• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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Yup! He's fluent in both languages (speaks English better than most people I know who were born here).
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45342393]Yup! He's fluent in both languages (speaks English better than most people I know who were born here).[/QUOTE] lol same thing as local english people keep telling me. "Your accent is awesome!! You speak better than most native people do!" there is hope for me then, after all. [sp]yes, also russian. Moved to UK from my flagdog location[/sp]
[QUOTE=RocketRacer;45342637]lol same thing as local english people keep telling me. "Your accent is awesome!! You speak better than most native people do!" there is hope for me then, after all. [sp]yes, also russian. Moved to UK from my flagdog location[/sp][/QUOTE] He moved to the US when he was 7 or 8, so he speaks it perfectly and doesn't have a discernable accent, but both his parents have thick accents and find it a lot easier to talk in Russian. His mom teaches Russian to kids (there's a surprisingly big Russian community in Texas), and they want me to learn but I honestly can't be bothered. If they were French or Italian or something, I'd happily learn it (already spoke French when I was a kid anyway, so any Romance language would make sense to me at the very least), but Russian seems like a really difficult language to pick up.
Well there's the difference - I moved less than a year ago and am basicaly a guy with a bigass 'russian' mark on myself because of accent and I still can't fit into the society properly - keep being silent in like half of the conversations other people are having.
Aww. On the bright side, a lot of people love foreigners in more multicultural nations. I'm sure everyone's happy to have you around. Most people like accents, don't be shy to talk! It looks like you have a pretty good grasp of the language already, seeing as I assumed you were fluent in both until you mentioned otherwise.
Why do I keep coming into this thread I just end up sad
I really don't know how to maintain a long-distance relationship. I met a girl during my trip to Las Vegas a few weeks ago and we have been chatting almost every day since, but I feel like I'm kind of running out of things to talk about and our conversations are getting pretty dull. I've slowly began to stop messaging her as often, but I don't want her to feel like I am not interested in talking, or that I'm forgetting about her or something. Is it still possible to maintain a good relationship with a quick "hey what's up?" every few days?
If you don't have much more to say to each other than "hey, what's up?" then you might want to reconsider pursuing a long distance relationship with her. Long distance is pretty difficult to begin with and revolves entirely around conversation, so it will be difficult to maintain a relationship if you can't manage that.
[QUOTE=VaSTinY;45342141]Sad story[/QUOTE] Man, I feel so bad for you. I know that feeling you have. I'm no expert, but if I wer you I would 'hope for the best, expect the worst.'
[QUOTE=VaSTinY;45342141] i just want to take action [B]right fucking now[/B] and just do something to solve this shit together with her but i know that it will just manage to push her away but i just don't know what to do. theres an entire unbearable month and 15 days until the next term starts, i know i [B]can[/B] actually wait out that time until i get to meet her in person again but i keep imagining that i [B]CAN'T[/B] wait that time seriously clingy, i know, but it's at it's worst right now and i'm completely breaking together over this thought of just wanting to take any action to fix this. i probably contradicted myself several times in this text aswell but i can't concentrate on shit[/QUOTE] She says she needs to be for her self for now, if you care about her you should let her do exactly that. In the meantime, live your own life. The worst thing you can do here is to obsess over her and seriously spend the rest of the summer vacation thinking of her, because if she comes back to school and the first thing that happens is you insisting on getting back together, you're going to waste any chance you have. You'll also need to realize that a 4 month relationship isn't the end all be all. [editline]10th July 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=Electroholic;45344484]I really don't know how to maintain a long-distance relationship. I met a girl during my trip to Las Vegas a few weeks ago and we have been chatting almost every day since, but I feel like I'm kind of running out of things to talk about and our conversations are getting pretty dull. I've slowly began to stop messaging her as often, but I don't want her to feel like I am not interested in talking, or that I'm forgetting about her or something. Is it still possible to maintain a good relationship with a quick "hey what's up?" every few days?[/QUOTE] I'm pretty sure I told you this last time we talked about this girl that there needs to be a reason to keep talking like that. Long distance relationship isn't really a thing people will pursue if they get along with people they live with.
[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45346793]The worst thing you can do here is to obsess over her and seriously spend the rest of the summer vacation thinking of her, because if she comes back to school and the first thing that happens is you insisting on getting back together, you're going to waste any chance you have.[/QUOTE] Thanks, this is what I needed to hear I guess. I'll just try my best at waiting as long as possible until there's a dorm party and we get drunk as usual or something after a while, and then have a talk to her about it then and see if she really just has a feeling of wanting me back as much as I do her. The way I see it is; starting in late August - until next years June we get two entire almost uninterrupted terms of studying and both of us living in the same dorms instead of a 2 month gap inbetween terms. Anything can happen when we will live so close to eachother, so I'll eventually suggest we use all that time to see if it would work [I]without[/I] a long distance suddenly happening in the middle of it since she won't be preoccupied with her hobbies as much then. Only problem is once she's done at this "college" next June she's going to uni in Stockholm, 138 miles away from here which will probably cause this to happen again all over. But my goalis to want to have the entire two terms we get now, to be with eachother as long as possible.
[QUOTE=VaSTinY;45347043]Thanks, this is what I needed to hear I guess. I'll just try my best at waiting as long as possible until there's a dorm party and we get drunk as usual or something after a while, and then have a talk to her about it then and see if she really just has a feeling of wanting me back as much as I do her. [/QUOTE] However, be cautious not to insist on anything while she's drunk. Chances are high that she will tell you that she wants to be back together, she'll kiss you, etc. only for you to receive a text afterwards (or her telling you in person) that you don't deserve this, but that she made a mistake because she was drunk and that it never should've happened.
[QUOTE=VaSTinY;45347043]Thanks, this is what I needed to hear I guess. I'll just try my best at waiting as long as possible until there's a dorm party and we get drunk as usual or something after a while, and then have a talk to her about it then and see if she really just has a feeling of wanting me back as much as I do her. The way I see it is; starting in late August - until next years June we get two entire almost uninterrupted terms of studying and both of us living in the same dorms instead of a 2 month gap inbetween terms. Anything can happen when we will live so close to eachother, so I'll eventually suggest we use all that time to see if it would work [I]without[/I] a long distance suddenly happening in the middle of it since she won't be preoccupied with her hobbies as much then. Only problem is once she's done at this "college" next June she's going to uni in Stockholm, 138 miles away from here which will probably cause this to happen again all over. But my goalis to want to have the entire two terms we get now, to be with eachother as long as possible.[/QUOTE] This just sounds even more clingy and worrying. If your safest bet is to get her drunk and relying on how she's stuck with you, you probably should let her go completely and sort out your life instead. Again, four months isn't really a big deal, it really sounds like you're making the time you spent with her to something unrealistic. For a lot of people, 4 months can be a simple fling, and I know I'd get pissed off someone kept insisting like this. She might react differently though.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45342775]Aww. On the bright side, a lot of people love foreigners in more multicultural nations. I'm sure everyone's happy to have you around. Most people like accents, don't be shy to talk! It looks like you have a pretty good grasp of the language already, seeing as I assumed you were fluent in both until you mentioned otherwise.[/QUOTE] Maybe they do like me around but I have a problem of not being able to adapt to the society and like in every single covnersation I am not even able to say anything because they keep talking on subjects only they know about(typical friends talk) so I'm there silent and feel ultra-awkward. [editline]10th July 2014[/editline] I keep trying to be involved in conversation and etc. because being silent won't get me anywhere, so I need to try. If they think that I'm doing something wrong then I'd like to see them in my place.
[QUOTE=VaSTinY;45347043]Thanks, this is what I needed to hear I guess. I'll just try my best at waiting as long as possible until there's a dorm party and we get drunk as usual or something after a while, and then have a talk to her about it then and see if she really just has a feeling of wanting me back as much as I do her.[/QUOTE] do not do this There are a few reasons why this time apart is good. One, time apart is usually nice to have in the long run because it helps you get a new perspective on your relationship (you'll probably realize it wasn't as nice as you thought, for example). Clearly it wasn't all going well or you'd still be together, so being able to see what happened is a good thing. Two, drunk talks are not sober thoughts. If you're waiting until she's drunk to talk to her about it that just means you're worried about that conversation if you're both sober and you want her to be emotionally pliable, which won't help. My suggestion is that you take some time to figure out some things about yourself that you don't like/could improve, then spend the summer fixing that. If you guys get back together you'll be even better than you were before, and if you don't you'll be happier with yourself as a person which will be good for you in the long run. tl;dr [del]hire lawyer[/del] delete facebook hit gym
[QUOTE=haloguy234;45040636]Stepsister[/QUOTE] Seriously haloguy234, at least come back and tell us how it went. I know you've read what I said, it's kind of disturbing that you choose to ignore all these people telling you not to do it.
[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45349684]Seriously haloguy234, at least come back and tell us how it went. I know you've read what I said, it's kind of disturbing that you choose to ignore all these people telling you not to do it.[/QUOTE] I hope he didn't do anything but if they did bone down you better believe I want updates
[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45349684]Seriously haloguy234, at least come back and tell us how it went. I know you've read what I said, it's kind of disturbing that you choose to ignore all these people telling you not to do it.[/QUOTE] Seeing as that's the last post he made here he probably unsubscribed from the thread, send a PM or comment on his profile.
I was thinking about going to this "Youth Cafe Corner" thing but I'm too nervous/afraid that I'll just fuck up and have nothing to talk about
Just don't try to discuss why the universe exists and you'll be fine.
Less than a month and me and all of my friends are going different paths. I am hosting a barbeque party thing, so we can all say and talk about some last things, get to say goodbye properly, and hopefully see each other next year.
Is it odd that I really, really shy away from physical contact (I can handle a handshake and the occasional hug) but would have no such qualms if it was between me and persons whom I'm in an intimate, romantic relationship with?
why would that be odd
It's odd, but that's really all there is to it. It's not a big problem, and the less you worry about it the less important it becomes. If you gain more self-confidence later on you probably wont feel like that.
I just was worried it could be a sign of something bigger...
[QUOTE=DiscoInferno;45354807]I just was worried it could be a sign of something bigger...[/QUOTE] Uh? It's a sign that you are shy. Work on it if you want. Or don't. There's plenty of shy people in life, education and the workplace, and whatever works for you is best.
[QUOTE=DiscoInferno;45354807]I just was worried it could be a sign of something bigger...[/QUOTE] If there's something bigger going on, you of all people would know about it.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45355023]If there's something bigger going on, you of all people would know about it.[/QUOTE] I doubt that most of the time, but that's an issue for somewhere else that I'm getting seen to (albeit very slowly...).
congrats i hereby diagnose you with acute shyness i prescribe you additional 30 minutes of social interaction on top of your daily dose, and a daily 2g of adderal and xanax. In other words, don't focus on diagnosing as something or other, be who you are and socialize with your friends. Weird or odd shit doesn't go away by taking meds, it goes away by being with good friends and slowly realizing what parts are kind of odd, and realizing how you can bring yourself to do less of that. Besides, not all "odd" things need to be fixed. [editline]11th July 2014[/editline] <3 Heart i guess? I feel so rude without emoticons but facepunch doesn't really give me a lot to pick from.
[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45355277]congrats i hereby diagnose you with acute shyness i prescribe you additional 30 minutes of social interaction on top of your daily dose, and a daily 2g of adderal and xanax. In other words, don't focus on diagnosing as something or other, be who you are and socialize with your friends. Weird or odd shit doesn't go away by taking meds, it goes away by being with good friends and slowly realizing what parts are kind of odd, and realizing how you can bring yourself to do less of that. Besides, not all "odd" things need to be fixed. [editline]11th July 2014[/editline] <3 Heart i guess? I feel so rude without emoticons but facepunch doesn't really give me a lot to pick from.[/QUOTE] The no-touchy thing isn't the major thing that gave me cause to look into a proper psychological evaluation. But again, that's not for here.
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