said, she is quite a savvy businesswoman, so I didn't really take it that it was some sort of crazy strain of luck that she was coming of flirtatious.

Although I guess it shows just how fucking horny and dirty I can be. Thinking I'll be getting it on with my yoga instructor :v:[/QUOTE]

I looked at your last post... If she literally emailed you "I love you and think you're really cute. Let's get together sometime" then I'm pretty sure she's looking for more from you... You can't get much more direct than that.

[Rhenae]

Reading this thread I just learned that apparently I'm the only person who doesn't have shit talking friends. I'm surprised.

My friend group is small, always has been (although the group has changed over years) but I have never been in a group where that happens. Occasionally a person would join who would talk shit about others, but they would leave again because no one wanted part of that within our group. If your friends your friends you don't say shit about each other.

But I guess that was just us.

[Loopoo]

Go for it, NO ONE. Imagine the hot yoga sex you'd have. You'd pull positions that most people could only dream of.

Make a heart out of your necks, like swans do. Copulate for life. Have little yoga babies.

If I ever had the chance to hook up with someone who did yoga, I'd like to think it'd be crazy hot, but the reality of it would probably be me lying on the bed like a beached whale, whilst this person clambers all over my fatass. Namaste.

[PuduEbooks]

Best advice ever.

[Big Dumb Patriot]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;44939612]Reading this thread I just learned that apparently I'm the only person who doesn't have shit talking friends. I'm surprised.

My friend group is small, always has been (although the group has changed over years) but I have never been in a group where that happens. Occasionally a person would join who would talk shit about others, but they would leave again because no one wanted part of that within our group. If your friends your friends you don't say shit about each other.

But I guess that was just us.[/QUOTE]

My friends and I CONSTANTLY rag on each other, usually right in front of each other, but it's just part of our dynamic. It's not actually mean-spirited at all. A lot of it is just made up bullshit, but even the stuff mired in truth is only fun and friendly leg-pulling. Most of it is in the form of unflattering short stories. That's a bit of a tradition for us, even. Every Christmas and for every birthday, we all write each other short stories in which we absolutely gut each other. Or in which we're having the dirtiest gay sex you could possibly imagine. Just kind of depends how the wind is blowing.

IBG didn't get it at first. She was getting offended on my behalf, and straight up angry when I mentioned a joke my best friend made in regards to our freaky deaky bondage shit, but she's starting to get the hang of it now, and was firing back just as quickly as they were coming in when I had him on speaker phone yesterday. I was so proud.

[Loopoo]

Organized with some friends to rent a car one of these weekends, and they were all for it, but sadly I couldn't find a company that would rent to a 21 year old (asshole websites advertise renting to 21 year old's but then turn around and give the minimum age as 23?!) so we had to cancel the plans. Since then, we haven't really been talking, and I kinda feel they were only giving me the time of day because they felt I was worth it cause of the whole car rental thing.

I've just found a car rental place that'll be happy enough to rent to me, and I feel like not inviting those two with me. We rarely talk nowadays, it's just sort of hi and bye, and whatsapp messages I send don't usually get a reply from them. Feels kinda shit!

Ah well, solo car adventure sounds good.

[disseminate]

I posted this in the skype chat but I want some more opinions.

I work full time doing manual labor which isn't that great for my psyche or my hands. I do it mainly because my parents underestimate the amount of student loans I get; if it keeps them happy though I'm fine with it. That being said, working from 6-5 is a massive time sink.

I recently met a girl and we've been dating for about a month now, but the main issue is that we can't see each other often due to schedule problems (ie I have no time on weekdays, and she works part time on weekends). It's turning into an issue because it's just not enough time.

What do you guys think I should do? I've asked my boss for a downgrade to part time and he said he'd do his best, but it'd be at least a few weeks from now if at all. Quitting and finding a new job is also an option but seeing as it's mid summer I probably couldn't find another job. I'm at a loss and I really don't want to be broken up with because of something as silly as a summer job.

[autodesknoob]

seems like we get along great only if its the two of us...
and even facebook chatting with her is boring

is that a problem? i feel like in the future it could be, but now nothing beats being alone with her

[NO ONE]

[QUOTE=Disseminate;44942354]I posted this in the skype chat but I want some more opinions.

I work full time doing manual labor which isn't that great for my psyche or my hands. I do it mainly because my parents underestimate the amount of student loans I get; if it keeps them happy though I'm fine with it. That being said, working from 6-5 is a massive time sink.

I recently met a girl and we've been dating for about a month now, but the main issue is that we can't see each other often due to schedule problems (ie I have no time on weekdays, and she works part time on weekends). It's turning into an issue because it's just not enough time.

What do you guys think I should do? I've asked my boss for a downgrade to part time and he said he'd do his best, but it'd be at least a few weeks from now if at all. Quitting and finding a new job is also an option but seeing as it's mid summer I probably couldn't find another job. I'm at a loss and I really don't want to be broken up with because of something as silly as a summer job.[/QUOTE]

Make sure you try and keep communicating. Do the next best thing and text/FB chat like mad. Worked for a while with my ex. We only saw each other about once a week for a good while and so we just texted each other almost everyday.

[BigJoeyLemons]

Well, prom's tomorrow. There's a lot of shit that's happened to me in the past month, but I only really have one question for you guys: How many sprays of cologne? And would it clash too much with deodorant?

[Protocol7]

[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44943717]Well, prom's tomorrow. There's a lot of shit that's happened to me in the past month, but I only really have one question for you guys: How many sprays of cologne?[/QUOTE]

Less is more. I always do a spray on my wrist, and then while it's still wet, wipe it on the back of my neck. It's in the right spots and not overwhelming.

[editline]29th May 2014[/editline]

Can I bitch about work here? Because I have this coworker who just *loves* to schedule meetings, and every time I see the invitation show up in Outlook, I reply with basically "...Why?"

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44943717]Well, prom's tomorrow. There's a lot of shit that's happened to me in the past month, but I only really have one question for you guys: How many sprays of cologne? And would it clash too much with deodorant?[/QUOTE]

lots of spray

just choose one that's not too strong

[editline]29th May 2014[/editline]

like polo blue

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Protocol7;44943749]

[editline]29th May 2014[/editline]

Can I bitch about work here? Because I have this coworker who just *loves* to schedule meetings, and every time I see the invitation show up in Outlook, I reply with basically "...Why?"[/QUOTE]

Why do you say '...why?' ? I guess it really depends on your workplace, but myself and my coworkers schedule meeting all the time, because we always forget.

[editline]30th May 2014[/editline]

Not to mention, they think they might be doing you a favour by adding it to your outlook calendar for you so you won't have to type it in.

[chinatown]

We have a girl in our semester that used to post everything in our facebook group of around 200 people. For example something we got an email, and she simply copy pastes it to the group, or writes to remind us of whatever things that half of the people dont even care.

One time she copy pasted one email we all got, and some of the guys just commented "Hmmm" or "Interesting..." "Ahh, ok.." Cool..."
She thought they really cared until someone told her otherwise

[Protocol7]

[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;44949726]Why do you say '...why?' ? I guess it really depends on your workplace, but myself and my coworkers schedule meeting all the time, because we always forget.

[editline]30th May 2014[/editline]

Not to mention, they think they might be doing you a favour by adding it to your outlook calendar for you so you won't have to type it in.[/QUOTE]

I don't like meetings that are going to take 5 minutes when a chain of emails will suffice. Especially if you just want a list of "things in this project that are complete" and "things in this project that need more work."

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Protocol7;44950519]I don't like meetings that are going to take 5 minutes when a chain of emails will suffice. Especially if you just want a list of "things in this project that are complete" and "things in this project that need more work."[/QUOTE]

Depends on your workplace protocol I guess. Where I work getting a meeting is the done thing, even if it's just a 10 minute catch up and where there is a meeting, there is an invite so that the meeting is recorded.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE=Protocol7;44950519]I don't like meetings that are going to take 5 minutes when a chain of emails will suffice. Especially if you just want a list of "things in this project that are complete" and "things in this project that need more work."[/QUOTE]

You should get them to set up a Trello page. They can make a list of "needs to be done" and as it gets done it can be moved to a WIP or Complete list, each has a comment section and description where more info can be added if needed. Feels like it would be way more streamlined

[BigJoeyLemons]

Prom's tonight, hopefully I'll have some stories to tell

[Kindlinho]

Wish I had some. My prom was extremely mundane and there was nothing memorable at all. All about the booze, which didn't even get me drunk.

[OogalaBoogal]

[QUOTE=Protocol7;44950519]I don't like meetings that are going to take 5 minutes when a chain of emails will suffice. Especially if you just want a list of "things in this project that are complete" and "things in this project that need more work."[/QUOTE]

Just let them know how you feel, and tell them that you'd be more productive with emails.

I find it easier to just do the 5 minute meetings. I find I spend more time waiting for people to get back to me with clarification than just sitting down and talking about it.

[Dub!]

Mom just told me I need to get friends. Told her that I actually have a lot, but I would never want to hang with them after school. She doesn't fully understand that High School is full of faggots and douchebags that you /have/ to become friends with unless you want to be a lonely little loser.

Thanks, mom. Go fuck yourself.

[RubberDuckeh]

a few months ago, i was in a pretty messed up place mentally. my mindset was very bleak and pessimistic, i was consuming copious amounts of pot and running away from my problems (which were stupid to begin with, the pot just served to amplify all my negative qualities and ~woe is me~ bullshit).. during this time, I started talking to a girl I had met months before while hanging out with other friends (who i no longer associate with).

everything was good, she seemed to like me but most of our communication was either over facebook or texting because we both have full time jobs and could only really hang out on weekends.. anyway, over the course of about 3 weeks we hung out a few times (her, her best friend, her best friend's boyfriend and me, mostly. one time her sister and her sister's boyfriend were both there too for a little while) and one of the times i decided i would do something silly and have a couple beers (something that was akin to russian roulette for me at the time, sometimes it'd end with me happy + fun and other times..). combined with my previously mentioned mindset, things got pretty fucked up in my head pretty fast and i ended up stepping out of the house while they were playing beer pong. i hung out outside alone for about 10-15 minutes and then they came out to smoke a cigarette and found me outside.

i had been pretty quiet for most of the night and they sort of figured i had just left (and she had previously mentioned she hates when people do that - her best friend has a bad habit of it).. i ended up staying outside after they went back in, hung out for another 10-15 minutes or so and ended up just taking off (udunfuckedupnow). the next morning, realizing what a stupid ass move that was, i made another stupid move and sent some message like "sorry for leaving last night, didn't want my bad mood to ruin the night" and never heard back. tried a simple "hello" the next day and got ignored so i just moved on with my life.

i've since gone sober, cleaned up my act completely and am in a much better place mentally than i was even a few months ago.. anyways, i really enjoyed hanging out with that group of people. i should also mention the girl's best friend is someone i've known for a couple years (through previous acquaintances) and her best friend's boyfriend had been my friend for quite a while (we actually met when we were in elementary school, didn't really stay in contact but we were friends in high school and after graduating). i don't have either of their cell numbers and i've since deleted my facebook account so i can't really contact either of them

i thought everything was pretty good between us (until i fucked it up) and i'm tempted to send her a text but i can't help but think i'll just get ignored. i suppose there's really nothing to lose, i already have no friends and worst case, i get ignored and move on.. best case, she sends a message back and i have a shot at making back some friends that i actually enjoyed being around. i had been struggling with lots of stupid shit since i started my rather unhealthy relationship with weed during my senior year of highschool (5 years ago) and i finally reached the point where i realized i was better off without it. i just hate that i (once again) ruined what could have been a good thing over my drug muddled, self-pity bs

i guess the worst part is that i don't care about having an intimate relationship with the girl, i just want to have some friends to hang out with. i'm not a total shut-in or anything but i don't have any close friends, really any friends at all at this point. a good portion of those i used to call friends were either not very good people or were put off by similar antics, ultimately my fault but i've changed quite a bit since going sober and i'd like to think for the better.

i don't know. maybe i'm just fooling myself into thinking i'm somehow entitled to a second chance, i know if i was in their shoes i'd tell me to go fuck myself if i even wasted the time to respond. was a total dumbass move on my part and i know it.

[zenby]

Going to a semi-nerd grad party tomorrow, 100% going to ask out slow dance prom girl
Pretty confident that my anxiety meds and confidence from my rapidly increasing fitness will get me through this without issues

[BigJoeyLemons]

Prom was fun, and I'll go into detail on it tomorrow, but one thing pisses me off

The DJ started with a slow dance, and that made me real happy to finally slow dance with this girl, and not even halfway through the slow song the guy stops it abruptly and starts pumping bass and pop dubstep shit that's basically impossible to dance regularly to.

Hell, I could hardly hear my date while we were talking over food, we had to yell the [I]entire [/I]time

I really wanted to get a full slow dance in, but noooo, it's all about that loud-as-fuck pop music