Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45076515]so are you seriously saying neither of those towns have a store that cells icecream? It doesn't have to be supericecream that is shit through a machine, just icecream to cool off.[/QUOTE]
No I'm saying to make the journey just to get ice cream with her is a waste.
[QUOTE=Genericenemy;45079665]No I'm saying to make the journey just to get ice cream with her is a waste.[/QUOTE]
You don't have to spend the entire day eating icecream.
do you not have any where you could go looking in stores or some shit? over here we have a "shopping street" where you can get food, icecream, and look in stores. no cars or anything, it's just a long walk through the city. it's good to talk. i had hot chocolate at the coffee shop the other day with a female friend, just sat and talked. i was sick as fuck that day though, and it poured down with rain, so we bought umbrellas in some kid store. then we went to the music library and listened to vinyls. i love taxpayer money.
So, life is pretty alright lately. I'm happily living with my girlfriend (temp arrangement), I'm getting along with my co-workers and generally having an alright time at work, I'm making money, my depression is pretty much under control, overall everything's going alright other than college I guess. I'm having trouble figuring out what classes to take, and I don't have a major so I really lack an overall goal here. But I mean, life's going alright. Had my friends over earlier today, we played some Wii-U and shit, it was fun.
But at the end of the day, every day, I feel like something is missing. I feel empty somehow, like even though I'm pretty happy (at least I think I am?) it still feels like something is horribly wrong. My girlfriend is in Canada for a couple weeks, so I feel lonely I suppose, and that worries me a bit for when college starts up and she moves a city away to go to college. Meaning, I won't basically EVER get to see her. That worries me a lot. But I don't think that's quite it... even before she left, I felt like this pretty often. I just don't know what it is, or even how to describe the feeling. I said I feel like something is missing or wrong in my life, but I don't know what it'd be or if that's really even a good description of it. I really have no idea what to do about it, as I have no idea what it is, and it's really getting to me. Any advice?
So this isn't relationship advice or anything, I'd just appreciate a bit of a vent.
I very recently passed an SIA course for Security Guarding and have since been looking for jobs in the industry. Whilst I was doing this I came across a job that sounded almost too good to be true, definitely one that wouldn't accept someone like me with pretty much no experience.
The job in question was advertising for Trainee Security Dog Handlers, they would take you on, train you up, provide a dog, van and kennel among loads of other things, completely free of charge as long as you committed to completing your training with them and etc.
So I thought, why the hell not? and sent them my CV and a cover letter anyway, making sure to mention how I love dogs and pursuing a career in dog handling was why I entered the security industry in the first place. (Completely true, its my dream job).
Lo and behold, a day after the cut-off date I received an email inviting me to an aptitude assessment with a dog and an interview and to wear appropriate clothing. I am so bloody excited about this, I never expected to hear a response seeing as a lot of dog handlers end up being Ex-Military or Police.
So I promptly replied to confirm my attendance, to later find out I'm 1 out of only 6 candidates (including myself). So again, heart racing I have high chances because I'm pretty sure they're looking for two handlers.
I've gone out and left no detail unaccounted for, bought some proper capped boots, smart but mobile trousers the same as I would wear on the job, worst case scenario I can use them for something else.
I have no idea what the assessment entails but I'm under the assumption they mostly want to make sure that you're capable of learning things and are confident with dogs.
Anyway, I'm excited and nervous at the same time, mostly excited but my nerves are killing me. This is my dream job on the line and this does not come around often. Going to put everything into this.
Weyyyy, this girl I've been eyeing about campus finally got the courage to come speak to me. I was playing football (just passing it between friends) and she joined with her guy friend and stood beside me. Kept passing the ball back to me and we had a bit of banter. Asked for her number, boom.
We're now talking on whatsapp. She just told me I'm gorgeous, phwoarrrr. [I]Get in there[/I]. Also said she'd been meaning to speak to me sooner but didn't think I'd be interested in talking to her. Crazy how everyone thinks the same thing.
Really happy! Just go for it, nothing to lose, serious.
[editline]12th June 2014[/editline]
Really though, personality [I]has[/I] to be a major part in how people perceive you, cause I don't have much to brag about when it comes to looks.
if you never talked to her how could she get a good enough taste of your personality to already start saying you're gorgeous? not to be negative, i just want you to elaborate on how you gave her a good view of yourself :)
Maybe we both ugly but we just don't know it.
[editline]12th June 2014[/editline]
You've got a point, I guess. Since yeah, she must have liked what she saw beforehand. Maybe I just sealed the deal with my personality? Because I didn't act like an utter autist when she spoke to me (I started the conversation and made her laugh quite a bit).
well it shouldnt be so hard to decide if you are attracted to her or not? im kind of jealous anyway, to receive such a large compliment must feel nice
I'm attracted to her. She's my type. For sure it feels nice, especially when you have self-esteem issues that stem from being born with a disfigurement! And there's literally no reason for her to lie either so, happy days.
We've really hit it off. I invited her out for a coffee. She likes reading, and really likes John Green. Winner winner chicken dinner.
Just going for it, no beating around the bush. Told her we should totally run away together cause we have so much in common. And it's good cause we both know despite the flirtatiousness, we're not exclusive to each other. We're just having some fun.
disfigurement? is it bad? again, not to be rude, but now i'm just curious. good on you with that girl. i have no really close friends at all and i wish i had someone i just clicked with. i feel like i hold all my feelings and thoughts to myself.
Meh, I posted a fucktonne of pics ages ago, but I'd rather not dredge them back up. It's not bad anymore, thankfully, but I've got a bigass scar running along my eyebrow.
yeah okay, i wasnt that curious.
it's been about two, three weeks since i had to end things and tomrrow is the day her family moves. it's a bit hard to think and i was there earlier today to help load up, but i guess i'm more or less over it. first week was a bit difficult; going to sleep at night was a good hour or so every night thinking that i'n the one that fucked it up, it's my fault they're leaving and that was just weird and obviously unrelated. (they were having some family issues i shouldn't discuss). getting out of town cleared my head a bit though and gave me time to think about how it didn't affect me in the slightest.
i still have absolutely no feeling about it, though, and that sorta haunts me. i don't feel any sadness or regret we had to end things - she did, a lot, we talked about it over text when i had signal outta town for a week and a half or so. that doesn't sit well with me. i can't figure out why i don't feel about it and that's still disturbing me. i also wasn't really sad that a good amount of my graduating friends are going out of state, etc. it's just happening, and that's really all i can say about it.
life's a funny thing.
Continually trying to set up a date with this girl and running into scheduling issues, and it turns out she's not as scuzzy as I had thought and she's way way into me
At what point should we worry about a missing period?
She normally gets it late (was a week/8 days once) but it's been like 9/10 days now
it's never split because I always check it and it's always on properly
shiiiit
[QUOTE=Crumpet;45090430]At what point should we worry about a missing period?
She normally gets it late (was a week/8 days once) but it's been like 9/10 days now
it's never split because I always check it and it's always on properly
shiiiit[/QUOTE]
Are you using any sort of protection when having sex? The chances of impregnating her with any kind of protection are astronomical, even if you were having sex without any protection pregnancy is still quite unlikely.
There are a ton of possible reasons for a missed period other than pregnancy. I would take a pregnancy test as a precaution but not worry about it too much. Stress can be a big factor in late/missed periods.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45090450]Are you using any sort of protection when having sex? The chances of impregnating her with any kind of protection are astronomical, even if you were having sex without any protection pregnancy is still quite unlikely.
There are a ton of possible reasons for a missed period other than pregnancy. I would take a pregnancy test as a precaution but not worry about it too much. Stress can be a big factor in late/missed periods.[/QUOTE]
[quote]it's never split because I always check it and it's always on properly[/quote]
Judging by this I assume they were using condoms. It's probably late for some other reason.
Met a girl, we're clicking well and shit, planning shit over the summer, she confirmed she likes me.
Tell me she's going back to Korea at the end of summer
aw fuk bye
[QUOTE=Heigou;45092103]Met a girl, we're clicking well and shit, planning shit over the summer, she confirmed she likes me.
Tell me she's going back to Korea at the end of summer
aw fuk bye[/QUOTE]
Advice from a former exchange student: don't get involved
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45090450]Are you using any sort of protection when having sex? The chances of impregnating her with any kind of protection are astronomical, even if you were having sex without any protection pregnancy is still quite unlikely.
There are a ton of possible reasons for a missed period other than pregnancy. I would take a pregnancy test as a precaution but not worry about it too much. Stress can be a big factor in late/missed periods.[/QUOTE]
yep, condoms
It's starting to seem like everyone I know is incompetent at planning things
[QUOTE=ZenX2;45094183]It's starting to seem like everyone I know is incompetent at planning things[/QUOTE]
I know that feeling, me and my friends always talk about doing things but they rarely materialise.
[QUOTE=ZenX2;45094183]It's starting to seem like everyone I know is incompetent at planning things[/QUOTE]
This is especially true during finals.
It's a time where everyone dreams of doing cool shit but when finals are actually over, everybody just sits around and/or gets mad when their plans aren't taking off. Yeah no shit, when you're not even setting a date or just suggesting some stuff, people aren't just going to magically arrange everything for you.
[QUOTE=Larry_G;45094277]This is especially true during finals.
It's a time where everyone dreams of doing cool shit but when finals are actually over, everybody just sits around and/or gets mad when their plans aren't taking off. Yeah no shit, when you're not even setting a date or just suggesting some stuff, people aren't just going to magically arrange everything for you.[/QUOTE]
One of my friends said they were gonna do a beach trip and a hike and they'd get back to me about it, and it's been like almost 2 weeks and they haven't, but she's trying to spend time with her boyfriend before he leaves so it's kinda understandable
On the other hand there's this girl and we've been trying to go on a date (with a large amount of interest from both sides) and I asked if she wanted to do it Wednesday or Thursday, she said Thursday. Thursday comes around and it turns out she's busy, I suggested more times and she hasn't responded.
So I ended up writing this message out to my ex. I haven't sent it yet. I don't know if I want to quite yet, but something about it seems therapeutic. I don't know if it's all on my head or something, but after writing this message, I don't feel as upset.
It's kinda strange. Like the part of me that was missing her and the other part that was happy to be with her have fused into this weird form of acceptance I guess?
Life can be weird sometimes.
[QUOTE=Crumpet;45092595]yep, condoms[/QUOTE]
Didn't notice that part when I saw your post.
The chance of impregnation is about 5% throughout most of the menstrual cycle, peaking at about 25% when ovulating (that's a period of about 1-2 days out of a woman's cycle). On top of that, it isn't exactly physically possible that your semen somehow found its way to the other side of the condom if the condom was still intact afterward. Unless the condom fell off inside her/while you were pulling out or something, you can chalk up your chances of impregnating her to "astronomical".
I need to just save that last paragraph in a file for future use - a lot of people come to this thread asking similar questions. If anyone else is reading this... Seriously, don't worry about one slip-up leading to a pregnancy. If you're properly using any type of birth control, you're fine. If a condom breaks, get plan B.
[editline]13th June 2014[/editline]
Also, it amazes me how many people come to this thread who are using condoms AND hormonal birth control and still think they're going to end up with a kid. It is virtually impossible.
[QUOTE=blacksam;45098999]So I ended up writing this message out to my ex. I haven't sent it yet. I don't know if I want to quite yet, but something about it seems therapeutic. I don't know if it's all on my head or something, but after writing this message, I don't feel as upset.
It's kinda strange. Like the part of me that was missing her and the other part that was happy to be with her have fused into this weird form of acceptance I guess?
Life can be weird sometimes.[/QUOTE]
Don't start writing to your ex, live on instead of focusing on your past.
This issue doesn't have to do with me, but with my brother.
You see, he's engaged. Before cheering for me and stuff, his fiancee is 18. I think it's too early for her to get married. Also, they currently live with my aunt.
What do you think?
I think they should be free to do what they want
which includes making mistakes
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