• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Blueridge;40484716]At lunch today, everything is perfectly normal and such. There are 4 guys and 1 girl at our table. One of the guys gets up to go to the bathroom or something. When he leaves, the girl whispers to us that when he comes back we should completely ignore him to make him feel bad, and to put him in his place. I ask why she would do such a thing, and she says that he said "I could be hanging out with cooler people than go to prom, also he's an incredibly annoying brat". I tell her to not do that, it's completely stupid and will end up making yourself look like an idiot, but she was hellbent on getting this through and everyone else agreed with her. When he comes back, I instantly sabotage their plan by saying hi to him, then telling them that I ruined the plan on purpose. I tell the guy about the plan, and he said "that would just make me walk away and call you guys dicks". We leave the lunch room and go upstairs by the stairs which is where we normally hang out. We're having a normal conversation about stuff and suddenly the girl brings up her plan, asking me the reason for me ruining it. The guy asks her what she wanted to get out of him, and she told him "to put you in your place". He then says "So put you in your place, like how you're a bitch?" and stares at her seriously. One of the guys breaks it up with a joke and we all start laughing except for her, and then she gets up and leaves. Another guy(a close friend of hers who was with the plan) gets up and leaves in the opposite direction. I told him to not worry about it, I would've done the exact same thing. He says tomorrow he'll apologize to her, but he doesn't understand why she secretly hates him. I think it's completely retarded drama that she started up, and I don't think apologizing will fix the problem. Sure they've been friends for years now, but that one situation would've led me to just leave. While I definitely do think stopping and telling him of the plan was the right thing to do, I don't agree completely on his thoughts on the matter. I guess I'm posting this because I want to see your guys response to this.[/QUOTE] Quick update onto what has happened. So it's been pretty much normal for us minus the girl. She sits at a table next to ours, and one of the guys(the close friend of hers) sits by her and talks to her. Our circle has been pretty much normal, nothing has changed. One day last week or so, she sat at our table and once again we all had normal discussions and the like. She asks the guy when he'll apologize to her, and he replies with "I don't know, when I feel like it." She gets up and leaves. Today our close friend walks up to our table, and asks the guy if he'll ever say he's sorry. He says no and the girl then comes up and calls him a faggot and a bitch for not apologizing, and that she almost killed herself a month ago and this is making her think about trying again. I'm speechless as to why she would try to force something out of him, but this is starting to get pretty serious. I think tomorrow I might see ask my parents for advise on what to do and then later get the school involved, I don't understand suicide and as such will get someone who does.
[img]http://i.imgur.com/cN12xM3.png[/img] Rhenae confirmed sausage fingers. txt me
I was always really skinny. Well, past tense isn't appropriate. I still am really skinny. I eat all the time, but I never gain any weight whatsoever. I started going to the gym lately and that has helped a bit. I weigh like 130lbs now instead of 110lbs or so. I eat really healthy, and have had access to pretty excellent food for most of my life. I had a soda today and it was the second soda I've had in like forty days, and I almost only drink water and milk. Pack my own lunches when we go to school because I honestly just don't like taco bell and mcdonalds very often (though I will eat some mcdonalds occasionally). So my usual lunch is a turkey/ham,spinach and white cheddar sandwich on wheat, carrot sticks, pretzels and craisins (by the way, dried cranberries and pretzels are the best combo- go eat some right now), an apple and a peanut butter granola bar thingy. Swap out the apple for a banana, or the sandwich for some cereal and a bag of chopped cantaloupe or pineapple to keep things less stale. Sometimes nuts or something get thrown it. It's a lot of food, but it's not super fattening. I don't generally put much effort into controlling my intake though, because I figure that I would only benefit from putting on a little more weight and otherwise stay fairly healthy. I could do better (says everyone always) but I could also do worse. I pretty much just bring a sack of food to school and graze until lunch, at which point I may only have an apple and sandwich left. and now I've told you too much and none of that matters. Everyone was talking about their weight eating habits though so I had to weigh in! Water forever
I've always been skinny, except I'm 6'2" and 175lbs/80kg last time I checked. I've started lifting and am seeing a bit of improvement, which is nice (hopefully will get a bit bigger over the summer), but for some reason my parents still think I'm anorexic and think I'm not eating enough. Once again, I weigh 175 lbs, but I look ridiculously skinny. It really sucks. Every time I see my mom cooking, for example, she'll ask me what I had for lunch in explicit detail and if I had enough, and then suggest some stuff to eat. It's a huge blow to the ego to go out in public and think that I look like a twig... oh well, gym motivation.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;40566466]I've always been skinny, except I'm 6'2" and 175lbs/80kg last time I checked. I've started lifting and am seeing a bit of improvement, which is nice (hopefully will get a bit bigger over the summer), but for some reason my parents still think I'm anorexic and think I'm not eating enough. Once again, I weigh 175 lbs, but I look ridiculously skinny. It really sucks. Every time I see my mom cooking, for example, she'll ask me what I had for lunch in explicit detail and if I had enough, and then suggest some stuff to eat. It's a huge blow to the ego to go out in public and think that I look like a twig... oh well, gym motivation.[/QUOTE] I'm 6' and 175 lbs and I look pretty lean, you being a whole two inch above me would atleast need to be like 190 lbs to look decent.
I'm 4'11 and about 115 at the moment, I gained about 5 pounds the last little while and that is the only body change I've had since grade 6. I'm adjusting my diet a little bit to slowly work that weight back off, but it was mostly a product of eating a ridiculous amount of junk food and not moving out my bed for a while. I was 120 for a little bit but that was all added water weight from living off goldfish crackers and dropped almost immediately when I swore off them temporarily. I really don't eat healthy at all ever, I should do something about that and maybe I will once I move out. Its pretty difficult when you living at home and someone else picks what you eat every day.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;40566780]I'm 4'11 and about 115 at the moment, I gained about 5 pounds the last little while and that is the only body change I've had since grade 6. I'm adjusting my diet a little bit to slowly work that weight back off, but it was mostly a product of eating a ridiculous amount of junk food and not moving out my bed for a while. I was 120 for a little bit but that was all added water weight from living off goldfish crackers and dropped almost immediately when I swore off them temporarily. I really don't eat healthy at all ever, I should do something about that and maybe I will once I move out. Its pretty difficult when you living at home and someone else picks what you eat every day.[/QUOTE] shortie
[QUOTE=johnsten;40566810]shortie[/QUOTE] Yes I am aware I am short :v:
[QUOTE=Rhenae;40566780]I'm 4'11 and about 115 at the moment, I gained about 5 pounds the last little while and that is the only body change I've had since grade 6. I'm adjusting my diet a little bit to slowly work that weight back off, but it was mostly a product of eating a ridiculous amount of junk food and not moving out my bed for a while. I was 120 for a little bit but that was all added water weight from living off goldfish crackers and dropped almost immediately when I swore off them temporarily. I really don't eat healthy at all ever, I should do something about that and maybe I will once I move out. Its pretty difficult when you living at home and someone else picks what you eat every day.[/QUOTE] Do you have a job? You can always run to the store and buy yourself snack foods, etc. I know it is a pain in the ass though, and it really isn't too tempting or appealing considering there is already food in the house for free. I had that issue when I was visiting my Dad's during the weekend, no vegan food there whatsoever, so I had to go buy noodles and whatever else, while he and my brother were eating burgers and whatnot. Good on you for quitting the goldfish crackers, watch out for that stuff. I'm super paranoid of high blood pressure and hypertension so I am trying to avoid taking in too much sodium each day, but it is extremely difficult. I'd imagine goldfish crackers have quite a bit.
5'11 and 205 ROCKIN IT
i'm pure muscle they would never catch me
[QUOTE=lifemonkey;40566834]Do you have a job? You can always run to the store and buy yourself snack foods, etc. I know it is a pain in the ass though, and it really isn't too tempting or appealing considering there is already food in the house for free. I had that issue when I was visiting my Dad's during the weekend, no vegan food there whatsoever, so I had to go buy noodles and whatever else, while he and my brother were eating burgers and whatnot. Good on you for quitting the goldfish crackers, watch out for that stuff. I'm super paranoid of high blood pressure and hypertension so I am trying to avoid taking in too much sodium each day, but it is extremely difficult. I'd imagine goldfish crackers have quite a bit.[/QUOTE] Don't have a job currently, I'm moving to a new town in a few weeks working on getting one there. Ive gotten myself a few small things (soy milk most notably great on vitamins for me because im not good at getting those) Yeah I miss the salty goodness, I like salt a bit too much. I still eat them occasionally but not like it was. My mom had gone to costco and bought a huge bulk box of them :v:
Ah, guys... limerence is a bitch.
Adding to this odd body discussion, I'm 5'8" and weigh in at 183 pounds, sub twelve percent body fat. Building muscle (and subsequently losing fat) isn't really hard, but it can take a while, especially if you're not eating right. I lift weights five days a week, hour and a half or so a day, and do forty-five to an hour every other day with my heavy bag. That being said, does anyone else distance themselves from people they used to like? I don't mean ex's alone, but those you actually felt something for. I've been pushing this one girl away for the better part of a year (never rudely, or at least I try not to) just because I don't want to fall for her again, and yet some part of me can't help but make bizarre connections that she, at one point or still to this day, returned my feelings. It's really quite annoying.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;40566466]I've always been skinny, except I'm 6'2" and 175lbs/80kg last time I checked. I've started lifting and am seeing a bit of improvement, which is nice (hopefully will get a bit bigger over the summer), but for some reason my parents still think I'm anorexic and think I'm not eating enough. Once again, I weigh 175 lbs, but I look ridiculously skinny. It really sucks. Every time I see my mom cooking, for example, she'll ask me what I had for lunch in explicit detail and if I had enough, and then suggest some stuff to eat. It's a huge blow to the ego to go out in public and think that I look like a twig... oh well, gym motivation.[/QUOTE] Increase your calorie intake by 500 above your maintenance. You should start to gain 1lb a week, and a lot of it will be muscle if you are lifting correctly. I use to have a HUGE weight issue, still sort of do, but im working on it. Ive put on 15 pounds in 3 months. (Them noob gains)
the idea of actual working out doesn't bother me, but like schedules and the calorie counting and all the different kind of exercises is really daunting. even though it's probably not as complex as it seems.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;40566947]at first i thought limerence was some kind of disease not even chrome's dictionary recognizes it[/QUOTE] Yeah. It hasn't been recognized as an actual word yet, but it's a term coined by psychologists for having an incredibly strong emotional attachment to a crush or lover. Basically the feeling of true love.
[QUOTE=johnsten;40567242]the idea of actual working out doesn't bother me, but like schedules and the calorie counting and all the different kind of exercises is really daunting. even though it's probably not as complex as it seems.[/QUOTE] The schedule isn't too bad, just find yourself 45-60 minutes a day maybe 4ish days a week at first and that's it. For the kind of exercise, just follow a simple program like 5x5 stronglift or greyskull and for the calorie counting it's where it becomes a misery. I'm a lazy motherfucker though so even I don't properly count my calories, I look at the shit I eat and guesstimate how much calories I've had in the day by looking at the labels but I never actually tracked accurately what I eat, I just weight myself every weeks and from there see if I can eat a bit more or should eat a bit less. Basically all I did was eat less than before, saw that I lost steadily about 1 lbs/week and started eating about the same every day. Calorie counting is required but the extreme TRACK EVERYTHING is for when you're really looking to be some crazy ripped guy that's looking to compete. For the average guy just trying to look shredded, you don't really need to be that extreme.
[QUOTE=CAPT Opp4;40570059]Yeah. It hasn't been recognized as an actual word yet, but it's a term coined by psychologists for having an incredibly strong emotional attachment to a crush or lover. Basically the feeling of true love.[/QUOTE] Woo made up words.
[QUOTE=ramirez!;40566978]That being said, does anyone else distance themselves from people they used to like? I don't mean ex's alone, but those you actually felt something for. I've been pushing this one girl away for the better part of a year (never rudely, or at least I try not to) just because I don't want to fall for her again, and yet some part of me can't help but make bizarre connections that she, at one point or still to this day, returned my feelings. It's really quite annoying.[/QUOTE] There's this girl I've liked for the better part of the past 4-5 years but it was never reciprocated, I do also try to distance myself from her, even if she's a good friend and shit I'm scared of turning back into the sad fool that I was 2-3 years ago because of her because I always have this stupid thought of hope in the back of my head that maybe one day she'll reciprocate but I know that feeling is extremely wrong. So in an attempt to not think about it, I just distance myself from her.
[QUOTE=metallics;40570074]Woo made up words.[/QUOTE] Well, there isn't a really great word to describe the feeling. It's waking up early to go out to by a bagel with somebody you have a crush on, even if you miss class. Going out of your way completely, almost to an obsessive level, just because of a petty crush. It's basically the best description of falling in love.
"For the average guy just trying to look shredded" hahaha I figured "shredded" implied a bit more than what just an average guy might want. [editline]8th May 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=Heigou;40566550]I'm 6' and 175 lbs and I look pretty lean, you being a whole two inch above me would atleast need to be like 190 lbs to look decent.[/QUOTE] I'm two inches shorter than you and forty five pounds lighter. Granted we obviously have different standards, because I think I'd be completely happy weighing like one fifty or sixty, but still. Ouch.
[QUOTE=CAPT Opp4;40570226]Well, there isn't a really great word to describe the feeling. It's waking up early to go out to by a bagel with somebody you have a crush on, even if you miss class. Going out of your way completely, almost to an obsessive level, just because of a petty crush. It's basically the best description of falling in love.[/QUOTE] I get the distinct impression you're 15 and it's your first relationship. Don't get me wrong, that's cute and all but give it 10 years and then give me your opinion on the matter and see how it changes.
[QUOTE=metallics;40570330]I get the distinct impression you're 15 and it's your first relationship. Don't get me wrong, that's cute and all but give it 10 years and then give me your opinion on the matter and see how it changes.[/QUOTE] Admittedly, it'll probably be along the lines of "Love is a lie. Fuck all."
[QUOTE=CAPT Opp4;40570226]Well, there isn't a really great word to describe the feeling. It's waking up early to go out to by a bagel with somebody you have a crush on, even if you miss class. Going out of your way completely, almost to an obsessive level, just because of a petty crush. It's basically the best description of falling in love.[/QUOTE] That sounds an awful lot like infatuation, which is in fact, not love.
Yeah. Maybe you're right. Maybe it's just a fairytale coin name. If it was real though, that would be pretty great. But I guess I'm just an obsessed confused teenager. Thanks, I guess. I'll re-arrange my priorities.
[QUOTE=CAPT Opp4;40570428]Yeah. Maybe you're right. Maybe it's just a fairytale coin name. If it was real though, that would be pretty great. But I guess I'm just an obsessed confused teenager. Thanks, I guess. I'll re-arrange my priorities.[/QUOTE] Hey, if you're having a great time with her, the fairytale doesn't have to stop just like that. Make the most out of it and have yourself a great time with her, just remember the possibility of falling on your ass if anything ever happens.
hey i have sausage fingers :( [sp]im not fat though[/sp]
i really don't like it when people use the phrase "true love" or try to use it as a way to glorify what you feel whether or not it's "true love" it doesn't matter because the fact is in most cases it isn't mutual and not being able to move on from someone that isn't interested doesn't make you a better person [editline]8th May 2013[/editline] and infatuation/what you're talking about is pretty much the opposite of marital love because it's something that hits hard for a few months and then goes away, marital love is a long term thing and it's less focused on a need to be around that person [editline]8th May 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=CAPT Opp4;40570363]Admittedly, it'll probably be along the lines of "Love is a lie. Fuck all."[/QUOTE] or (and i'm going out on a limb here) your infatuation with her is going to go away like it always does and you're going to realize that pursuing her is a waste of time and will stop caring love isn't "a lie", please stop being dramatic plenty of us here are in stable relationships
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;40571986]i really don't like it when people use the phrase "true love" or try to use it as a way to glorify what you feel whether or not it's "true love" it doesn't matter because the fact is in most cases it isn't mutual and not being able to move on from someone that isn't interested doesn't make you a better person [editline]8th May 2013[/editline] and infatuation/what you're talking about is pretty much the opposite of marital love because it's something that hits hard for a few months and then goes away, marital love is a long term thing and it's less focused on a need to be around that person [editline]8th May 2013[/editline] or (and i'm going out on a limb here) your infatuation with her is going to go away like it always does and you're going to realize that pursuing her is a waste of time and will stop caring love isn't "a lie", please stop being dramatic plenty of us here are in stable relationships[/QUOTE] Dude, I was joking about the "love is a lie" thing. But your probably right about the other parts.
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