Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=BigJoeyLemons;44957271]Prom was fun, and I'll go into detail on it tomorrow, but one thing pisses me off
The DJ started with a slow dance, and that made me real happy to finally slow dance with this girl, and not even halfway through the slow song the guy stops it abruptly and starts pumping bass and pop dubstep shit that's basically impossible to dance regularly to.
Hell, I could hardly hear my date while we were talking over food, we had to yell the [I]entire [/I]time
I really wanted to get a full slow dance in, but noooo, it's all about that loud-as-fuck pop music[/QUOTE]
YOU GOTTA TWERK, MAN. YEAH! 2014!!!!!!
I need some advice on how to let go and not be so uptight I guess, like I always ask people if they're worried about partying and stuff since it just seems so dangerous. Getting drunk and doing pills, I mean it seems like everyone I'm attracted to likes to party and I mean I do too, but not to these extremes.
[QUOTE=Zerokateo;44957675]I need some advice on how to let go and not be so uptight I guess, like I always ask people if they're worried about partying and stuff since it just seems so dangerous. Getting drunk and doing pills, I mean it seems like everyone I'm attracted to likes to party and I mean I do too, but not to these extremes.[/QUOTE]
Pills are bad news but drinking isn't so bad. Just go to a party and have fun. Drink!
Maybe if I could get a ride and not worry about getting caught I would, it's just difficult. And I mean my parents can't do much since I'm 17 and in Texas and if I didn't agree with anything I could just leave. But I don't wanna do that to them, yet I guess I'd have more fun partying from time to time.
Don't pop pills unless you're at a rave with friends you can rely on and stay hydrated if you do.
[QUOTE=Zerokateo;44957675]I need some advice on how to let go and not be so uptight I guess, like I always ask people if they're worried about partying and stuff since it just seems so dangerous. Getting drunk and doing pills, I mean it seems like everyone I'm attracted to likes to party and I mean I do too, but not to these extremes.[/QUOTE]
Drinking is cool. You don't have to get drunk, it's pretty easy to control your drinking if you just pay attention to how much you are consuming. It's easy to be responsible.
I'd say no to the pills though. I've been reading a lot about the medical effects of them recently, and it's kind messed up. Most pills cause a short-term release of chemicals and hormones from your brain. This has a major trade off though, it can take as long as a week for your chemical stores to "restock". With MDMA for example, it means your serotonin levels will be at a low for a week, making you have a really, really long hangover. Some of these drugs can cause serious long term effects as well, that might lead to mental illness down the line. The largest problem of all I think, is the fact that you have no idea what chemicals you are putting in your body. Molly, which most people think is 100% MDMA, has been reported to have no traces of it 89% of the time. Many of the people who produce the tablets order the chemicals from China, then mix and match the chemicals to try new recipes, and use the end user of the drug as Quality Assurance and Beta Testers. It's not a really great thing.
I wouldn't say that I'm antidrug, I think marijuana and alcohol are pretty rad, but I think it's really important to understand the full effects of drugs before you use them.
Well I haven't heard from that girl I like since school ended a month ago. I texted her when I was done my last final and it took her all day to text me back but by the time she got back to me I was pretty much ready to fall asleep so I told her I'd talk to her later. I ended up forgetting about it for a couple days so I texted her, no response. Waited a couple weeks and again no response. Now it's been over two weeks since the last time I texted her. I want to try again because I'm sure eventually she's going to respond. She's done this before, not respond when I text her for a month. But now I just have no idea what to say anymore without saying something awkward or spergy.
[QUOTE=Dub!;44954520]Mom just told me I need to get friends. Told her that I actually have a lot, but I would never want to hang with them after school. She doesn't fully understand that High School is full of faggots and douchebags that you /have/ to become friends with unless you want to be a lonely little loser.
Thanks, mom. Go fuck yourself.[/QUOTE]
parent's will never be happy
"Why don't you hang out with any of your friends?! why do you have no life i was cool when I was your age!"
then afterwards i hang out with my friends all the time
"Why are you never home!? are you some kind of criminal now, do you do drugs?"
and so i just say "yes i am, yes i do" and then I leave
[QUOTE=Dub!;44954520]Mom just told me I need to get friends. Told her that I actually have a lot, but I would never want to hang with them after school. She doesn't fully understand that High School is full of faggots and douchebags that you /have/ to become friends with unless you want to be a lonely little loser.
Thanks, mom. Go fuck yourself.[/QUOTE]
That's kind of a negative outlook, guy. Most people are decent people when it comes down to it, they're just stuck in that high school mentality. The worst mistake I made in High School was not socializing enough.
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;44963019]That's kind of a negative outlook, guy. Most people are decent people when it comes down to it, they're just stuck in that high school mentality. The worst mistake I made in High School was not socializing enough.[/QUOTE]
this is true too
I made friends with everyone(atleast in my class) in highschool and while there were some groups that hated each other all groups were decent people
[QUOTE=Dub!;44954520]Mom just told me I need to get friends. Told her that I actually have a lot, but I would never want to hang with them after school. She doesn't fully understand that High School is full of faggots and douchebags that you /have/ to become friends with unless you want to be a lonely little loser.
Thanks, mom. Go fuck yourself.[/QUOTE]
You can't treat people with disdain or look down upon them and treat them as douchebags and faggots, and if you do, the only one that ended up being a douchebag and a faggot was you, and you will end up being a lonely little loser regardless because you won't have anyone you trust
to free yourself is to be vulnerable
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;44963019]That's kind of a negative outlook, guy. Most people are decent people when it comes down to it, they're just stuck in that high school mentality. The worst mistake I made in High School was not socializing enough.[/QUOTE]
I used to get really fed up with highschool cause of that. I'd think "damn, this person is really awesome, I should have spoken to them sooner!" and then the minute their crowd walks by, they change completely.
[QUOTE=loopoo;44963127]I used to get really fed up with highschool cause of that. I'd think "damn, this person is really awesome, I should have spoken to them sooner!" and then the minute their crowd walks by, they change completely.[/QUOTE]
who they are without their crowd is the person you're likely to meet in college
[QUOTE=OogalaBoogal;44963019]That's kind of a negative outlook, guy. Most people are decent people when it comes down to it, they're just stuck in that high school mentality. The worst mistake I made in High School was not socializing enough.[/QUOTE]
If you talk to someone when they're not in their friend group, you'll usually find out that they're actually pretty down-to-earth and insightful
If you were to see me and my friends group from my previous country you'd think that I'm retarded.
I'm not. :v:
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;44962899]Well I haven't heard from that girl I like since school ended a month ago. I texted her when I was done my last final and it took her all day to text me back but by the time she got back to me I was pretty much ready to fall asleep so I told her I'd talk to her later. I ended up forgetting about it for a couple days so I texted her, no response. Waited a couple weeks and again no response. Now it's been over two weeks since the last time I texted her. I want to try again because I'm sure eventually she's going to respond. She's done this before, not respond when I text her for a month. But now I just have no idea what to say anymore without saying something awkward or spergy.[/QUOTE]
just sayin you probably should have asked her out a while ago
[QUOTE=killerteacup;44964934]just sayin you probably should have asked her out a while ago[/QUOTE]
During the school year I did ask her out for coffee and then a couple weeks later it was my birthday so she came over to my dorm room and we watched a movie and cuddled through most of it. We couldn't really do much else because she got really busy towards the end of the semester.
So, date 3.
Finally felt alpha enough.
Went for it.
Landed the kiss.
I'm walking on a fucking cloud I feel amazing oh gosh
that was the first.
Spent the whole day cuddling and watching Evil Dead movies, so fucking great
[QUOTE=ZenX2;44956984]Going to a semi-nerd grad party tomorrow, 100% going to ask out slow dance prom girl
Pretty confident that my anxiety meds and confidence from my rapidly increasing fitness will get me through this without issues[/QUOTE]
Nope I was wrong I didn't do it. Heard her mention something about texting some guy and my anxiety ran wild and killed any initiative I had
[editline]1st June 2014[/editline]
Scuzzgirl has been snapchatting and texting me again, and just whipped out the "how do you feel about me?" question again
I've feeling pretty conflicted about whether I should pull my shit together and blast through the anxiety with promgirl, or put her in hold until we're in college, and just go with the inevitably short fling with scuzzgirl.
The way you writed it makes the decision pretty obvious.
Don't blame anxiety and don't put that kind of stuff on hold, do it.
I need to stop drinking shots, that shit gets you drunk so fast. first time ever I threw up from drinking and I feel embarassed by it.
[QUOTE=Zar;44968522]I need to stop drinking shots, that shit gets you drunk so fast.[/QUOTE]
That's the point...
[editline]1st June 2014[/editline]
Just take it slow if you're drinking shots, wait and see how you feel before drinking more.
Back when I was new to drinking, I thought the name of the game was to down shots until I was retardedly drunk. Now I realise it's stupid. I used to embarrass myself and end up with insanely horrible hangovers (I don't miss being 16).
Just drink till you're at a level you enjoy (you don't have to be shitfaced to enjoy yourself) and then keep yourself there. Hangovers are more manageable too.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;44970723]That's the point...
[editline]1st June 2014[/editline]
Just take it slow if you're drinking shots, wait and see how you feel before drinking more.[/QUOTE]
yeah but it's so easy to just chug it down. im an amateur and an idiot at drinking :v
i'll think more next time.
[QUOTE=Zar;44971245]yeah but it's so easy to just chug it down. im an amateur and an idiot at drinking :v
i'll think more next time.[/QUOTE]
no offence (you're going to take offence to this) but you seem like a fucking idiot by all the things i've seen you post about your social life
[QUOTE=Dub!;44971337]no offence (you're going to take offence to this) but you seem like a fucking idiot by all the things i've seen you post about your social life[/QUOTE]
:c
i get good grades at least
[QUOTE=Cosa8888;44968438]The way you writed it makes the decision pretty obvious.
Don't blame anxiety and don't put that kind of stuff on hold, do it.[/QUOTE]
Shit you're right dude, and although I really need to just follow the thread title, the way the anxiety happens is that despite knowing that I just need to do it and the chance of a good outcome heavily outweighs anything bad that could possibly happen, in the moment my head is FLOODED with every possible bullshit reason to not do it.
Like last night, right when they were leaving and I should have pulled her aside, the thoughts that would have led to me knowing to do that were replaced by thoughts telling me, "She mentioned texting some guy. She's leaving with two other people, don't hold them up. There are too many people here."
At this point I'm still unsure if the anxiety is something I can cope with on my own or if I need additional professional help/medication for it.
Well, my prom went pretty darn well.
I was super worried about how I was gonna tell her she looked good while her whole family was around, and when she came out she was absolutely gorgeous and she told me I looked good right away, so I got kind of brain-farty and sort of muttered "yeah, you look good too". Then when we were at the school with all the other kids, everyone was telling her she looked so good and beautiful and stuff, so I thought [I]shoot, i didnt compliment her that well[/I]. So I went and told her she was probably the best looking person there, to which she seemed pretty delighted but flustered. I don't really know what she said.
Then on the bus, her (really annoying and clingy and sometimes bitchy) friend was behind us and told her that her shoes didn't match her dress. When she was like "excuse me" her friend was like "sorry, we were just trying to find something wrong with you". I quickly snapped back with "I've yet to find [I]anything[/I] wrong with you", and she was all "damn that was smooth"
Later on she pointed out that another girl was wearing a dress she wanted and that the girl looked really good in it, so I told her she looked better anyway. Then she was like "Alright you can stop now".
So basically I was really worried about managing to compliment her, but then I ended up complimenting her so much she told me to stop. It was a shame, too, since there were many more opportunities and it was so darn easy for me to do.
(most of these quotes are paraphrased btw)
(also other things happened but nothing too interesting)
[QUOTE=ZenX2;44971785]-snip-[/QUOTE]
By chance I noticed that promgirl and the friend she left with were tagged in a status by some guy about having a good time the night before, so I'm guessing this is the guy she was texting (and she wasn't exactly happy about him texting her because she has a hella old phone)
Looking at this guy's Facebook page, he looks like a serious nerd obsessed with call of duty, and he's probably just a friend from the looks of it
Ideally, I shouldn't have to worry about something like that, and be fine with just asking, and if she rejects me because she's already involved with me I just need to accept it. But I guess I'm not quite there yet.
Serious nerd that is obsessed with CoD gets girls? oh my
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