Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45883286]Having a legit pregnancy scare right now. And it fucking sucks because we often used other methods ON TOP of her being on the depo birth control shot. If we ever weren't extra safe we were sure to wait until it was a least a month after her shot and she wasn't on any antibiotics or anything. But this shit still might be happening. Seriously, what else could these be?[/QUOTE]
Oh my god how many times do I have to post [url=http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1257818&p=45099245&viewfull=1#post45099245]this[/url]
If you're using condoms (I assume that's what you meant by "other methods"?) AND hormonal birth control and using both properly, she is not pregnant. And if I'm wrong, you should be going to the national news instead of Facepunch because you've performed a miracle.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45884005]Oh my god how many times do I have to post [url=http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?t=1257818&p=45099245&viewfull=1#post45099245]this[/url]
If you're using condoms (I assume that's what you meant by "other methods"?) AND hormonal birth control and using both properly, she is not pregnant. And if I'm wrong, you should be going to the national news instead of Facepunch because you've performed a miracle.[/QUOTE]
I would assume it would be from one of those times without a condom that I mentioned. But like I said we were very careful that it only happened when the shot had been in her system for a while and nothing was affecting it.
If she's getting the shot every 3 months like she's supposed to, you have nothing to worry about. There are plenty of possible causes for those symptoms. "Being hungry" isn't a medical symptom, as I'm sure you can imagine there are a million possible reasons for exerting more calories than you usually do on a particular day.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45884169]If she's getting the shot every 3 months like she's supposed to, you have nothing to worry about. There are plenty of possible causes for those symptoms. "Being hungry" isn't a medical symptom, as I'm sure you can imagine there are a million possible reasons for exerting more calories than you usually do on a particular day.[/QUOTE]
Yes, she has always been on time with each one. And the constant appetite doesn't worry me alone. Honestly, if it was just everything but the sudden morning sickness and sensitivity to certain smells, I would be perfectly fine.
I've never heard the latter be a symptom of anything else but pregnancy.
Morning nausea could be attributed to her diet, too. Low blood sugar in the mornings is probably the cause.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45884234]Morning nausea could be attributed to her diet, too. Low blood sugar in the mornings is probably the cause.[/QUOTE]
Could be. Now if somebody could explain why, as of two days ago, she's sickened by the smell of something she's loved her whole life and enjoys the smell of something she used to hate, I would feel a lot better.
I don't even know what to say to this lol.
"Not enjoying a certain smell" is not a legitimate symptom of pregnancy.
Then take a pregnancy test. This is like that friend who googles too much and starts self diagnosing but keeps asking "ITS NOT CANCER, RIGHT?" and assurance, but then dismisses every comment that doesn't confirm cancer.
[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45879383]If you honestly don't think it's about a sedentary lifestyle, consult a doctor. If you actually live an active lifestyle it might be something mundane like iron deficency.[/QUOTE]
Yeah mostly I just sit on my ass all day and code or play games. I drink a lot of soda and for some reason it seems we're short on cash so my mom buys shit on sale and usually that shit on sale is junk food and not actually healthy food.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45884282]I don't even know what to say to this lol.
"Not enjoying a certain smell" is not a legitimate symptom of pregnancy.[/QUOTE]
According to every pregnant person it is. Smell sensitivity is very common symptom actually. And it's what worries me most since that's about the only thing its associated with.
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;45884312]Yeah mostly I just sit on my ass all day and code or play games. I drink a lot of soda and for some reason it seems we're short on cash so my mom buys shit on sale and usually that shit on sale is junk food and not actually healthy food.[/QUOTE]
I'm sure you don't need us to tell you that your lifestyle isn't healthy and is almost certainly contributing to you not feeling awake during the day. You should try looking for a physical activity you enjoy doing, maybe biking? Just getting outside and walking around would be a good start.
As for diet, you could start by drinking water instead of soda.
I'm sure she buys eggs at least, right? You could have eggs for breakfast.
You can probably find whole-grain food for cheap as well. Wild rice is cheap and easy to prepare.
When I don't have time to cook half of my diet ends up being eggs and wild rice.
[QUOTE=Oscar Lima Echo;45884302]Then take a pregnancy test. This is like that friend who googles too much and starts self diagnosing but keeps asking "ITS NOT CANCER, RIGHT?" and assurance, but then dismisses every comment that doesn't confirm cancer.[/QUOTE]
She is, I'm just freaking out in the meantime.
[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45884396]According to every pregnant person it is. Smell sensitivity is very common symptom actually. And it's what worries me most since that's about the only thing its associated with.[/QUOTE]
Save your concerns for after she takes a pregnancy test. Your chances of getting her pregnant in the situation you're in are incredibly low.
I can almost promise that the reason you sleep like shit and perform like shit is because [I]you spend your time on shit[/I] and [I]feed on shit[/I]. What you're doing is the worst you can do to your body and career.
Buying simple lettuce or vegetables isn't an impossible task, and if you stop leeching money for soda it's a lot more likely your family can eat healthier foods.
[editline]4th September 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45884405]She is, I'm just freaking out in the meantime.[/QUOTE]
Then stop, the test is being taken and there's nothing to be done. The most important thing is to be sure of your methods and agree on what should be done if a pregnancy did occur.
[editline]4th September 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45884396]According to every pregnant person it is. Smell sensitivity is very common symptom actually. And it's what worries me most since that's about the only thing its associated with.[/QUOTE]
Yeah because it doesn't have to be a goddamn symptom, and things like that can change on a whim, there's been dishes I've loved for 10 years since my childhood but I've avoided because of the smell I no longer like.
You [I]want[/I] to see a pattern here, it's time to stop playing doctor and support your girlfriend.
So I have almost totally fallen for this one girl, I think she sort of likes me but it's hard to tell. I would just ASK HER OUT as the title of this thread tells me but this girl is a bit odd, very materialistic and sorta spoiled. It's a pretty big turn off for me but I still think and care about her quite a lot. She has mentioned a couple times now that we should hang out but I'm just not sure. I guess I'm more worried that I will put too much into the relationship and not have any of the care returned. I love to listen to her talk and just be around her, her laugh is awesome and she is pretty geeky as well. I just don't know if it would be a good relationship. Perfect girl in almost every way, she just has had a spoiled lifestyle and she really does show it.
[QUOTE=ColdWave;45884600]So I have almost totally fallen for this one girl, I think she sort of likes me but it's hard to tell. I would just ASK HER OUT as the title of this thread tells me but this girl is a bit odd, very materialistic and sorta spoiled. It's a pretty big turn off for me but I still think and care about her quite a lot. She has mentioned a couple times now that we should hang out but I'm just not sure. I guess I'm more worried that I will put too much into the relationship and not have any of the care returned. I love to listen to her talk and just be around her, her laugh is awesome and she is pretty geeky as well. I just don't know if it would be a good relationship. Perfect girl in almost every way, she just has had a spoiled lifestyle and she really does show it.[/QUOTE]
If she's offered to hang out, you should probably hang out. From what I see here you two have fun together, so it will probably go well.
Man, that's a few too many probablys for a post of mine.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45884400]I'm sure you don't need us to tell you that your lifestyle isn't healthy and is almost certainly contributing to you not feeling awake during the day. You should try looking for a physical activity you enjoy doing, maybe biking? Just getting outside and walking around would be a good start.
As for diet, you could start by drinking water instead of soda.
I'm sure she buys eggs at least, right? You could have eggs for breakfast.
You can probably find whole-grain food for cheap as well. Wild rice is cheap and easy to prepare.
When I don't have time to cook half of my diet ends up being eggs and wild rice.[/QUOTE]
I'll try drinking water instead and make scrambled eggs for breakfast every day.
The irony is that I need the caffeine to stay awake. I'm sure a good breakfast would help.
[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;45885056]I'll try drinking water instead and make scrambled eggs for breakfast every day.
The irony is that I need the caffeine to stay awake. I'm sure a good breakfast would help.[/QUOTE]
Quitting caffeine will suck for a few days but it will be better for you in the long run. It's a lot easier to regulate your sleep if you aren't ingesting tons of caffeine throughout the day.
[editline]3rd September 2014[/editline]
A good breakfast will definitely help as well. Sugary/starchy foods (like most breakfast cereals) will energize you for a couple hours but leave you starving and tired pretty quickly.
[QUOTE=Meller Yeller;45884396]According to every pregnant person it is. Smell sensitivity is very common symptom actually. And it's what worries me most since that's about the only thing its associated with.[/QUOTE]
If she's pregnant and you can provide proof I will paypal you $100.
Toxxing myself.
Well, if anyone remembers me I'm that person who had the trouble with my long-distance relationship a few months ago. [URL="http://facepunch.com/showthread.php?p=45308745#post45308745"]This[/URL] is what I'm referring to.
Haven't posted here in a while but the whole thing turned out to be a misunderstanding, and yet she never clarified this to the multiple people, including me who got confused.
We had a "talk" for once, and all that really came out of it is she isn't a person who gets attached to others, really.
I can't say if I'm surprised or if I should just cut it here, move on, and just stay friends.
My life isn't going too bad right now, but I'm really starting to stagnate.
I'm working towards getting my license, but I'm still deeply uncomfortable with driving. Ever since my last lesson left me with a bad taste in my mouth, I completely doubt my abilities to function on the road. I worry I'll completely lock up during my test, which is going to take place on busy urban streets with no time for fumblefucking around.
The way my driving school was arranged, the on-the-road lessons wouldn't always be available with the same teacher, so each time I had to get comfortable around different teachers with different personalities, rather than getting an accurate picture of whether or not I was improving in the eyes of someone I already was comfortable with.
Case and point, on my second-to-last lesson, my driving instructor was rather chill, and on the road, everything went swimmingly. I went onto the highways for the first time without breaking a sweat. I was a bit iffy with the backing-in, but according to him, my road skills were A-OK.
I can do this, I got game. Going to get my license without a hitch, right?
Wrong.
On my last lesson, I had to go with a different instructor. This guy was an order of magnitude stricter, and was not easygoing. You're going too fast. You're going too slow. You're too close to the side of the road. Stop going for the brake pedal. You need to listen.
Each thing I did slightly wrong bothered me deeply. How did I go from being fine, to completely dropping the fucking ball?
At the end of the lesson, the guy told me I did alright, but I felt like a fucking moron.
I've been practicing driving with my parents, but I only get to do so on Sundays. It's too much time between each practice for me to feel at home on the road. I've driven on city roads fine before, but ever since that lesson, I'm scared shitless of them.
I need to grow some fucking balls soon, though. I cant stand waking up every day just to spend it on a fucking computer.
Drive with your parents if you can, learning to drive by instructor only is going to be rough and expensive.
I really wouldn't doubt your own ability to drive at this point. For one thing you're a learner and supposed to make mistakes, but even when you have passed and can do what you want you'll mess up on small things, the only difference being nobody will point it out. Instructors are all very different and mine personally will mention every small thing I do wrong, but I'm fine with that because it suits me, and I know that on the whole I'm driving pretty well.
Of course sometimes you get picked up on things you didn't do, or only did because you were frustrated or confused by something else, and it can really get to you. I'd really encourage you not to give up on lessons though, I've felt bad before and gotten nervous about my next lesson usually to have it turn out I have a fine lesson and it was silly to worry. The worst thing you can do is to stop driving or put it off because you'll give yourself a permanent fear of driving again, whereas another lesson should show you that really it's no so bad. If some of your instructors really are that bad and it's damaging your confidence maybe you could find a way to reschedule or get one permanent teacher?
But on the whole just remember that it's their job to get you at a point where you'll pass your test. Remember that you're going to have to jump hoops showing you know all the little things or making it painfully obvious you're checking your mirrors in case the examiner doesn't notice and gives you a mark for it. Your instructor pointing out every mistake can piss you off but in the end it'll train you to remember everything on your test, and just keep in mind that once you're clear of it you can drive over mini roundabouts and fuck up your gear faults no problem. [sp] but preferably don't [/sp]
[QUOTE=Fulsam;45887089]My life isn't going too bad right now, but I'm really starting to stagnate.
I'm working towards getting my license, but I'm still deeply uncomfortable with driving. Ever since my last lesson left me with a bad taste in my mouth, I completely doubt my abilities to function on the road. I worry I'll completely lock up during my test, which is going to take place on busy urban streets with no time for fumblefucking around.
The way my driving school was arranged, the on-the-road lessons wouldn't always be available with the same teacher, so each time I had to get comfortable around different teachers with different personalities, rather than getting an accurate picture of whether or not I was improving in the eyes of someone I already was comfortable with.
Case and point, on my second-to-last lesson, my driving instructor was rather chill, and on the road, everything went swimmingly. I went onto the highways for the first time without breaking a sweat. I was a bit iffy with the backing-in, but according to him, my road skills were A-OK.
I can do this, I got game. Going to get my license without a hitch, right?
Wrong.
On my last lesson, I had to go with a different instructor. This guy was an order of magnitude stricter, and was not easygoing. You're going too fast. You're going too slow. You're too close to the side of the road. Stop going for the brake pedal. You need to listen.
Each thing I did slightly wrong bothered me deeply. How did I go from being fine, to completely dropping the fucking ball?
At the end of the lesson, the guy told me I did alright, but I felt like a fucking moron.
I've been practicing driving with my parents, but I only get to do so on Sundays. It's too much time between each practice for me to feel at home on the road. I've driven on city roads fine before, but ever since that lesson, I'm scared shitless of them.
I need to grow some fucking balls soon, though. I cant stand waking up every day just to spend it on a fucking computer.[/QUOTE]
My driving teacher was much like the last one you described, it took all my patience to not just walk out on the whole thing.
if he said at the end you're doing alright, then it's good enough, he's just saying all he thinks out loud, he's not saying hey, you have to do it this way. it's just, hey, this is how I would do it.
but yeah roll with your parents if you have the possibility, or someone else that it would be legal to do with.
I passed first try with a driving teacher like that so it's not too bad.
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yeah
Here's a situation:
I'm a Junior. A friend introduced me and a group of friends I was hanging out with (at the time) to a Mexican girl with nice curves, cute looking face, and shy personality. Out of the group I was hanging out with, I have a feeling she might have a crush on me, but I don't know for sure.
Problem: She's a freshman.
Is this something that I should embrace, feel proud of and look into, or is it not right to have a relationship with a phreshman as a junior?
Nothing wrong with it IMO. Your friends might give you shit about it, I know my hs boyfriend's friends did, but it's really not that big of a gap.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45895855]Nothing wrong with it IMO. Your friends might give you shit about it, I know my hs boyfriend's friends did, but it's really not that big of a gap.[/QUOTE]
I'm guessing it's not alright when I eventually hit age of consent?
[QUOTE=5/3/4/3;45895916]I guess it's not alright when I eventually hit age of consent?[/QUOTE]
I wouldn't worry about age of consent, it's only a problem if your families decide it's a problem. It's not like cops are randomly going to come into your house to check if you're banging or not.
[editline]4th September 2014[/editline]
And a lot of places make exceptions if you're close in age, which you are.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;45895941]I wouldn't worry about age of consent, it's only a problem if your families decide it's a problem. It's not like cops are randomly going to come into your house to check if you're banging or not.
[editline]4th September 2014[/editline]
And a lot of places make exceptions if you're close in age, which you are.[/QUOTE]
well thanks for the uplifting advice m8
I've got shit to dooooo
[QUOTE=Kirbyfactor;45882182]How many days after meeting a girl is it okay to ask her out?[/QUOTE]
As soon as it seems cool? I mean, you can meet a girl at a party, and if you have a good vibe just ask whether she wants to go out for coffee on Sunday when your hangover is gone. As far as I know, there's not some arbitrary amount of days that you have to wait - just do it when it feels right.
[editline]5th September 2014[/editline]
[QUOTE=5/3/4/3;45895681]so
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yeah
Here's a situation:
I'm a Junior. A friend introduced me and a group of friends I was hanging out with (at the time) to a Mexican girl with nice curves, cute looking face, and shy personality. Out of the group I was hanging out with, I have a feeling she might have a crush on me, but I don't know for sure.
Problem: She's a freshman.
Is this something that I should embrace, feel proud of and look into, or is it not right to have a relationship with a phreshman as a junior?[/QUOTE]
That's pretty normal in Denmark at least (I assume Junior is like 17-19 and Freshman like 15-16).
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