Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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We won't judge you here.
A lot of people will come and ask us "is this normal?" and 99% of the time the answer will be yes. You might be surprised to find that your flaws or insecurities are something most people experience.
I wouldn't worry about any issues you have unless they're having a serious negative impact on your everyday life. Being shy is completely fine, being antisocial is also completely fine, as long as you're able to function socially to the point where it isn't impeding your job and education.
the 1% of people who ask "is this normal" and get told "no" is when they try to fuck their step-sister
speaking of which where is haloman i demand an update
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;45355472]the 1% of people who ask "is this normal" and get told "no" is when they try to fuck their step-sister
speaking of which where is haloman i demand an update[/QUOTE]
He reads the thread now and then, but he doesn't say anything.
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;45355472]the 1% of people who ask "is this normal" and get told "no" is when they try to fuck their step-sister
speaking of which where is haloman i demand an update[/QUOTE]
I was actually going to mention that but I didn't want to contradict the first line of my post...
Really though, being attracted to your step sister isnt really all that odd. Considering acting on it and allowing those ideas to flourish on the other hand... far more so.
I might be assuming a lot here but I get the feeling he hasn't gone silent in this thread for three months because he realized we were right and has opted to follow our guidance.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;45355812]Really though, being attracted to your step sister isnt really all that odd. Considering acting on it and allowing those ideas to flourish on the other hand... far more so.[/QUOTE]
Aren't the anti-inbreeding instinct thingies only based on people you grow up around, like, 3 years old?
I dunno but the social stigma and disgust of fucking your step-sister is strong regardless of age. Most people wont even listen if that was the only time they met.
Regardless, I've had my question answered so I'll leave you all to your business. Thank you.
So I'm kind of nervous/excited.
We just moved in with the bf's parents a few days ago. They have a decent digital piano set up downstairs, bit nicer than mine, and they were down with the idea of me finally buying an acoustic and putting it on the ground floor now that I'm not on the second floor of a tiny apartment. His mom teaches young kids around 5-7 years old and often gives private Russian lessons at the house. A few weeks back she told me that it would be a great opportunity for me to start teaching piano lessons, since I was planning on minoring in music and teaching privately for a little while (probably while I work on my Masters in counseling). My parents just emailed me a few days ago and had also come up with the same idea of me teaching piano lessons at the house, except they explicitly stated that it would be a great "part time job", one that I could easily work around the rest of my schedule, and made it pretty clear they were expecting me to do it for money.
I didn't really think about charging for lessons up until now since I don't have any real experience and I'm not amazing at piano. Then again, I could certainly teach up to intermediate level if I came up with a structure for lessons. I just feel guilty with the idea of charging money when I don't have a degree or anything like that.
I guess I could probably start just doing it for free since I have 0 experience at this point, that wouldn't be hurting anyone. My main problem is I'm really shy with young kids. It's something I'd like to get over and I see this as a really good opportunity to do that, I'm just nervous about actually starting with that.
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[QUOTE=DiscoInferno;45356240]Regardless, I've had my question answered so I'll leave you all to your business. Thank you.[/QUOTE]
Our "business" is 90% just waiting for drama and arguments to happen.
^^Charge less but don't do it free.
I'd suggest doing it for free in the start, and if you need to get better with kids you could always try reaching out to the kids that his mother teaches at their house.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45356292]
Our "business" is 90% just waiting for drama and arguments to happen.[/QUOTE]
[I]Ooooooooooooh[/I]
DiscoInferno, are you just going to let this slide? :pwn:
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In other words that's exactly how it is :v:
[QUOTE=fritzel;45356336]^^Charge less but don't do it free.[/QUOTE]
Probably a good idea, if you start doing stuff free people come to you expecting it to be free forever ya know? I've had this issue with graphic design and other art stuff. You start out doing to free for exposure and practice but then no one ever wants to pay after that, and they refer people to you, for free work. Forever, and you'll feel like a dick for eventually saying "No if you want me to do this you need to pay me"
[QUOTE=fritzel;45356336]^^Charge less but don't do it free.[/QUOTE]
I'm thinking I'd probably mostly charge for the cost of materials at the start, if anything.
His mom was thinking that I could teach some of the kids that she works with (she works at a daycare for Russian kids). I think she knows a lot of the families since they're all part of the Russian community here, and she seems to know a few families who would be interested in piano lessons. Since she knows them personally I'd probably ask her for advice on pricing so we can figure out something fair.
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[QUOTE=Rhenae;45356356]Probably a good idea, if you start doing stuff free people come to you expecting it to be free forever ya know? I've had this issue with graphic design and other art stuff. You start out doing to free for exposure and practice but then no one ever wants to pay after that, and they refer people to you, for free work. Forever, and you'll feel like a dick for eventually saying "No if you want me to do this you need to pay me"[/QUOTE]
That's a really good point, it would be hard to draw the line. If I were to give free lessons to one kid at the daycare and then decided to start charging, would I have to keep giving them free lessons while I charge other kids, or would I have to suddenly start asking them for money after teaching them for a while? I wouldn't want to be in that situation.
You better come back here in a year or two and help out us little guy without russian mob ties.
I've been having different dreams about my ex, 5 months into my relationship. The dreams have occurred 3 days in a row now and the dreams involve me and her getting back together. Has anyone had this happen to them and should I just brush it off or worry?
[QUOTE=crazykyle16;45357024]I've been having different dreams about my ex, 5 months into my relationship. The dreams have occurred 3 days in a row now and the dreams involve me and her getting back together. Has anyone had this happen to them and should I just brush it off or worry?[/QUOTE]
Your dreams are heavily influenced by what your thinking of before sleep, and during the day. So fussing about it is just going to make it keep happening.
I really wouldn't worry about it. Dreams really arn't any sort of hidden door into the soul and your secret thoughts or anything, it's just your brain running "what if" simulations.
Oh, goddamnit, there's always something going wrong when I'm travelling to meet my girlfriend, previously it was strikes and possible floods and now its subway station maintainence.
That's true to an extent but your subconscious does generally play a role. Dude's probably just lonely.
[QUOTE=Orkel;45304176]i have a date coming up :x
never ignore the thread title[/QUOTE]
tomorrowwwwwwww
[QUOTE=Orkel;45358978]tomorrowwwwwwww[/QUOTE]
Orkel, you're a unicum, surely you can penetrate her rear armor easily.
Girlfriend's going to a summer camp where you only speak English for a week (We're Estonian) and she said "also don't worry I'm not interested in any guys there, I'm not going to forget you"
why did you even say that D:
I mean I trust her completely and I get what she was trying to say, but being told that just makes me nervous
[QUOTE=Rapist;45364820]she said "also don't worry I'm not interested in any guys there, I'm not going to forget you"[/QUOTE]
I'm wondering why she said that, too. Huh.
It's probably nothing anyway. Before that I mentioned that I would of gone because of her but I missed the deadline.
she probably thought you'd get all paranoid while she was gone and tried to help
it clearly didn't but i doubt she said it to make it worse
Yeah, agreed.
I won't be that paranoid anyway, just surprised me a bit when she said it.
goddamn i am bad at flirting
i've decided there's no real way for me to get better at it so i'm just rolling with my lack of game and it's somehow working for me
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45356292]So I'm kind of nervous/excited.
We just moved in with the bf's parents a few days ago. They have a decent digital piano set up downstairs, bit nicer than mine, and they were down with the idea of me finally buying an acoustic and putting it on the ground floor now that I'm not on the second floor of a tiny apartment. His mom teaches young kids around 5-7 years old and often gives private Russian lessons at the house. A few weeks back she told me that it would be a great opportunity for me to start teaching piano lessons, since I was planning on minoring in music and teaching privately for a little while (probably while I work on my Masters in counseling). My parents just emailed me a few days ago and had also come up with the same idea of me teaching piano lessons at the house, except they explicitly stated that it would be a great "part time job", one that I could easily work around the rest of my schedule, and made it pretty clear they were expecting me to do it for money.
I didn't really think about charging for lessons up until now since I don't have any real experience and I'm not amazing at piano. Then again, I could certainly teach up to intermediate level if I came up with a structure for lessons. I just feel guilty with the idea of charging money when I don't have a degree or anything like that.
I guess I could probably start just doing it for free since I have 0 experience at this point, that wouldn't be hurting anyone. My main problem is I'm really shy with young kids. It's something I'd like to get over and I see this as a really good opportunity to do that, I'm just nervous about actually starting with that.
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First I would say that before you start teaching you should know the instrument obviously, but you should also know how to teach the instrument. Even if you know how to use it well, teaching is a whole different thing. Like, sometimes a friend of mine would occasionally ask me "Hey how do you do this so well, can you teach me?" and I would be like "I dont know, I just go with the feeling or something I guess" which is total bullshit anyway,
So maybe watch a couple of youtube videos, to get the feeling of how you would explain the kids what to do instead of just "just do it like this". And yes, a structure would also help a lot.
As for starting for free, I guess you should start cheap, but not free. People are paying for your knowledge. But since you say youre not an expert maybe you shouldnt charge that much. Just look around, see what other people are charging. I see posters around my neighbourhood advertising singing classes, most say that the first hour is free.
[QUOTE=Orkel;45358978]tomorrowwwwwwww[/QUOTE]
had to postpone it by a day because of her terrible hangover from friday's party :v:
[I]tomorrrrrowwwwwwwwwwww[/I]
any plans for what you are gonna do?
[editline]12th July 2014[/editline]
i have no idea where in the world you are, but over here the weather is amazing, and a trip to the beach is the obvious choice
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