• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Zinayzen;45535623]Probably too big of a gap to form a stable relationship , but other than that? Rock on. That opportunity won't present itself often .[/QUOTE] If you do decide to hit it and run I would heavily recommend being very sure she understands that is what is going down. If she's a bit younger and inexperienced you really do need to make sure your expectations are the same for whatever you decide to do.
Well yeah I'm not saying it necessarily makes you a good person, but the opponent is there. [editline]29th July 2014[/editline] Opportunity, not opponent. Stupid autocorrect,
I've been moving on quite alright from my last train wreck of attempted relationship to be honest. Good thing it happened at the end of the semester. Now looking back at things with a clear head and rational thought. I feel free. I mean what she did that night was embarrassing to me and the fact that I had to tell all my friends to who she told she was dating me that she had dumped me at the festival was rather humiliating. But this was a lesson. I'm not regretting anything I have done. I did my best and told her what was in my heart at the time. Looking back I still cringe at the thought that I said to her "I love you". But all in all I'm pretty happy about the closure I managed to put on this situation. And I'm pretty happy about the honesty from my side and some great part of lack of honesty from her side. Which, to be honest kinda makes me feel less miserable about all the breakup. Seeing how she contradicted everything she told me when she broke up with me at the show when I met her the second time kinda made me just want to get away from her and stay away and kinda makes me feel relieved that I'm not losing such a great person after all. All in all it was just condescending breakup talk from her part, patronizing and all that even though I asked her if she wanted to change anything that she said the night of the breakup. She said no and then proceeded to the usual cliches - it's not you, it's me. She also said something that really disapointed me dearly, she apologized for being so close to me all these years and that it was nothing special because she's like that with everyone (huge slap in the face). Then she proceeded to tell me how she's not the type of person that just doesn't forget people and doesn't change her way of looking at me - and that she still wants to go out with me hiking and whatnot, and then she hasn't spoke to me since May (the last time we talked). It's just been complete silence. Not even the usual comments on my facebook she used to swarm me with. Nothing. It's not that I'm feeling bad about this and that I want her back, it's just that sometimes feels good to put this all into text and let it out, have some imput from other people. I don't know how I'll react when (if) she ever speaks to me again but it's not about missing the person it's just the void a person leaves when she's not there anymore. Sometimes I wonder if it was a good idea to start dating her.
Help There's a hot girl who I see quite often at work and I only work there until this thursday but I am super awkward around hot girls and can barely even speak clearly when I'm around her. I've helped her with some heavy lifting some times but have never gotten a chance to get a good conversation going. I've at least gotten to the point where when I see her from afar I smile and wave, and she smiles and waves back if she actually sees me. How do I ask her for her number or facebook or anything just to keep in touch with her at least without seeming needy or creepy?
maybe your goal should be to have a conversation with her before getting her facebook. the conversation could then lead to you adding her on facebook i guess?
Just say like "hey you seem cool and we didn't get a chance to hang out much while I was here but do you want to get lunch sometime so we can get to know each other better btw i'm sorry if I'm nervous you're just really pretty and I'm awkward"
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;45537748]Just say like "hey you seem cool and we didn't get a chance to hang out much while I was here but do you want to get lunch sometime so we can get to know each other better btw i'm sorry if I'm nervous you're just really pretty and I'm awkward"[/QUOTE] jesus christ don't do this saying anything about awkward in a conversation is a crime against humanity, whether anything is awkward or not
If you're actually awkward, you don't need to mention it again during the conversation, because the other person had most likely found out by that time. Giving emphasis on "awkward" just makes it more awkward. Fuck, that's the wisest thing I've said in years. Probably the only one too.
[QUOTE=Heigou;45533674]Everyone dies in the notebook.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=Zinayzen;45533872][url]http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=notebook[/url] #5 I think she's gonna fuck you[/QUOTE] guys please
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;45536992] I don't know how I'll react when (if) she ever speaks to me again but it's not about missing the person it's just the void a person leaves when she's not there anymore. Sometimes I wonder if it was a good idea to start dating her.[/QUOTE] With my ex, we had some of the same friends in our social circle. I never wanted to be in a relationship where friends take sides, and luckily I avoided that. Do I expect to see her again? Yeah probably, I mean I wouldn't doubt she knows what I am up to. I don't want to deal with her anymore because she caused so much grief. I don't look at her facebook. I physically can't bring myself to look at her. The way she acted towards the end was wrong. It was messy, but I think in a way the relationship was worth it. The best part of being with her was learning to be a better student. However, just because she's gone doesn't mean I am going to let her take that away from me. At the end of it all, I am able to look objectively at what it is I want in a SO. Whether or not if it was a good idea to date her, I think I have grown up emotionally for having gone through it. It's opportunity cost. I lost a girl friend, but regained/strengthened the ability to stand on my own two feet.
[QUOTE=haloguy234;45538619]guys please[/QUOTE] Idk man it sounds like a romantic thing or something tbh Like when have casual friends ever sat down to watch the notebook together Is this your stepsister or someone else
So a 3 weeks ago I finally got a facebook so me and my future roommate could talk more easily. Obviously everyone else I knew started adding me blah blah blah. Fast forward to sunday, this girl who I had a huge crush on that moved away added me. I knew she was there but I felt weird about sending her a friend request(I still harbor some feelings for her, I really shouldn't). I accepted it obviously and I decided to message her a few hours later. We messaged for hours catching up and it just made feel so happy that I got to talk to her again. All the little quirks were still there and the endless sarcasm back and forth just made me so happy. I was just [I]happy[/I]. Skip to last night, when I went to bed I read through some of the conversation and I just started sobbing. I don't know why I did but it's been a very long time since I'd last cried. I don't really have a question, I just felt the need to say it.
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;45539440]Idk man it sounds like a romantic thing or something tbh Like when have casual friends ever sat down to watch the notebook together Is this your stepsister or someone else[/QUOTE] this is my stepsister
[QUOTE=haloguy234;45540013]this is my stepsister[/QUOTE] She'll have a second title eventually at this rate.
Dude why are you still going on about your step-sister? 3:33am and I've got to be up at 6:45. Exam stress insomnia [I]fucking sucks[/I]
[QUOTE=haloguy234;45540013]this is my stepsister[/QUOTE] I'm like 80% sure she's giving you an opportunity to make a move.
[QUOTE=haloguy234;45538619]guys please[/QUOTE] go watch it
[QUOTE=loopoo;45540079]Dude why are you still going on about your step-sister?[/QUOTE] We're trying to help him fuck her is that so wrong
Texted bf complaining about cramps and he came home with this: [thumb]http://i.imgur.com/UVZoJKj.jpg?1[/thumb] Best boyfriend ever.
I'd be finally persuaded to find myself a girlfriend, if she added a PS4 to that "The Last of Us" box.
[QUOTE=meppers;45535149]I think a good looking 17 year old girl is interested in me, but I just turned 23. Is that too big of an age gap? The age of consent in Texas is 17[/QUOTE] My sister and her boyfriend have a 5 year age gap between them but they've been together for over 10 years now and have two children so I think it'll be fine.
Ended a 2 day relationship due to complete sexual incompatibility, attempted damage control by falling on my own sword so to speak and informed her that my phallus was non-functional due to a tragic accident involving radiation as a child. She didn't buy it and told me it was in fact because I was not attracted to her, so I was faced with a dilemma: should I fall on my sword again and admit I am a lying sack of shit or should I nobly continue lying to the point of absurdity? Naturally I chose option 2 and was forced to break down in tears in front of her and talk for what seemed like an eternity about how I was severely constipated as a child and when my mom took me into the doctor to get an x-ray to see exactly what the fuck was jammed in there the nurse forgot to put the lead covering over my pelvis which zapped my poor genitals with a dose of radiation that made me infertile and somehow caused mild erectile dysfunction. I tearfully explained that the malpractice lawsuit resulting from the botched x-ray was the only reason I had money to go to college, seeing as my father was still stuck in a Viet Cong POW camp somewhere in Vietnam and my poor mom had to raise me and my 10 sisters all on her lonesome. Well long story short she didn't buy any of that shit either, so regrettably we were unable to part on amicable terms but I did learn a very important lesson about honesty: keep lies believable enough so that if somebody decides to use critical thinking skills and analyze what you've said they won't be able to immediately expose your falsehoods, you need at least 10 minutes to reach your car and drive away.
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;45537748]Just say like "hey you seem cool and we didn't get a chance to hang out much while I was here but do you want to get lunch sometime so we can get to know each other better btw i'm sorry if I'm nervous you're just really pretty and I'm awkward"[/QUOTE] Great advice, make sure to pull some stardust references to smoothen the mood.
[QUOTE=Squidman;45540831]Ended a 2 day relationship due to complete sexual incompatibility, attempted damage control by falling on my own sword so to speak and informed her that my phallus was non-functional due to a tragic accident involving radiation as a child. She didn't buy it and told me it was in fact because I was not attracted to her, so I was faced with a dilemma: should I fall on my sword again and admit I am a lying sack of shit or should I nobly continue lying to the point of absurdity? Naturally I chose option 2 and was forced to break down in tears in front of her and talk for what seemed like an eternity about how I was severely constipated as a child and when my mom took me into the doctor to get an x-ray to see exactly what the fuck was jammed in there the nurse forgot to put the lead covering over my pelvis which zapped my poor genitals with a dose of radiation that made me infertile and somehow caused mild erectile dysfunction. I tearfully explained that the malpractice lawsuit resulting from the botched x-ray was the only reason I had money to go to college, seeing as my father was still stuck in a Viet Cong POW camp somewhere in Vietnam and my poor mom had to raise me and my 10 sisters all on her lonesome. Well long story short she didn't buy any of that shit either, so regrettably we were unable to part on amicable terms but I did learn a very important lesson about honesty: keep lies believable enough so that if somebody decides to use critical thinking skills and analyze what you've said they won't be able to immediately expose your falsehoods, you need at least 10 minutes to reach your car and drive away.[/QUOTE] this is the funniest story i've ever heard But also you could just like not lie
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;45537748]Just say like "hey you seem cool and we didn't get a chance to hang out much while I was here but do you want to get lunch sometime so we can get to know each other better btw i'm sorry if I'm nervous you're just really pretty and I'm awkward"[/QUOTE] i don't know if you're joking
[QUOTE=Squidman;45540831]Ended a 2 day relationship due to complete sexual incompatibility, attempted damage control by falling on my own sword so to speak and informed her that my phallus was non-functional due to a tragic accident involving radiation as a child. She didn't buy it and told me it was in fact because I was not attracted to her, so I was faced with a dilemma: should I fall on my sword again and admit I am a lying sack of shit or should I nobly continue lying to the point of absurdity? Naturally I chose option 2 and was forced to break down in tears in front of her and talk for what seemed like an eternity about how I was severely constipated as a child and when my mom took me into the doctor to get an x-ray to see exactly what the fuck was jammed in there the nurse forgot to put the lead covering over my pelvis which zapped my poor genitals with a dose of radiation that made me infertile and somehow caused mild erectile dysfunction. I tearfully explained that the malpractice lawsuit resulting from the botched x-ray was the only reason I had money to go to college, seeing as my father was still stuck in a Viet Cong POW camp somewhere in Vietnam and my poor mom had to raise me and my 10 sisters all on her lonesome. Well long story short she didn't buy any of that shit either, so regrettably we were unable to part on amicable terms but I did learn a very important lesson about honesty: keep lies believable enough so that if somebody decides to use critical thinking skills and analyze what you've said they won't be able to immediately expose your falsehoods, you need at least 10 minutes to reach your car and drive away.[/QUOTE] Holy shit, if this isn't a joke, good on you for being such an asshole against someone who liked you, I'm sure that really helped their self esteem.
You would have come out better just telling her the truth. Was it something serious? Did she refuse to go near your butt? [editline]30th July 2014[/editline] Is it just me, or is a two day relationship and already boning not really a relationship, but more of a hookup? Unless you've known them beforehand I guess.
[QUOTE=loopoo;45541283]You would have come out better just telling her the truth. Was it something serious? Did she refuse to go near your butt? [editline]30th July 2014[/editline] Is it just me, or is a two day relationship and already boning not really a relationship, but more of a hookup? Unless you've known them beforehand I guess.[/QUOTE] I wouldn't call anything under a month a "relationship", I would call it dating. But I don't think whether you're sexually active has anything to do with whether it qualifies as a relationship. Some people are fine with "already boning" early on.
[QUOTE=blacksam;45539169]With my ex, we had some of the same friends in our social circle. I never wanted to be in a relationship where friends take sides, and luckily I avoided that. Do I expect to see her again? Yeah probably, I mean I wouldn't doubt she knows what I am up to. I don't want to deal with her anymore because she caused so much grief. I don't look at her facebook. I physically can't bring myself to look at her. The way she acted towards the end was wrong. It was messy, but I think in a way the relationship was worth it. The best part of being with her was learning to be a better student. However, just because she's gone doesn't mean I am going to let her take that away from me. At the end of it all, I am able to look objectively at what it is I want in a SO. Whether or not if it was a good idea to date her, I think I have grown up emotionally for having gone through it. It's opportunity cost. I lost a girl friend, but regained/strengthened the ability to stand on my own two feet.[/QUOTE] That's really the point. I mean all my relationships have ended up in a wreck but they were worth it. At first the breakups would just devastate me but from relationship to relationship I've learned to come with the grief and make a stand on what I want and, most importantly, don't want in a relationship. And that strengthens you. The reason why I feel so insecure about this is that this was barely a relationship. I have told this story here before but we didn't have any intimacy. I kept thinking that the relationship wasn't going nowhere and she kept making a show to all of my friends on how we were a happy couple and at the end of the day we didn't have any intimacy at all. I kept asking if she wanted the relationship and she kept on putting on a happy face saying yes and then proceeded to break up with me the most devastating way ever. But I learned. She's not there anymore, we have great friends in common and I too made my best not to make this as if I was expecting them to take sides. I resorted to being diplomatic and let my friends know I would be talking to her to put some closure in the subject. But yeah it's basically the same as you, I can't even look her up on facebook anymore. I had to unfollow her. The thought of going somewhere and crossing her path kinda makes me cringe. I obviously still have flimsy feelings for her, but I want to be as far away from her as possible. All in all I learned and improved with all of this. Learned how I shouldn't take early positive conclusions about people and how I shouldn't offer myself so much to other people. Also I learned that I need to put my life straight in order to feel good about myself and I haven't been doing so these last 5 years due to my lack of dedication to university. Thank you for the input.
I posted this in Fast Threads, but I felt like I could get some help over here. Apologies in advance. I'm probably over reacting and feeling irrationally right now. I just got back from a twenty-two day trip about three days ago. My friend group has this chat thing, and when I got back I let everyone know I was back. One of my friends came to pick me up (which I'm eternally grateful for), but no one else really responded to my message about me returning. In the three days I've been back, a majority of my friends haven't actually spoken to me about anything. No steam chats, no texts, no chat messages, nothing. I haven't spoken to these guys in person since the day I left the country. I know they're active though. They respond to the other people in the chat room; but not a single message or chat has been directed towards me. I'm quite flustered right now. With university looming (and thus leaving these guys), I feel increasingly bitter. Am I just being irrational and not thinking straight though? That's my suspicion. Should I confront my friends?
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