Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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So apparently this chick wants to watch a romance movie with me. Movie comes out next month for DVD.
Wow so fuck, in math today we did a partner quiz. I look up at the board, find my name, next to it is the name of the girl I've been sort of crushing on, so I'm like "OH SHIT". I look again and the last name is different, I skim around the list to find she's actually partnered with my friend, the girl in front of me.
Also, I keep seeing my ex around. Like I was able to go a week, maybe even 2, without really seeing her at all but for the last few day's I've seen her everyday at almost every possible time and it's starting to get to me. Uhg. I'm so bad at letting things go. I was feeling better about it, too, but just seeing her everywhere, I'm starting to think a lot about her again and I miss her.
[QUOTE=riku2211;40575258]Wow so fuck, in math today we did a partner quiz. I look up at the board, find my name, next to it is the name of the girl I've been sort of crushing on, so I'm like "OH SHIT". I look again and the last name is different, I skim around the list to find she's actually partnered with my friend, the girl in front of me.
Also, I keep seeing my ex around. Like I was able to go a week, maybe even 2, without really seeing her at all but for the last few day's I've seen her everyday at almost every possible time and it's starting to get to me. Uhg. I'm so bad at letting things go. I was feeling better about it, too, but just seeing her everywhere, I'm starting to think a lot about her again and I miss her.[/QUOTE]
Remind yourself that seeing her doesn't matter. I find people focus too much on just avoiding the person and then it is a big thing when they see them that sets them back a huge amount. It takes some work but getting used to seeing them but not in that way and not associating it with a relapse and failure can be a lot more helpful than just straight up avoiding them.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;40578390]Remind yourself that seeing her doesn't matter. I find people focus too much on just avoiding the person and then it is a big thing when they see them that sets them back a huge amount. It takes some work but getting used to seeing them but not in that way and not associating it with a relapse and failure can be a lot more helpful than just straight up avoiding them.[/QUOTE]
I honestly haven't been avoiding her. In fact, when I walk by an area I'd usually see her, my mind impulsively tries to get me to seek her out, and I've been resisting that to the point where I stopped even thinking about it most of the time, but just out of coincidence I keep passing right by her. At first it sort of was like you're saying, but I got past that. I mean, I still AM, just back to a point where I, for some reason, WANT to see her and therefor think of her more often, etc.
I'll be fine, I guess. I'll keep going about as I have, and hopefully at some point it won't even matter if I see her.
I guess I stepped up an inch from where I've been for the past two years.
Some chick dropped her stuff on the floor and I picked it up for her. She said thank you, but me being me, I said "you're welcome" but I didn't even look at her (my hat kept my fucking face concealed.) I also said it with the most angry/unwelcoming tone I could have.
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I also managed to strike up a short lived conversation with some kid I barely know.
My heart rate and my breathing still becomes rapid though.
I need to continue working on this.
[QUOTE=bucketofshrimp;40590889]I guess I stepped up an inch from where I've been for the past two years.
Some chick dropped her stuff on the floor and I picked it up for her. She said thank you, but me being me, I said "you're welcome" but I didn't even look at her (my hat kept my fucking face concealed.) I also said it with the most angry/unwelcoming tone I could have.
[T]http://i.cubeupload.com/Qk0cdC.gif[/T]
I also managed to strike up a short lived conversation with some kid I barely know.
My heart rate and my breathing still becomes rapid though.
I need to continue working on this.[/QUOTE]
Regarding that hat..
It isn't a fedora is it?
[QUOTE=bucketofshrimp;40590889]I need to continue working on this.[/QUOTE]
Nailed it. You'll get there eventually!
[QUOTE=bucketofshrimp;40590889]I guess I stepped up an inch from where I've been for the past two years.
Some chick dropped her stuff on the floor and I picked it up for her. She said thank you, but me being me, I said "you're welcome" but I didn't even look at her (my hat kept my fucking face concealed.) I also said it with the most angry/unwelcoming tone I could have.
[T]http://i.cubeupload.com/Qk0cdC.gif[/T]
I also managed to strike up a short lived conversation with some kid I barely know.
My heart rate and my breathing still becomes rapid though.
I need to continue working on this.[/QUOTE]
Don't wear a hat that conceals your face.
It's uninviting.
I'm in a pickle, facepunch. My ex and I were together for 3 years, had a long, rocky breakup, which ended with me hating her guts for a month or two until I manned up and got over it, and her moving upstate last year (several hundred miles away) helped me forget about her. Yesterday I learned a bit of interesting news; she's moving back down to my town, and on top of that, applied and was accepted for a seasonal summer position at my company.
So now I have to see my ex everyday, and she is the most crazy spiteful bitch I know.
What do? Pull my balls out of my groin and just deal with it? I guess my major fear here is having my old feelings resurface and have it be a distraction from my work. I would still take her back if I could.
[QUOTE=Ultralast;40594177]
What do? Pull my balls out of my groin and just deal with it? I guess my major fear here is having my old feelings resurface and have it be a distraction from my work. I would still take her back if I could.[/QUOTE]
What can you do? I guess the best thing possible for you is to just accept what is happening and see how things go. Just sit back and let the world turn, don't let this mess up your daily routine, your work ethic, or your outlook, etc. Just be your own man, and who knows, maybe it's a good thing that she moves back.
I've come to the belief that everything happens for a reason and I have had a lot of things happen in my life to make me believe that is 100% true.
So, just let it happen, you can't do much to change it right now.
On another note, my girlfriend and I are officially done, but she doesn't want me to move back to Regina. Nope, she wants to be single, but she still wants me to live with her because I am her closest friend and she still loves me, but isn't IN love with me.
I have no idea what to do, we basically just cried last night and then cheered up, joked about old memories of last year, cried some more and then went to bed. We're both hurting because of this, but she seems to be taking it the hardest. She was bawling her eyes out and I had no idea what to do, she eventually ran off to the living room and cried in there. I went to go comfort her after going for a cigarette and we went back to bed like normal.
Everything is just so messed up, and I hate this entire situation. I don't know how to tell my managers at work that I have to move back to Regina so will have to quit working there, and I don't know if EB Games can transfer my pre-order on The Last of Us to a Regina location (YES THIS IS MY MAIN CONCERN OF THEM ALL).
So, I don't know what to do. I kind of feel like I'm just having a very bad dream right now.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;40593478]Don't wear a hat that conceals your face.
It's uninviting.[/QUOTE]
I'll keep my head bare next time.
[QUOTE=pansarkurt;40591560]Regarding that hat..
It isn't a fedora is it?[/QUOTE]
It's just a regular cap.
Well my words aren't gospel. I grabbed the top shirt and shorts in my dresser today so I'm rocking purple and pink.
I just don't feel like hats have ever contributed positively to casual appearances. There is nothing casual about any hat short of a beanie. Personal opinion.
I know I'm probably getting really annoying about this girl (the lesbian one that I'm in love with) but I don't know what to dooo
We had lunch in town today and went and bought some video games, and then we went to my house to play Parappa the Rapper for PS1 (I ordered it specifically to play it with her, we tried playing it on an emulator earlier but it didn't work well) and we had a wonderful time. She bought a game for her Nintendo 64 that she got for her 17th birthday a few days ago, and I know she'd probably like to play it with somebody (she doesn't have any friends other than me to play video games with) but I'm afraid of asking because I don't want to get annoying! What should I do?
Aaaagh I just want to sit next to her on the floor and drink tea and play video games with her all of the time
[quote]I just want to sit next to her on the floor and drink tea and play video games with her all of the time[/quote]
then do it.
just with the understanding that shes not sexually attracted to you
this will happen a lot in your life (well depending on how many people youll meet) so you should get used to it ffs
[QUOTE=thisispain;40599051]then do it.
just with the understanding that shes not sexually attracted to you
this will happen a lot in your life (well depending on how many people youll meet) so you should get used to it ffs[/QUOTE]
Well yes, it's not about love advice anymore, but social advice. Because of how shy she is she never starts conversations or asks me if we want to hang out, so I always have to be the one to ask, and I'm usually really nervous when I ask because I don't want to be annoying. She hasn't ever said no when I've asked so she obviously wants to and enjoys being with me but I've had problems before with friends who have later revealed that they found me very annoying and tried to avoid me whenever I called! I'd like to ask her if she'd like to meet in the weekend and play some video games but I'm very nervous about it.
[QUOTE=Eric95;40599173]Well yes, it's not about love advice anymore, but social advice. Because of how shy she is she never starts conversations or asks me if we want to hang out, so I always have to be the one to ask, and I'm usually really nervous when I ask because I don't want to be annoying. She hasn't ever said no when I've asked so she obviously wants to and enjoys being with me but I've had problems before with friends who have later revealed that they found me very annoying and tried to avoid me whenever I called! I'd like to ask her if she'd like to meet in the weekend and play some video games but I'm very nervous about it.[/QUOTE]
There is no gain without taking the risk!
I guess so. I just really like her and I feel incredibly lucky to have found and befriended her, so I'm very careful with how I act around her. Maybe I should just ask her about it and tell her how I feel about it, we've been hanging out regularly for almost six months now so we might be close enough friends.
Not sure whether to post this here or in Sex, Girlfriends, and Shit, but I've been feeling a little strange. My relationship with my girlfriend is perfectly fine and everything is going great, but I can't help but feel sometimes that we don't connect very well or that she doesn't like me back. The thing is, all of the evidence seems to point to the contrary. When we see each other, everything is wonderful and we have both really enjoy it. It happens less so now than it has, but the feelings still surface every now and again.Could it be that I'm subconsciously trying to cling to her as some sort of separation anxiety thing? And how do I overcome something like this?
Guess who wants to get back together now? Yeah, my girlfriend.
I'm losing my mind. Can't handle this. I don't know what to do. I should just move back home, what she's doing is super unfair.
Sorry for coming here again with my shit, I should just write in a journal or something. I'm a whiny bitch.
Went on a first date with a girl I've been talking to for a while (finally, huh?). It went really well, we talked for a while and had a lot of laughs. Going to take her on another date soon, possibly a movie :D
[QUOTE=Splash Attack;40599716]Not sure whether to post this here or in Sex, Girlfriends, and Shit, but I've been feeling a little strange. My relationship with my girlfriend is perfectly fine and everything is going great, but I can't help but feel sometimes that we don't connect very well or that she doesn't like me back. The thing is, all of the evidence seems to point to the contrary. When we see each other, everything is wonderful and we have both really enjoy it. It happens less so now than it has, but the feelings still surface every now and again.Could it be that I'm subconsciously trying to cling to her as some sort of separation anxiety thing? And how do I overcome something like this?[/QUOTE]
Don't worry about it so much, everyone has doubts in a relationship and periods of not-so-sureness and thinking about other people etc. Its just a natural thought process nothing to be scared of, if the relationship is doing fine then it good and theres no inherent problem in thinking or worrying. It gets less the longer you are together.
I personally think if you don't question at all esp earlier in a relationship, then there is a problem.
I fuck on the first date.
What's a good idea for a first date?
[QUOTE=Rammaster;40601614]What's a good idea for a first date?[/QUOTE]
Coffee.
[QUOTE=Rammaster;40601614]What's a good idea for a first date?[/QUOTE]
Strip club.
[QUOTE=Rammaster;40601614]What's a good idea for a first date?[/QUOTE]
Fucking.
What is an acceptable non-creepy-or-rude amount of time to maintain eye contact?
[QUOTE=Ardosos;40602261]What is an acceptable non-creepy-or-rude amount of time to maintain eye contact?[/QUOTE]
1 minute, 45 seconds and 32 milliseconds.
[QUOTE=Ardosos;40602261]What is an acceptable non-creepy-or-rude amount of time to maintain eye contact?[/QUOTE]
You mean while talking to them? Because in that case, I find staring them in the eyes while holding conversations and slowly dragging your eyes away works often. But I guess it varies. You need to be a bit more specific.
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