Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT

[Rocâ„¢]

[QUOTE=metallics;45825160]This.

[editline]28th August 2014[/editline]

I dunno though, have you tried asking her? Maybe she likes to eat them or something?

I don't understand your point, you come in to a forum full of international people, give absolutely no background about something you perceive as vital to understanding your entire post, argue it out for quite some time and then go OH MY GOD HOW COULD YOU GUYS NOT KNOW THIS??? Get overly hostile about the whole thing and then complain when you get no advice.

My advice: Stop being a muppet.[/QUOTE]

I'm the muppet?
I got hostile? What the fuck?

So, I come in here, talk about the thing at hand, get criticized and called a douchebag a few times because despite me actually writting everything, making a long as fuck and detailed post about it, [b]and everyone proceeding to disregarding what I say and calling it wrong assumptions and shallow expectations[i] of the people I know and no one else here does[/i][/b], explaining it multiple times in a row why this or that are they way I say they are, and nobody still giving a fuck about it and still keep on the stubborn "you're wrong, I'm right" train, and then you come and say I didn't bother to give a background for my post? And then I get people calling me douchebag, immature and whatever else, and I get overly hostile?

Are you fucking joking or something?

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Rocâ„¢;45825580]I'm the muppet?
I got hostile? What the fuck?

So, I come in here, talk about the thing at hand, get criticized and called a douchebag a few times because despite me actually writting everything, making a long as fuck and detailed post about it, [b]and everyone proceeding to disregarding what I say and calling it wrong assumptions and shallow expectations[i] of the people I know and no one else here does[/i][/b], explaining it multiple times in a row why this or that are they way I say they are, and nobody still giving a fuck about it and still keep on the stubborn "you're wrong, I'm right" train, and then you come and say I didn't bother to give a background for my post? And then I get people calling me douchebag, immature and whatever else, and I get overly hostile?

Are you fucking joking or something?[/QUOTE]

Sarcasm is just another free service I offer. But seriously, you are a muppet, chill.

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Rocâ„¢;45824679]
Stuff like that isn't quite normal around here. [b]This is what I've been trying to say for a while already and asking for advice on the matter, but everyone is busy overanalyzing my posts and telling me I'm this and that.[/b][/QUOTE]
Look, you asked for advice but instead you just focused on how "crazy" she was for liking the world's most common fetish.

Being in a group or area of closed - minded people doesn't mean you're not close minded yourself, and you can't expect us to just know that "everyone" around you thinks bondage is weird.
Besides, it's a really good sign when a girl knows her kinks, because she had the guts to do it despite being stigmatised by immature and judgemental guys like yourself.

[Rocâ„¢]

[QUOTE=metallics;45825744]Sarcasm is just another free service I offer. But seriously, you are a muppet, chill.[/QUOTE]

Ah ok. Sarcasm through the internet always works so well.
And I'm the muppet because you say so and you're obviously right, ofc, why didn't I think of that, thank you oh wise knowitall :downs:

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Rocâ„¢;45825814]Ah ok. Sarcasm through the internet always works so well.
And I'm the muppet because you say so and you're obviously right, ofc, why didn't I think of that, thank you oh wise knowitall :downs:[/QUOTE]

It was some incredibly obvious sarcasm buddy.
Did it never cross your mind that liking living candles is a perfectly normal thing for girls? I've never met a girl who would complain about romantic things like that.

[Rocâ„¢]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45825788]Look, you asked for advice but instead you just focused on how "crazy" she was for liking the world's most common fetish.

Being in a group or area of closed - minded people doesn't mean you're not close minded yourself, and you can't expect us to just know that "everyone" around you thinks bondage is weird.
Besides, it's a really good sign when a girl knows her kinks, because she had the guts to do it despite being stigmatised by immature and judgemental guys like yourself.[/QUOTE]

Again......
Reading it wrong, or just understanding what you WANT to understand from my post.

I didn't focus on how crazy she was. YOU guys did. You all started assuming I was judging her over she liking stuff that, around here, isn't considered very regular stuff. You guys centered yourselves on my half-assed analysis of her.
And if anyone actually bothered to read the whole post, which I bet nobody did, they'd realize the problems I actually have in this whole thing:

[QUOTE=Rocâ„¢;45817448]On to the problems...
I don't know what to do with her. She never has the chance of going out with me because of her cuntish family(or maybe she doesn't wants to go out with me, but I don't think thats the case...) and she MIGHT go to college away from me, and that would be really really crappy. I could see her on weekends but...
I also don't know if I'm 100% sure on the whole sadistic business. It sounds like a "triple A+" thing on paper right now, but... would it really be?[/QUOTE]

My problems are werther if I should pursue something with her or not. She's going to college who knows where, and I feel like distance wouldn't be good at all. Seeing her only on weekends would be a small remedy, but it would still be not that great. To add up to that, she can't go out all that much because of her family always bossing her around, making it even harder to meet up.

An optional question there. Read this ffs.
The whole s&m thing? Sounds wonderful to me actually. But as I've said like ten times before since my first post, that stuff is seen as kinda weird around here. What's it like hiding that from people you know that would probably not look at you the same way if they knew?

What you guys set out to do, was not bothering at all with the actual questions, and just resort to a witch hunt, calling me names, after analysing me for no reason whatsoever and assuming everything is exactly like you know.
Despite me saying the opposite.
Many times.

And nobody still ever gave a crap, and just resorted to calling me douchebag, immature, muppet and making shitty jokes.

[Loopoo]

can you stop with the excessively long essays in response to literal one line comments? it's hard to get myself to read your posts when it's just a wall of text mainly consisting of whining

[editline]28th August 2014[/editline]

also muppet really isn't that horrible a word, lighten up

[Rocâ„¢]

[QUOTE=loopoo;45826256]can you stop with the excessively long essays in response to literal one line comments? it's hard to get myself to read your posts when it's just a wall of text mainly consisting of whining

[editline]28th August 2014[/editline]

also muppet really isn't that horrible a word, lighten up[/QUOTE]

Why are you still here then?

[OscarLimaEcho]

If you want to play the blame game, knock yourself out. This lashing out just shows it's probably not a good idea to get together with this girl.

[FlashMarsh]

Roca stop you're embarrassing yourself

[Loopoo]

Moving into my new apartment on Saturday, checked it out today, pretty happy with it. Though for the price I'm paying every month, I feel like the estate agents are not doing their job when it comes to maintenance. Kinda bums me out cause I'm gonna have to hassle them to come fix a bunch of shit and it sort of ruins that happy "new place" excitement.

OVERALL THOUGH! New apartment feeling is the best. And then I'm off to Italy with the rents for some family bonding time for 2 weeks, hell yes. First family holiday in about 6 or 7 years. Just me, the old man and mother dearest. Life is brilliant right now. Once I get back from a - hopefully - awesome holiday, I've got university to look forward to.

[Guy Mannly]

Just ignore him at this point, his ego is too sensitive for any of us to communicate with him.

[Rhenae]

[QUOTE]The whole s&m thing? Sounds wonderful to me actually. But as I've said like ten times before since my first post, that stuff is seen as kinda weird around here. What's it like hiding that from people you know that would probably not look at you the same way if they knew?[/QUOTE]

Its just a bedroom thing so its really not that hard to hide, are you moved out or still at home? If your at home I probably wouldnt buy any gear, but for some light bondage you dont really need it, you can tie arms with bandanas or scarves rather than rope. Nothing too fancy required. Most of s&m really is in the acting for each scene, especially if you dont naturally fall into a dom personality.

It really depends on what aspects of it you really want to get into though.

[Rocâ„¢]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45826366]If you want to play the blame game, knock yourself out. This lashing out just shows it's probably not a good idea to get together with this girl.[/QUOTE]

How is it blame game? What the hell?
I came in here asking if distance could be a bad thing or not, then people call me a douchebag, and now I'm the one with the ego and embarassing myself?

No, really, explain to me what the hell are you guys talking about.
I just came in here asking advice, and what I get instead is a couple of people overanalyzing stuff that doesn't really matters, flaming and criticizing. At this point, I don't even understand what's the problem at hand anymore. All anyone does is throwing jokes or saying nothing whatsoever.

[editline]28th August 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Rhenae;45826607]Its just a bedroom thing so its really not that hard to hide, are you moved out or still at home? If your at home I probably wouldnt buy any gear, but for some light bondage you dont really need it, you can tie arms with bandanas or scarves rather than rope. Nothing too fancy required. Most of s&m really is in the acting for each scene, especially if you dont naturally fall into a dom personality.

It really depends on what aspects of it you really want to get into though.[/QUOTE]

Still at home sadly, so I guess I can't invest on anything, mainly because money is also a problem at this point.
Thanks for answering.

[OscarLimaEcho]

You're lashing out at everything that doesn't confirm your opinion. You wrote several paragraphs judging her for not being "normal", and proceed to get pissed off for being called out over it.

You don't sound ready for a LDR let alone a regular relationship, and if someone I dated wrote so much crap about me just because I didn't do the exact same thing as everyone else, I'd be pretty disappointed.

[Rocâ„¢]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45826761]You're lashing out at everything that doesn't confirm your opinion. You wrote several paragraphs judging her for not being "normal", and proceed to get pissed off for being called out over it.

You don't sound ready for a LDR let alone a regular relationship, and if someone I dated wrote so much crap about me just because I didn't do the exact same thing as everyone else, I'd be pretty disappointed.[/QUOTE]

Just because you say I judged her doesn't means that I did. I just said she isn't like most other girls around here, and most of you grabbed on to that and made a fuss over it as if it meant a whole lot or as if I knew everything about her and was laying out law on her or something. Ofc I get pissed off when someone continues to say you're wrong about something they don't know a thing about. Ofc I get pissed off when someone keeps pointing out something that has literaly nothing to do with what's being discussed. You took everything in the post so seriously, following it by rule, and then ignored what really mattered. And when you assumed I was this and that, you could have maybe asked what I meant and what was it like around here, instead of jumping straight on to saying "You're a cunt"

Maybe I lash out because theres like 5 different people calling me a douchebag, completely disregarding whatever I say. It's not confirming my opinion, its not confirming theirs.

[Metallics]

[QUOTE=Rocâ„¢;45826872]Just because you say I judged her doesn't means that I did. I just said she isn't like most other girls around here, and most of you grabbed on to that and made a fuss over it as if it meant a whole lot or as if I knew everything about her and was laying out law on her or something. Ofc I get pissed off when someone continues to say you're wrong about something they don't know a thing about. Ofc I get pissed off when someone keeps pointing out something that has literaly nothing to do with what's being discussed. You took everything in the post so seriously, following it by rule, and then ignored what really mattered. And when you assumed I was this and that, you could have maybe asked what I meant and what was it like around here, instead of jumping straight on to saying "You're a cunt"

Maybe I lash out because theres like 5 different people calling me a douchebag, completely disregarding whatever I say. It's not confirming my opinion, its not confirming theirs.[/QUOTE]

You're not a douchebag, you're a muppet. A whole different ball game.

[OscarLimaEcho]

I almost feel sorry for you at this point.

[Rocâ„¢]

[QUOTE=metallics;45827129]You're not a douchebag, you're a muppet. A whole different ball game.[/QUOTE]

difference?

[editline]28th August 2014[/editline]

[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45827139]I almost feel sorry for you at this point.[/QUOTE]

Sigh... Whatever, ok then, do as you wish. "FP is always right"

[Loopoo]

-actually nvm-

[FlashMarsh]

[QUOTE=Rocâ„¢;45827200]difference?

[editline]28th August 2014[/editline]

Sigh... Whatever, ok then, do as you wish. "FP is always right"[/QUOTE]

well, what are we meant to say lmao, 'no nevermidn we were all wrong good sir carry on'

[OscarLimaEcho]

[QUOTE=Rocâ„¢;45827200]difference?

[editline]28th August 2014[/editline]

Sigh... Whatever, ok then, do as you wish. "FP is always right"[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry we didn't adjust to your culture at looking down on everyone different, next time we'll make sure to discuss if she's a 5 or 6 on the crazy scale instead.

[Rhenae]

oh my god guys shut up no one cares, prolonging this discussion is pointless

[Dysentery]

how did i know all these posts would be an argument :v: oh you guys

[Rossy167]

What has happened to me over the past few months?! I've lost all my confidence and charisma, I'm not really sure how to talk to people anymore, sometimes I try to speak and words don't come out, I used to be the loudest person in the room at any given time.

I can't even vent about it to anyone because I've moved school so all my old friends are pushing me away because they'll barely talk to me soon and I barely know any of my new friends and they barely know me.

[TrannyAlert]

Paranoia has set in now. These voices need to fuck off

I need to find something to do to take my mind off her ty

[OscarLimaEcho]

Oneitis is hard to get over the first time, but it's something everyone needs to experience and "survive" at least once. Consider spending time with friends and exercise, everything else is about realizing almost anyone can be as good as her.

[TrannyAlert]

It's her birthday this Sat and so I'm heading down to where she lives to watch Ice Hockey with her and then we're going out drinking with her friends.

I'm gonna couch crash at hers and then hopefully on Sunday she's coming round to mine and playing Dungeons and Dragons and staying over :)

I just hope it all goes well

[DepDirkson]

So her mom contacted me earlier this afternoon on a fb message and told me that the doctors are keeping her in inpatient, but that they are fighting to get her to outpatient at home.

A burst of relief that she is at least okay, but still.

[paindoc]

Alright, so a while ago I moved out of Ohio after living there for 3 years. My dad was in medical school and we moved around every year or 6 months or so. I started putting down some serious roots, and made some great friends that it [I]really[/I] sucked to leave behind.

One such friend was someone I met within a few weeks of moving there and we pretty quickly became best friends and attached at the hip. She was super chill, the total opposite of me, but we still became pretty much attached at the hip at school and she came up with those silly middle school ways of "flirting". Walk with me to class, hey its cold can i hug you, lets work on this project together, hey come to this concert/movie/etc with me. Of course I was pants-on-head retarded and never caught on to how GLARINGLY FUCKING OBVIOUS this was and psyched myself out. Eventually she grew impatient (don't blame her, christ I was retarded) and decided to say lets just be friends. I was good friends with her nevertheless and avoided bitching about the friendzone too much, I liked her as a person enough to just be happy shit didn't get weird. (there's a lot more to this story but its just bloat and not really relevant). Anyways, I moved away and only talked to her slightly more than my other friends. With the chaos and incredible pile of work that is highschool with piles of AP classes and extra curricular classes I drifted away from most of these people.

Recently, since we're all been heading off to college I've been FB messaging, or if applicable, texting them and checking in to see how things are purely out of wanting to know how their lives are going. All the dudes were happy to talk and I actually still occasionally chat with all of them. My one FB attempt with her got no reply, and previously she's been fairly enthused. I can't tell if shes changed, or if she thinks I'm still into her, or what. I accidentally texted her today trying to contact someone with a very similar name, and she seemed like herself and I [U]really[/U] wanted to strike up a casual conversation but I'm deathly afraid of appearing like a creep or too clingy or anything.

I've lived in a lot of places and met a lot of people, and she was one of the coolest people I've ever met. I just want to talk to my old best friend like we were friends again ;_;

tl:dr- want to contact and talk with old best friend, complicated by past relationship-not-relationship and the fact that shes a girl. What do?