• Super Friendly Social and Love Advice V6 - JUST FUCKING ASK HER OUT
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Hey guys, I play bass guitar, am I cool yet? [editline]18th September 2014[/editline] BRB going to go play bass to relieve some of the stress.
I just broke up with my girlfriend of 10 months recently. It was amicable but that night was sleepless. Anyone have any general advice on how to deal with this? Cause she was my first partner (and vice versa)
Back to the girl-that-added-me stuff. I was thinking of asking her directly something like "Do you not care anymore?" or something similar because since I realised that she simpy ignored me on lessons I didn't message her at all but neither did she...I don't want to simply let this all go, I want to at least know the reason, and probably tell her that she's way too seriously bound to her friend. Because it's not like we chatted for two days and then this happened, no, it was month and a half
Noooooo. You want to have the last word because she isn't really that interested in you? Don't. Let it go, because you're going to make yourself look like an idiot, nobody needs to defend why they aren't interested in someone.
[QUOTE=RocketRacer;46020141]Back to the girl-that-added-me stuff. I was thinking of asking her directly something like "Do you not care anymore?" or something similar because since I realised that she simpy ignored me on lessons I didn't message her at all but neither did she...I don't want to simply let this all go, I want to at least know the reason, and probably tell her that she's way too seriously bound to her friend. Because it's not like we chatted for two days and then this happened, no, it was month and a half[/QUOTE] Don't make it into a big dramatic thing. If she doesn't respond to you then just stop texting her. If she texts you again then great, she probably still is interested - if not just let it go. It's also really not your place to tell her she's "too bound to her friend", she probably knows her friend more than you and it would be both unfair and silly to demand she pay more attention to you.
All I want to know is why, that's it
probably because she thinks you're a clingy twat at this point.
Worded a bit harsh, but honestly yeah, that's probably it. If you're constantly texting her in spite of not getting a response you're probably coming off as clingy.
Hey guys, I have this problem where I can tell who-likes-who around me and am really good at knowing who'll go out with whom, but I can't do the same when I like a girl. As soon I get even a little emotionally invested in someone, even from afar, all my reasoning fails me and I get really over-analytical about my situation. Currently I like this girl who seems to be interested in me, but I don't want to go out on a limb and assume that this is true (mainly from prior experience in similar situations). Thank you.
[QUOTE=huntingrifle;46023424]Hey guys, I have this problem where I can tell who-likes-who around me and am really good at knowing who'll go out with whom, but I can't do the same when I like a girl. As soon I get even a little emotionally invested in someone, even from afar, all my reasoning fails me and I get really over-analytical about my situation. Currently I like this girl who seems to be interested in me, but I don't want to go out on a limb and assume that this is true (mainly from prior experience in similar situations). Thank you.[/QUOTE] ask her out??? [editline]19th September 2014[/editline] the reason you ask people out is because if she's not interested, you can play it off as just friends and move on. it's a safe way of figuring out if you can enter a relationship with them.
[QUOTE=Disseminate;46023833]ask her out??? [editline]19th September 2014[/editline] the reason you ask people out is because if she's not interested, you can play it off as just friends and move on. it's a safe way of figuring out if you can enter a relationship with them.[/QUOTE] It's a lot easier to say you'll do something than actually doing it. And I definitely can build the courage to ask her out, it's just that I really don't like doing that. I always come off as weird or pushy. Granted asking out girls directly has worked 3 out of 4 times for me, but those are all different stories.
you're looking too deep into this dude, just ask her to go get lunch or something and see what happens from there. i don't know how you ask out girls to come off as "weird or pushy" but maybe you should try saying something like "hey, wanna go out sometime to get food?". that's pretty normal and not weird nor pushy
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46017811]Hey guys, I play bass guitar, am I cool yet? [editline]18th September 2014[/editline] BRB going to go play bass to relieve some of the stress.[/QUOTE] Nice :v: In all seriousness though, I didn't mean for it to come off as bragging, but I can understand why it seems like that.
Gonna have to ask, how do I stop being helpful and too nice? Girl (who is just a friend to me) who I helped buy a meal for when she was starving and didn't have money that day to eat told me that her friends were upset at her about that - apparently how, in her words, it's none of my business and she should go to them for help instead of me. And now she only wants to talk in private and usually splits / goes a different direction from me when her friends are around. I can read between the lines, they think I was trying to buy her affection, feel entitled to something, or otherwise have a motive to me buying her an expensive meal and generally be creepy. I was really honestly just wanting to help out and that was it, wasn't expecting anything or had intentions. I guess from their side a guy buying something for a girl randomly is odd looking but still.. I really meant nothing by it? I would explain that out to them, but I was told I'm not supposed to know about that so I'm stuck here.
Just ignore them, honestly. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being generous to someone out of kindness rather than ulterior motives. There's probably not much you can do to influence this girl's actions and convince her that she doesn't need to keep your friendship secret from her other friends, but you should probably decide whether you're willing to tolerate that behavior or not. Again, you've done nothing wrong, their behavior is not only incredibly catty but also not your responsibility.
I think a girl likes me. Every year my school does an open evening for students who want to come here and she has never ever shown interest in it. She found out I am helping in history and she wants to do it with me to "chill with me because I'm funny". This open evening also takes place on the night of a day off, so you come in on your day off to help. She was kind of fiddling with her hair while she said it and once grabbed onto me while we were walking down some stairs and laughed before letting go. I have no idea what to do as in terms of judging if people like me I am pretty much dumber than soup. We have been friends for a few years now and we have always laughed and joked with each other. Anyone know if she might like me? Oh and some really weird girl likes me for sure, her friends told me. She kind of stares at me a lot and looks away when I look at her and also if you do anything she doesn't like/agree with then she throws a bitchfit and sulks. Other than that she is like a 7/10. So she will probably try and kill me if I so much as say "I like X".
[QUOTE=007JamesBond007;46033291]I think a girl likes me. [B]We have been friends for a few years now and we have always laughed and joked with each other.[/B] [/QUOTE] Means she might genuinely be wanting to hang out as friends.. You should just ask her out or ask if she likes you, guarantee that's the only way you're going to know for sure. See Dysentery and Disseminates' posts right above this too.
[QUOTE=BarnacleDrive;46034540]ask if she likes you[/QUOTE] Noooo.
So that girl I like told me she just wants to be friends because she's just too busy with university. Fine, I respect that and I'm not bitter about it and I'm still friends with her, even if for the time being I feel a little awkward around her. She also did say if this ever changes she'll be the first person I tell, but I'm not holding out for this so in the mean time I've been trying to talk to girls whenever I get a chance, just to try to get myself out there, although I've only had a real conversation with one girl in one of my classes. And this leads me to a question. How do I find if a girl has a boyfriend without being awkward about it and without having to resort to facebook creeping? Because if this girl I started talking to doesn't have a boyfriend, I could probably ask her out as soon as possible rather than pussyfooting around it for half a year.
Here, I've developed a complex method to determine if a girl has a boyfriend or not: Step 1: Ask her.
[QUOTE=Taepodong-2;46035143]So that girl I like told me she just wants to be friends because she's just too busy with university. Fine, I respect that and I'm not bitter about it and I'm still friends with her, even if for the time being I feel a little awkward around her. She also did say if this ever changes she'll be the first person I tell, but I'm not holding out for this so in the mean time I've been trying to talk to girls whenever I get a chance, just to try to get myself out there, although I've only had a real conversation with one girl in one of my classes. And this leads me to a question. How do I find if a girl has a boyfriend without being awkward about it and without having to resort to facebook creeping? Because if this girl I started talking to doesn't have a boyfriend, I could probably ask her out as soon as possible rather than pussyfooting around it for half a year.[/QUOTE] Just ask her out anyway, no reason she should be mad at you for not knowing if you ask.
Fuck, I was so excited for university tomorrow, but now I'm shitting bricks! I'm so nervous about it even though there's nothing to be nervous about. I'm always like this though, I shit pants right until I'm there, and then all of a sudden I realise it's no big deal and have a blast meeting new people.
so heres my situation So im interested in this girl and i believe its mutual, the signs are there, ive expressed my interest and stated my intent and shes reciprocating, said shed be more than happy to spend more time with me. We have flirted a good bit and our chats seem to have good chemistry so ive today basically gone and asked her when shes free so we can go out together with just eachother She responded with "im a bit busy all this week but ill let you know :)" And now its like... died. No chatting or snaps happening as they had been leading up to this I dont know if shes leading me on, i cant help but overthink things edit: should be fine. I'm just overthinking things
Today I gave a speech about my experiences being bullied as a kid when everyone else in my class had picked much less personal topics. It was probably the scariest thing I've ever done but apparently it went really well and my class and professor loved it. I feel so accomplished right now.
Getting drunk and sleeping with someone I work with was probably the stupidest thing I've done in a while. Especially considering that they were engaged at the time and called it off the day after, they've told me since then that I shouldn't feel guilty and they didn't want to go through with the marriage anyway. But that hardly makes me feel better.
[QUOTE=RainbowStalin;46050058]Getting drunk and sleeping with someone I work with was probably the stupidest thing I've done in a while. Especially considering that they were engaged at the time and called it off the day after, they've told me since then that I shouldn't feel guilty and they didn't want to go through with the marriage anyway. But that hardly makes me feel better.[/QUOTE] If it helps at all, usually people do things like that because of problems already in the relationship. If they were truly happy in their relationship, she wouldn't have been willing to cheat on her partner in the first place.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46050110]If it helps at all, usually people do things like that because of problems already in the relationship. If they were truly happy in their relationship, she wouldn't have been willing to cheat on her partner in the first place.[/QUOTE] Apparently he was super controlling, which makes sense considering he walked to our office every day to drop her off, bring her lunch then also to pick her up. We all just thought he was being sweet but it turned out he freaked out if he didn't know where she was all the time. The issue is she clearly wants to take things further with me, and I'm not attracted to her at all. If I hadn't been drunk out of my skull I never would have done anything.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;46049997]Today I gave a speech about my experiences being bullied as a kid when everyone else in my class had picked much less personal topics. It was probably the scariest thing I've ever done but apparently it went really well and my class and professor loved it. I feel so accomplished right now.[/QUOTE] what class i always die when presenting
[QUOTE=drutehtkehs;46050400]what class i always die when presenting[/QUOTE] Intro to Speech Communication, so giving speeches like this is a big focus of the class. I think I have one more this semester. I feel really empowered after giving that speech. I picked one of the most personal topics I could come up with even though the prompt gave really generic icebreaker-type questions (like "what would you save in a house fire", "what would you do if you had all the money in the world" etc). Considering how personal it was, it seemed like it was very well-received by the class. Now I feel like I could pick just about anything for my next speech and feel comfortable talking about if I managed to get away with that today.
So an update on my situation. This girl has gotten really close to me because she's a freshman and I'm a sophomore on campus and long story short she claims she trusts me because I don't seem to be a gossipy/dramatic type of guy. The bad news is that she tells me how she isn't interested in anyone and isn't looking for a relationship, hookup, etc. anytime soon. One of the other guys on campus who likes her made it really obvious how he feels and they had a talk about how she isn't looking to be with anyone. I'm afraid I'll get shot down the same way. Tomorrow night, her and I are going to drink and possibly head over to a party, and my two closest friends are trying to get me to be spontaneous and "in the moment", or at least make it feel that way. Help?
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