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Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

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Still haven't managed to ask :c

[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;45411150]Still haven't managed to ask :c[/QUOTE] Still haven't managed to find.

really hoping ill meet someone soon is it normal that i just really want someone to hug and cuddle with? i want to be touched. and not just talking in a sexual way. i feel a little lonely i guess, i dont have anyone i can be confident with. talk to about stuff i have on my mind.

I’ve ended up becoming very good friends with this girl that I originally wanted to date ~5 years ago from college, but things got a little weird recently. The history is that we agreed we were really compatible but she always said she wasn’t attracted to me so eventually I turned my attention elsewhere. Recently I asked her if she wanted to bring a friend to hang out at the shore for a few days, but she was okay with it just being the two of us. That alone is really not all that strange though just because our friendship is pretty one-on-one and we act like guy friends. When we got there and we were deciding where to sleep she offered to share the only downstairs (queen size) bed since we have no AC at the shore. As I expected, everything was normal the first two nights, but the last night we hooked up, and it was really fun and not one of those “oops we got drunk and I gave you a bad handjob” situations. Afterward she slept in her underwear for the first time, then the next day when she got her shorts wet she walked around the house in her panties. I want to say that she just wanted to mess around, had fun and was feeling more comfortable around me considering our relationship had always been non-physical up to that point, though I’d like to hear what other people who have been in a similar situation think.

[IMG]http://i.imgur.com/91ihF9b.gif[/IMG] my gf made a gif of her and i

Thought this up to get myself more confident. [quote]There's really no secret toward being able to do shit like speak to a crowd of people. You just tell yourself "Hey, self, you're gonna do that thing you do." You chill out, and do it. It's not going to be awkward, because only YOU have the power to make it awkward. It's YOUR voice, YOUR body, and YOUR mind. Use it to get what you want. Not believing in yourself is like claiming a screwdriver doesn't work, when in reality you're not even holding the damn thing. And you know what? Sometimes it actually doesn't work out. Sometimes the screwdriver is just the wrong size. But you had to pick it up and use it properly in order to find that out, didn't you? Pick yourself up and use what you've got. You're a tool. You're a fucking tool. You're a tool that you're gonna use to possibly make your life a better place. That's a pretty damn useful tool.[/quote] [img]https://dl.dropboxusercontent.com/u/8733190/wrench.png[/img]

[QUOTE=Splarg!;45412949]I’ve ended up becoming very good friends with this girl that I originally wanted to date ~5 years ago from college, but things got a little weird recently. The history is that we agreed we were really compatible but she always said she wasn’t attracted to me so eventually I turned my attention elsewhere. Recently I asked her if she wanted to bring a friend to hang out at the shore for a few days, but she was okay with it just being the two of us. That alone is really not all that strange though just because our friendship is pretty one-on-one and we act like guy friends. When we got there and we were deciding where to sleep she offered to share the only downstairs (queen size) bed since we have no AC at the shore. As I expected, everything was normal the first two nights, but the last night we hooked up, and it was really fun and not one of those “oops we got drunk and I gave you a bad handjob” situations. Afterward she slept in her underwear for the first time, then the next day when she got her shorts wet she walked around the house in her panties. I want to say that she just wanted to mess around, had fun and was feeling more comfortable around me considering our relationship had always been non-physical up to that point, though I’d like to hear what other people who have been in a similar situation think.[/QUOTE] Looks like a tease to me. Girls do that just for the shits and giggles. But you can make a move and ask. It could be an exceptional case.

[QUOTE=Zar;45411515]really hoping ill meet someone soon is it normal that i just really want someone to hug and cuddle with? i want to be touched. and not just talking in a sexual way. i feel a little lonely i guess, i dont have anyone i can be confident with. talk to about stuff i have on my mind.[/QUOTE] I feel you man, this is the same kind of thing I've been wishing for lately. I mean, having regular friends is nice and all but there's something about being slightly more intimate with someone that feels more... filling, I guess. Like, being able to hug someone and just spend moments being around them in a tender way kind of feels invigorating

[QUOTE=fritzel;45414011]Looks like a tease to me. [b]Girls do that just for the shits and giggles.[/b] But you can make a move and ask. It could be an exceptional case.[/QUOTE] Why did I bother posting.

[QUOTE=Splarg!;45414509]Why did I bother posting.[/QUOTE] You're only going to get weird sexist generalizations by asking this thread to analyze someone's behavior for you. We only know what you tell us. Just talk to her and ask her instead.

[QUOTE=fritzel;45414011]Looks like a tease to me. [I]Girls do that just for the shits and giggles. [/I] But you can make a move and ask. It could be an exceptional case.[/QUOTE] I'm not sure how it's a "tease" if they hooked up dude. That's also just... ugh.

[QUOTE=Splarg!;45414509]Why did I bother posting.[/QUOTE] Apologies if that was too crude. [editline]17th July 2014[/editline] [QUOTE=Rhenae;45414604]I'm not sure how it's a "tease" if they hooked up dude. That's also just... ugh.[/QUOTE] Read the second sentence if you disagree with first.

I've been in a bit of a slump the past couple weeks. Remember that girl I was talking about? [URL="http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1257818&p=45259732&highlight=#post45259732"]link if you dont[/URL] Well, if I wasn't feeling optimistic before, I'm sure not now. We haven't really been talking anymore. Right now, it's been almost a week since we've communicated. Anyway, this time away is really starting to give me doubts about the whole ordeal. I'm seriously starting to think I've been wasting my time even pursuing her. Even if she would still be interested after I somehow regained her trust, I have this feeling that it wouldn't really even amount to much of anything. At the same time, I'm afraid that if I move on and look for someone else, I'll be losing an opportunity with her. Right now I'm just so conflicted and I don't know which way I should go. What do you guys think? [editline]17th July 2014[/editline] It may also be worth sharing that this seems to really be bothering me. Lately, I've had little urge to interact or socialize with anyone and right now I'm losing quite a bit of sleep over it. I really shouldn't let something so trivial get me so worked up.

[QUOTE=Zar;45411515]really hoping ill meet someone soon is it normal that i just really want someone to hug and cuddle with? i want to be touched. and not just talking in a sexual way. i feel a little lonely i guess, i dont have anyone i can be confident with. talk to about stuff i have on my mind.[/QUOTE] Having that outlook and attitude is pretty bad, imho. I'm not too sure, but if that's how you feel, I'm sure you display it outwardly, and it can be a huge turnoff to most girls (clinginess isn't a virtue). I remember ages ago in this thread, someone posted how before even wanting to get a girlfriend, you should be happy yourself. You shouldn't need someone else as an emotional crutch. Once you're happy with your own life and your own self, that confidence and mentality will sort of attract girls. When you hang out with a girl and don't pine after her, she'll think of you much more highly. Back when I felt how you felt (we're talking maybe 8 months ago?), looking back, I realize it pushed a lot of people away. Guys and girls. Now that I'm a lot happier with my self and my life and my friends, speaking to, meeting and attracting girls is a lot easier. But the funny thing is, now that I'm happy with my own life, I'm not desperately in need of a relationship (which is awesome). It means I can sit back, bide my time and find the relationship that's good for me, not just the one that comes along first.

well the thing is I don't even have any close friends. when I think best friend I don't really have one. I just have friends. theres no one I hang out with often or talk to about stuff. I kind of envy my friends. they're all closer to each other than I am to them. But that's why I'm looking foward to after this month, where I will be making over a hundred new friends hopefully. there is something missing in my life, but it's something I can get. and it will happen soon, also not just talking about gf or something. just people I can confide in.

[QUOTE=fritzel;45415320]Apologies if that was too crude. [editline]17th July 2014[/editline] Read the second sentence if you disagree with first.[/QUOTE] I read the second sentence and it is just as bad as the first. It is not an "exceptional case" for a girl to actually be interested instead of "being a tease" just for "shits and giggles"

Okay! I'll do it today. I'll say that I've been this whole week gathering the confidence to ask her out. Last week she said that she revived her account on that site to try her luck again. And I'll propose that we'd go out together and see if that luck would be found. :dance: [B]Edit:[/B] She logged in! Oh LAAAWD!!! Aaah! I'm so anxious :<

[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;45418015]Okay! I'll do it today. [B]I'll say that I've been this whole week gathering the confidence to ask her out. [/B][/QUOTE] I don't have much experience with this kind of stuff but I'm really not sure if that'll look cute or creepy to tell her you've been building up the whole week.

[QUOTE=FunkyDarkKnight;45418439]I don't have much experience with this kind of stuff but I'm really not sure if that'll look cute or creepy to tell her you've been building up the whole week.[/QUOTE] Well it's done now. I just said that I finally dared to ask. And so I did :dance: Christ my heart-rate is high now. I've gotta go and spray paint some airsoft stuff to calm down.

lol this one girl I am (or thought I was) really good friends with is not answering to my messages, even though she has been online and off multiple times. her loss

Not in a relationship here, and maybe a dumb qeustion, but is it bad that one person always has to start a chat with the other one?

not necessarily, could be many reasons.

[QUOTE=Zar;45416114]well the thing is I don't even have any close friends. when I think best friend I don't really have one. I just have friends. theres no one I hang out with often or talk to about stuff. I kind of envy my friends. they're all closer to each other than I am to them. But that's why I'm looking foward to after this month, where I will be making over a hundred new friends hopefully. there is something missing in my life, but it's something I can get. and it will happen soon, also not just talking about gf or something. just people I can confide in.[/QUOTE] I dont have really good friends because I've been here for less than a year. Though there are some people I can to talk to about stuff

[QUOTE=fritzel;45414011]Looks like a tease to me. [b]Girls do that just for the shits and giggles. [/b] But you can make a move and ask. It could be an exceptional case.[/QUOTE] i don't think you really know any girls

I had a pretty shitty night last night. I was out with my friend, and he got too drunk. Literally every time we go out, he doesn't know how to drink in moderation, he always just tries to get as shitfaced as possible and tries to get me to go along with it. Usually, I do a good job of keeping us in a good state (I'm fine with being drunk, but being smashed is stupid. I've gone through the teenage stage of wanting to get wasted all the time). Last night, he kept drinking and wouldn't listen. When I told the bartenders to not give out anymore drinks, he was already too drunk for it to make a difference. Turns out he's really aggressive when he's like that, and I had to spend a good 3 hours stopping him from trying to fight random people and flirt with girls. Was really crap, and he said shit that I can't help but feel like he's not the type of person I'd want to have as a friend. When he's sober, he can come across as self-centered and assholish, and when he was drunk, he was just straight up confirming my worries (but then I thought "He's drunk, surely that's not an accurate indication?"). Since last night, I just feel like I'd rather not waste anymore time with him, since he's more trouble than he's worth. Am I overthinking things or should I just slowly sort of distance our friendship? He's had a tough life and has had a lot of family deaths to deal with, so I'm thinking this might be a factor in why he's so aggressive towards other people and life. I just feel like he's not a compatible friend, since I'm like his polar opposite.

[QUOTE=loopoo;45426964]I had a pretty shitty night last night. I was out with my friend, and he got too drunk. Literally every time we go out, he doesn't know how to drink in moderation, he always just tries to get as shitfaced as possible and tries to get me to go along with it. Usually, I do a good job of keeping us in a good state (I'm fine with being drunk, but being smashed is stupid. I've gone through the teenage stage of wanting to get wasted all the time). Last night, he kept drinking and wouldn't listen. When I told the bartenders to not give out anymore drinks, he was already too drunk for it to make a difference. Turns out he's really aggressive when he's like that, and I had to spend a good 3 hours stopping him from trying to fight random people and flirt with girls. Was really crap, and he said shit that I can't help but feel like he's not the type of person I'd want to have as a friend. When he's sober, he can come across as self-centered and assholish, and when he was drunk, he was just straight up confirming my worries (but then I thought "He's drunk, surely that's not an accurate indication?"). Since last night, I just feel like I'd rather not waste anymore time with him, since he's more trouble than he's worth. Am I overthinking things or should I just slowly sort of distance our friendship? He's had a tough life and has had a lot of family deaths to deal with, so I'm thinking this might be a factor in why he's so aggressive towards other people and life. I just feel like he's not a compatible friend, since I'm like his polar opposite.[/QUOTE] I recommend talking to him, and explaining to him that you don't want to be friends with that type of person, you never know, it could do good for him, you might be that last touch that he needs to realize that he needs to turn his life around.

[QUOTE=loopoo;45426964]Am I overthinking things or should I just slowly sort of distance our friendship? He's had a tough life and has had a lot of family deaths to deal with, so I'm thinking this might be a factor in why he's so aggressive towards other people and life. I just feel like he's not a compatible friend, since I'm like his polar opposite.[/QUOTE] He's slowly on his way to alcoholism, but that's not your problem. If he's an asshole while sober in general, and you're not feeling like you two can be friends, I'd just distance myself from him.

alcohol is truth serum

[QUOTE=Disseminate;45427140]He's slowly on his way to alcoholism, but that's not your problem. If he's an asshole while sober in general, and you're not feeling like you two can be friends, I'd just distance myself from him.[/QUOTE] The thing is, he can be an asshole when he's sober too, but he's not an asshole to me. We get on well, we joke, we laugh and we have really good chats about stuff in general. But yeah, he can be an asshole to other people and it makes me uncomfortable, cause that's shit I don't do. So I awkwardly have to pacify the situation. He overreacts easily and gets sudden outbursts. I dunno, I think I'm gonna distance myself. When I go out with friends, I don't want to be on edge the entire time when we chat with other people. That's how he makes me feel, cause I'm always preparing to swoop in and calm him down when he inevitably gets pissed off.

They do say that "drunk words are sober thoughts", but one time when I was drunk someone asked me what kind of music I like and I said "purple", so take that quote however you want.

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