Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Rævskjegg]

[QUOTE=Ldesu;45537243]Help

There's a hot girl who I see quite often at work and I only work there until this thursday but I am super awkward around hot girls and can barely even speak clearly when I'm around her. I've helped her with some heavy lifting some times but have never gotten a chance to get a good conversation going.

I've at least gotten to the point where when I see her from afar I smile and wave, and she smiles and waves back if she actually sees me.
How do I ask her for her number or facebook or anything just to keep in touch with her at least without seeming needy or creepy?[/QUOTE]

Welp, last day of work tomorrow, last chance to speak to hot girl.

Didn't get a chance to today

[chaz13]

[QUOTE=Ldesu;45546424]Welp, last day of work tomorrow, last chance to speak to hot girl.

Didn't get a chance to today[/QUOTE]

Do it or eternally regret it (maybe).

[blacksam]

[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;45542823]
The reason why I feel so insecure about this is that this was barely a relationship. I have told this story here before but we didn't have any intimacy. I kept thinking that the relationship wasn't going nowhere and she kept making a show to all of my friends on how we were a happy couple and at the end of the day we didn't have any intimacy at all. I kept asking if she wanted the relationship and she kept on putting on a happy face saying yes and then proceeded to break up with me the most devastating way ever.
[/QUOTE]

I had the same problem, intimacy with my ex just wasn't there with her. "Oh hey we're together let's take pictures of us" is one of my pet peeves. I have come to realize that a majority of facebook relationships like to have some veneer to them. I love having pictures together, but it should be for us not for the ex's or the kids from high school you're trying to impress that you're dating someone else.

I don't know if I ever caught it, but how did she break up with you? You've mentioned it twice now.

[kaine123]

i found out two guys my girlfriend knows had a bet with eachother over who would take the virginity of their respective girlfriends first

that disgusts me

[redBadger]

Question: How do you hit on girls?

I have an amazing, high paying job as a cashier at my grocery store making some serious $7.50 an hour. Usually mostly old fucks come in my line but once in a blue moon, usually when it's quiet, I get a few cute girls come through my line with a thing or two. Now usually I try and get them when they're solo (they're more likely to be single if they are by themselves) but I was wondering how the fuck do I hit on her and maybe get her number? What are some actual good 'pick up' lines I could use in the future.

I ask because this really amazing cute girl came through my line and she had that look on her face, like the kind of shy but cute look. She didn't have a store card so I was worried that she might not be from around here but I don't know. Maybe she'll come again. But i'd rather be prepared for when another girl might come through. Some help please!!!

[Morbo!!!]

[QUOTE=redBadger;45546865]Question: How do you hit on girls?[/QUOTE]
Raise your fist and imagine you're punching something behind them

[quote]
I have an amazing, high paying job as a cashier at my grocery store making some serious $7.50 an hour. Usually mostly old fucks come in my line but once in a blue moon, usually when it's quiet, I get a few cute girls come through my line with a thing or two. Now usually I try and get them when they're solo (they're more likely to be single if they are by themselves) but I was wondering how the fuck do I hit on her and maybe get her number? What are some actual good 'pick up' lines I could use in the future.

I ask because this really amazing cute girl came through my line and she had that look on her face, like the kind of shy but cute look. She didn't have a store card so I was worried that she might not be from around here but I don't know. Maybe she'll come again. But i'd rather be prepared for when another girl might come through. Some help please!!![/quote]

In all honesty it's probably not the best idea (or even a good one) to try to "pick up" girls while you're at work. You're there to receive their money in return for your shop's goods and it's likely they have other things to do immediately following. I doubt they'd respond too kindly to said currency receptacle stuttering out a one-liner expecting them to drop their pants there and then.

You don't get your dick in people by saying a magic sentence

[Meller Yeller]

My gf confessed to me last night that she almost dumped me out of anger when we had an argument a few nights ago. She obviously thought better of it, but it's really under my skin about how quickly she almost jumped to that. At the same time though, she obviously doesn't want to break up with me or she would've done it. And I don't want to get on her case about it because I like that she feels comfortable enough to confess something like that to me. I don't want her to feel like she can't talk about a problem she's having with me.

It also bothers me because I have a "one-and-done" sorta policy where I don't do the whole breaking up and getting back together thing (which is something she's done in previous relationships). Of course I'm not sure she actually knows I have that rule.

[redBadger]

[QUOTE=Morbo!!!;45546985]Raise your fist and imagine you're punching something behind them

In all honesty it's probably not the best idea (or even a good one) to try to "pick up" girls while you're at work. You're there to receive their money in return for your shop's goods and it's likely they have other things to do immediately following. I doubt they'd respond too kindly to said currency receptacle stuttering out a one-liner expecting them to drop their pants there and then.

You don't get your dick in people by saying a magic sentence[/QUOTE]

Alright well how about in a normal public situation .

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=redBadger;45547141]Alright well how about in a normal public situation .[/QUOTE]

A good start is usually talking to them like you would any other human being!

[redBadger]

[QUOTE=metallics;45547229]A good start is usually talking to them like you would any other human being![/QUOTE]

but how do you do that

[Morbo!!!]

[QUOTE=redBadger;45547141]Alright well how about in a normal public situation .[/QUOTE]

I'll be brief with this. Don't be the "nice guy". You must have titanium balls and nerves of steel. You want to put your dick in her and you must communicate this subtly, yet honestly - The extent to which will define whether you come off as a creep who just wants to get in her pants or the man who just will get in her pants. You must not fear or otherwise be dependent on the outcome (unless it involves the police). You will fail and fail again but that's part of it.

[editline]30th July 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=redBadger;45547337]but how do you do that[/QUOTE]

Okay forget I even said anything

[editline]30th July 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45547101]My gf confessed to me last night that she almost dumped me out of anger when we had an argument a few nights ago. She obviously thought better of it, but it's really under my skin about how quickly she almost jumped to that. At the same time though, she obviously doesn't want to break up with me or she would've done it. And I don't want to get on her case about it because I like that she feels comfortable enough to confess something like that to me. I don't want her to feel like she can't talk about a problem she's having with me.

It also bothers me because I have a "one-and-done" sorta policy where I don't do the whole breaking up and getting back together thing (which is something she's done in previous relationships). Of course I'm not sure she actually knows I have that rule.[/QUOTE]
What was the argument about? Sounds to me like you're not putting your foot down enough. Don't change your behaviour, beliefs or morals to appease a woman (Unless it's something ridiculously bad), there are plenty more out there.
If she was contemplating dumping you, it's reasonable to assume that she's already sucked at least 5 other dicks between then and now. For a girl to care whether or not you stay together, you need to not care. I don't mean give the [I]impression[/I] that you don't care, I mean you actually have to not give a quarter of a rocket-propelled turd whether she leaves or not. It sounds counter-intuitive and I won't ask you to act on this golden nugget of information without judgement but it helps in two ways; If it turns out she already has been sleeping around or dumps you or whatever, you won't be phased. The second way, well, that's up to you to find out if you got the balls.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Morbo!!!;45547401]If she was contemplating dumping you, it's reasonable to assume that she's already sucked at least 5 other dicks between then and now.[/QUOTE]

The hell?

[editline]30th July 2014[/editline]

No, you're right. If she wants a breakup, it's obviously because she's a sociopathic whore. After all, when has a man ever done anything wrong in a relationship?

[FlashMarsh]

[QUOTE=Morbo!!!;45547401]I'll be brief with this. Don't be the "nice guy". You must have titanium balls and nerves of steel. You want to put your dick in her and you must communicate this subtly, yet honestly - The extent to which will define whether you come off as a creep who just wants to get in her pants or the man who just will get in her pants. You must not fear or otherwise be dependent on the outcome (unless it involves the police). You will fail and fail again but that's part of it.

[editline]30th July 2014[/editline]

Okay forget I even said anything

[editline]30th July 2014[/editline]

What was the argument about? Sounds to me like you're not putting your foot down enough. Don't change your behaviour, beliefs or morals to appease a woman (Unless it's something ridiculously bad), there are plenty more out there.
If she was contemplating dumping you, it's reasonable to assume that she's already sucked at least 5 other dicks between then and now. For a girl to care whether or not you stay together, you need to not care. I don't mean give the [I]impression[/I] that you don't care, I mean you actually have to not give a quarter of a rocket-propelled turd whether she leaves or not. It sounds counter-intuitive and I won't ask you to act on this golden nugget of information without judgement but it helps in two ways; If it turns out she already has been sleeping around or dumps you or whatever, you won't be phased. The second way, well, that's up to you to find out if you got the balls.[/QUOTE]

What the hell are you on about

[editline]30th July 2014[/editline]

Don't people argue in most relationships to a certain extent anyway

No Nevermind that she's cheating on you get out asap

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=FlashMarsh;45547719]What the hell are you on about

[editline]30th July 2014[/editline]

Don't people argue in most relationships to a certain extent anyway

No Nevermind that she's cheating on you get out asap[/QUOTE]

Everyone argues but in a strong relationship you should be able to resolve those arguments. Wanting to break up is different (though it didn't actually happen so I wouldn't worry about it - what's important is that it was an impulse in the heat of the moment and she chose not to act on it).

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Morbo!!!;45547401]wall of text[/QUOTE]

MRA / REDPILL pls go.
This is the biggest pile of bullshit I've seen here in a while.

[rsk_]

-snip-

[FlashMarsh]

[QUOTE=Dorkslayz;45547982]Fuck my life, seriously :)[/QUOTE]

okay then

[Meller Yeller]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45547751]Everyone argues but in a strong relationship you should be able to resolve those arguments. Wanting to break up is different (though it didn't actually happen so I wouldn't worry about it - what's important is that it was an impulse in the heat of the moment and she chose not to act on it).[/QUOTE]

What's in parenthesis is what I keep telling myself. Some other information I didn't include is that she was/is on her period and she definitely can get a bit emotional, impulsive, and defensive. It still bothers me, but I know that reaction was just in the heat of the moment trying to hurt me and she doesn't actually want to leave me. But honestly, resolving arguments (even though they're few and far between) is probably her biggest flaw to me. She's one of those people who has a very hard time taking responsibility for her actions. Her first reaction is to get defensive and make herself the victim by saying I'm "making her feel shitty" or something like that.
Normally, that might be too much for me to handle but we get along really well so those arguments are very rare. Also, she recognizes that she has this problem and is actively trying to change it. I respect that since most people I meet that way are in complete denial.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=redBadger;45546865]Question: How do you hit on girls?

I have an amazing, high paying job as a cashier at my grocery store making some serious $7.50 an hour. Usually mostly old fucks come in my line but once in a blue moon, usually when it's quiet, I get a few cute girls come through my line with a thing or two. Now usually I try and get them when they're solo (they're more likely to be single if they are by themselves) but I was wondering how the fuck do I hit on her and maybe get her number? What are some actual good 'pick up' lines I could use in the future.

I ask because this really amazing cute girl came through my line and she had that look on her face, like the kind of shy but cute look. She didn't have a store card so I was worried that she might not be from around here but I don't know. Maybe she'll come again. But i'd rather be prepared for when another girl might come through. Some help please!!![/QUOTE]

"hey are you free after my hours ;)"

[Zinayzen]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45547695]The hell?

[editline]30th July 2014[/editline]

No, you're right. If she wants a breakup, it's obviously because she's a sociopathic whore. After all, when has a man ever done anything wrong in a relationship?[/QUOTE]

It's because the men just CARE TOO MUCH and it drives the sluts away. They come for my ayn rand quotations and fedora, stay for my dick, and leave at the feelings.

[Fire Kracker]

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45548533]What's in parenthesis is what I keep telling myself. Some other information I didn't include is that she was/is on her period and she definitely can get a bit emotional, impulsive, and defensive. It still bothers me, but I know that reaction was just in the heat of the moment trying to hurt me and she doesn't actually want to leave me. But honestly, resolving arguments (even though they're few and far between) is probably her biggest flaw to me. She's one of those people who has a very hard time taking responsibility for her actions. Her first reaction is to get defensive and make herself the victim by saying I'm "making her feel shitty" or something like that.
Normally, that might be too much for me to handle but we get along really well so those arguments are very rare. Also, she recognizes that she has this problem and is actively trying to change it. I respect that since most people I meet that way are in complete denial.[/QUOTE]

that's how my friend is too

it bothers me

[FlashMarsh]

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45548533]What's in parenthesis is what I keep telling myself. Some other information I didn't include is that she was/is on her period and she definitely can get a bit emotional, impulsive, and defensive. It still bothers me, but I know that reaction was just in the heat of the moment trying to hurt me and she doesn't actually want to leave me. But honestly, resolving arguments (even though they're few and far between) is probably her biggest flaw to me. She's one of those people who has a very hard time taking responsibility for her actions. Her first reaction is to get defensive and make herself the victim by saying I'm "making her feel shitty" or something like that.
Normally, that might be too much for me to handle but we get along really well so those arguments are very rare. Also, she recognizes that she has this problem and is actively trying to change it. I respect that since most people I meet that way are in complete denial.[/QUOTE]

is people being 'on their period' a real thing, or is just a sexist thing used to put down women? Genuine question

[Squidman]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45541242]Holy shit, if this isn't a joke, good on you for being such an asshole against someone who liked you, I'm sure that really helped their self esteem.[/QUOTE]

Don't worry it's a joke, in reality I only have 4 sisters.

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45548533]What's in parenthesis is what I keep telling myself. Some other information I didn't include is that she was/is on her period and she definitely can get a bit emotional, impulsive, and defensive. It still bothers me, but I know that reaction was just in the heat of the moment trying to hurt me and she doesn't actually want to leave me. But honestly, resolving arguments (even though they're few and far between) is probably her biggest flaw to me. She's one of those people who has a very hard time taking responsibility for her actions. Her first reaction is to get defensive and make herself the victim by saying I'm "making her feel shitty" or something like that.
Normally, that might be too much for me to handle but we get along really well so those arguments are very rare. Also, she recognizes that she has this problem and is actively trying to change it. I respect that since most people I meet that way are in complete denial.[/QUOTE]

I know nothing about your situation or the specifics of your arguments, but is it possible you're approaching issues in an intimidating way, even if you don't intend it to come off that way? It's unfortunate that she's not super accepting of criticism, but it might be because you're not communicating with her in a way that she responds well to.

[QUOTE=FlashMarsh;45548650]is people being 'on their period' a real thing, or is just a sexist thing used to put down women? Genuine question[/QUOTE]

Men make a bigger deal of it than they should and women use it as an excuse for bad moods. I do think the excuse of "she was on her period" can be very belittling to a partner's emotions. Regardless of factors like menstrual cycle, you should still take your partner's complaints seriously and recognize that there always a source of their emotions, even if an external factor is amplifying them. PMS can certainly affect your emotions, but not intensely enough that you shouldn't be able to control your actions.

Pregnancy is a different story. Being pregnant makes you fucking insane.

[Meller Yeller]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45548804]I know nothing about your situation or the specifics of your arguments, but is it possible you're approaching issues in an intimidating way, even if you don't intend it to come off that way? It's unfortunate that she's not super accepting of criticism, but it might be because you're not communicating with her in a way that she responds well to.

Men make a bigger deal of it than they should and women use it as an excuse for bad moods. I do think the excuse of "she was on her period" can be very belittling to a partner's emotions. Regardless of factors like menstrual cycle, you should still take your partner's complaints seriously and recognize that there always a source of their emotions, even if an external factor is amplifying them. PMS can certainly affect your emotions, but not intensely enough that you shouldn't be able to control your actions.

Pregnancy is a different story. Being pregnant makes you fucking insane.[/QUOTE]

For whatever reason, her periods are a little more... intense than what I've been used to to this point. Intense to the point that in these times, she'll break down and cry over being out of cereal or something. I know both men and women are bad to use it as an excuse for behavior, but she legitimately struggles to function with other people on it. She's on the depo which helps a lot, but she's a bit overdue and it's starting again.

As to how I approach issues, I'm sure I've said things the wrong way. But since I've gotten to know her, I've learned to approach things more sensitively. It works better and, again, she acknowledges the issue. I think the main problem is that her parents and siblings are exactly the same way. Apologizing and taking responsibility is just not the environment she's been around, but she wants to change.

[Fire Kracker]

that's good on her and good on you for being able to handle it

i personally would have dipped long ago

[Guy Mannly]

[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45548991]For whatever reason, her periods are a little more... intense than what I've been used to to this point. Intense to the point that in these times, she'll break down and cry over being out of cereal or something. I know both men and women are bad to use it as an excuse for behavior, but she legitimately struggles to function with other people on it. She's on the depo which helps a lot, but she's a bit overdue and it's starting again.

As to how I approach issues, I'm sure I've said things the wrong way. But since I've gotten to know her, I've learned to approach things more sensitively. It works better and, again, she acknowledges the issue. I think the main problem is that her parents and siblings are exactly the same way. Apologizing and taking responsibility is just not the environment she's been around, but she wants to change.[/QUOTE]

Fair enough. What I meant was it can be dangerous to blame emotional outbursts solely on a woman's period, but it sounds like you don't need me to tell you that.

It's good that she wants to change, but it might be difficult if she's still living with her family because they might be reinforcing the behavior she's trying to fix. Hopefully over time she'll get used to the idea of accountability and it won't be as big of a deal.

If you don't mind my asking, what sort of issues are you bringing up that are bothering her?

[Meller Yeller]

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45549058]Fair enough. What I meant was it can be dangerous to blame emotional outbursts solely on a woman's period, but it sounds like you don't need me to tell you that.

It's good that she wants to change, but it might be difficult if she's still living with her family because they might be reinforcing the behavior she's trying to fix. Hopefully over time she'll get used to the idea of accountability and it won't be as big of a deal.

If you don't mind my asking, what sort of issues are you bringing up that are bothering her?[/QUOTE]

She has a lot of deep issues I won't go into that stem from her family and some pretty messed up stuff she had to experience throughout highschool. It's a fairly long list of things that no one that young (or in general really) should have to experience. But her father especially is a reinforcer of this. He acts this way towards his entire family including his own wife to a much more extreme extent. He's always right and everyone else is always wrong. She even admits that this probably has a lot to do with it because of all the heated fights she's had with him over the years.

And one example of an issue I recently brought up is the one in my original post. I told her how it bothered me that she almost broke it off. She calmly explained to me later that it was just in the heat of the moment out of anger, but originally she got very defensive and gave me an earful about how it was my fault because I made her so angry at such a bad time.

[editline]31st July 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Fire Kracker;45549045]that's good on her and good on you for being able to handle it

i personally would have dipped long ago[/QUOTE]

The birth control has been a huge help and makes a very noticeable difference. But it worries me about what's to come if we ever got to the point where she needed to go off of it.

[FlashMarsh]

[QUOTE=Medevila;45549139]Need to vent

Had a mutual decided breakup with a girl after five months. She kind of brought it about though. The day I left for college she completely stopped talking to me. We then had fragmented, sporadic communication for about two weeks. Finally I was fed up and asked her if she was trying to drop a hint. She said "maybe" so I more or less (in a more friendly way) said "let me help you decide" and we broke up.

Now I've been told she'd been talking behind my back during those two weeks silence. I haven't said a word about her since we broke up, but I've been told she's said some more stuff and more recently she removed me/blocked me wherever she could online.

I've kind of moved out of my small town on to uni and I feel like I should care less about what she does to my reputation back home, but at the same time I'm really upset about this and don't want to confront her because I feel like that'd just be stooping down to her level.

Advice?[/QUOTE]

Just move on

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Medevila;45549139]
Advice?[/QUOTE]

Move on. Not only would you go down to her level but you would be making yourself an even more relevant topic of conversation.

[editline]31st July 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Dorkslayz;45547982]Fuck my life, seriously :)[/QUOTE]

Are you still hitting up girls on facebook? You can't expect anyone to answer unless they really are your close friend, they don't have som sort of obligation to talk to you if they aren't interrested.

[editline]31st July 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=vizard38;45546257]I posted this in Fast Threads, but I felt like I could get some help over here. Apologies in advance.

I'm probably over reacting and feeling irrationally right now. I just got back from a twenty-two day trip about three days ago. My friend group has this chat thing, and when I got back I let everyone know I was back. One of my friends came to pick me up (which I'm eternally grateful for), but no one else really responded to my message about me returning. In the three days I've been back, a majority of my friends haven't actually spoken to me about anything. No steam chats, no texts, no chat messages, nothing. I haven't spoken to these guys in person since the day I left the country. I know they're active though. They respond to the other people in the chat room; but not a single message or chat has been directed towards me. I'm quite flustered right now. With university looming (and thus leaving these guys), I feel increasingly bitter.

Am I just being irrational and not thinking straight though? That's my suspicion. Should I confront my friends?[/QUOTE]

How about talking to them?

"Confronting" people, when it is mentioned, is usually the worst choice possible. What do you think would make them talk more to you?
A: You talking to them, socializing, perhaps meeting them.
B: You complaining about them not talking to you.